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Decisions: First one with PTSD

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Trauma has impacted our life negatively. After the initial period of discovering what PTSD is and how to improve, we make an important decision.

We were all victims at one time or we would not have PTSD. Now, we must decide, do we continue behaving as a victim or do we take responsibility and try to heal?

If we consult the statistics on suicides and the epidemic nature of PTSD in the world, many decide to stay a victims.

I have witnessed over and over how PTSD destroys peoples lives. PTSD gets worse with time and behaving as a victim, empowers it.

The decision is simple, take responsibility or live a victims existence.

No healing or happiness is experienced as a victim.

It seems an easy decision, common sense, but PTSD is an irrational disorder, ruled by extreme fear and distortion.

The decision is much easier if we develop a few skills to help us heal.

It is the road less traveled.

It takes incredible courage, then a willpower to take action in the face of fear.

It takes concrete baby steps repeated over and over.

We can decide to fight for our freedom at anytime.

Somehow, we must focus, clear the fog of PTSD, to see our suffering is caused by our own behavior.

We have to take risks to heal.

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Let’s talk Victimhood

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This is an extremely volatile word on any PTSD discussion board. Many PTSD sufferers lose their minds, becoming irate and aggressive.

The discussion board taught me Victimhood demands congruence.

My sin was writing, we can heal with daily work.

You find out how hateful people can behave, being anonymous on a discussion board.

Victims could not stand having a non-victim in their midst.

The great divide between these victims and myself, was responsibility.

One communal thought shared, we can not heal from Complex PTSD until the DSM recognizes it as a disorder.

Unbelievable how many excuses are created to avoid taking responsibility.

Fear dominates their lives.

Yes my father abused me violently, but I am responsible, now.

When I was blaming my father, being a victim, I suffered.

I maybe be a victim in the future, but it will not be for long.

Please have the courage to take responsibility for your life, take action.

Taking a positive action (step) to heal, however small, is a giant step out of Victimhood.

I maybe damaged physically and emotionally, riddled with flaws, but unworthiness has no foothold inside me.

This sounds arrogant writing, but I refuse to be or act like a victim.

When I catch myself feeling sorry for myself in a weak moment, it disgusts me.

I would rather die taking responsibility, whatever that entails, than live feeling sorry for myself.

We die the same day, same hour, same minute, if you suffer as a victim or live free and risk.

We have a choice.

This may generate a few responses.

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If it is only 10 minutes a day, the first step moves us out of victimhood, a damn good start!!,

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It takes action, minimal action to move us from the stuck, frozen position.
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I have been stuck, helplessly, hopelessly lost in the complexities of complex PTSD. Stuck in my dark garage for six long months, shaking, terrified of the unknown, the unseen, the past.
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Beginning a ten minute mindfulness practice can be the impetus for complete healing, maybe even a journey for the pursuit of happiness.
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The hardest step is the first!
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What holds you back?
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Why do you continue to invest in strategies that are failing to improve your life?
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Healing or happiness will not arrive as long as doubt, worry and unworthiness follow you.
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What will it take for you to change? Take action?
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Can you focus, start a small practice?
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All that other stuff is not working, is it?
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Behaving the same and expecting different results is the definition of insanity, no?
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