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Stuck Parts 3: From Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation:



Fight Parts

Some angry parts are stuck in a fight defense against threat.

They have the explicit function of protecting the individual by means of fight responses, either toward other people or towards parts inside that in some way evoke a sense of threat.

Fight parts often believe that they are strong, have not been hurt, and are capable of carrying out strong aggressive reactions to perceived threat or disrespectful behavior.

Often they view themselves as a tough child or teenager or a large strong man.

Ashamed Parts

Shame is a major emotion that maintains dissociation.

Some parts of the personality are especially avoided and reviled because they hold experiences, feelings,or behaviors that you, or some part of you have labelled as shameful or disgusting.

You will need to be especially empathetic and accepting toward these parts of yourself.

A central problem for people who have a dissociative disorder is that parts of the personality avoid each other and their painful memories and experiences, or they tend to have strong conflicts with each other.

In the literature this has been described as phobia of dissociative parts.

Parts typically feel fearful, ashamed, or repulsed by other parts.

In particular dissociative parts that function in daily life want as little as possible to do with dissociative parts that are fixed in traumatic experiences.

Parts stuck in trauma-time often feel abandoned and neglected by the parts that try to move on without them in daily life.

These ongoing inner conflicts can be painful.and frightening, and they cost a person with a dissociative disorder a tremendous amount of energy.

As we said before, all parts need to learn to accept and cooperate with each other.

After all, in order to adapt and be our best, we must learn to accept ourselves and all our aspects.

Only in acknowledgment and accepting are we able to make positive changes in ourselves.

However we are aware that getting to know yourself and working more cooperatively internally can be a long difficult process.

You cannot expect yourself to immediately function differently when parts have spent a lifetime avoiding each other or are in conflict.

Please remember that you will need much patience and self acceptance in this work and go at your own pace.

Remember to be empathic and accepting of yourself as awhile person.


“Parts that Imitate who hurt you” From Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation:



Usually their are parts of the personality that hold anger and rage that are unacceptable or very frightening to other parts.

Some may resemble people from the from the past who were abusing.

These parts shame, threaten, or punish other parts inside, or they may direct their anger to other people in the outside world.

Although the behavior of these parts can be quite frightening or shameful, as well as unacceptable, it is important for you to understand that these parts have good reason to exist and are representations, and thus not the same as the people who hurt you.

They originally developed to protect you by containing many distressful experiences of anger, helplessness, and sometimes guilt. or shame.

Furthermore, their function often is to prevent other parts behaving in a way that, in the past, evoked fear or shame.

Over time it is important to appreciate why they exist, even though their “methods: that is, their behavior and attitudes, may not be acceptable.

Your fear and shame about me parts must be overcome in order for you to heal.

These parts like all parts of yourself, need to become part of an internal “team” that collaborate and represent you as the whole person and your own history.

And once they do so, you will be surprised at what tremendous help they will be to you.




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