Posts Tagged ‘Self’

Problems are always present

Pixabay: geralt / 20634 images

.

.

“Nothing to Grasp” by Joan Tollifson

“I’ve discovered that there is no end to problems.

When we cure one problem, a new one emerges.

But this only becomes a source of suffering if we imagine it should or could be otherwise.

In fact, the turbulent, cloudy weather is as integral to the whole as the clear, sunny weather.

.

.

My two cents: We must endure life’s hard times to earn the better times.

Accept the challenges life presents as part of the journey.

We are lacking nothing that prevents us from being happy.

Nothing!

.

.

Sunday morning Insights

Pixabay: Larisa-K

.

.

Sufferers of PTSD, depression or other disorders are generally confused and anxious.

Fear mixed with intense anxiety stops the mind from functioning properly.

We sense danger from a perceived lethal threat. We want to escape as quickly as possible, our defense mechanism has complete control.

Unfortunately, going out in public, say to a restaurant, would fire my fight or flight mechanism without my consent.

Somehow these situations linked to my abusive childhood. Our triggers seem to pick their own scenario.

Cognitively I understood no real danger existed, my defense mechanism did not agree.

Healing for me, consisted of sitting calmly, focused on my breath, as my nervous system fired violently.

My focus released the scary thoughts, then concentrated on the connected body sensations. For me, my solar plexus is where my trauma manifested inside the body.

Making friends with the bodies nervous system, intimately knowing (being with) the sensations, integrated my trauma.

Being able to build focus on the breath is body armor for the anxiety disorders.

The breath controls our nervous system and heavily influences our defense mechanism.

Navy Seals are taught to dissipate fear by extending their exhales.

Cortisol and adrenaline can be used for fuel instead of being afraid or triggered.

PTSD has access to the switch firing our fight or flight mechanism, we have final control of our nervous system.

Remember trauma is stored in the right hemisphere, inside our amygdala.

We can not access stored trauma consciously.

Meditation grants us direct access to our stored trauma.

No miracle just current neuroscience.

.

.

Updated: Fear our perception

19D85C0F-5B5D-41DF-88F8-3A8C3347A032

.
.
The mechanism of fear (fight or flight mechanism) contains no fear inside itself. It is just our defense mechanism, preparing us for a perceived lethal threat.

 

PTSD has temporary access to the switch activating our adrenal stress response (fight or flight). Real danger is never present when my childhood PTSD activates now.

 

Think about that! No real danger can exist when my abuser is dead. He can not hurt me now.

 

The fear created comes from the storyline I add.

 

With my focused breath, I can dissipate the Tunnel Vision, the Auditory Exclusion, the Loss of fine motor skills, the Tai-chi-Psyche, and the increased heart rate, blood pressure and respiration.

What is left?

 

Our trauma thoughts and emotions standing by themselves.

So much easier to live with and heal when our fight or flight mechanism does not scare us.

 

Our defense mechanism is there to help save our life, not make it a living hell.
.
.

86BF8E4F-8AFD-4FA5-B6E7-960112D54DFB

Are you a giver or do you need more

Alexas_Fotos / 20751 images

.

.

Do you have enough in life? (Security, shelter, food, and a small community of friends).

Is your time spent trying to accumulate more possessions, more power, or more status?

Do you judge yourself externally with others, compare possessions, power and status.

How do you judge those who have far less than you?

Do these judgments bring consequences?

Much of our condition is created by our perception of life and judgments.

Altruism, giving without concern for reward, does not happen when we judge ourself as needy, lacking necessities.

Less giving means less happiness.

Greed accumulates wealth, status and power.

Too bad those qualities have nothing to do with happiness.

Happiness is a reward for giving, caring and kindness.

It is our choice how we live life.

Give, share a kindness, live a more joyful existence.

Be nice, be kind, be an example to others.

Be the one who is compassionate in your peer group.

Are your kids givers?

They follow your example.

.

.

Develop a curious mind

.

.

Al Siebert trumpets the benefits of having a curious mind as one of the core traits in his book “Survivor Personality”.

A curious, creative mind helped survivors entertain themselves under life threatening circumstances.

Nando Parado in “The Miracle in the Andes” credited his mantra, “As long as I have a breath, I will die one step closer to my father” as sustaining him in toughest times.

The other 16 thought he was crazy. They lived because of his creative mind and incredible desire to think about living, taking action in the midst of their total surrender.

Two more examples: Two Vietnam vets demonstrated what a creative mind does to stay neutral or positive.

One vet created exotic menus for a high class restaurants. Detailed recipes were invented in an attempt to lesson his hunger.

The other vet created a detailed lumber list for building a house he designed. Detailed, down to every last nail.

Prisoners, being captive, held in isolation, creates a situation where the mind either destroys us or saves our sanity and freedom.

A Curious mind is positive, freer, more expansive.

Curious minds seem to be more intuitive, open to searching outside the box.

My meditation/mindfulness practice has freed my mind of varying degrees of worry, doubt, and negative emotion.

This freed up time has been focused on observing and wonderment.

Wonderment is what a child sees or feels when he/she experiences something new for first time. The cognitive thinker has nowhere to file or even define what is observed.

That momentary amazement we call wonderment.

Also referred to as Beginners Mind, seeing, feeling life through the eyes of a child is our goal.

Everything is new, we never surrender to the boredom of repetive chores, work, personal interaction.

I experience doing laundry as a present action, neutral, or with purpose.

My practice has given laundry duties a purpose. Paying attention, hanging up everything neatly, gives me joy.

I am making sure my grandkids look their best.

Laundry was a chore, something where speed to get finished was the primary goal.

Now, doing laundry is completed with no time involved.

I find myself inside the task, mind clear, at ease and focused somehow on the boring chore.

Wish I had this kind of success with other chores (Dishes).

Where does focus and freedom enter your world?

Could be gardening, cooking, a hobby, yoga, a musical instrument, etc.

The mind craves being empty, letting our curiosity run free for short periods of time as an ante for being happy.

.

.

Enquiring Minds want to know: Lack and Public Speaking

Pixabay: johnhain

.

.

Remember, happiness as the absence of a sense of lack.

Definitely I feel a big sense of lack with public speaking. I am jealous of those who can opine publicly.

We all have lack, depends on the severity, I guess.

I could obsess over my lack of skill in many arenas.

How important is a skill like public speaking?

Exploring my lack, a realization hit me.

My perceived lack was based on thought, judgment and emotion.

My lack could grow or dissipate with my input.

Interesting! Exploring further, my investment of time and attention, wasted so much time on the negative.

This lack was big in the past but has shrunk to an inconvenience in the present.

In my last post, Vic in a response, shared he enjoys public speaking but feels incompetent in my more personal conversations.

For Vic, being adept at public speaking did not lead to happiness. For me, being incompetent at public speaking caused me years of doubt and worry.

We all have our areas of incompetence and awkwardness.

As usual, it comes down to how we think about our areas of incompetence.

The one skill that transcends this, the ability to focus and let go.

The ability to direct our attention away from judgment and emotion to our Aware Presence, can lead to calm, peace and happiness.

.

.

The Now and the Not Now! One is the mother of time

Pixabay: IamColorBlind

.

From “Presence: the Art of Peace and Happiness”

“In order to avoid the now, we have to imagine the ‘not now’, which is time.

Thus, the separate, inside self is the mother of time.

If we think of peace and happiness in this way–as an absence of agitation and lack, rather than a positive state of the body or mind–they never become objectified.

They never become an object that can be sought in the realm of the mind, body and world, but always remain synonymous with the simple knowing of our own ever-present being as it is, independent of the conditions of the mind, body or world. “

.

.

My Two cents: Is this why we can not chase happiness?

If peace and happiness are as an absence of agitation and lack, we need to stop searching, trying to complete ourselves externally.

What an enormous shift for our lives, changing our focus from an object to being present, empty, alert, calm.

Does this change the way you think or feel?

.

.

%d bloggers like this: