Posts Tagged ‘PTSD’

“A ship is safe in harbor, but that’s not what ships are for.” ― John A. Shedd

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I catch myself avoiding some things, things that could be uncomfortable, awkward or even scary.
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Taking risks, accepting change or stepping out of our comfort zone feels dangerous.
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My inner dialogue reminds me, risking or not risking does not change the hour, minute or second we die.
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When my PTSD was at its apex, going out to some events felt very dangerous, a place where triggers could erupt.
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Avoiding, not risking, led to six months of agoraphobia and suffering.
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These were irrationalional, trauma driven judgments that I knew cognitively were false.
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In reality, not risking has many negative consequences.
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Every new endeavor we try has an element of not working, loss, failure or success.
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In a way, we need to be able to tolerate awkward, uncomfortable or scary to live fully.
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Without strenuous challenges, how we will ever know what we are capable of.
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Maybe we are most alive when we challenge our irrational fears, or maybe our rational fears!
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Facing a fear, an awkward situation when we could choose to avoid, brings a great deal of satisfaction.
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Remember back to a challenging time when you endured.
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Feel how alive, aware, energetic your space became.
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Maybe we should take safe risks everyday!

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Monica’s Request about My Fear!!!!! ************ What it was Like for me at my worst? Fear that is?

My nervous system was full of cortisol, reacting to highly charged, panic and fear.  I tried to battle this fear, but it grew, until my resistance, finally collapsed.

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For six months I awoke in an aroused state from a nightmare, drenched with sweat in a frightened panic.  The sun meant another long, incredibly long day of this, second to second doom and gloom scenario, worse than death.  How could that be?  I did not have a way out from this point.

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I do not share this, however, my fathers brutality and constant criticism manifested itself with thinking people were staring in disapproving ways, toward me.  Somehow avoiding this criticism was saving my life.  Describing this fear with words, is impossible for me.  I shook for hours, worn out from the onslaught each day of fear, just beyond my vision.

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My nervous system was so upset, that my body would dump cortisol without thought.  I had fled to my dark garage alone, even there my mind and fear followed me.

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My hopes were to someday be able to function for some things without this misery.  I knew my fears were irrational, crazy and foolish, but my body obeyed that cortisol and reacted.

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That was a funny time, when I did not believe my triggers but did not have the tools to heal me then.
Hope that helps.  Wow, that brings back some fun times!

What do you do for your mental health, daily?

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People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.
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Thich Nhat Hanh
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Getting people to take action is the toughest thing a therapist or life coach faces.
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People want a pill to cure them or a therpast to heal them inside that hour session.
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We convince ourself to suffer what habit has taught us over and over.
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Do you work on your mental health?
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Why not?
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Our purpose in life is to be happy, says Matthew Ricard!
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What have you done to cultivate happiness?
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Possessions, approval, success, achievement are just impermanent possessions, surely not happiness.
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Maybe we need to explore our inner world to know what happiness is and where it hangs out.
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Is change so scary or the unknown so terrifying or are we lazy?
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We heal by not ____________

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We heal by NOT thinking about our Trauma!
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We heal by NOT reacting to our Trauma.
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Dissociating is the king of our sysmptoms, thinking about past abuse or future danger dominates life.
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Healing happens when we do not react to our fight or flight mechanism.
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Healing happens when we can stay focused and present, when PTSD or Anxiety ignites our nervous system.
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The quickest way is using Meditation/Mindfulness to focus and integrate calmly and confidently.
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When we become friends with our nervous system, triggers exploding like volcanos become cap pistols.
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Explore your inner world, get to know you.
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Nothing to accomplish, nothing to fight or conquer, perfection is already inside.
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Updated: Observing more of the breath, a deeper look and practice!!!!!!!!


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Think of the breath, the cycle of inhale, pause, exhale, pause, as a balanced piece of music, a flowing shift of energy with timed pauses.
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Our goal is to slow the breath with a rhythmical balance, a nice slow focus of a continuum.
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Leave counting, a high cognitive functional task, alone, and focus on having inhales equal exhales, pauses being similar.
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Feel the coolness of the inhale, the warmth of the exhale, the still, the quiet of the balancing pauses.
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Trained focus on the breath using this model will balance the breath, the mind- body connection and prepare to go beneath the cognitive, the ego.
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This slowing and balancing of the breath, first ignites the parasympathetic nervous system, calming the nervous system, applying the brakes, preparing to enter a no thought stage.
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Reaching a stage of focus where thoughts have faded but awareness is keen, alert and relaxed, begins to heal and energize our whole mind and body.
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Practice can be as little as five or ten minute periods during the day.
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This skill changes the mind because of the plasticity of the brain throughout life.
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Neuroscience says we can continue to grow, expand, experience unlimited potential as long as we have breath.
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There is eternal optimism for those who sit quietly and focus on the breath.
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Start today, slowly and become aware of your mind, how it wakes in the morning, where it goes to think about the upcoming day.
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If you see gloom, doom, avoidance or fear to begin your day, try practicing mindfulness.
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Updated: C-PTSD:—-Challenges or Problems?— Makes a huge difference which one we choose!!!!!

A. Sinochkin – Beer Adorer

The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem.
Theodore Rubin
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Life is thickly sown with thorns, and I know no other remedy than to pass quickly through them. The longer we dwell on our misfortunes, the greater is their power to harm us.”
Voltaire
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“The gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials.”
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Life is a series of challenges for all of us. Problems are read as abnormal, and something we need to eliminate from life to be happy. this leads us toward a destination without problems, that we think is happiness.
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Wonder if these so called problems are just part of every human journey. In my opinion, life challenges all of us within our vulnerable space constantly.
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We believe some people have it made but that is delusion. We all are human and will die.
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The issue is that some let problems keep them from living life. We do not have to escape, run away or complain about our predicament. It is not a sign of weakness to have big problems.
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Accepting these challenges as normal changes life. We do not look to escape or change but surrender and thrive with action. Action overcomes all of this thought.
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SO ACT NOW!!!!!!!!
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Updated: Mindfulness: A Simple Outline!!!!


Frank Glick took this photo at Fort Snelling National Cemetery. When he recorded the shot, he never could have guessed how much it was going to mean to the widow of the World War II veteran buried there. — Star Tribune
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Each step fulfilled leads to the next step. Healing or happiness does not arrive from a calm, a mellow straight line path. Rather, it is a path with set backs, turmoil and stress. It is a path inhabited with intense terror, enormous anxiety and fear of the unknown.
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It is an infinitely simple path, visually, a mundane looking innocent exercise. It unfolds like this:
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Awareness (Paying attention, Present moment living)
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Mindfulness (daily focus practice on the breath)
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Acceptance (ok with uncomfortable, letting go)
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Surrender (no resistance, heart is a butterfly net)
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Gratitude (shedding desires, eliminating needs)
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Giving (In a loving kindness way, no reward needed)
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Freedom (Life expands, the ego has faded for a moment)
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Happiness (the mind empties, life deepens, expands)
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More happiness hopefully.
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