Posts Tagged ‘MEDITATION’

Making new positive experiences

Recognize that we are perfect at our core, our soul, our true self. The one permanent condition we all share.


Accept our physical bodies and the ego we create, are flawed and change as time passes.


We all are worthy, deserving of wellbeing and happiness.


In this moment, right now, I approve of all of me.


Never say a negative thing about yourself, never entertain an unworthy thought.


Become your own best friend!


Practice, practice, practice!

Alienation from Self: part two

The introduction of the Structural Dissociation model in 2000 provided the first neuroscientific understanding of dissociative splitting and compartmentalization (Van der Hart et al., 2000).


Unlike earlier models of dissociative fragmentation, this theory does not emphasize the compartmentalization of memory.


Instead, its central tenet is that structural dissociation is a survival-oriented adaptive response to the specific demands of traumatic environments, facilitating a left brain-right brain split that supports the disowning of “not me” or trauma-related parts and the ability to function without awareness of having been traumatized.


The splitting also supports development of parts driven by animal defenses that serve the cause of survival in the face of danger.
My two cents:  This is a cutting edge approach in response to the PTSD epidemic.  The VA needs to adopt this approach, now!


The behavior of some traumatized parts is about survival to a non-existent lethal threat.


If we believe we are in real danger, PTSD will gain enormous power over us.



We must learn to discount then disown these judgments.


People who enjoy the most wellbeing _______ ?

People who enjoy the most wellbeing let the constant flow of thoughts pass on through, unattended.

Some have done this with no meditation practice, just an innate knowing life is most vibrant right now, empty of thought.


We travel to exotic places at the ends of the earth on vacation to see the sights, not think about them.


We could stay at home and think about the places in outer space we can not reach.


For the majority of us, a daily meditation practice, is the tool we use to release thought and stay focused on now.


Twenty focused minutes a day can bring change.


We have to work, take daily action to train our mind.


Depends if you desire thought to rule your mind or you would rather captain this ship.

A great explanation of our inner world: Part 1; “Fragmentation and Internal Struggles”.

“Healing the fragmented selves of trauma survivors”
Ten years ago, in the context of consulting with traumatized clients who came to me as an “expert,” seeking to understand why they were not making progress in treatment, I began to observe a very characteristic pattern: these clients had something unique in common.


Each was superficially an integrated whole person but also manifested clear-cut signs of being internally fragmented.


They experienced intense conflicts between trauma-related perceptions and impulses (for example, “the worst is going to happen,” “I will be abandoned if I don’t get out first”) versus here-and-now assessments of danger: “I know I’m safe here.


I wouldn’t let my children live in this house if it were not safe.” They suffered from paradoxical symptoms: the desire to be kind and compassionate toward others or to live a spiritual life, on the one hand, and intense rage or even impulses to violence, on the other.


Once their conflicts were described, the patterns became more easily observable and meaningful.


Each side of the conflict spoke to a different way of surviving the unsurvivable, of reconciling the opposites that are so often part and parcel of traumatic experience.


With an explanatory model that described each reaction as logical and necessary in the face of threat or abandonment and that reframed them as the survival responses of different parts of the self, to which the individual could relate, each client started to make faster, more sustainable progress.


The theoretical model that best explained the phenomena they described was the Structural Dissociation model of Onno van der Hart, Ellert Nijenhuis, and Kathy Steele (2004).

Traumas dissociative separation


Without realizing it,



I fought to keep my two worlds separated.



Without ever knowing why,



I made sure,



whenever possible,



that nothing passed



between the compartmentalization



I had created


between the day child and the night child.


—Marilyn Van Derbur

Ways we Connect to our creative, expansive, intuitive side!



At our core, we are completely worthy, free of doubt, ever-present and vividly alive. This is our creative, expansive, intuitive side.



An example: Hitting a baseball; From release of the pitch until it gets to the plate, a 95-mile-an-hour fastball is around 425-450 milliseconds.


In an experiment, when batters started getting the pitches wrong, they were using the frontal parts of their brain too much. The frontal parts of the brain are mostly involved in deliberate decision-making.


And when they get involved, they slow down the speed of your decisions.



And when you’re up at the plate and you’re facing a 95-mile-an-hour fastball and you’ve got tens of milliseconds really to decide on whether you want to hit this thing or not, that’s where that deliberate thinking is a problem.



When we are triggered, flooded with cortisol and adrenaline, confused, terrified, thinking, making decisions becomes near impossible.



A batter, clears the mind and trusts his/her instinct. A concert pianist does not think during a performance. Habit has entered the memory of the body and flows when we this space.



Maybe when you garden, or paint or go into nature or push yourself past exhaustion (runners high) you get a brief feeling like this.


Another way of reaching this space is meditation.



We can reach this kind of natural state of heightened awareness with daily practice (20 minutes a day).

Mindfulness Self-Inquiry: “Living with the Heart Wide Open”


We can learn to be suspicious of particular thoughts, such as most judgmental and repetitive thoughts and any self-hating thoughts.



There’s wisdom in suspecting that something is amiss in this kind of thinking.


It can lead to investigations and discoveries about how you color your world and how you make yourself miserable or happy through the filter of your thoughts.



This type of investigation can help you see what is real and what isn’t, and what thoughts to believe or not.



When you don’t automatically believe all of your thoughts, they’ll lose their power to shape a faulty sense of self.


Mindful self-inquiry is a practice that can help you investigate anything, including the pain of old wounds, as well as other unpleasant thoughts and stories that create suffering.



Because unworthiness is a kind of trance that obstructs clear seeing, self-inquiry can be useful in drawing back the veil and seeing the unconscious reactions that perpetuate the cycle of pain and suffering.



It involves looking deeply and unflinchingly into your wounded heart in order to see things more objectively—without judgment and without avoidance.



This work involves tenderness and a friendly kind of curiosity.

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