Posts Tagged ‘Judgment’

Problems are always present

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“Nothing to Grasp” by Joan Tollifson

“I’ve discovered that there is no end to problems.

When we cure one problem, a new one emerges.

But this only becomes a source of suffering if we imagine it should or could be otherwise.

In fact, the turbulent, cloudy weather is as integral to the whole as the clear, sunny weather.



My two cents: We must endure life’s hard times to earn the better times.

Accept the challenges life presents as part of the journey.

We are lacking nothing that prevents us from being happy.




The Complex Mind can handle simple commands




Rick Hanson in “Buddha’s Brain” shares this: “The number of possible combinations of 100 billion neurons firing or not is approximately 10 to the millionth power, or 1 followed by a million zeros, in principle; this is the number of possible states of your brain.”

Extremely complex with incredible chances for opportunity.

Why would we choose negative stimuli to focus on?

We have a choice.

This morning we could only entertain positive, hopeful and soothing thoughts.

Hanson says:

“It’s so busy that, even though it’s only 2 percent of the body’s weight, it uses 20–25 percent of its oxygen and glucose.”

Choose optimism, a bounty of gratitude and kindness.

Choose to be present, in harmony with the earth and others.

Let being special or selfish alone.

Just be an observer for a while, letting the one who judges rest for a long while.

Can you give up judgments today?



Sunday morning Insights

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Sufferers of PTSD, depression or other disorders are generally confused and anxious.

Fear mixed with intense anxiety stops the mind from functioning properly.

We sense danger from a perceived lethal threat. We want to escape as quickly as possible, our defense mechanism has complete control.

Unfortunately, going out in public, say to a restaurant, would fire my fight or flight mechanism without my consent.

Somehow these situations linked to my abusive childhood. Our triggers seem to pick their own scenario.

Cognitively I understood no real danger existed, my defense mechanism did not agree.

Healing for me, consisted of sitting calmly, focused on my breath, as my nervous system fired violently.

My focus released the scary thoughts, then concentrated on the connected body sensations. For me, my solar plexus is where my trauma manifested inside the body.

Making friends with the bodies nervous system, intimately knowing (being with) the sensations, integrated my trauma.

Being able to build focus on the breath is body armor for the anxiety disorders.

The breath controls our nervous system and heavily influences our defense mechanism.

Navy Seals are taught to dissipate fear by extending their exhales.

Cortisol and adrenaline can be used for fuel instead of being afraid or triggered.

PTSD has access to the switch firing our fight or flight mechanism, we have final control of our nervous system.

Remember trauma is stored in the right hemisphere, inside our amygdala.

We can not access stored trauma consciously.

Meditation grants us direct access to our stored trauma.

No miracle just current neuroscience.






Charlotte joko Beck:

“So the way of practice that I’ve found to be the most effective is to increase the power of the observer.

Whenever we get upset we have lost it. We can’t get upset if we are observing, because the observer never gets upset.

“Nothing” can’t get upset. So if we can be the observer, we watch any drama with interest and affection, but without being upset.

I’ve never met anyone who had completely become the observer.

But there is a vast difference between someone who can be it most of the time and someone who can be it only rarely.

The aim of practice is to increase that impersonal space.

Although it sounds cold—and as a practice it is cold—it doesn’t produce cold people. Quite the opposite. When we reach a stage where the witness is collapsing, we begin to know what life is.

It’s not some spooky thing, however; it just means that when I look at another person, I look at them; I don’t add on ten thousand thoughts to what I am seeing.

And that is the space of compassion.

We don’t have to try to find it. It’s our natural state when ego is absent.”



Rejection, not an easy pill at any Age!

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Human nature desires approval, our “Ego” craves it.

Our “Ego” will justify unethical or risky behavior to earn approval. Just look how we act in a group, behavior we would never attempt on our own, is acted out.

Peer pressure, being accepted by the group meant life or death in mans early days. The reptilian brain has stored memory of the need for security, approval, acceptance by the group.

When the “Ego” encounters rejection, the reaction will be emotional, almost victim like.

It takes a dedicated mindfulness practice, to focus, then let go of the “Egos” siren song of lack.

Rejection dissolves when we meditate. Entering into this moment, focused, empty of thought, connects to our Aware Presence, real life.

A wise man craves inner peace over external praise.

A wise man knows external things are impermanent.

Approval can change to criticism without our input.

Our happiness depends on us, not on any external thing.

Whatever your burden, happiness is a choice.

No one said it was going to be easy. Life is hard, a reality.

Accept the challenge, another one is coming after this one passes.



an old koan about a monk and Anger!



excerpt from “Everyday Zen” by Charlotte joko Beck

“There is an old koan about a monk who went to his master and said,

“I’m a very angry person, and I want you to help me.”

The master said, “Show me your anger.”

The monk said, “Well, right now I’m not angry. I can’t show it to you.”

And the master said,

“Then obviously it’s not you, since sometimes it’s not even there.”



my two cents: Emotions are ephemeral, fleeting and transparent, I am so much more than that.

Why not be grateful instead of angry?

Why not be kind instead of feeling sorry for ourself?



How fragile is your “Ego”?

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Some of our most accomplished athletes and artists have extremely fragile “Egos”.

Accomplishments, possessions, or status only hide unworthiness, shame and guilt.

Many times fear of loss, embarrassment or ridicule drives us to overachieve.

Overachievement gave my “Ego” cover, a place to hide its shame.

External possessions merely cover up that fragile “Ego” with powerful looking facades. Athletic stardom gave my “Ego” the mirage of looking confident, complete.

Unworthiness must be hidden away. We feel our “Ego” could be annihilated if our unworthiness is exposed publicly.

We live in fear of being discovered as unworthy, down to our core.

The “Ego” craves shiny objects that bring approval.

An “Ego” exposed to childhood trauma feels damaged, broken, not deserving love.

Our “Ego” did not form a healthy attachment with our first caregivers.

This unworthiness is at the core of all our suffering in later life.

This can be repaired later in life, but not without intense work.

Can you detect your “Ego” when he/she is out front?

Any strong emotion or upset summons our personal identity.

Remember we create the “Ego” for identity, not to make any decisions, and definitely not to run our life.



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