Posts Tagged ‘Happy’

Updated: Mindfulness: A Simple Outline!!!!


Frank Glick took this photo at Fort Snelling National Cemetery. When he recorded the shot, he never could have guessed how much it was going to mean to the widow of the World War II veteran buried there. — Star Tribune
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Each step fulfilled leads to the next step. Healing or happiness does not arrive from a calm, a mellow straight line path. Rather, it is a path with set backs, turmoil and stress. It is a path inhabited with intense terror, enormous anxiety and fear of the unknown.
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It is an infinitely simple path, visually, a mundane looking innocent exercise. It unfolds like this:
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Awareness (Paying attention, Present moment living)
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Mindfulness (daily focus practice on the breath)
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Acceptance (ok with uncomfortable, letting go)
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Surrender (no resistance, heart is a butterfly net)
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Gratitude (shedding desires, eliminating needs)
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Giving (In a loving kindness way, no reward needed)
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Freedom (Life expands, the ego has faded for a moment)
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Happiness (the mind empties, life deepens, expands)
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More happiness hopefully.
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Happy and the “Ego”. Almost strangers

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First, understand the “Ego” (left side)  is never equal to another “Ego” (human being).
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He/she is superior or inferior, or somewhere in between, here in lies the crux of suffering for us.
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Now, let us explore where they spend their days.
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The “Ego” spends most of its time in the past, searching the memory banks to compare us with him/her, then project its emotional judgment for the future.
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Happy on the other hand is 100% steeped in this moment, not a smidgen of happy lives in the past or future.
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So, it seems the ”ego” is in a different time zone than happy.
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This is why Happy and the “Ego” are strangers in the night.
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Adjust your attention and time spent in the here and now.
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Updated:Focused and Fearless: Relinquishment; The path of release!!!!!

a bed of golden, red and maroon coloured autumn fallen leaves

a bed of golden, red and maroon coloured autumn fallen leaves

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“Let go of every fixation.
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Ultimately this is a path of release.
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The mind may attempt to construct itself on any foundation:
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through attachment to blissful jhanic states;
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by becoming “the one who lets go”;
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by being “the meditator who understands change.”
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Observe and laugh at the antics of the mind.
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Coax it to release its hold, even its attachment to good things.
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Uproot any place you find yourself stuck in, whether it be with the pleasures of the tranquil mind of jhana or in the clarity of insight.
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Resist the urge to keep score of your insights.
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Assessing your meditation practice only fuels grasping.
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Willingness to let go is indispensable.
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Every stage of this path requires a complete relinquishment of both the struggles and the delights, pleasant experiences and painful ones.
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Even the states of samadhi that you diligently cultivate must, in the end, be relinquished.
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Happy is located where?

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“I am happy in the present moment.
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I do not ask for anything else.
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I do not expect any additional happiness or conditions that will bring about more happiness.
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The most important practice is aimlessness, not running after things, not grasping.”
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– Thich Nhat Hanh
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my two cents:

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Maybe we should rethink our concept of happiness.
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Seems like fulfilling desires does not lead to happiness but suffering or addiction.
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Practicing aimlessness is the opposite of how we Americans live.
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We can have goals but must return from the future to live in this moment, content!
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Being content with ourselves and our position in life opens up this moment, the only time happiness is available.
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Updated: Self worth can be fixed through affirmations and mindfulness practice!

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“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”

– Lucille Ball –
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Self worth or unworthiness has to be dealt with before we can seriously consider finding happiness.

Lucille is correct, self love is the first rung on the ladder to happy.

Affirmation will correct this negative situation.

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In this moment right now, I accept all of me.
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Updated: Imagine how you would feel if the affirmation were absolutely true in your present reality. .

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“First, you need to do more than say the words.
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Remember I mentioned that the subconscious learns the most from emotion?
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That’s why you need to feel the words.
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Imagine how you would feel if the affirmation were absolutely true in your present reality.
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Allow yourself to physically feel this emotion.
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When it comes to manifesting something into the physical world using affirmations, it helps to close your eyes and visualize with strong images.
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In fact, any sensory input you can garner will help–smells, tastes, sounds and textures.
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In doing so, you activate the parts of the brain that experience that reality.
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The connections made in the brain when you have that experience become strengthened. .
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Your brain is literally making it a habit to have that experience.
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The deeper and longer you feel, the greater and faster your results.”
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Sounds like visualization.
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The Trap of Self-Improvement

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In the healing work of self-compassion, it’s important to avoid the trap of getting caught up in self-improvement.
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When you have a pervasive sense of unworthiness, this can be tricky.
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The identity of unworthiness is formed of self-blame and a deluge of self-judgments offered by an inner critic who wants nothing to do with self-compassion.
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It’s far more interested in masochistic endeavors like self-improvement projects that it’s never satisfied with.
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But this just gets you more stuck in feeling deficient for several reasons, the foremost being the very idea that there’s a faulty and unworthy self that needs to be improved.
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As discussed, Buddhist psychology asserts that the very concept of a static and enduring self is the most profound of delusions and the source of endless suffering.
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Believing that you can fix the unworthy self just leaves you trapped in the never-ending pursuit of being “good enough” through better workshops, new therapies, or a better diet or exercise program.
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In many ways it’s no different from always striving for more money or more things.
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It’s just another variation on eternally wanting something more or better.
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