Posts Tagged ‘Happy’

I do not ask for an easy life, only the tools to face my challenges head on!



Life has enormous challenges or adversity as some would say.

Some seem to have greater adversity, large loss and meager assets.

Yes life is not fair.

Instead of feeling sorry for myself, acquiring PTSD in childhood, I have gratitude for having the skills to escape that prison.

My journey has given me the skills to help others heal from PTSD.

Seems there is a bigger good or picture on my journey.

Gratitude has helped me cope with loss and life.

I would not changed my childhood, my suffering, my life, it has made me who I am!

Was this the lesson, I was to learn?



Healing and Happiness are an internal journey,



Healing and Happiness are an internal journey, an exploration of our inner world.

Thoughts, judgments and emotions are let go, as we feel all of our body sensations.

Somatic wisdom helps us integrate our trauma, if we have the courage to face it.

Thoughts are endless, so is the suffering that accompanies them

Directed thought is fine, negative thought, unworthy ideas, and self hate are not.

Find peace inside yourself and the world will be much easier to navigate.

It is simple: Never entertain a negative thought or idea, ever!

This simple, immediate, concrete and repetive action changes Our perspective.

Stop reading, talking, thinking, and debating, action is needed at some point.

Why not NOW!!!!!!!!!

If you really want to heal, you will take daily action.

This is a harsh reality that keeps over 90% of PTSD sufferers from healing.



A Followers journey



Posted by powerfulbeautifulwise:

“Until I found your blog, I’d discounted meditation because I thought of it like you described “a Zen center filled with intellectuals pursuing the abstract awakening or enlightenment goal.” I’m starting with baby steps – breathing in self-acceptance and breathing out regret when difficult memories overwhelm me. By starting small, I don’t feel the judgment that I might be doing it wrong.

In working with people recovering from abusive relationships, I’ve also wondered why some are willing to invest in the hard work while others continue to suffer. I’ve concluded that suffering does bring some payout. Until I bottomed out, I took some pride in my ability to suffer. I try to understand that someone trapped in suffering is getting some reward from it. Western society has been elevating the victim status, which may explain one of the rewards.

Thanks for your post. You’ve helped me sort out some thoughts.”




A few of the Benefits of a Meditation/Mindfulness practice:

Improving Attention

One of the most obvious benefits from meditation is that it improves our attention. One study has shown that just 5 days of 20 minute training can show significant improvements in our ability to focus and concentrate. The fact that mindfulness meditation can improve our attention is one of the most well-documented benefits. And the practice of staying focused on our breath can build concentration that often spills over into many other activities.


Improving Cognition

Another interesting study showed that just 4 days of 20 minute training showed significant increases in cognitive functioning, especially memory and learning. Other related research indicates that meditation can help slow down Alzheimer’s and dementia. Some of this may in part be due to our increased attention, but it seems meditation also acts on other parts of the brain more directly related to learning and memory, such as increasing gray matter in the hippocampus.


Managing Stress and Anxiety

Meditation has also been shown to reduce gray matter in the amygdala, which is a part of the brain commonly associated with stress, anxiety, and emotional processing. This demonstrates why meditation does so well in relieving stress and increasing relaxation. Jon Kabat-Zinn, founder of The Stress Reduction Clinic and Center for Mindfulness in Medicine at the University of Massachusetts, is one of the leading teachers and researchers in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR). Here you can find a wonderful lecture he gave to Google summarizing a lot of the research demonstrating how effective mindfulness meditation is for reducing stress and improving medical outcomes.

Improving Heart Rate and Blood Pressure

In light of meditation’s ability to reduce stress, it has also been reported to lower your blood pressure and heart rate. This particular study followed 200 participants for 5 years who were at a “high risk” for heart attacks and strokes. They found that those who practiced meditation regularly reduced their risk for heart attacks and strokes by almost 50%.

Reducing Pain

Mindful breathing has also been discovered to reduce pain, according to a recent study in the Journal of Neuroscience. After just four 20 minute mindfulness sessions, participants did better at reducing unpleasant sensations (such as 120 degrees of heat, a temperature that most people find painful) than those who did not receive mindfulness training. Researchers theorize that mindfulness trainees have an easier time keeping their focus directed toward their breathing and thereby ignoring the discomfort caused by the heat. It’s likely that mindfulness can show similar effects on other types of pain as well.

Overcoming Depression

Surprisingly, mindfulness meditation is said to be on par with antidepressants in preventing depression relapse. According to researchers, mindfulness prevents excessive rumination (a common cause of depression) by teaching individuals how to reflect on thoughts and emotional states in a non-judgmental and non-attaching way. Instead of clinging to “negative” thoughts and feelings – and feeding into them – mindfulness teaches us to sit back and watch these emotions and thoughts without needing to overreact or feel guilty about how we feel. This makes it a lot easier to fully experience these passing thoughts and emotions, and then let them go.

Overcoming Fears of Death

Another recent study published earlier this year found that mindfulness can also ease fears and anxieties related to death. Mindful people tend to be more accepting of their limited time while alive. They also tend to be less dependent on fantasy-filled beliefs and desires for self-preservation or immortality. They understand that death is not the opposite of life, but a necessary part of it. Thus, they accept the reality of their demise, instead of being defensive.

Changing Bad Habits

There is a particular technique in mindfulness training that helps individuals overcome addictions and other bad habits. It’s called urge surfing, and it’s a popular tool in some psychotherapies to help individuals quit smoking or stop obsessive eating. The main goal of the meditation is to “ride out” your desire to do certain negative habits, but not act on them. Mindfulness teaches you that many of these desires are impermanent, and if we just sit back and watch them, it is very likely that they will subside and go away (without us necessarily needing to smoke another cigarette, or eat that slice of cake).


Changing Brain Structure

In addition to many of the benefits mentioned above, it has also been shown that 8 weeks of mindfulness training can cause long-term changes to our brain structure. While this isn’t necessarily a “benefit” in-and-of-itself, it is evidence for just how powerful mindfulness training can be. For more on this you can also check out my article Mindfulness and Neuroplasticity.




Our first Small, simple Choice!



Am I a giver or a taker?

Want to be happy, this will help decide.

Takers may seem happy but the path has no takers.



Aloneness is not for those who want to be special.

Pixabay: wgbieber



Excerpt from “There are No Others: Accepting the Reality of Aloneness”

Aloneness is not for those who want to be special.

An awakened human being is not a superhero.

Asleep human beings are the superheroes.

Asleep human beings start each day ready to engage in an exhausting battle that they will never win.

They fight for their survival, war with themselves and others, resist the suchness of the unexpected, and believe that their struggle is getting them somewhere.

They fight tooth and nail for some brief experience of fulfillment only to see their achievement taper off into chaos and misery again.

For this reason, an asleep human being deserves the highest respect, not the awakened one.

An awakened human being is a failure at life.

The only reason a human being awakens to their true nature is because they have tried with all of their might to succeed at happiness and have failed miserably.

The only thing they have achieved is ultimate failure.

Of course, this failure isn’t a bad thing, but it’s certainly not an achievement.

Your growth mainly happens from interacting with other human beings that are asleep.

Only by recognizing what you are not are you able to let go of what’s untrue in you.

Yes, an awakened person is a helpful reminder for you that freedom is possible, but that’s about it.

No human being can magically wash away your unconsciousness.

Resolutions, add persistence or change your resolution



Each successive day this year, I will spend more time in the moment. That means awareness and being present grows with attention everyday.

Persistence is the key to change!

Just a little more awareness each day, will be an enormous change at the end of the year.

Do something simple and small everyday this year.

Write it down, challenge yourself. Develop a purpose, passion will come with improvement.

Do the work everyday and results, our best results will happen.

Success is not our goal, enthusiastic action with a great attitude is what we strive for.

Many talk about changing, this is the simplest path to big change.

I will meditate a minimum of 15 minutes each day. Simple, repetitive, concrete and immediate action like this works best.

We travel with our awareness, enormous opportunity to expand awareness each day.

We are just making small gains each day, nothing overwhelming.

We can give effort and be happy on this journey.



Do you care about the wake you leave?

Pixabay: naobim



How does your behavior impact others, at home, work, with friends, out in public, or in a crowd?

Are you synonymous with drama, humor, kindness or anger?

How do you greet family members, friends, strangers, or competitors?

Do you bring a light, happy energy, or a dark depressive mood?

Are you kind and understanding or inconsiderate and critical?

Can you tolerate observing these traits without bias?

Change always starts with awareness, then action is the engine that accomplishes the task.

New Years resolutions die quickly without purpose.

Change happens easiest when the task is simple, concrete, repetitive and immediate.

Make Happiness the change you desire this new year.



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