Posts Tagged ‘happiness’

Thinking: What we know



From “The Method: 5 Inquiry Steps to Enlightenment”

Everything you *think* you know is second-hand knowledge.

Everything you know without thinking is what you *actually* know.

See for yourself right now.

Become quiet for a moment; when your thoughts finally dissolve into silence, notice what knowledge remains when thinking isn’t happening.

What do you still know with absolute certainty?

Eventually, you’ll see that awareness of consciousness is the only knowledge that survives this inquiry.

This is your primary knowledge.

Navigating the world for practical reasons can require a great deal of second-hand knowledge.

To maintain your sense of self and the imagined world that this self inhabits, second-hand knowledge is critical.

While you need second-hand knowledge to navigate the world for practical reasons, you don’t actually need it to maintain yourself.

Maintenance is only needed if something can stop working.

Who you really are can’t stop working because it doesn’t ‘work’ in the first place… it simply IS.






Everyone seems to agree with this quote.

What do we do when that negative person is looking back at us in the mirror?

I was my worst enemy, my worst critic wrapped up inside my own body.

No accomplishment, nothing I could attain or earn ever changed that prison.

Change happened internally.

Negative feelings and thoughts were released, let go, fading into space.

The mind holds on to old habits fiercely, so daily practice is needed.

Let go of a negative thought about yourself everyday.

Self soothe, immerse yourself in a blanket of kindness



I stopped looking for a Cure.



I stopped looking for a cure, a fix, the secret, a plan to stop my suffering.

My shelves were full of self-help books, devoured with high hopes, always disappointed with the results.

I envisioned being healed, tried to replicate what that would feel like, then embraced the idea it would happen.

Still waiting on that plan to materialize.

A revelation occurred one day. My search of the external, finding a cure out there, was misguided.

There was nothing I could attain, accomplish or seek that would cure me.

What a paradigm change, external to internal.

I stopped searching, fortunately.

With mindfulness/meditation I found an internal way of being.

Healing was an internal journey.

All there was to life laid before me, seemingly mundane moments of daily life.

I had to realize momentary pleasure had no connection to happiness.

Sitting still in a no thought stage, brought clarity, opened my compassion center and changed my life.

All my thoughts about what healing would look like or feel like were erroneous.

It is like love. Let’s deal with love of our children.

Try to describe this pure love for your children.

Cognitive ideas and words can not touch how real love feels.

Being focused, in a no thought stage, is another thoughtless situation words can not define or understand.

Let your mind rest, let thoughts clear as you build focus, expand your compassion and chase happiness.

Mindfulness/Meditation is not an intellectual property. You can not read a book or take a class and reap its benefits.

Mindfulness/Meditation has to be practiced, we have to sit quietly with our demons.

It is the path less traveled, I am sure!



Thoughts again bring so many issues!

Bowie my grandson



Hooking up to our Aware Presence? What is it?

You can observe your Aware Presence when thought fades, when focus sharpens, when clarity arrives.

What is it, though? It does not have any memory, any idea of a past or future, and lacks ability to judge.

I am happier in a place where judgment fades. Lost in thought is a recipe for suffering.

If you believe happiness is connected to our Aware Presence, meditation is the train we ride, together.

Are you happier lost in thought or connected to your Aware Presence?

If we looked at the big picture, we would change the way we live.



The Science of Self-Talk: Rumination

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It’s important to note here that negative emotion (or negative affect) is not necessarily your enemy. It’s how you think about negative emotions that makes them negative.

In other words, how you represent negative emotions to yourself in your own self-talk is the key ingredient that turns them into real negativity. How so?

Researchers studying depression have figured out that people with clinical depression have a kind of compulsive destructive self-talk.

Psychologists call it rumination, and its characteristic is repetitively going over symptoms of distress, like a scab you keep obsessively picking at.

Its other characteristic is passivity. You don’t focus on solutions but problems.

So you have a negative emotion, such as sadness, but, on top of that sadness, you’re telling yourself this toxic story:

It’s all useless, I can’t do anything right. I’ve been stuck in this same position forever and I’ll never get out of it.

Dysfunctional self-talk tells a story. It’s the wrong kind of story, a story in which you’re passive and helpless.

In constructive self-talk, on the other hand, you see yourself as someone who can achieve your goals. That doesn’t just lift your mood.

It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you see yourself as capable, then you have the right perspective to become capable.

That puts you in the driver’s seat.




My two cents: Self talk: “Edward Bourne PhD. Anxiety specialist: “It is so automatic and subtle you don’t notice it or the effect it has on your moods and feelings. It appears in telegraphic form- one short word or image (”Oh no!) contains a whole series of thoughts, memories, or associations. Anxious.18th self-talk is typically irrational but almost always sounds like the truth.


Meditation/Mindfulness changes in me



That big sense, I am lacking something has dwindled. I need very little now for me to be content or happy.

Worry gets much less attention. Life is a challenge, many things are out of our control, however my time spent in the present moment has increased exponentially.

I do not try to escape feeling awkward, sad, lonely or anxious anymore. Now, feelings are felt in their entirety, then let go to fade away harmlessly.

Emotions and thoughts are discounted as mere appendages, nothing of relevance, just a mild inconvenience. Wow, what a relief this has been in daily life.

My free time has increased since ruminating lasts a relatively short duration with most disruptions.

Being able to let go of thought, judgment and emotion has eliminated so much suffering. No need to repair or integrate days of dissociating, ruminating in my traumatic past.

The promise of being free in this moment has triumphed over living in the past or predicting suffering in the future.

I enjoy times of happiness when my mind is focused, clear and ever present.

While hiking I let my senses control my being, that is I observe what my eyes see, ears hear and nose smells without narration.

I am a sponge, observing, soaking up reality without analyzing or judging.

Miracles are everywhere. Giant trees, wildlife, fresh air and nature fill my being. Thought spoils this pristine experience.

I have learned to let my mind empty, to give him a break.

My body and mind repair themselves when I focus on the breath and let thoughts clear my consciousness.

Our goal in meditation is to reach a no thought space.

We are just daydreaming until we build our focus to this level.

It takes practice and is attainable for all of us. No special talent, intelligence is needed, just daily practice.

My intuition has grown. I sense things in others, non verbal clues, unrest or agitation that went unnoticed before.

We all have intuitive skills waiting to be developed.

Meditation becomes more significant in life’s harsh times.

Most of us can have joy when things are going well.

Our issues comes with perceived failure, loss, a health crisis or someone offending us.

Our ability to focus, then let the noise go, changes life completely.

Could you benefit from a mindfulness practice?



Mindfulness: Benefits I have experienced part two, 2




Benefit three: Ruminating, spending time letting the mind wander aimlessly has drastically declined.

Visualize a giant sports scoreboard, instead of visitor and home team, we have time spent in past or future, and time spent in the present moment.

My score is very lopsided now, my present moment awareness increases as I practice. My thought process has shifted.

If I need to think, it is directed thought. A High School student desires a career, so he/she directs thought into the specifics needed.

After the investigation, he/she returns to now.

We experience this moment, then we move on to the next moment, absent of any backage from the past.

We build a quiet space between external stimuli and reaction. This space gives us a choice, so we can react or ignore the situation.

We practice by refusing to react in situations that illicit an emotional reaction.

Can we resist reacting in awkward, emotional or anxious moments?

With daily practice we can be a neutral observer, focused, relaxed and content.

I have found happiness happens in one time zone, now, this moment.

Happiness can not be found in the past or future. It is not found when thought engulfs us.

Living in the present eliminates many of mankind’s mental issues (suffering).

Eliminate negative thought, refuse to entertain negative emotions.

Never say a negative thing or hold a negative thought about yourself.

The left hemisphere is extremely literal. Say your unworthy and the “Ego” will bring many memories of past events when he/she felt unworthy.

Perception becomes reality.

Let go of the past of thought for a while.



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