Posts Tagged ‘happiness’

Updated: Mindfulness: A Simple Outline!!!!


Frank Glick took this photo at Fort Snelling National Cemetery. When he recorded the shot, he never could have guessed how much it was going to mean to the widow of the World War II veteran buried there. — Star Tribune
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Each step fulfilled leads to the next step. Healing or happiness does not arrive from a calm, a mellow straight line path. Rather, it is a path with set backs, turmoil and stress. It is a path inhabited with intense terror, enormous anxiety and fear of the unknown.
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It is an infinitely simple path, visually, a mundane looking innocent exercise. It unfolds like this:
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Awareness (Paying attention, Present moment living)
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Mindfulness (daily focus practice on the breath)
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Acceptance (ok with uncomfortable, letting go)
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Surrender (no resistance, heart is a butterfly net)
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Gratitude (shedding desires, eliminating needs)
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Giving (In a loving kindness way, no reward needed)
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Freedom (Life expands, the ego has faded for a moment)
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Happiness (the mind empties, life deepens, expands)
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More happiness hopefully.
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Gratitude from a 9 year olds perspective

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Dear Future Self, so you either got amnesia and hopefully found the letter or are like 42 and remember when you did this in Girl Scouts when you were 9. So, here’s a bunch of things you were grateful for when you were 9.
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First of all color, it’s bright and adds a sense of happiness to any paper. (Besides work papers.)
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Second of all, music. It’s happy and makes everything more fun. Like imagine a dance party without music!
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And the classic friends (of course). Actually you might be a hermit. But Amelie is awesome. She told me to say that. (She’s great!)
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And safety. There’s nothing more to say about this.
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Now energy/technology. (Evil robots who are trying to turn you into zombie slaves.) But I mean really what would we do without fridges, lights, air conditioning, clocks, phones, iPads, and t.v.s?
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Let’s be serious for a minute, though they may be strict at times we have, or maybe have had amazing parents. I mean some kids have abusive parents. Think how lucky we are!
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Oregon. You may have moved by the time you read this, but I don’t see why you did/would. Oregon is beautiful! I’m happy to live here!
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Monty! My dog. I love him! I don’t know what I’d do without him! Though he may be dead by the time you read this, he belongs in this letter.
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And of course health, you and I would both be dead without this.
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Grandma. She’s awesome.
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Daily Tools, Daily Work: Gratitude

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The mind is the most complex, powerful thing on earth. Its capabilities are beyond our comprehension as neuroscience keeps documenting new discoveries.
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This small complex mind is programmed best with a simple, concrete, immediate tasks.
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What fires together wires together is the basic building block of neuroscience. Where we place our attention grows and where we withdraw our attention withers and dies.
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So simple, concrete, repetitive actions become habit over time.
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Let me emphasize this again: So simple, concrete, repetitive actions become habit over time.
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Let’s plug gratitude into this equation.
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Take inventory of your life and write down everything you are grateful for. Small things, the warmth of the sun, a beautiful flower, a sunrise, a hot shower, your health, your ability to laugh, communicate, be free or just smile.
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Record your list and listen to your own voice giving thanks.

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How does it feel to hear yourself giving thanks, being positive and grateful?
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Anytime we get distracted, feel needy, feel depressed or anxious pull out your list or play the recording. Takes no effort to press play.
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Remember simple immediate, concrete tasks become habit.
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Being grateful brings desires and needs into proper perspective.
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Real happiness is an internal way of being, a calm, present moment awareness of the mundane, not a life chasing pleasure or avoiding the awkward or unpleasant.
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After gratitude calms our needs a big opportunity arrives, our ability to give to others, to journey together on this path.
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Practice daily with constant application during the day.
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Ricard: happiness or pleasure

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The most common error is to confuse pleasure for happiness.
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Pleasure, says the Hindu proverb, “is only the shadow of happiness.”
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It is the direct result of pleasurable sensual, esthetic, or intellectual stimuli.
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The fleeting experience of pleasure is dependent upon circumstance, on a specific location or moment in time.
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It is unstable by nature, and the sensation it evokes soon becomes neutral or even unpleasant.
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Likewise, when repeated it may grow insipid or even lead to disgust; savoring a delicious meal is a source of genuine pleasure, but we are indifferent to it once we’ve had our fill and would get sick of it if we continued eating.
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It is the same thing with a nice wood fire: coming in from the cold, it is pure pleasure to warm ourselves by it, but we soon have to move away if we don’t want to burn ourselves.
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Pleasure is exhausted by usage, like a candle consuming itself.
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It is almost always linked to an activity and naturally leads to boredom by dint of being repeated.
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Updated: Clarity, doing nothing, letting go

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“Leave everything as it is
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in fundamental simplicity,
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and clarity will arise by itself.
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Only by doing nothing
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will you do all
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there is to be done.”
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—Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche
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What fires together, wires together, where we place attention grows, where we withhold withers and dies.
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Let others own their words, their behavior without input from us.
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External things, people and situations can not impact our true nature, our spirit, our soul.
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Tim Robbins in Shawshank Redmeption stated, “There is a place in everyone’s mind that can not be controlled, imprisoned.”
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Sit today and search for that inner, secure place.
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Happy is located where?

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“I am happy in the present moment.
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I do not ask for anything else.
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I do not expect any additional happiness or conditions that will bring about more happiness.
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The most important practice is aimlessness, not running after things, not grasping.”
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– Thich Nhat Hanh
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my two cents:

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Maybe we should rethink our concept of happiness.
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Seems like fulfilling desires does not lead to happiness but suffering or addiction.
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Practicing aimlessness is the opposite of how we Americans live.
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We can have goals but must return from the future to live in this moment, content!
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Being content with ourselves and our position in life opens up this moment, the only time happiness is available.
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Updated: Self worth can be fixed through affirmations and mindfulness practice!

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“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”

– Lucille Ball –
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Self worth or unworthiness has to be dealt with before we can seriously consider finding happiness.

Lucille is correct, self love is the first rung on the ladder to happy.

Affirmation will correct this negative situation.

Example:

In this moment right now, I accept all of me.
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