Posts Tagged ‘Gratitude’

Our Blind Force: “DESIRE”

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“Everyone would agree that desire is natural and plays an essential role in helping us to realize our aspirations.

 

But desire is only a blind force that in itself is neither helpful nor harmful.”

Matthew Ricard
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My two cents: We have erroneously judged many things to contain happiness, that only offer momentary pleasure or avoidance of blame.

 

We think praise from others contains happiness! We think criticism damages our soul.

 

 

Neither has anything to do with happiness. External stimuli does not decide our wellbeing.

 


Nothing external can reach our spirit, our soul.

 

 

Victor Frankl came out of Auschwitz and wrote “Man’s Search for Meaning.”

 


The human spirit, our soul can find meaning in the worst of conditions.

 


The human spirit can also find suffering in the best of conditions.

 

 

It is our choice to find purpose and meaning out of the only life we have.
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Giving: a powerful action, a life changing act if repeated.

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In the previous post, “Performing Acts of Kindness Can Reduce Depression in Disagreeable People”, giving changed their attitude.

 

Loving Kindness practice, like repeating phrases, “May you be happy” or “May you be safe” did not impact these disagreeable people as much.

 

Giving is an action, and in this case action influences change.

 

 

Action is closer to life, sedentary closer to death.

 


Takes action to change, to heal, to live fully.

 

Repetitive action can change habit or the impact of a disorder.

 

Take daily action, challenge the man/woman in the mirror.

 

Pay attention to your inner world, a place where you have influence.

 

Happiness depends on the internal condition, not external circumstances.

 

When we give without concern for reward, the “Ego” recedes into the background.

 

We need to feel the contrast between when the “Ego” recedes and being totally present, empty of thought, worry and fear.
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Performing Acts of Kindness Can Reduce Depression in Disagreeable People: By Traci Pedersen

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When people who are prone to hostility make an effort to engage in acts of kindness toward their close loved ones, it can significantly reduce their depression, according to new research published in the journal, Translational Issues in Psychological Science.

 

For the study, more than 640 mildly depressed volunteers (average age mid-30s) participated in one of three online compassion training exercises or a control group. The volunteers were asked to complete the instructions and report back via an online platform every other day for three weeks.

 

Two months later, those participants deemed the most disagreeable showed the most significant reductions in depression and greatest increases in life satisfaction when they performed acts of kindness in close relationships.

 

Highly disagreeable people often lack empathy, even in their close relationships, says lead author Myriam Mongrain, professor of psychology at York University’s Faculty of Health. But, she points out, “everybody needs people.”

 

 

“As a result of their hostility and lack of cooperation, disagreeable types risk getting rejected or ostracized,” says Mongrain. “There is a lot of conflict in their relationships, and they suffer the consequences. We found that providing concrete suggestions to those individuals, giving them ways in which they could express empathic concern in their close relationships was tremendously helpful.”

 

 

“Implementing these new behaviours might have left them feeling affirmed and liked in their close social circle. This might have been the anti-depressant ingredient in this group,” she said.

 

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extraordinary moments

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“I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness.

 

It’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude.”

 

– Brené Brown –
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My two cents: Buddha or the Dalai Llama would add that the external world does not change if we become enlightened, awakened, happy or more aware.

 

If we find happiness on the mountain top, we brought it with us.


Happiness is an internal way of living and giving, my opinion.
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Loving kindness: Affirmation use or meditation practice?

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Inhale: I give myself inner peace.

Visualize inner peace entering your lungs, being absorbed, soothing your being.


I used to visualize scrubbing bubbles cleansing my inner world, like that TV  commercial.

 

 

 


No thought, just cleansing, healing focus. Listen inward, focus intently, calm in this warm cocoon.

Hold on to the pause, feel your lungs expanded, full.


Getting oxygen is a necessity, our most immediate, vital need.

 

 

Exhale: I give myself loving kindness.


Feel the energy around your solar plexus.


The exhale clears the used air, making room for more life force (oxygen).

 


Pauses:  The pauses bring proportion, rhythm, time for absorption, purge and balance to our breath.


Repeat, inhale, hold, exhale, hold.   “TWO MINUTES


Two minute practice sessions seem to entice our mind best.


Focus intently and enjoy this healing adventure.


Attitude is extremely important!
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Path in Sequence

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“The first step toward change is awareness.


The second step is acceptance.


– Nathaniel Branden
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My two cents: The path in sequence;

 


Awareness:    We have to see reality, the real world, how we fit in. Attention is placed on how our mind functions, how it interacts with our body mechanisms. We need to see ourselves without the bias of the “Ego’s” judgments. With 60,000 thoughts passing through our consciousness daily, awareness is key for perspective and proper navigation.

 

 

Acceptance: Optimum acceptance would have us accepting everything about us right here, right now. There is nothing we can attain, accomplish or possess in the future that has any permanence or connection with happiness. We are complete, whole, capable of experiencing enormous happiness right now. Everything we need is available in this next breath.

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Meditation/Mindfulness is not an intellectual property

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Meditation/Mindfulness is not an intellectual property.

 

Reading a book or a 100 books on meditation only brings an understanding of the process, the practice.

 

Taking college courses arrives at the same result.

 

 

Meditation/Mindfulness is about doing, sitting quietly focused on our breath, facing our fears in solitude.

 

 

All the books and classes combined have nothing to do with daily practice.

 

 

We need to sit (actual practice) and focus to receive the benefits.

 

 

It is so simple, a repeatable habit of focus and letting go.

 

 

Takes training the mind to act in a different way.

 

 

The mind want to go fast and handle complex thought with strong emotions.

 

 

Mindfulness does the opposite.

 

 

We train the mind to slow down considerably using the breath, then we let the mind empty.

 

 

This is foreign, awkward for our cognitive engine.

 

 

The ego will resist at all costs rather than lose control.
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