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Meditation/Mindfulness is not an intellectual property


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Meditation/Mindfulness is not an intellectual property.


Reading a book or a 100 books on meditation only brings an understanding of the process, the practice.


Taking college courses arrives at the same result.



Meditation/Mindfulness is about doing, sitting quietly focused on our breath, facing our fears in solitude.



All the books and classes combined have nothing to do with daily practice.



We need to sit (actual practice) and focus to receive the benefits.



It is so simple, a repeatable habit of focus and letting go.



Takes training the mind to act in a different way.



The mind want to go fast and handle complex thought with strong emotions.



Mindfulness does the opposite.



We train the mind to slow down considerably using the breath, then we let the mind empty.



This is foreign, awkward for our cognitive engine.



The ego will resist at all costs rather than lose control.


Gratitude and Giving


It’s always helpful to turn our awareness towards gratitude and giving.



When thoughts, judgments or emotions are challenging, take out your gratitude list and give thanks.



Next, find a way to give to someone.



Small actions of kindness can bring a soothing calm to our existence.



Some of our purpose in this life involves helping the less fortunate on our journey together.



When we focus on gratitude and giving, our ego takes a backseat.



Giving and gratitude have links to wellbeing and happiness.


We need to release the thinker at times!!!!!!!


When triggered, depressed, anxious, angry, stressed or fearful, we must limit its duration! These emotional sates can consume life, every waking moment.


The longer we grasp them, the stronger the neural pathway that forms.


We have many tools. First we need to let go of the storyline attached to these negative emotions.


If we have practiced meditating, we are able to focus on the breath, allowing these emotions to fade from our consciousness. Our breathing is the easiest and quickest way we can calm down.



I used gratitude to replace negative emotion. I gave thanks for small things, a hot shower, friends, my health, my practice, my tools for healing, etc. I found my gratitude dwarfed that emotion.



Distraction or entering a task can bring many benefits. I go hike in nature, strenuously. What my eyes see, my nose smells and skin feels is witnessed without judgment. This brings me achievement and exhilaration to body and mind.



Every time a negative storyline arrives with negative emotion, insert your affirmation. In this moment, right now, I accept all of me. I am perfect as my true self, seeing unlimited opportunity available, today.


Prepare a meal or do the laundry. Enter the task, be the knife slicing the vegetables. Slow down, let thought clear, just be in the moment.



Give and give some more. Giving, maybe just a smile and kind greeting. Care about someone beyond your own ego. Feel their pain, their need! Offer some small comfort.

Gratitude and paying attention?


I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness.



It’s right in front of me


if I’m paying attention


and practicing gratitude.


– Brené Brown
Sounds like awareness and gratitude are important.


I would add some giving to complete the menu.


Giving is more valuable than gold: It can be Contagious



Look at all the divisiveness and hate in our country.  How do we navigate in this climate?


Quit thinking and analyzing, take action, give without regard for reward.


Make a difference for a one  human being today, a stranger, a needy elderly person, lonely,  craving a little kindness.


Travel the mundane parts of life, armed with gifts for all those you meet, paying special attention to those in need.


It may only be a smile coupled with a kind greeting.


Donate a few minutes to help, to give, to be compassionate.


Achievement can not match giving for power or longevity.


Kindness is permanent, free and available to all of us.


Do not overlook the needy, the homeless, we share this journey together, not in competition.


Let go of that ego, let that compassionate true self emerge.


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Updated: Mindfulness: A Simple Outline!!!!

Frank Glick took this photo at Fort Snelling National Cemetery. When he recorded the shot, he never could have guessed how much it was going to mean to the widow of the World War II veteran buried there. — Star Tribune
Each step fulfilled leads to the next step. Healing or happiness does not arrive from a calm, a mellow straight line path. Rather, it is a path with set backs, turmoil and stress.



It is a path inhabited with intense terror, enormous anxiety and fear of the unknown.



It is an infinitely simple path, visually, a mundane looking innocent exercise. It unfolds like this:



Awareness (Paying attention, Finding ourselves lost in thought then coming back to now)



Mindfulness (daily focus  on the breath,  No goals, no doubts, no worries)



Acceptance (ok with uncomfortable, awkward, letting go of thought and judgment)



Surrender (no resistance, heart is a butterfly net, catch your fears with your net)



Gratitude (desires in perspective,  we have what we need, look for ways to give others)



Giving (In a loving kindness way, no reward needed, do not write a check, see and talk to those you help)



Freedom (Life expands, the ego has faded for a moment, take calculated risks with a smile)



Happiness (the mind empties, life deepens, expands, opportunity is unlimited)



More happiness hopefully.

Living in the Now: First post by Mechelle



This is Mechelle with Renewing Winds renewingwindsblog. I started following Marty and his blog about two years ago.  He is a mindfulness coach and dear friend, who asked me to collaborate  on this blog.

I have applied many of his principles and would like to share my perspective with you all.  My student perspective allows one to see the challenges and benefits of doing the work.  Applying his lessons, I have absolutely transformed my life and feel quite blessed to be able to share my journey with you all.

I also started my own blog.  I want to help people become their authentic-self and unlock their true potential.  I am hoping to offer you all insight to my path that has allowed me to thrive after being suicidal for many years.

Living in the now and staying present has been a difficult  for me to achieve.  I tend to overthink and create a story, one that leads to fear and anxiety.

Marty says to live in the now is to be an observer of our senses.  This means to bring awareness to not only sight, sound, smell, taste, but also to the sensations in the body.

How does a thought make you feel?  Bringing awareness to these sensations may bring you closer to attuning to your authentic-self.

Acknowledging and accepting feelings, guides me to discover a self, the self that is connected to intuition and offers endless love and compassion.

I cannot always pay attention to my surroundings and be aware of the moment.  Since I am naturally driven to distraction  by mind chatter, it proves difficult to sometimes limit thoughts.  When I find myself deep within my mind, I try paying attention to how this is triggering sensations throughout my body.  For me, I realized that negative sensations are usually traced back to a rat wheel of endless worry.

As I attune to my feelings, I let the trigger, which causes pain in the pit of my stomach, to be a warning signal.  Not always am I able to clear thoughts, once the negative voice has began.  I first become aware of the warning signal, then I am able to make a rational decision to change my behavior instead of mindlessly reacting.

In times when I am unable to clear my mind and bring my awareness back to my senses, I use gratitude and affirmations to reprogram my sub-consciousness.  I have previously brainstormed and made it somewhat ritualistic to incorporate these concepts in my life.

When a trigger is revealed, I can then use an affirmation that brings my awareness to the now  “In this moment, right now I am safe, I am worthy and I accept all of me.”  This helps me gain a perspective that is both calming, nurturing and attuned to the present.

Ideally, we would be able to clear our minds in all circumstances and enjoy life as it unfolds before our eyes.  Being aware is a skill that needs to be practiced.  This is why mediation is so vitally important to overall health and wellness.  Through sitting, we train our brains to be calm and collected.

When thoughts do arise, try continuously to bring them around to clarity by focusing on the  breathing track.  This takes us out of a reactionary mind to one of acceptance and feeling of overall peace.

In the practice of focusing on the breath, one will eventually be able to correlate it back to the senses. This correlation allows you to realize the breeze brushing against your cheek, the song in a chipmunk’s chatter and the innocence in a scared, frantic, and angry person.  Once this correlation is made, my hope for you all is to transform a monotonous zombie-like life into one of a revived, exciting and blissful one.

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