Posts Tagged ‘giving’


Where do I start?

Giving without regard for reward has many benefits.


Giving this way, opens up our compassion center.


Gratitude will grow when you help others, a great side effect.


Life looks and feels different when giving takes over.


If you need a purpose, none better than giving.


Gratitude and giving change us, transforms us, offers us the space where wellbeing and happiness live.


Besides my family, giving is the most precious possession I have.

That awareness has developed with daily meditation and practice.


Besides being a possession, giving is a boomerang.

Throw giving around and watch what comes back.


Even smiles and kind words have enormous power.

Let’s take a look at Thanksgiving

I try to look at this as a day of gratitude. Counting my blessings but keenly aware of the increased suffering of the masses.


Growing up for me, one parent could work, one could stay home and be financially safe. Maslow hierarchy of needs were taken care of. Life was simpler, easier it seemed.



I see more people suffering now, than any point in my life. The homeless situation is at epic levels. Not just drug addicts, bums and mentally ill but whole families beg on street corners. Our happiness in a spiritual sense is tied to the happiness of our downtrodden.



22 vets commit suicide everyday for last two years without much trepidation. We would never take 22 battlefield deaths a day for more than a week in our current so called wars. Peak incidence for PTSD in a war is two plus decades after war ends. We have never engaged in a war this long or deployed and redeployed troops like this.





Our pharmaceutical companies and doctors helped create an opioid epidemic nationwide without any consequences. They have increased foster children across this country and damaged the fabric of our country for profit. I see no indictments, no consequences except for the poor end-user. Doctors and pharmaceutical companies are not held responsible for the epidemic they created.




Corporations make double-digit profits with hospitals that may save your life one day, but take your house and everything you own six months later with aggressive debt collectors.


I wish we cared more for the unfortunate, the needy. Look at the amount of money spent on the midterm elections. What a waste. We could feed or give healthcare to the needy instead of political commercials.



In conclusion, we need to give more, care more about others on this journey.  We are not in competition with others but journey together.  All those possessions, all that status and power, evaporate when we die.



what is left is a legacy of helping others or nothing!  Give today and add to your legacy.

Visualize your “Ego” as a ventriloquist Dummy


Think of how our mind is constructed. One of the most complex organs ever found, capable of tremendous achievement or extreme suffering.


One of the parts we invent has no origin or real existence. Yes, it is the “Ego”. Search every part of your mind and an ego can not be found.


Yes, we invent this “Ego” for identity, I, me, mine! Identity is its purpose. Nothing more.


Think of your “Ego” as a ventriloquist dummy. We give that damn puppet power and life, not command of our being.


That dummy runs a good part of our life unfortunately.


The Dummy is the one who feels resentment, judges constantly, and feels unworthy. The “Ego” is never equal to another “Ego”. He/She judges itself superior or inferior to all “Ego’s” it encounters.


Here in lies the rub, we never feel complete when the “Ego” is in control.


That means happiness is impossible.


One day I was having a conversation with a friend and he said something upsetting. My response to him was, my “Ego” is pissed at you.


Finally I had isolated my “Ego’s” needs and emotion in a real encounter. I could see “I” disagreed with my “Ego”. I had a choice for the first time.


Just because my “Ego” was pissed meant nothing unless I agreed.


Our “Ego” covets total control. This leads to suffering and loss.


Is your dummy controlling your life?


The “Ego” is dormant during meditation, also the time when our happy emotions, contained in the left prefrontal cortex light up.

Giving: a powerful action, a life changing act if repeated.

In the previous post, “Performing Acts of Kindness Can Reduce Depression in Disagreeable People”, giving changed their attitude.


Loving Kindness practice, like repeating phrases, “May you be happy” or “May you be safe” did not impact these disagreeable people as much.


Giving is an action, and in this case action influences change.



Action is closer to life, sedentary closer to death.


Takes action to change, to heal, to live fully.


Repetitive action can change habit or the impact of a disorder.


Take daily action, challenge the man/woman in the mirror.


Pay attention to your inner world, a place where you have influence.


Happiness depends on the internal condition, not external circumstances.


When we give without concern for reward, the “Ego” recedes into the background.


We need to feel the contrast between when the “Ego” recedes and being totally present, empty of thought, worry and fear.

Performing Acts of Kindness Can Reduce Depression in Disagreeable People: By Traci Pedersen

When people who are prone to hostility make an effort to engage in acts of kindness toward their close loved ones, it can significantly reduce their depression, according to new research published in the journal, Translational Issues in Psychological Science.


For the study, more than 640 mildly depressed volunteers (average age mid-30s) participated in one of three online compassion training exercises or a control group. The volunteers were asked to complete the instructions and report back via an online platform every other day for three weeks.


Two months later, those participants deemed the most disagreeable showed the most significant reductions in depression and greatest increases in life satisfaction when they performed acts of kindness in close relationships.


Highly disagreeable people often lack empathy, even in their close relationships, says lead author Myriam Mongrain, professor of psychology at York University’s Faculty of Health. But, she points out, “everybody needs people.”



“As a result of their hostility and lack of cooperation, disagreeable types risk getting rejected or ostracized,” says Mongrain. “There is a lot of conflict in their relationships, and they suffer the consequences. We found that providing concrete suggestions to those individuals, giving them ways in which they could express empathic concern in their close relationships was tremendously helpful.”



“Implementing these new behaviours might have left them feeling affirmed and liked in their close social circle. This might have been the anti-depressant ingredient in this group,” she said.


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extraordinary moments


“I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness.


It’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude.”


– Brené Brown –
My two cents: Buddha or the Dalai Llama would add that the external world does not change if we become enlightened, awakened, happy or more aware.


If we find happiness on the mountain top, we brought it with us.

Happiness is an internal way of living and giving, my opinion.


Gratitude and Giving


It’s always helpful to turn our awareness towards gratitude and giving.



When thoughts, judgments or emotions are challenging, take out your gratitude list and give thanks.



Next, find a way to give to someone.



Small actions of kindness can bring a soothing calm to our existence.



Some of our purpose in this life involves helping the less fortunate on our journey together.



When we focus on gratitude and giving, our ego takes a backseat.



Giving and gratitude have links to wellbeing and happiness.


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