Posts Tagged ‘giving’

The CONTRAST before and after HEALING !!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Severe childhood abuse impacted how my mind wired together, besides filling my amygdala with trauma laced implicit memories.

Even after healing, remnants exist in the recesses of my mind.

Before I healed, suffering was compounded by thoughts that were endless, intrusive and completely unworthy in nature.

Severely abused kids carry the damage not only in the mind but throughout our bodies.

Hard to describe an upside down nervous system erupting double digit times everyday.

Healing was long, arduous and painful for me.

The contrast before and after healing, Startling.

Just the elimination of intrusive thoughts seemed Euphoric.

The absence of suffering can be considered Exhilarating on its own.

The cessation of never feeling good enough Ecstatic.

This concept like PTSD can not be described by words but experienced in real life.

Beyond the euphoric and ecstatic, the ability to let the noise go and enter this moment unencumbered by unworthy thought, seems miraculous at first.

Yes, I came back to earth after a while.

Learning to accept and not question or resent my childhood abuse was not easy.

Moving forward, my childhood still can be awakened and unleashed.

This lives a short existence now, but I admit, yearning for happy go lucky moments, still overtakes my desires.

I guess we all wish for things we will never experience.

That desire is not a need and fades as quickly as unwanted thought, now.

Moral of the story: Never give up, never give in, fight for your wellbeing.

It is the journey we need to improve, not the destination.

The destination is always death, so enjoy the ride as much as possible.

That does not mean chasing pleasure but have enormous gratitude and be a world class giver for a start.

Have a good journey today.

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Mindfulness versus Selfishness

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A mindful existence resembles a giver, a person with a healthy list of things he/she is grateful for. A selfish existence brings a sense of lack, a takers mentality.

Kindness, compassion and empathy are other traits a mindful person strives to incorporate into daily life.

Selfishness could be considered as the antithesis of mindfulness.

Mindfulness strives to do no harm, first to ourselves, then to all we meet.

Selfishness leads to suffering, a heightened sense of lack haunts us.

Happiness is not found out there, that sense of lack is created by our unworthy “Ego”.

Change your behavior, be kind instead of selfish, be a giver not a taker, use compassion, be a helper instead of a harsh critic.

Possessions, status, and power are fleeting, kindness to others, giving, lasts beyond our death.

We are on this journey together, not in competition.

There is plenty for all of us, realize happiness is tied to how we treat those less fortunate.

Release that sense of lack, increase your awareness of the gratitude before you.

Smile, be kind, be compassionate, give and be happy.

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What is your life’s purpose?

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Mine has changed drastically as I have aged. Fame and fortune blinded my early years.

Childhood trauma stole years from my mid 20’s until mid 50’s.

Lost and suffering clouded any purpose I had.

Healing and meditating brought clarity and a clear purpose, to be happy.

Matthew Ricard says our purpose in life is to be “Happy”.

Happiness takes surrendering to your fears, stockpiling enormous amounts of gratitude, then helping others less fortunate on this path.

Happiness comes to humble, aware souls who let the “Egos” selfishness fade with a lack of attention.

Happiness has nothing to do with achievement, adulation, success or approval.

Can you imagine being happy in stressful, awkward situations.

Accepting life’s challenges is the fork in the road we need to choose.

As long as I show up enthusiastic and give all out effort, the results do not matter.

Behaving like this gives us the best chance for success anyway.

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Thanksgiving is an hourly practice

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Thanksgiving is an hourly practice, not a once a year novelty.

Gratitude grows giving, then giving returns the favor.

When my compassion center opened, gratitude and giving increased.

If you want your life to count, then be grateful and give freely.

Of all my accomplishments, giving has lasted, the trophies are tarnished and dusty, long forgotten.

Sadness and depression do not visit grateful givers as often, I know.

On this day, realize we are on this journey together.

Good deeds travel, possesssions are left behind when we depart this earth.

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Some Thanksgiving thoughts

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Thanksgiving, the ultimate gratitude experience for Americans.

 

 

This is the one day we feel obligated to feed the homeless, that would be great if hunger only happened on one day a year.

 

 

It must seem weird to the homeless, to see people get involved for a day.

 

 

I would recommend we spend an hour a day growing gratitude and giving as much as possible.

 

 

It’s winter, that old warm coat in the closet would bring some degree of comfort to a needy soul.

 

 

That act of giving will change you. You will feel something, someone in need, right now.

 

 

His/Her existence can be influenced by our kindness and acts of giving.

 

 

Great way to teach your children compassion for others.

 

 

If you ignore the needy, your kids most likely will not care either.

 

 

Be humble, give thanks for all you have.

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Unintended Consequences

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My healing path was anchored by hours spent each day devoted to meditating. A byproduct of this action, besides healing, was the opening of my compassion center.

This unintended consequence has brought anguish. Suffering a childhood like mine, then to be disowned by my family currently, felt lonely. I mean all you hear from people is family means everything.

I felt somewhat damaged, a little sorry for myself.

Yesterday, outside the grocery, I encountered a homeless man.

I could tell he was a loner, immediately. Somehow, I felt his isolation, his suffering, his fear.

It was cold and he had no family, no one who cares in the world, I almost cried. Now, this was real loneliness. As far as I could see, he had one tooth when I approached.

His gratitude for my small offering touched my soul.

In our society, we have so many homeless now, we look on them as subhuman.

Meditation has curbed my appetite for needing things. Giving and gratitude smother the desire for possessions, power or status.

I have dreams of having Bezos type money and power, then using it to eliminate suffering.

Without forethought, meditation has changed my life is so many unintended ways.

Carry a sandwich, an apple or a small treat to give to those in need.

This act of giving leads to an increase in gratitude and a better chance at being happy.

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Taking Stock

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Some have labeled me OCD, I commit all out effort when undertaking a challenge.

Example: Taking up a meditation practice to heal, I sat five hours a day for five years.

That’s what it took to heal, half measures did nothing.

It is how my mind functions, how it survived daily childhood abuse.

Surviving childhood trauma developed an incredible ability to endure hardship in the face of terror.

My thoughts were about unworthiness, avoiding and escaping.

I was consumed with myself, my suffering and possible healing.

Healing changed that focus.

Now, my compassion center has opened wide, I feel others pain and suffering.

I have day dreams of being able to alleviate suffering of our homeless and all children.

I carry this helpless feeling, not having the resources to change any of this suffering.

Look at the world, refugees suffering everywhere, poverty, corruption and war dominate.

In America our politicians are more concerned with lobbyist, power and party than the poor.

Hate dominates our politics.

Sad to see rich millionaire lawyer politicians vie for absolute power.

We are lost, most are on a journey to accumulate trophies, possessions and power.

Where does your mind gravitate to?

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