Posts Tagged ‘Focus’

New Years Resolution: awareness!

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Bring awareness to past resolutions. Why have they not changed our lives? Seems we have a plethora of self-help books and paths, more every year.

 

Why would we need so many more self-help books if one of them did the job! I was a consumer of many of those self-help books.

 

Human nature works against all those books of internal change. We would rather suffer a familiar pain than risk change, the unknown.

 

93% quit pursuing a New Years Resolution within the first month.

 

Why?

 

Change terrifies our “Ego”, threatens his/her control of our being.

 

If we would change, choosing to stay present instead of grasping thought, our “Ego” loses control.

 

The “Ego” rules using the 60,000 thoughts it brings forward everyday.  It is as literal as your keyboard, never equal to another “Ego” and constantly jockeys for control of our being and other “Egos”.

 

It wants to file away every scenario we could face daily. The “Ego” wants to run our life on autopilot. We drive our car, stop at red, go when green, yield to the car to the right at other intersections.

 

For every situation, he/she has the response cued up for us to act appropriately.

 

No wonder most New Year Resolutions dissolve within weeks or  months.

 

Maybe we need to change how we look at change and wellbeing?

 

Here’s a different resolution. I decided to free myself of past and current judgments.

 

When a judgment arrives, I ask myself, can I live without this judgment. Then I repeat my mantra of release, release, release.

 

Hard to believe we can gain so much by losing judgment.

 

Lighten your load, dump the trash.
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Choices??

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Let’s begin in the shower, first thing in the morning. Our mind will turn itself into planning the day before us.

 

This is the first opportunity of the day, first choice. Do we look forward to the day with enthusiasm? Do we search ways to avoid or navigate around people and things?

 

Are we in a foul mood, unhappy, agitated, resentful, angry at life and our position in it.

 

That foul mood is a choice! A conscious choice we can let go.

 

Every morning we can choose to be present, focused and enthusiastic.

 

Once again we control only ATTITUDE and EFFORT.

 

First thing in the morning is the perfect chance to choose the present good mood, right now.

 

Feeling sorry for ourselves, feeling depressed or anxious, steals minutes, hours and days, we will never get back.

 

Time on this earth is limited, act like it, be aware.

 

At least be aware when WE waste precious life.
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Lining up our healing practice!

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Let us train the brain, the mind to let go of all the negative, all the judgment, all the resentment, all the anger, all the unworthiness, all the helpless, hopeless thought and emotion.

 

We need to line up our healing, have all of our oars rowing in the right direction, then at the right cadence of our being.

 

First our self image needs affirmations repeated out-loud. This addresses the unworthiness we harbor.

 

Second, we initiate a daily focus practice (Meditation) along with constant application of staying present.

 

Third, Physical exercise, preferably aerobic to exhaustion for flushing the toxins, strengthening the mind and body, and mental and physical accomplishment.

 

Work on observing strong emotions, judgments or comparisons from a distance. Observe means a neutral, a distant look, like watching a rerun of a past eposode of your life.

 

A reun is over, already happened, impossible to change or influence. A complete waste of time and energy. Remember happiness only exists in the present moment, all other pursuit robs us.

 

Relax, smile, challenges are part of life, accept them and exert maximum effort with a positive attitude.

 

Results are not our concern!!!!!!

 

No matter what happens, our goal is to give maximum effort with the most positive attitude we can muster.

 

Then smile and enjoy the journey.
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We create “Him/Her”, “I”, “Me”, “Mine”

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Just think, the “Ego” we create for identity, experiences our shame.
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He/She also experiences our need for approval and avoidance of criticism.
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When we feel shame, guilt or unworthiness, we are thinking.
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Problems, negativity, panic and fear thrive when we ruminate, grasp our emotional thoughts.
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When the mind is focused and empty, shame, guilt and unworthiness have left the building.
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So it follows that the mind does not experience shame when focused and empty.
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Seems like a door to relieve suffering for us, no?
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Thought is not the most powerful thing our minds are capable of.
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The left hemisphere, our cognitive engine has limits, the right hemisphere offers unlimited opportunity.
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Happiness seems to thrive inside the focused, empty mind.
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We have a choice who captains our ship!
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Those 60,000 thoughts generated daily by the “Ego” or staying present, empty, guided by our true self.
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Not much of a choice really!.
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We heal by not ____________

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We heal by NOT thinking about our Trauma!
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We heal by NOT reacting to our Trauma.
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Dissociating is the king of our sysmptoms, thinking about past abuse or future danger dominates life.
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Healing happens when we do not react to our fight or flight mechanism.
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Healing happens when we can stay focused and present, when PTSD or Anxiety ignites our nervous system.
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The quickest way is using Meditation/Mindfulness to focus and integrate calmly and confidently.
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When we become friends with our nervous system, triggers exploding like volcanos become cap pistols.
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Explore your inner world, get to know you.
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Nothing to accomplish, nothing to fight or conquer, perfection is already inside.
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Before we Meditate—-

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We realize that thoughts are air, judgments mirages, control a fallacy.  Scan your body and breathe into tight spots or painful areas.

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Remember to focus on each breath then move on to the next one.

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Where we are headed has no:
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No right or wrong.
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No good or bad.
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No pleasure or pain.
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No decisions, bias or judgments.
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No emotions.
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No I, me, mine or Ego.
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No resistance, control or exertion of influence.
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No avoidance.
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There is specific focus on the breath, a slowing, a calming of the nervous system and heart rate.

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We do let go of thought and emotion, we do listen intently to our inner world.

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What’s left is awareness, acceptance, then surrender to all that arises.

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We are  an observer, watching ourselves in a rerun on imaginary TV.

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The scene we are watching is over with, so comment or influence is uneccesary.

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Relax, let go, enjoy the ride, you are safe.

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Not identifying with the Thinker: The Heart of Meditation

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“The third kind of detachment is subtler. . .

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It involves letting go of our attachment to being the thinker,

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the one who identifies with the thoughts and desires, . .

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the one, in fact, who constantly, if unconsciously, chooses to think. . .

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Instead we identify ourselves with the witness,

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the watcher of thoughts. . .

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We don’t try to cast out thoughts. . .

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We let them be there,

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but we pull back from them. . .

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We identify with the one

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who watches the thoughts”. . .

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My two cents:  We pull back from our ego, allowing the watcher, the witness, our true self, our intuition to lead.

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The Thinker needs to be top Banana , pun intended.

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