Posts Tagged ‘Focus’

Does motivation last?

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“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”
Zig Ziglar
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My two cents: Healing and happiness are an internal way of being, a daily way of living in the moment.


Yes, we need to be vigilant every moment, the mind desires a time everyday to go slow, focused and empty of the noise (constant thought).

 

Life is a journey not a destination, not a search for power, possessions or approval.


Remember happiness only happens now, not next year or decade.

 

If you can not be happy right now, then when?

 

If happiness is in the future, what is right now considered?

 


What has to change for that happiness in the future to become reality?
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How do we motivate ourselves?

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First, a positive attitude is essential. How many depressed people seem motivated? That first step is a formidable one for a seriously depressed person.


Second, an emotional purpose reigns supreme. Write down your purpose and the daily activity to fulfill your purpose. Get it out of your head, on paper with the ability to look at it realistically.


We can distort anything that remains in our minds only. Meditation allows us to let go of the judgments and stay present. In this moment, unencumbered by thought motivation seems easier.


We yearn to be free again, the ability to relax, to enjoy the simple things in life. Is that emotionally charged enough for you to take daily action?

 

Next, it is much easier to take on smaller, specific tasks, to start our journey. We eat the elephant one bite at a time, we develop great focus starting with ten minutes a day.

 

We need to realize daily exertion of energy and desire over long periods of time accomplishes much more for us.

 

Accountability is also important. Write down your day to day goals. We can commit to all out effort. I may not succeed but I will show up and practice with passion. It is half the battle.

 

Give yourself praise for your effort. Leave accomplishment alone for a while. Observe, not judge your performance.


Reward yourself, self soothe with kind words and actions.

 

Smile, your perception shapes your attitude. Believe in yourself and it will come true.

 

It is a process, a journey not a destination.

 

Remember happiness is right now, not tomorrow or ten years from now.


Act like it and enjoy the journey, the details, life.

 

Please share your motivational secrets.
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Be your own Life coach

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Change these behaviors: We eat for a few reasons, to avoid starvation, health and enjoyment. A healthy diet and moderation makes sense.


Three times a week enjoy some rigorous aerobic exercise. At least 30 to 60 minutes a workout. If you have energy yoga or resistance training are wonderful.


Practice meditating a minimum of 15 minutes a day. Bring energy, focus and gratitude to this soothing gift. Apply the awareness you have built during the day.

 

Calm the mind and try to release your stress.

 

Can you inspire yourself? Can you approach these challenges with a deep passion. I chose three areas to work on. You can add finances, shopping, planning, etc.

 

One of the greatest benefits of having a life coach is the demand for action. Many more people would heal if they took daily action.

 


Look at your practice with gratitude. Make a schedule to hold yourself accountable.
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Wasting precious time

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Well, which is it, half full or empty?

 

This  judgment wastes precious time, time spent without a chance for wellbeing.

 

Better to have the mind empty than filled with useless judgments.


Actually it is 4 ounces in an 8 ounce glass, if you want to be accurate. Neither half full or empty.   Add an ounce and do we say 60/40?  Who cares?

 

Waste it on life’s half full or empty judgments and lose.

 

We have to be able to let these easy judgments go or the emotionally charged ones will run our life.

 

Try letting go of as many judgments as possible today.

 

Make more room for being in the space where happy lives.
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A two part post on Fear, the mechanism first!

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Fight or flight mechanism (Adrenal Stress Response)

Freedom From Fear” by Peyton Quinn.

1. “Tunnel Vision: One’s field of vision narrows and tunnels into the perceived threat.

 

2. Auditory Exclusion: The hearing tends to shut off.

 

3. Loss of fine motor skills: Often only gross motor functions are possible under the adrenal state.

 

4. Tai-chi-Psyche: Everything seems to move in slow motion.

 

5. Increased heart rate, blood pressure and respiration.”
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Our Attitude is worth many years of life

 

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Matthew Ricard:  “Happiness”


D. Danner and his colleagues studied the longevity of a group of 178 Catholic nuns born in the early twentieth century.


They lived in the same convent and taught at the same school in Milwaukee.

 


Their case is particularly interesting because the outward circumstances of their lives were remarkably similar: the same daily routines, same diet, no tobacco or alcohol, same social and financial status, and, lastly, same access to medical care.

 

These factors eliminated many variables caused by environmental conditions.

 

The researchers analyzed the autobiographical account that each nun had written before taking her vows.

 


Psychologists who knew nothing about these women assessed the positive and negative sentiments expressed in their writings.

 

 

Some had repeatedly mentioned that they were “very happy” or felt “great joy” at the thought of entering monastic life and serving others, while others manifested little or no positive emotion.

 

 

Once the nuns were classified according to the degree of joy and satisfaction expressed in their brief bios, the results were correlated with their longevity.

 


It turned out that 90 percent of the nuns placed in the “most happy” quarter of the group were still alive at eighty-five, as opposed to 34 percent of those in the “least happy” quarter.

 


An in-depth analysis of their writing allowed the elimination of other facts that might have explained the disparate longevity figures:

 

no link was established between the nuns’ longevity and the strength of their faith, the intellectual sophistication of their writing, their hopes for the future, or any other parameter that was considered.

 

In a word, it would seem that happy nuns live longer than unhappy nuns. “
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Applying Meditation/Mindfulness, using the focus we have built

 

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Happiness exists in only one time zone, this present moment, now.   Happiness does not exist in the past or future.

 

 

That means staying present, being acutely aware of our surroundings without judgment is the goal.

 

 

Check in as often as you can during the day. Focus, take three deep breaths and come back to now, then smile.  It’s working.

 


If we placed all our energy today on this task, opportunity may arrive.

 

 

You may see how much time we waste meandering in thought and connected emotion.

 

 

I still find myself in one of my childhood fantasies, World Series, bottom of the ninth, two outs, bases loaded and I am at bat.

 

 

It is far better than a trauma memory or a negative emotion but it takes me away from now.

 


Now, is what we need.

 


Three letter word changes life, completely. All those worries, doubts and fears fade, leaving us with precious time and energy.

 

 

The mind can be trained to go slow and empty itself of thought with daily focus and application.

 

 


Not a huge effort, but a specialized, specific type of focus and exploration.

 

 

Start your journey with ten minutes a day.
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