Posts Tagged ‘Focus’

Open, Curious and Humble

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We have to be open, curious, and humble to heal or to be happy.

Being open is the initial ante to start our journey.

Exploring our inner world may uncover things that terrify us on some level.

It will take courage, coupled with daily action to navigate this healing path.

Our most guarded weaknesses will surface with an open meditative practice.

Our hidden obsessions and cravings appear without the narrative justifying their need.

Do we remain rigid, denying reality or do we accept, then surrender to them.

Bet you now which way leads to healing and happiness.

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Sunday morning Insights

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Sufferers of PTSD, depression or other disorders are generally confused and anxious.

Fear mixed with intense anxiety stops the mind from functioning properly.

We sense danger from a perceived lethal threat. We want to escape as quickly as possible, our defense mechanism has complete control.

Unfortunately, going out in public, say to a restaurant, would fire my fight or flight mechanism without my consent.

Somehow these situations linked to my abusive childhood. Our triggers seem to pick their own scenario.

Cognitively I understood no real danger existed, my defense mechanism did not agree.

Healing for me, consisted of sitting calmly, focused on my breath, as my nervous system fired violently.

My focus released the scary thoughts, then concentrated on the connected body sensations. For me, my solar plexus is where my trauma manifested inside the body.

Making friends with the bodies nervous system, intimately knowing (being with) the sensations, integrated my trauma.

Being able to build focus on the breath is body armor for the anxiety disorders.

The breath controls our nervous system and heavily influences our defense mechanism.

Navy Seals are taught to dissipate fear by extending their exhales.

Cortisol and adrenaline can be used for fuel instead of being afraid or triggered.

PTSD has access to the switch firing our fight or flight mechanism, we have final control of our nervous system.

Remember trauma is stored in the right hemisphere, inside our amygdala.

We can not access stored trauma consciously.

Meditation grants us direct access to our stored trauma.

No miracle just current neuroscience.

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Rejection, not an easy pill at any Age!

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Human nature desires approval, our “Ego” craves it.

Our “Ego” will justify unethical or risky behavior to earn approval. Just look how we act in a group, behavior we would never attempt on our own, is acted out.

Peer pressure, being accepted by the group meant life or death in mans early days. The reptilian brain has stored memory of the need for security, approval, acceptance by the group.

When the “Ego” encounters rejection, the reaction will be emotional, almost victim like.

It takes a dedicated mindfulness practice, to focus, then let go of the “Egos” siren song of lack.

Rejection dissolves when we meditate. Entering into this moment, focused, empty of thought, connects to our Aware Presence, real life.

A wise man craves inner peace over external praise.

A wise man knows external things are impermanent.

Approval can change to criticism without our input.

Our happiness depends on us, not on any external thing.

Whatever your burden, happiness is a choice.

No one said it was going to be easy. Life is hard, a reality.

Accept the challenge, another one is coming after this one passes.

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an old koan about a monk and Anger!

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excerpt from “Everyday Zen” by Charlotte joko Beck

“There is an old koan about a monk who went to his master and said,

“I’m a very angry person, and I want you to help me.”

The master said, “Show me your anger.”

The monk said, “Well, right now I’m not angry. I can’t show it to you.”

And the master said,

“Then obviously it’s not you, since sometimes it’s not even there.”

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my two cents: Emotions are ephemeral, fleeting and transparent, I am so much more than that.

Why not be grateful instead of angry?

Why not be kind instead of feeling sorry for ourself?

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Decisions: First one with PTSD

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Trauma has impacted our life negatively. After the initial period of discovering what PTSD is and how to improve, we make an important decision.

We were all victims at one time or we would not have PTSD. Now, we must decide, do we continue behaving as a victim or do we take responsibility and try to heal?

If we consult the statistics on suicides and the epidemic nature of PTSD in the world, many decide to stay a victims.

I have witnessed over and over how PTSD destroys peoples lives. PTSD gets worse with time and behaving as a victim, empowers it.

The decision is simple, take responsibility or live a victims existence.

No healing or happiness is experienced as a victim.

It seems an easy decision, common sense, but PTSD is an irrational disorder, ruled by extreme fear and distortion.

The decision is much easier if we develop a few skills to help us heal.

It is the road less traveled.

It takes incredible courage, then a willpower to take action in the face of fear.

It takes concrete baby steps repeated over and over.

We can decide to fight for our freedom at anytime.

Somehow, we must focus, clear the fog of PTSD, to see our suffering is caused by our own behavior.

We have to take risks to heal.

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Dealing with our fight or flight mechanism firing violently!

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PTSD reaches its most terrifying peak when a trigger explodes violently, preparing us for a perceived lethal threat.

So another counterintuitive moment arrives in the face of healing from PTSD. At its peak, the most powerful moment, PTSD is also at its most vulnerable.

PTSD is a bluff. I have never read this from a book or heard it from a therapist, it is my personal experience.

A violently firing PTSD trigger is the greatest opportunity to heal we will ever receive.

PTSD can not play defense.

If we can focus and stay present during a trigger erupting, some integration will occur.

In layman terms PTSD will lose power when we stay present, empty of thought, focused on the breath, or body sensations.

Our thoughts add the fear to our fight or flight mechanism. There is no fear contained inside our defense mechanism.

Fear is created by our negative judgments and trauma memories kept alive by scary thoughts. PTSD is a disorder that thrives in the past then brings constant worry into our future.

PTSD will die if forced to live in the present moment. PTSD needs duration in our consciousness.

PTSD needs rumination, time spent thinking, or judging to fuel this destructive disorder.

PTSD gets worse with time not better. If you want to heal from PTSD, first make friends with your fight or flight mechanism, your nervous system.

Sit quietly, focus, explore your inner world.

PTSD is a bluff, it is our own defense mechanism we run away from.

Follow a trigger through completion.

We are triggered, adrenaline and cortisol are secreted. Loss of fine motor skills, tunnel vision, auditory exclusion, bp, respiration and respiration spike.

Our response happens. We either avoid, deny, try to escape or stay present. After a while, the. neurotransmitters dilute and our body calms down to normal.

That’s correct, nothing has happened to harm us. Our defense mechanism perceived danger, fired to protect us, then receded to a normal state.

We are not damaged. Our defense mechanism works and is ready to protect us in the future.

Then where is the real threat?

It is in our thoughts and fears, a mirage of trauma itself.

Realize nothing happens after a trigger settles down.

That was my dilemma but I ran from every trigger for years until I found a weapon to destroy it.

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Simple and Complex: how does it work

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The mind is extremely complex, we program it in the simplest of ways.

Bring acute awareness to where you place minute by minute attention. (A simple task)

PTSD is complex (complex PTSD even more complex), healing is simple and repetitive.

Focus on the breath, build your intensity, letting go becomes much easier. (Simple). Refuse to dissociate, this is our daily battlefield.

Work on one thing at a time, a laser approach, not an abstract shotgun blast.

Less effort needed when we use a laser to heal.

As Bruce Lee says, “I do not fear the man who practices 10,000 kicks, I fear the man who practices one kick 10,000 times.”

Explore your inner word, become friends with your nervous system.

Our breath controls the nervous system, our ability to calm down, feel safe and secure, free to enjoy life.

Simple things, like grasping only positive emotions takes no extra time.

Being aware uses no extra time or effort.

Accepting takes as much time as judging or grasping.

Why choose to suffer?

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