Posts Tagged ‘Focus’

Meditation brings awareness to the senses.


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First we focus on the breath, slowing the pace, elongating the cycle gently. Next we start to extend the exhales, calming the nervous system intentionally.

 


Relax, no right or wrong, good or bad where we are headed.

 


We listen for the softest sound in the room. We then go below that decibel level, listening for the sound of our inhales and exhales.

 


We feel our interior world for body sensations, irritations, spasms, tightness, pain, and any other insight. Bring the breath to these areas and relax. Be curious about exploring your inner world.

 


Next we investigate what we see with our eyes closed. It could be dark, a grey fuzz, vibrant colors or something in between. Some people experience light shows, mine is a grey pattern.

 

If you are sitting in a chair, feel your soles connect with the floor and your butt grounded in the seat. Feel gravity weigh your calm body downward.

 


Some people light their favorite incense when they sit. Notice the smells in the room. Certain aromas help calm us for our journey.

 


All of our senses require no thought and are ever present. Intense awareness of the senses brings us back to now.

 


Enjoy the time you have taken to be kind to yourself.

 

Observe the senses intimately without judgment or cognitive input.

 

 

Start slow and enjoy the awakening.
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Phases of PTSD (my opinion)


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My childhood abuse lay dormant until my 50’s. I knew something was different about the way I felt, however I did not understand the causes of my PTSD.


After PTSD ignites, we enter a phase of discovery and research. Hell, it took me six months to understand the basics of trauma and how abusive my childhood had been.

 

Then we need to figure out a way to heal.


Optimally we have two times to handle the specifics of our trauma. The first is this discovery phase of exploring the cause of PTSD. The second is with a therapist or healer.

 

Trauma needs to be integrated when it surfaces. If your therapist brings up your trauma during a session, triggering you, it is their obligation to integrate this trauma into present moment.

 


Early on my healing journey, I visited an intuitive healer. She would resurrect the details of my childhood and then fail to integrate those triggers. My PTSD grew with this malpractice.

 

After we explore the cause and impact of trauma, handling trauma thoughts is detrimental to our health unless it is integrated.

 

Dissociation saved us during the trauma. When the trauma is over and we understand the cause, dissociation causes suffering.

 

We will never end our suffering, if we entertain trigger thoughts, dissociating into our emotional, irrational ptsd fear.

 

You can go on a PTSD discussion board and witness suffering and little healing. Participants trade specific details of their trauma with others, then judge how they relate to them.

 

This behavior brings a momentary feeling or comfort, followed by suffering, then strengthening of PTSD symptoms.

 

This is the opposite of healing. We heal by not thinking about our trauma.
We heal by refusing to dissociate into the past or future.

 


We heal by focusing, letting go and staying present when triggers explode.
PTSD is an irrational disorder. Common sense is useless in understanding how trauma manifests in our life.

 


My trigger fears were embarrassing for me. I knew there was nothing to fear when people stared at me.


My trauma, my right amygdala did not get my conscious belief. Suffering was out of control when I consciously battled my judgments.


I tried to think my way out of PTSD. Constantly I would analyze the specifics of my dads abuse, consciously  trying to find the door to normalcy.


All that thinking, dissociating landed me in my garage for six months, unable to leave, agoraphobic.


I had avoided my triggers until life narrowed to one room.

 

Healing came with accepting, then not thinking, letting go and staying present.

 

Strength comes with surrender to our fears. Counterintuitive indeed but it is the path to healing and happiness.

 


We have to take action to heal.
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Does motivation last?

Photo by Ivo Rainha on Unsplash

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“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”
Zig Ziglar
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My two cents: Healing and happiness are an internal way of being, a daily way of living in the moment.


Yes, we need to be vigilant every moment, the mind desires a time everyday to go slow, focused and empty of the noise (constant thought).

 

Life is a journey not a destination, not a search for power, possessions or approval.


Remember happiness only happens now, not next year or decade.

 

If you can not be happy right now, then when?

 

If happiness is in the future, what is right now considered?

 


What has to change for that happiness in the future to become reality?
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How do we motivate ourselves?

Photo by Kenrick Mills on Unsplash

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First, a positive attitude is essential. How many depressed people seem motivated? That first step is a formidable one for a seriously depressed person.


Second, an emotional purpose reigns supreme. Write down your purpose and the daily activity to fulfill your purpose. Get it out of your head, on paper with the ability to look at it realistically.


We can distort anything that remains in our minds only. Meditation allows us to let go of the judgments and stay present. In this moment, unencumbered by thought motivation seems easier.


We yearn to be free again, the ability to relax, to enjoy the simple things in life. Is that emotionally charged enough for you to take daily action?

 

Next, it is much easier to take on smaller, specific tasks, to start our journey. We eat the elephant one bite at a time, we develop great focus starting with ten minutes a day.

 

We need to realize daily exertion of energy and desire over long periods of time accomplishes much more for us.

 

Accountability is also important. Write down your day to day goals. We can commit to all out effort. I may not succeed but I will show up and practice with passion. It is half the battle.

 

Give yourself praise for your effort. Leave accomplishment alone for a while. Observe, not judge your performance.


Reward yourself, self soothe with kind words and actions.

 

Smile, your perception shapes your attitude. Believe in yourself and it will come true.

 

It is a process, a journey not a destination.

 

Remember happiness is right now, not tomorrow or ten years from now.


Act like it and enjoy the journey, the details, life.

 

Please share your motivational secrets.
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Be your own Life coach

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Change these behaviors: We eat for a few reasons, to avoid starvation, health and enjoyment. A healthy diet and moderation makes sense.


Three times a week enjoy some rigorous aerobic exercise. At least 30 to 60 minutes a workout. If you have energy yoga or resistance training are wonderful.


Practice meditating a minimum of 15 minutes a day. Bring energy, focus and gratitude to this soothing gift. Apply the awareness you have built during the day.

 

Calm the mind and try to release your stress.

 

Can you inspire yourself? Can you approach these challenges with a deep passion. I chose three areas to work on. You can add finances, shopping, planning, etc.

 

One of the greatest benefits of having a life coach is the demand for action. Many more people would heal if they took daily action.

 


Look at your practice with gratitude. Make a schedule to hold yourself accountable.
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Wasting precious time

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Well, which is it, half full or empty?

 

This  judgment wastes precious time, time spent without a chance for wellbeing.

 

Better to have the mind empty than filled with useless judgments.


Actually it is 4 ounces in an 8 ounce glass, if you want to be accurate. Neither half full or empty.   Add an ounce and do we say 60/40?  Who cares?

 

Waste it on life’s half full or empty judgments and lose.

 

We have to be able to let these easy judgments go or the emotionally charged ones will run our life.

 

Try letting go of as many judgments as possible today.

 

Make more room for being in the space where happy lives.
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A two part post on Fear, the mechanism first!

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Fight or flight mechanism (Adrenal Stress Response)

Freedom From Fear” by Peyton Quinn.

1. “Tunnel Vision: One’s field of vision narrows and tunnels into the perceived threat.

 

2. Auditory Exclusion: The hearing tends to shut off.

 

3. Loss of fine motor skills: Often only gross motor functions are possible under the adrenal state.

 

4. Tai-chi-Psyche: Everything seems to move in slow motion.

 

5. Increased heart rate, blood pressure and respiration.”
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