Posts Tagged ‘Fear’

Secrets to help you Meditate



When meditating, I exert no influence.

Whatever comes up is observed from a distance.

Anxious Thoughts, judgments, worry and doubt, body sensations, the breath, and our interior world are observed.

Observation takes no action, exerts no pressure on anything, passively leads us to acceptance.

Any strong emotions or judgments fade away without our participation.

Words become powerless, judgments obsolete and resistance useless.

Learning to detach from the “Egos” grasp frees us to heal and improve..

Accepting all of us is not easy, does not happen without daily practice.

We do not try to escape. We are detectives, we are on an undercover stake out of our inner world, our mind.

Next comes Surrender, we picture our heart as a butterfly net and then catch our fears gently with a child’s curiosity.

We are not doing anything to our fears, surrender exerts no pressure, no influence.

Thoughts, judgments and emotions fade quickly with practice.

We learn how to train our mind to stay present, empty of negative thought and emotion.

It was scary as hell at first, I perceived my triggers had power to harm me.

That was an erroneous conclusion.

I was afraid of my own fight or flight mechanism firing, an unfounded fear at best.

PTSD is a bluff, nothing happens after cortisol and adrenaline dissipate, returning us to a normal calm.

You have to practice to reap these benefits.


Meditation calms the Storm: “The Transformation: Discovering Wholeness and Healing after Trauma”



“When we meditate, we are reversing the biological damage trauma does.

Meditation calms the storm.

It quiets the amygdala’s frenzy and balances the sympathetic nervous system’s fight or flight response with the rest and digest of the parasympathetic nervous systems vagus nerve.

Scientists have shown that if you meditate regularly, the tone of the vagus nerve–its level of functioning—increases.

And with better functioning, you get better self-regulation, enhanced memory, clearer thinking, greater ability to deal with life’s stresses, and quickly recover from anger and distress.

The improved vagal tone that comes with meditation also activates the nerves associated with facial expression and speech, which make it easier for us to recognize and welcome the support that others may want to give.”




My two cents: We use meditation to calm our nervous system, then make friends with our fight or flight response.

Their is no fear inside our fight or flight mechanism, worry and negative judgments add the fear.

If we lose our fear of triggers, healing is not far behind.

I force my triggers to fire at times with imagery, using the energy for hiking.

Fight or flight is just the release of neurotransmitters, adrealine and cortisol combined with physiological changes.

Nothing to fear, it is our own defense mechanism.



Healing is a choice, take daily action or surrender.



Healing is a choice, take daily action or surrender.

Does that seem like a harsh, uncaring statement?

The real tragedy is not taking action, suffering until we die!

I have come across many people suffering from trauma, anxiety, depression or another mental disorder.

Sadly, only a few realize healing or wellbeing is a choice.

Even fewer accept this challenge and take daily action.

Human nature would rather endure a familiar suffering than risk change, even when change may hold a better life.

I have grappled with trying to inspire them, trying to get them to see their behavior powers their suffering.

My words are the same, why do some take action and improve, while the vast majority continue to suffer without any effort to heal.

Our mind helps inspire our recovery or we suffer with our created storyline of justification.

If we are not tying to heal, we have avoided taking responsibility for our journey.

Healing does not happen from a pill or from some external force.

Healing happens with daily action, persistent effort and lots of courage.

This is the path less traveled.



“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” ~ Lao Tzu



Do you value others approval over self approval?

Childhood abuse, C-PTSD, made me extremely vulnerable, craving approval from others.

That craving took all the time needed for healthy self approval.

Constant criticism and beatings created a void, a damaged “Ego”, needing kindness at all costs.

My “Ego” felt unworthy, not equal to others, I judged myself defective.

The battle to heal or wellbeing is an internal one I found out.

Internal healing, accepting, then surrendering to my fears paved the way to a different existence.

Please learn from my mistakes and journey out of hell.



Healing takes strength and effort



Excerpt from the The Way Within:

It takes strength to stay present and then act as the moment requires not as your thoughts and feelings dictate.”




My two cents: It also takes dedicated daily practice.

Only twenty focused minutes of practice delivers enormous wellbeing.

We find how to release that torrential rain of negative, unworthy thoughts.

Imagine only entertaining positive, worthy, happy thoughts.

Would that change your moment to moment experience?

Meditation costs nothing, like kindness it is free.

Available at any second, but how often do we decide not to be kind or entertain self hate.

Healing and Happiness are the benefits of a daily meditation/mindfulness practice.

If life brings no challenges then I would relax and enjoy it.

If not, ask yourself, what will it take for me to start a daily practice?

What holds me back?



Be Yourself: The Inner Way; part two

Pixabay: qimono



Excerpt from the The Way Within:

This way is not a means to an end, yet it is an end to all seeking. It’s about knowing yourself not just through awareness but as awareness.

It’s the call to being. It’s making a stand as awareness and living authentically.

Awakening to your true nature is not an end to your spiritual work partly because awakening operates at the level of ‘knowing’.

Knowing is not the end because before we come to knowing, a life time of other beliefs has been recorded at a deep, some might say cellular level and it takes time before you are free of your legacy beliefs and all the associated fear and pain.

You must work through your beliefs, but this is easier work when done in the light of awareness.

The inner way brings you to openness and acceptance of what ‘is’ but it is not be confused with weakness.

It takes strength to stay present and then act as the moment requires not as your thoughts and feelings dictate.



No Resistance means We Surrender to our trauma!!!!



Healing was incremental for me, each plateau reached through concerted action over months. Nothing came easy or quick.

Complex PTSD from a childhood does not heal miraculously, quickly or easily. The mind was not fully developed when trauma entered its world. Hard to tell what is normal and what is the aftermath of abuse.

Aerobic exercise, therapy, reading, meditating, practicing acceptance, applying mindfulness and persistence each brought benefits for me. Sometimes all hope seemed lost but something inside refused to give up.

This trait is very important. Lots of setbacks, even perceived losses on this journey. That inner guide can be our savior in our low moments.

Meditating and mindfulness carved out a small secure space for me to survive. This space grew incrementally as I healed.

It was like climbing a ladder, each successive rung revealed more of the horizon, more of the path.

Acceptance was difficult, releasing the shame and guilt reached a sticking point. My fear, worry and confusion kept me paralyzed for months.

I still had resistance, actually I was terrified, my fight or flight mechanism dumped cortisol and adrenaline preparing for a perceived lethal threat. The drugs are real, the anxiety almost unbearable, but the storyline is the mirage.

Being vulnerable, that is surrendering completely in the face of my trauma, broke the traffic jam. It was scary not to resist, to be so vulnerable, so defenseless.

With arms outstretched, totally open, I pictured my heart as a butterfly net.

I caught my trauma thoughts gently, exploring with a curious mindset.

I had found the next step, being vulnerable, surrendering to my fears.

This exposed my fears so I could observe them without the “Egos” bias.

Surrendering stops the what if’s, why me, etc.

Our trauma melts when we surrender in the face of their perceived imminent danger.

This is accepted brain science now, how we integrate trauma stored in our right amygdala.

If I was wrong we would not survive a fight or flight explosion.

I survived ten a day for a couple years. It was not a fun life but it did not kill me, so PTSD is a bluff.



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