Posts Tagged ‘Fear’

What do you do for your mental health, daily?

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People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.
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Thich Nhat Hanh
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Getting people to take action is the toughest thing a therapist or life coach faces.
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People want a pill to cure them or a therpast to heal them inside that hour session.
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We convince ourself to suffer what habit has taught us over and over.
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Do you work on your mental health?
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Why not?
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Our purpose in life is to be happy, says Matthew Ricard!
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What have you done to cultivate happiness?
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Possessions, approval, success, achievement are just impermanent possessions, surely not happiness.
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Maybe we need to explore our inner world to know what happiness is and where it hangs out.
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Is change so scary or the unknown so terrifying or are we lazy?
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We heal by not ____________

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We heal by NOT thinking about our Trauma!
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We heal by NOT reacting to our Trauma.
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Dissociating is the king of our sysmptoms, thinking about past abuse or future danger dominates life.
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Healing happens when we do not react to our fight or flight mechanism.
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Healing happens when we can stay focused and present, when PTSD or Anxiety ignites our nervous system.
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The quickest way is using Meditation/Mindfulness to focus and integrate calmly and confidently.
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When we become friends with our nervous system, triggers exploding like volcanos become cap pistols.
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Explore your inner world, get to know you.
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Nothing to accomplish, nothing to fight or conquer, perfection is already inside.
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Before we Meditate—-

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We realize that thoughts are air, judgments mirages, control a fallacy.  Scan your body and breathe into tight spots or painful areas.

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Remember to focus on each breath then move on to the next one.

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Where we are headed has no:
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No right or wrong.
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No good or bad.
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No pleasure or pain.
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No decisions, bias or judgments.
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No emotions.
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No I, me, mine or Ego.
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No resistance, control or exertion of influence.
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No avoidance.
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There is specific focus on the breath, a slowing, a calming of the nervous system and heart rate.

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We do let go of thought and emotion, we do listen intently to our inner world.

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What’s left is awareness, acceptance, then surrender to all that arises.

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We are  an observer, watching ourselves in a rerun on imaginary TV.

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The scene we are watching is over with, so comment or influence is uneccesary.

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Relax, let go, enjoy the ride, you are safe.

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Updated: Mindfulness: A Simple Outline!!!!


Frank Glick took this photo at Fort Snelling National Cemetery. When he recorded the shot, he never could have guessed how much it was going to mean to the widow of the World War II veteran buried there. — Star Tribune
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Each step fulfilled leads to the next step. Healing or happiness does not arrive from a calm, a mellow straight line path. Rather, it is a path with set backs, turmoil and stress. It is a path inhabited with intense terror, enormous anxiety and fear of the unknown.
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It is an infinitely simple path, visually, a mundane looking innocent exercise. It unfolds like this:
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Awareness (Paying attention, Present moment living)
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Mindfulness (daily focus practice on the breath)
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Acceptance (ok with uncomfortable, letting go)
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Surrender (no resistance, heart is a butterfly net)
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Gratitude (shedding desires, eliminating needs)
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Giving (In a loving kindness way, no reward needed)
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Freedom (Life expands, the ego has faded for a moment)
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Happiness (the mind empties, life deepens, expands)
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More happiness hopefully.
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. . Want to change your life drastically with the least amount of effort and time?

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Spend 15 minutes a day perfecting a very specific way of focusing on the breath.
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It takes a very specific, intense focus, maybe using multiple senses.
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Our goal is to allow the mind to empty.
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The mind and body repair and energize when focused and empty!
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This ability to let thought and emotional judgment pass on through changes life drastically.
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Changes the immune system, digestive system, nervous system, plus our emotional regulation.
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The mind is trained best with simple, concrete, immediate, and repetitive actions.
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Sit today, practice, fight for your wellbeing, focus like your life depended on it.
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Your emotional wellbeing does!
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As the picture says, this path can be rough going, surrendering to our fears.

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Acceptance seems a battle with our “Ego”

 

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As most humans I have strengths and vulnerabilities, ambitions and fears, desires and demons.
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The desire for approval suppresses my acceptance. Wanting and needing others approval is the work of the ego.
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Accepting all of oneself, now, has little need for approval.
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This accepting space has many opportunities for wellbeing and happiness.
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Acceptance is a tall task I struggle to fully accomplish.
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Parts of me that feel unworthy keep resurfacing with life’s stresses.
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My unworthy parts are targeted using a daily affirmation repeated outloud, by directed intention when I sit and by application during the day.
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Assess your strengths and weaknesses, then devise a plan for improving.
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We are not accomplishing anything, we are working on letting negative judgments go, letting the ego rest.
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We never arrive or complete our journey, we just live fully today then wake up tomorrow.
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Mindfulness Practice: “Living with the Heart Wide open”

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Mindful Self-Inquiry
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We can learn to be suspicious of particular thoughts, such as most judgmental and repetitive thoughts and any self-hating thoughts.
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There’s wisdom in suspecting that something is amiss in this kind of thinking.
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It can lead to investigations and discoveries about how you color your world and how you make yourself miserable or happy through the filter of your thoughts.
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This type of investigation can help you see what is real and what isn’t, and what thoughts to believe or not.
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When you don’t automatically believe all of your thoughts, they’ll lose their power to shape a faulty sense of self.
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Mindful self-inquiry is a practice that can help you investigate anything, including the pain of old wounds, as well as other unpleasant thoughts and stories that create suffering.
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Because unworthiness is a kind of trance that obstructs clear seeing, self-inquiry can be useful in drawing back the veil and seeing the unconscious reactions that perpetuate the cycle of pain and suffering.
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It involves looking deeply and unflinchingly into your wounded heart in order to see things more objectively—without judgment and without avoidance.
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This work involves tenderness and a friendly kind of curiosity.
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