Posts Tagged ‘Emotions’

Lining up our healing practice!

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Let us train the brain, the mind to let go of all the negative, all the judgment, all the resentment, all the anger, all the unworthiness, all the helpless, hopeless thought and emotion.

 

We need to line up our healing, have all of our oars rowing in the right direction, then at the right cadence of our being.

 

First our self image needs affirmations repeated out-loud. This addresses the unworthiness we harbor.

 

Second, we initiate a daily focus practice (Meditation) along with constant application of staying present.

 

Third, Physical exercise, preferably aerobic to exhaustion for flushing the toxins, strengthening the mind and body, and mental and physical accomplishment.

 

Work on observing strong emotions, judgments or comparisons from a distance. Observe means a neutral, a distant look, like watching a rerun of a past eposode of your life.

 

A reun is over, already happened, impossible to change or influence. A complete waste of time and energy. Remember happiness only exists in the present moment, all other pursuit robs us.

 

Relax, smile, challenges are part of life, accept them and exert maximum effort with a positive attitude.

 

Results are not our concern!!!!!!

 

No matter what happens, our goal is to give maximum effort with the most positive attitude we can muster.

 

Then smile and enjoy the journey.
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Giving again

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Giving needs no approval!

It seems that when we give in a loving kindness way, expecting no reward,  our ego is farthest away from consciousness.

This allows our true self to emerge, which heightens our intuitive skills.

That means emotions like worry, doubt, resentment, jealousy and unworthiness subside, disappear down the rabbit hole.

Basic neuroscience tells us what fires together wires together, thus giving, being in the present moment, empty of thought can become habit.

Giving needs no approval from anyone,  carries an energy and reward contained inside its offering.

Giving is a boomerang,  as Buddhist believe giver, receiver and the gift are all equal.

I have witnessed and experienced this phenomena many times.

Unlike possessions or achievements, giving is more permanent, more closely related to our true nature.

If your feeling down, depressed, unworthy or anxious, look for ways to give, help the less fortunate.

This is an important part of the road less traveled, the spiritual path to happy.
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Internal Family System by Dr. Richard Schwartz Ph.D. : part one

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The IFS Model, which evolved as a result of this exploration, views a person as containing an ecology of relatively discrete minds, each of which has valuable qualities and each of which is designed to — and wants to — play a valuable role within.
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These parts are forced out of their valuable roles, however, by life experiences that can reorganize the system in unhealthy ways. A good analogy is an alcoholic family in which the children are forced into protective and stereotypic roles by the extreme dynamics of their family.
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While one finds similar sibling roles across alcoholic families (e.g., the scapegoat, mascot, lost child), one does not conclude that those roles represent the essence of those children. Instead, each child is unique and, once released from his or her role by intervention, can find interests and talents separate from the demands of the chaotic family.
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The same process seems to hold true for internal families — parts are forced into extreme roles by external circumstances and, once it seems safe, they gladly transform into valuable family members.
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What circumstances force these parts into extreme and sometimes destructive roles? Trauma is one factor, and the effects of childhood sexual abuse on internal families has been discussed at length (Goulding and Schwartz, 1995).
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But more often, it is a person’s family of origin values and interaction patterns that create internal polarizations which escalate over time and are played out in other relationships.
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This, also, is not a novel observation; indeed, it is a central tenet of object relations and self psychology. What is novel to IFS is the attempt to understand all levels of human organization — intrapsychic, family, and culture — with the same systemic principles, and to intervene at each level with the same ecological techniques.
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We create “Him/Her”, “I”, “Me”, “Mine”

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Just think, the “Ego” we create for identity, experiences our shame.
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He/She also experiences our need for approval and avoidance of criticism.
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When we feel shame, guilt or unworthiness, we are thinking.
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Problems, negativity, panic and fear thrive when we ruminate, grasp our emotional thoughts.
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When the mind is focused and empty, shame, guilt and unworthiness have left the building.
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So it follows that the mind does not experience shame when focused and empty.
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Seems like a door to relieve suffering for us, no?
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Thought is not the most powerful thing our minds are capable of.
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The left hemisphere, our cognitive engine has limits, the right hemisphere offers unlimited opportunity.
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Happiness seems to thrive inside the focused, empty mind.
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We have a choice who captains our ship!
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Those 60,000 thoughts generated daily by the “Ego” or staying present, empty, guided by our true self.
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Not much of a choice really!.
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How does your Mind feel about the day ahead?

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Maybe in the shower or sometime in the morning, the mind scans the day ahead.
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This is an insightful time, a glimpse into how our mind feels about life.
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Be aware of any body sensations connected to your feelings.
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Do you feel open, free, full of opportunity, or is it tense, filled with danger, loss?
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Unlimited opportunity and enthusiasm at one end, gloom and doom at the other end.
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I would bet our self worth is connected to these judgments.
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Before improving, my morning thoughts were filled with possible loss, shame, maybe humiliation, a frightening feeling worse than death.
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Constant criticism from my father made me dependent on approval, external conditions for any self worth.  This admission still brings a small tinge of shame for me.
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This was not a life sentence but took daily practice, trial and error plodding through days of confusion to improve.
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Pay attention to your mind, your feeling about life, your attitude.
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Do you think you can be happy?
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Do you think you deserve to be happy?
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When my disorder (PTSD) exploded, I did not think so.
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It is defined as an irrational disorder.
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The need to develop focus, the ability to let go of these judgments, is essential for healing.
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UNMASKING THE DECEPTION OF THE EGO: part three

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The only kind of self confidence the ego can achieve is an artificial one, based on shaky factors, said
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such as power, success, beauty, physical strength, intellectual brilliance, and the opinions of others–all things that are related to our image.
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Genuine self-confidence is something entirely different.
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Paradoxically it is a natural quality of the absence of ego.
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To dispel the illusion of the ego is to free yourself from a fundamental weakness.
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Self-confidence based on non-ego brings a sense of freedom that is not subject to emotional contingencies.
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You experience a lack of vulnerability to the judgments of others and an inner acceptance of whatever circumstances may exist.
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Neuroplasticity: change is possible, probable, to be expected

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Neuroplasticity occurs inside us everyday as we encounter new experiences.
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On the right you’ll see several photographs of neural circuity in the brain.
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From the left the pictures show us the neural circuity of a newborn, then a 3 month old, 15 month old, and 2 year old.
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As the child ages, their brain’s wiring becomes increasingly more complex and interconnected.
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Neuroplasticity is what allows us to take our experiences, then learn from them and form new memories.
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Huge changes are occurring in the brain during these early stages of cognitive development,

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but the truth is that our neural networks continue to build on each other until the day we die.
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