Posts Tagged ‘Emotions’

We need to release the thinker at times!!!!!!!

 

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When triggered, depressed, anxious, angry, stressed or fearful, we must limit its duration! These emotional sates can consume life, every waking moment.

 

The longer we grasp them, the stronger the neural pathway that forms.

 

We have many tools. First we need to let go of the storyline attached to these negative emotions.

 

If we have practiced meditating, we are able to focus on the breath, allowing these emotions to fade from our consciousness. Our breathing is the easiest and quickest way we can calm down.

 

 

I used gratitude to replace negative emotion. I gave thanks for small things, a hot shower, friends, my health, my practice, my tools for healing, etc. I found my gratitude dwarfed that emotion.

 

 

Distraction or entering a task can bring many benefits. I go hike in nature, strenuously. What my eyes see, my nose smells and skin feels is witnessed without judgment. This brings me achievement and exhilaration to body and mind.

 

 

Every time a negative storyline arrives with negative emotion, insert your affirmation. In this moment, right now, I accept all of me. I am perfect as my true self, seeing unlimited opportunity available, today.

 

Prepare a meal or do the laundry. Enter the task, be the knife slicing the vegetables. Slow down, let thought clear, just be in the moment.

 

 

Give and give some more. Giving, maybe just a smile and kind greeting. Care about someone beyond your own ego. Feel their pain, their need! Offer some small comfort.
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Why do people staring at me impact my life so negatively?

 

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I share this with a feeling of extreme embarrassment.

 

 

It seems so mundane, so ridiculous on paper, but in real life, it is my invisible prison.

 

 

Why does this seem to have such a negative influence, such an enormous power, such a quick, catastrophizing affect.

 

 

A childhood filled with constant criticism, extreme physical violence and harsh abuse, lives just beneath the surface of my consciousness.

 

 

I was a thing to my father, like the owner of a fighting pit bull. My worth was how good I made him look playing sports.

 

 

I had a big nose as a kid, which made me a target for ridicule, shame and unwanted attention.

 

 

Add this experience to my fathers abuse and my trauma manifests as social anxiety.

 

 

These two situations dominated my childhood, nowhere was I safe.

 

 

Catastrophic loss seems possible for me, when it explodes.

 

 

My C-PTSD came from this sick childhood.

 

 

Cognitively, I know all of this is irrational, transparent and impossible.

 

 

Knowing does not eliminate hypervigilance, anxiety, fear or shame!

 

 

They run on their own without conscious influence or control.

 

 

If I spend time thinking about any of this, it grows.

 

 

My job is to Meditate, slow the mind, focus it, and then let all these judgments and thoughts pass on by.

 

 

The most I have to fear is my own reaction to this stimuli.

 

 

No matter what, living fully and happily is my goal, not isolation or hiding for safety.

 

 

Thoughts? I have decided to share my journey in more detail as ptsd resurfaces in my life.
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In Touch: Where Does Your Attention Center?

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Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and turn your attention to the interior of your body. Without trying to change anything, notice where your attention is seated.

 

 

Where does it center?

 

Is it in the forehead? This is the most common home for those of us who rely a lot on our thinking.

 

Is it in the heart area—the center of feeling?

 

 

Or perhaps is it lower down, in the belly?

 

 

Become acquainted with a sense of this localized attention. 
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my my two cents:  Explore the inner world, introduce yourself, open the compassion center, live life.

 

 

Sedentary is closer to death, action, moving is closer to life, so risk, step out and be vulnerable.

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Giving is more valuable than gold: It can be Contagious

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Look at all the divisiveness and hate in our country.  How do we navigate in this climate?

 

Quit thinking and analyzing, take action, give without regard for reward.

 

Make a difference for a one  human being today, a stranger, a needy elderly person, lonely,  craving a little kindness.

 

Travel the mundane parts of life, armed with gifts for all those you meet, paying special attention to those in need.

 

It may only be a smile coupled with a kind greeting.

 

Donate a few minutes to help, to give, to be compassionate.

 

Achievement can not match giving for power or longevity.

 

Kindness is permanent, free and available to all of us.

 

Do not overlook the needy, the homeless, we share this journey together, not in competition.

 

Let go of that ego, let that compassionate true self emerge.

 

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Lining up our healing practice!

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Let us train the brain, the mind to let go of all the negative, all the judgment, all the resentment, all the anger, all the unworthiness, all the helpless, hopeless thought and emotion.

 

We need to line up our healing, have all of our oars rowing in the right direction, then at the right cadence of our being.

 

First our self image needs affirmations repeated out-loud. This addresses the unworthiness we harbor.

 

Second, we initiate a daily focus practice (Meditation) along with constant application of staying present.

 

Third, Physical exercise, preferably aerobic to exhaustion for flushing the toxins, strengthening the mind and body, and mental and physical accomplishment.

 

Work on observing strong emotions, judgments or comparisons from a distance. Observe means a neutral, a distant look, like watching a rerun of a past eposode of your life.

 

A reun is over, already happened, impossible to change or influence. A complete waste of time and energy. Remember happiness only exists in the present moment, all other pursuit robs us.

 

Relax, smile, challenges are part of life, accept them and exert maximum effort with a positive attitude.

 

Results are not our concern!!!!!!

 

No matter what happens, our goal is to give maximum effort with the most positive attitude we can muster.

 

Then smile and enjoy the journey.
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Giving again

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Giving needs no approval!

It seems that when we give in a loving kindness way, expecting no reward,  our ego is farthest away from consciousness.

This allows our true self to emerge, which heightens our intuitive skills.

That means emotions like worry, doubt, resentment, jealousy and unworthiness subside, disappear down the rabbit hole.

Basic neuroscience tells us what fires together wires together, thus giving, being in the present moment, empty of thought can become habit.

Giving needs no approval from anyone,  carries an energy and reward contained inside its offering.

Giving is a boomerang,  as Buddhist believe giver, receiver and the gift are all equal.

I have witnessed and experienced this phenomena many times.

Unlike possessions or achievements, giving is more permanent, more closely related to our true nature.

If your feeling down, depressed, unworthy or anxious, look for ways to give, help the less fortunate.

This is an important part of the road less traveled, the spiritual path to happy.
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Internal Family System by Dr. Richard Schwartz Ph.D. : part one

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The IFS Model, which evolved as a result of this exploration, views a person as containing an ecology of relatively discrete minds, each of which has valuable qualities and each of which is designed to — and wants to — play a valuable role within.
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These parts are forced out of their valuable roles, however, by life experiences that can reorganize the system in unhealthy ways. A good analogy is an alcoholic family in which the children are forced into protective and stereotypic roles by the extreme dynamics of their family.
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While one finds similar sibling roles across alcoholic families (e.g., the scapegoat, mascot, lost child), one does not conclude that those roles represent the essence of those children. Instead, each child is unique and, once released from his or her role by intervention, can find interests and talents separate from the demands of the chaotic family.
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The same process seems to hold true for internal families — parts are forced into extreme roles by external circumstances and, once it seems safe, they gladly transform into valuable family members.
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What circumstances force these parts into extreme and sometimes destructive roles? Trauma is one factor, and the effects of childhood sexual abuse on internal families has been discussed at length (Goulding and Schwartz, 1995).
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But more often, it is a person’s family of origin values and interaction patterns that create internal polarizations which escalate over time and are played out in other relationships.
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This, also, is not a novel observation; indeed, it is a central tenet of object relations and self psychology. What is novel to IFS is the attempt to understand all levels of human organization — intrapsychic, family, and culture — with the same systemic principles, and to intervene at each level with the same ecological techniques.
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