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Defining ourselves!!



Do you define yourself by your losses or weakness?

Subconsciously, I certainly did for most of my life. Perfection was demanded! An impossible request.

My healing path, redefined myself as what I overcame. That felt good.

As I developed, deepened, defining myself faded, I was just present, more and more.

One day while hiking, nature and my breath (my being) merged.

I kind of floated up that hill.

On reflection, my happiest moments were void of thought, engulfed by my surroundings, vivid, sort of timeless.

On reflection, I am present, free of thought much more during the day.

Life has improved, calm, kind feelings surround me now.

I approve of Marty, all of him, finally.

You can find your path also.



Meditation: Dying into the nondual; “Beyond Mindfulness” by Stephan Bodian



Shift your attention from your thoughts to your bodily sensations.

Be aware of the sensations of your body against the chair, your feet against the floor, your hands against your thighs. Be aware of the sensations of your arms and legs, your chest and belly, your neck and head.

Be aware of the play of sensations, how they’re constantly shifting and changing and how your awareness dances from sensation to sensation.

If you look closely, you may come to realize that all you can really know of your body is the sensations you’re experiencing right now.

Everything else is your projection, the image your mind uses to fill in the gaps.

For example, you don’t experience your whole arm, you just have certain sensations in the vicinity of where you presume you arm to be, and you project the image of an arm upon it.

It’s like an impressionist painting. There are thousands of points of color onto which we project a water lily, or a woman, or a building.

In the same way, you project the concept leg or head onto a collection of sensations.

Let go of these projections, these concepts, and just be with the sensations as they are, without interpretation.

Notice that surrounding these sensations is open space where no sensation exists at all.

In fact, there’s far more space than there is sensation, and the sensations are playing or dancing in this space.

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The Mind works best ______



The body can go supersonic, the mind works best going slow, being focused, empty of thought.

Multitasking goes beyond being fast, out there where awareness has faded.

Try slowing the body and mind at the same time.

Sit quietly, feeling gravities pull on the bottom of your feet and on your butt.

Ground yourself, gently.

Use your breath to slow the nervous system, calm respiration, blood pressure and heart rate.

Sense the minute body sensations while exploring our inner world.

Feel the body sensations caused by thoughts and emotions.

Breathe into those areas, slowly, focused and curious, observing without judgment.

Get to know your inner world, become familiar with the manifestations of thought and emotion.

They are connected and our friend, nothing to be feared, if we are familiar with them.

It is the path less traveled.



My Mindfulness Group is not what I envisioned but what I needed



My mindfulness group meets inside the county mental health building. NAMI (National Alliance of Mental Illness) office is located on the second floor.

Walking through the lobby every Thursday reminds me of the gratitude I need to carry around. I walk through real suffering, homeless elderly women, a lobby full of people in crisis.

My mindfulness group does not draw those looking for happiness, awakening or enlightenment.

Many have depression, PTSD, bi polar disorder, anxiety, etc. and are searching for help. They are taking action, it is rare.

I try to change the judgments they have made about themselves.

Having our challenges does not mean we did something wrong or we caused them.

We are not the center of this earth, life is not against us, pain does not have an emotion, it is not angry either.

There is no fear in our defense mechanism (fight or flight mechanism), it is a physiological mechanism.

We add the fear with our thoughts.

Our worries can overwhelm us or we can let them pass, and be joyful in this moment.

I have financial worries, health worries and worries about my grandkids, but these worries do not steal my present moment of experiencing my grandkids and life.

We have to clear a space without our unworthy thoughts and judgments.

That inner space, void of bias and judgments, is available if we can focus our mind in a specific way.

I know how lucky I am when I walk through that lobby.

This wisdom allows me to release my worry and appreciate all that I have.

Not possessions, but the skills and tools to have a chance at happiness. Healing has given my the skill to help other improve their lives.

Running the mindfulness group has benefitted me more than those I try to help.

Giving is a true boomerang if done without regard for reward.

We share this journey with others, not in competition.

Those awards, possessions and titles are worthless when we leave this planet.

If you want to carry something into the afterlife look at the lives of Mother Theresa, Mandela or Lincoln to see what is valuable. (Givers all)




Simple Actions Daily are the best Therapy



If you want to heal, taking some action daily is needed.

It sounds simple, it is simple and this action changes us from victim to survivor.

Our thought process changes when we commit to action.

Write things down, your feelings, emotions and thoughts around your fears.

Write down your schedule for taking action.

Add aerobic exercise if you want to benefit your life more.

Set a time to meditate, to build focus and improve on letting go of thought.

Invest time daily training your mind.

It is free of charge.






Think about the attitude, personality and energy we bring to others.

Think about how differently we treat friends and people we do not like or get along with.

We are responsible for how we interact with others.

Can we give up talking about others, gossiping in a harmful manner.

Kindness to others is a boomerang. Are you seen as a friendly, kind person who has a smile and greeting for others?

Build the “Ego” around being a kind, considerate person to others.

Recognize the importance of giving, connected intimately to the core of happiness.

Can we refrain from being right all the time, can we not respond to criticism?

Can we give up being angry about petty things, using that time to be free and focused.

We can practice meditating, building focus, creating a space between stimulus and response.

Others actions should not automatically elicit an emotional response.

We have control of our reactions and behavior.

Can we take a breath, focus, then let go of anger, resentment, jealousy or depression?



Limiting Pains impact



This came up in the mindfulness group. A painful knee injury was disrupting a life.

First thing we do is use our breath to focus. We take our breath into the center of our pain. In this instance, take your breath inside that knee and hang out for twenty slow breaths.

Without judgment or bias we feel all the pain. We notice it’s strength, it’s qualities, sharp, deep, intense, burning, etc. Does the pain have a color, a shape, a temperament, or an emotional content.

Next, we concentrate on our strongest focus object. For me it is my breath using my model.

Build your intensity, follow your breath, notice how this focus has diminished the quality of the pain. Bringing intense focus elsewhere robs pain of attention, thus lessening its strength.

How we react or refuse to react to our pain impacts its power!

Ask yourself these questions.

Is my pain constant in intensity during the day or does it fluctuates?

Are there things that influence your pain, behaviors, thoughts or emotions?

Am I afraid of my pain? Do I avoid all activities because of pain.

Does pain damage me?

Does pain have emotion. Is it angry at us, punishing us, Mad at us, or is it a neurological reaction.

Pain can be a warning of future damage, if we keep up certain activities. Pain may alert me, my hamstring will suffer damage unless it is rested or given therapy.

Chronic Pain exists but does no damage until it reaches a severe intensity.

My chronic pain does no permanent damage to my being. Chronic Pain does deplete some of my energy daily but that is the extent of it.

I do not fear it or give it any attention. This post has given it more energy than it has received in days.

If you have chronic pain, your ability to limit its impact, directly relates to the quality of life.

Find a way to exercise aerobically to bring out our endorphins.

We can increase or diminish our pain with our attitude and behavior.



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