Posts Tagged ‘Emotions’




From “Happiness” by Matthew Ricard


You might think that ignorance and negative emotions are inherent to the flow of consciousness, and that trying to rid yourself of them is like fighting against a part of yourself. 


But the most fundamental aspect of consciousness, the pure faculty of knowing—what has been called the “luminous” quality of the mind—contains no hatred or desire at its core. 


A mirror, for instance, will reflect both angry faces and smiling ones. The very quality of the mirror allows countless images to arise, yet none of them belongs to the mirror. 


In fact, if the angry face were intrinsic to the mirror, it could be seen at all times and would prevent other images from arising.



Similarly, the most fundamental quality of cognition, the luminous quality of the mind, is what allows the arising of thoughts and underlies all of them. 


Yet none of these thoughts belongs intrinsically to the fundamental nature of the mind. 



The experience of introspection shows, on the contrary, that the negative emotions are transitory mental events that can be obliterated by their opposites, the positive emotions, acting as antidotes.



To that end, we have to begin by recognizing that the afflictive emotions are harmful to our well-being. 


This assessment is based not on some dogmatic distinction between good and bad, but on observation of the short-and long-term repercussions of certain emotions on oneself and on others. 


But the mere fact of recognizing the harmful effects of mental afflictions is not enough to overcome them. 


Having come to this awareness, you still have gradually to familiarize yourself with each antidote—loving-kindness as antidote to hatred, for instance—until the absence of hatred becomes second nature. 


The Tibetan word gom, which is usually translated as “meditation,” more precisely denotes “familiarization,” while the Sanskrit word bhavana, also translated as “meditation,” means “cultivation.” 


Indeed, meditation is not about sitting quietly in the shade of a tree and relaxing in a moment of respite from the daily grind; it is about familiarizing yourself with a new vision of things, a new way to manage your thoughts, of perceiving people and experiencing the World. 

PTSD picks the very, very brave soldiers, also



“Hacksaw Ridge”

“The true story of Pfc. Desmond T. Doss, who won the Congressional Medal of Honor despite refusing to bear arms during WWII on religious grounds. Doss was drafted and ostracized by fellow soldiers for his pacifist stance but went on to earn respect and adoration for his bravery, selflessness and compassion after he risked his life — without firing a shot — in the Battle of Okinawa.”


Over a 12 hour period, demonstrating superhuman strength and courage, he lowered 75 wounded comrades to safety. Two days later he returned to that Ridge and was wounded.


The movie ends with this euphoric life of grandeur, Desmond lauded and decorated with fame and glory. The real story was he suffered from crippling PTSD the rest of his life. He lived as an invalid for years, depending on his wife to take care of him. Nightmares haunted him until death.



The idea that weak soldiers get PTSD and strong ones do not, is almost abusive in nature.



This statement pisses me off and violates everything my blog and volunteering stands for.


There is a small percentage of people who are resistant to PTSD but that is under 5%. The rest of us are vulnerable. In battle placing a soldier at the front for extended periods increases PTSD significantly. Redeployments have also added to this epidemic of not only PTSD but suicides.


Soldiers with PTSD will not seek help if you strengthen that stigma of being weak causes PTSD.   This statement could not be more ignorant or uninformed.


Being vulnerable, accepting our weakness are part of the healing journey.
22 suicides a day is the opposite.


My Thoughts are Endless!

Thoughts are definitely my issue. I can discount the emotion attached to a thought or at least lessen the impact.


Thoughts spring from an unknown well, deep inside the cavern of our mind. We are not responsible for their content or origin.



Some thoughts shock me. I never would consider behaving in a manner detailed by some of my thoughts. Seems my “Ego” is insulted easily, seeks retribution or even revenge on that offending person. Wishing bad luck on them appears in vivid illustration and joy. Oh my, that is not me is it?



For me, letting my mind ruminate or wander aimlessly leads to trouble. In our default mode thoughts look into the unworthiness of the “I” we created. That is a target rich environment for me.



I am the happiest when I am in the moment, observing life, judging little and smiling more.



When my PTSD is triggered, thoughts arrive at a staggering rate and intensity. Combined with cortisol, adrenaline and the other physiological changes, these thoughts can wield enormous power.



Thinking becomes irrational when triggers ignite. We believe crazy thoughts easily. Fear and anxiety accelerate our pace of thinking and avoiding.


My relief arrives when I focus on my breath, intently, letting go of the thought, choosing to breathe into the body sensations.


I watch my thoughts fade when possible.  Very, very empowering to see thoughts fade, emotions melt and the mind find clarity.

Attachment to things influences our mood, behavior, wellbeing

The Tennis Court Oath of the French Revolution.

Our moods ebb and tide. Thoughts and emotions impact these changes.


The Zen Buddhists point the finger at attachment, identifying with our thoughts and “Ego.”


Judging an event, a person, or a situation attaches a ball and chain around our ankle.



We will defend, argue and sometimes fight to uphold that judgment. This is exhausting and drains vital energy.



Judgment is “Ego” based, emotionally charged. I, me, mine can be pissed, enraged, jealous, anxious, traumatized or joyful.



These emotions and moods can change instantly with external stimuli or focused attention.



Look at this election, people hating for their attachment to one party or the other, belief in a proposition.



Strong negative emotions remove us from our chance at happiness.



Hate and happiness are never in the same ballpark, never linked.


Where one is present the other is absent.

Mindfulness can be the simplest practice imaginable

Meditation has many connotations, a mysterious religion practiced by monks in a dark cave or a crazy cult.


Take away all the robes, all the lineage, all the rules and all the abstract sayings, what is left?



Amazing simplicity.



You do not need to meditate to benefit from mindfulness. However, I highly recommend meditation for its ability to build incredible focus.



Remember Karen Stone-McCown said: “What is most important is for each of us to learn that we create our own emotions.

Our responses are shaped by our thoughts—by what we tell ourselves.”



Mindfulness then is about observing this present moment empty of thought, then moving on to the next moment unencumbered.



Our emotions will be predominately positive and enjoyable.



Mindfulness ignores the noise, the 60,000 thoughts bombarding us daily.



Thoughts program our mind, then create emotions.



Why depend on thoughts to ruin (run) our life.

We create our own emotions.

According to Karen Stone-McCown, chairman and founder of Six Seconds and author of Self Science,

“Emotions are our responses to the world around us, and they are created by the combination of our thoughts, feelings, and actions.

What is most important is for each of us to learn that we create our own emotions.

Our responses are shaped by our thoughts—by what we tell ourselves.

As we clarify our understanding of our own beliefs and patterns, we learn that we are actually choosing our own lives.

We take responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, and actions; we become accountable.”
My two cents: We must work diligently to ignore the noise, or the noise will dictate our emotions, then mood.


We create our own emotions, then only create positive ones.


Negative emotions need last only a short time.

Emotions: part three, 3!

How do we navigate our emotions? Since emotions are connected to thought, we have to become aware of their impact.


Negative emotions spring from dissociative negative thought (thinking, imagining, predicting about their impact in past and future).


We want to encourage, invest in positive thought, worthiness, thus cultivating positive emotions.


A thought is grasped, memory is searched and feelings are generated around that thought. Let’s say guilt shows up. Our goal is to feel the guilt fully, then release it. Emotions die very quickly without constant attention.



Another thought is grasped and a warm sensation envelopes you. You feel joyful, approved of. Now we grasp this emotion and give it attention. In due time it will fade as life moves on.



Our mistake is trying to hard to extend a pleasure. This emotion will turn to frustration when it starts to fade.  If we feel loss we are in trouble.



 Look at our opioid epidemic.



We want to numb our pain and crave the next fix. Irrational as hell, but it is an epidemic.



American psychology touts the importance of emotions while the Buddhist do not think they deserve mention.



Be smart and enjoy your positive emotions. Never entertain worry or guilt, they are past tense emotions. For most of us, guilt is created by our erroneous, unworthy judgments.



Worry damages our chances at success and throws jet fuel on our unworthiness.



Explore your emotions. Play with them. Try holding two opposite emotions at the same time.



Can you be angry and joyful simultaneously. Can you feel angry then replace it with joyful emotions.



If you practice you can! What stands in our way is change and taking action.

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