Posts Tagged ‘Ego’

I stopped looking for a Cure.

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I stopped looking for a cure, a fix, the secret, a plan to stop my suffering.

My shelves were full of self-help books, devoured with high hopes, always disappointed with the results.

I envisioned being healed, tried to replicate what that would feel like, then embraced the idea it would happen.

Still waiting on that plan to materialize.

A revelation occurred one day. My search of the external, finding a cure out there, was misguided.

There was nothing I could attain, accomplish or seek that would cure me.

What a paradigm change, external to internal.

I stopped searching, fortunately.

With mindfulness/meditation I found an internal way of being.

Healing was an internal journey.

All there was to life laid before me, seemingly mundane moments of daily life.

I had to realize momentary pleasure had no connection to happiness.

Sitting still in a no thought stage, brought clarity, opened my compassion center and changed my life.

All my thoughts about what healing would look like or feel like were erroneous.

It is like love. Let’s deal with love of our children.

Try to describe this pure love for your children.

Cognitive ideas and words can not touch how real love feels.

Being focused, in a no thought stage, is another thoughtless situation words can not define or understand.

Let your mind rest, let thoughts clear as you build focus, expand your compassion and chase happiness.

Mindfulness/Meditation is not an intellectual property. You can not read a book or take a class and reap its benefits.

Mindfulness/Meditation has to be practiced, we have to sit quietly with our demons.

It is the path less traveled, I am sure!

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Thoughts again bring so many issues!

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Hooking up to our Aware Presence? What is it?

You can observe your Aware Presence when thought fades, when focus sharpens, when clarity arrives.

What is it, though? It does not have any memory, any idea of a past or future, and lacks ability to judge.

I am happier in a place where judgment fades. Lost in thought is a recipe for suffering.

If you believe happiness is connected to our Aware Presence, meditation is the train we ride, together.

Are you happier lost in thought or connected to your Aware Presence?

If we looked at the big picture, we would change the way we live.

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Zen Things

My two cents: Get away from time, being late, in a hurry, racing, for a while, just be in the middle of whatever is happening, a curious observer.

Let go of any tension, surrender to those fears, be curious.

Alive!

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Some designer created a wordless, thoughtless side of the brain to balance the literal cognitive side.

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The bracketed comments were added by me [my two cents].

Bouncing Back”– Rewriting your Brain for Maximum Resilience: Linda Graham

“Left hemisphere: Verbal processing: Language, Speech, Symbols

Right Hemisphere: nonverbal processing: visual images, body movements, emotions, experiences in relationship

[Observing without thought]

Left hemisphere: linear processing (one bit of data after another in sequence)

[The Ego sees/lives in the minutia]

Right hemisphere: holistic processing (seeing the big picture)

Left hemisphere: logical, rational processing: abstract reasoning and analysis, cause and effect.

[Thinking, Comparing, Judging, Evaluating, Filing]

Right hemisphere: emotional processing, including processing of facial expressions in fusiform gurus,

[Intuition]

Left hemisphere: Sense of social and emotional self”

[A made up separate self, we call “Ego”]

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My two cents: Our mind craves many things. At the top of the list is balance.

Look how much time we spend on the left side compared to the right hemisphere.

All that thinking, judging, comparing needs a counterbalance, a time of focus, emptiness and calm.

Fasting for the mind, we give up thought everyday for short focused periods is the answer.

Balance your mind, travel to the creative, expansive, wordless side.

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Judging and Comparing

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Judging consumed many, many hours throughout my life. Another form of judging, comparing myself with others took another chunk.

Judging brought worry, comparing gathered that sense of lack.

Judging and Comparing are never extinguished.

Meditation, focuses on the breath, slowing, calming, sensing, observing. No effort is given to changing or destroying any thought.

Judgements and Comparisons are transparent, fading on their own without attention or emotion.

Imagine a thought right now. Hold that thought, sarcasm intended.

If you do not express that thought to anyone, does anyone else know of its existence?

Is that thought real if no one hears or reads it.

Thoughts can be irrational, incorrect and incomplete.

Some thinking and thoughts are harmful to our wellbeing.

No thought exists when we travel to the right hemisphere.

That must have some significance.

Some designer created a wordless, thoughtless side of the brain to balance the literal cognitive side.

Spend some time on your expansive side of your brain/mind.

It is brilliant, has no worry, doubt, judging or comparing.

It is always available through the cloud of thought and emotion.

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Enquiring Minds want to know: Change

 

 

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How many people make a significant change in their life? What percentage would you assign to change?

 

Why do you think change is such a monumental task?

 

I know that human nature would rather endure a known suffering than risk change, even if change would benefit us.

 

This must be the road less traveled.

 

I have opined in many posts about taking risks and improving.

 


Looking deep inside yourself, what needs to happen for you to risk change?

 

It is different for all of us.

 

Therapists I have asked, say 5% of clients do the work and risk change.

 

We go crazy about politics but look at how few vote.

 

Are we drawn to the easy way out, seeking pleasure, avoiding anything awkward or difficult.

 

I know some of the greatest, most satisfying lives have been filled will difficulty, loss and drama. Lincoln, Mother Theresa, and Mandela come to mind.

 

Maybe if we increased our gratitude and giving, change would be easier.


Please share your thoughts on change.
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Improving in my mindfulness group

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We work on brain science, focus, letting go, body awareness, thoughts, and application of our practice.

We work on issues that derail us. Home work or focus during the week has helped strengthen their practice and improve life.

We work on sitting shorter periods with maximum effort (focus). I have introduced different objects of focus.

I always recommend using my breathing model and listening as our core focus. Then ideas like, altruism (loving kindness gratitude), showering others with kindness without regard for reward becomes our focus object.

A shift in focus from a visual to listening object expands everyone’s skill level.

Imagine sitting with your back to a dense jungle, tender dry from a year long drought. Something in the jungle is heading our way.

Can you quiet down inside your ears, listening deep into that jungle?

Scenario two: We are commanding a submarine 200 feet below the surface. An enemy ship is hunting us. Shhhhhh.

Absolute quiet, absolute silence is our goal for the next 15 minutes.

Add some creative challenges to your mindfulness practice.

Enjoy the journey.

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