Posts Tagged ‘Ego’

Dealing with Panic, worry and doubt

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When panic arrives surrender to it!

Avoiding triggers at all cost describes most of our behavior. Unfortunately this fuels depression, anxiety and PTSD.

Fear can grow to massive proportions inside our head.

Our panic (Fear) for the most part is irrational.

We can only quarantine ourselves and abide by the guidelines, after that more worry and doubt harms us.

We have an opportunity in this crisis to change our relationship with worry, doubt and fear.

For once my daughter asked why I am so calm during this pandemic?

I am usually the one with my mind working overtime, worrying every minute, consumed.

Practice has enabled me to let the extra worry and doubt go.

It takes no more time, in fact it creates time wasted worrying.

It is simple as possible.

Specifically we accept, then surrender to our worry and panic when it arrives.

We slow our nervous system using the breath, then focus on calming the heart, listening for the quietest sound.

Negative thoughts and emotions are the Enemy.

We battle them by withholding attention, time in our consciousness.

Unless we are aware of these negative thoughts and emotions proliferating, we suffer.

Paying attention takes no more time and costs nothing.

Awareness is always first, followed by acceptance then surrendering everything we fear and deny.

Lots of free time and opportunity.

Choices we make will determine the next few months.

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Abandon what is not yours?

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Excerpt from “Focused and Fearless”

Some people fear that letting go could diminish the quality of their lives, health, abilities, achievements, or personal property.

To this, the Buddha said, “Whatever is not yours, abandon it; when you have abandoned it, that will lead to your welfare and happiness for a long time.”

This invites a profound reflection on what one can authentically claim as one’s own.

As we discern the impermanent, conditioned character of all material and mental processes, we eliminate perceptions, sensory experience, and material things as fields for possession.

On the surface it seems like we are asked to give up everything, but simultaneously comes the realization that there is actually nothing possessed and consequently nothing that can actually be given up.

The great abandonment is to let go of the concept of ownership.

Letting go in meditation is the relinquishment that involves no loss.

Recognizing impermanence leads to the realization of the pure and ungraspable nature of things.

Knowing this basic fact of things, one has nothing to fear.

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PTSD and this Pamdemic!!!!!

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PTSD does not like more fear, quarantine or a pandemic!!!

Having idle time can be disastrous for PTSD, anxiety or depression.

Our biggest challenge, do not dissociate into the past or future. That means stop ruminating (thinking).

If we need to think, we direct our thought and leave out I, me Mine sentences. Be neutral as possible for a month.

We need to work on being grateful, then humble. Have goals like these to emulate.

Let the “I”, our “Ego” take a back seat. Limit his/her time in control of your mind.

Refuse to entertain judgments for a month. We can make decisions later, let go of all the extra worry this pamdemic has delivered.

If we do not accept this pandemic, surrender to these restrictions, the victim inside us will prosper.

Our “Ego” wants to blame, feel victimized and helpless.

Remember we all wither and die, so revisit your goals in life.

Some people are going to die. If it is us, do we want to suffer more because how we think?

I live with my daughter and three grandkids. My goal is to be positive and supportive of them.

We lead by example not words or thoughts.

We can not let negative thoughts, worry or doubt camp inside our mind.

We need not be perfect, but have the ability to let go of the noise and come back to now, when needed.

Accept the anxiety, sit quietly and breathe into it.

Observe it and watch it fade. Feel your body settle, cortisol and adrenaline dissipate.

This is our challenge with PTSD.

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Do not let them camp out in your head!

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We go to great lengths to protect our possessions. We close and lock our doors and windows, maybe add a security system for extra protection.

With all this energy and concern, why do we not guard our mind with the same diligence.

This is one of my bad habits from childhood. An outside threat can dominate my thoughts, occupy my mind in totality.

My childhood abuse heightened my sense of self, needing to be perfect, thoughts would consume my being.

Any criticism or threat was elevated to a level of near annihilation within minutes. Sensitive, I have to admit and it is embarrassing to realize its impact.

My fears drugs were always present, so criticism easily excited my being.

Now, I refuse to let my attention be consumed by another’s actions.

Yesterday, a neighbor emailed a nasty message about my screaming grandkids.

Quarantine is causing some to lose their cool.

Now, attacking my grandkids is one of the few attachments, I care deeply about.

In the past this situation would consume my thoughts.

Life would revolve around this upset.

I have learned that letting this situation camp out in my mind, is an invisible prison I have inhabited way too much.

I have learned to keep my mind clear of this poison.

Let others own their own problems.

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The faster the mind goes, the more awareness is lost!

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Notice the speed of your mind, the speed at which thoughts arrive, the speed of your nervous system and the strength of our emotions.

This maybe an extended quarantine, so having the ability to let the noise, worry and fear go, is of great benefit.

Have gratitude, many , many more people are suffering around the world.

I have doubt, worry and fear but I refuse to give it more attention. Limit the noise, these distractions.

Realize worry and doubt compromises our wellbeing, weakens our immune system and lets our “Ego” control the mind.

These are simple battles that change our mindset.

Discount any strong emotions for a month, play defense.

Defense is making no decisions, giving no weight to negativity or chaos.

We just let the noise go, then follow our senses to this present moment.

In this moment, right now, I can be happy or at least enjoy the beautiful tree blooming.

If we let worry nullify nature and any positivity, we will suffer.

We need to stay present so much more now. Refuse to ruminate about the past or worry about the future.

Until new information comes out in this pandemic, no need for me to think about it.

When something changes, I will adapt but as of now, Surviving means letting go and being present.

These are simple actions that change everything.

We do not have to be perfect but we can catch ourselves lost in worry, then adjust and let go.

Think of ways to helps others, spreading kindness in creative ways.

We have the internet to reach out and spread kindness.

Many choices during this pandemic.

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Mindfulness from Breath by Breath

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Mindfulness is unbiased. It is not for or against anything, just like a mirror, which does not judge what it reflects. 

 

Mindfulness has no goal other than the seeing itself. 

 

It doesn’t try to add to what’s happening or subtract from it, to improve it in any way. 

 

It isn’t detached, like a person standing on a hill far away from an experience, observing it with binoculars. 

 

It is a form of participation—you are fully living out your life, but you are awake in the midst of it—and it is not limited to the meditation hall. 

 

It can be used on a simple process like the breathing, or on highly charged and unpleasant emotions like fear or loneliness. 

 

It can also follow us into the ordinary life situations that make up our day.

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Meditation in an Emergency

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I found this informative and helpful.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-sense-with-sam-harris/id733163012?i=1000469004371

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