Posts Tagged ‘Ego’

Mindset before Meditating

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If we were to have a goal while meditating, it would look like this.
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There is no right or wrong.
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No good or bad.
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No pleasure or pain.
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No decisions, bias or judgments.
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No emotions.
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No I, me, mine or Ego.
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No resistance, control or exertion of influence.
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No avoidance.
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There is a lot of letting go.
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What’s left is awareness, acceptance, then surrender to all that arises.
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Negative core beliefs:

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From Coping with Trauma related Dissociation:
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Chronically traumatized people often suffer from persistent core beliefs. These are deeply rooted convictions that typically involve all-or-nothing thinking without balance or nuance.
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“Things never work out for me,” “People always try to hurt me,” I am completely stupid and unlovable,” or ” There is no safe place.”.
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These beliefs often contain words like always, never, or none. Such thoughts and beliefs can profoundly influence, reinforce, and intensify negative emotions.
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Negative core beliefs are reinforced over time by negative emotions, perception, and predictions, and by additional negative life experiences.
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The same is true for positive core beliefs and attendant receptions, emotions, and experiences.
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My two cents: Basic Neuroscience: What fires together wires together, where we place our attention grows, and where we withdraw withers and dies.
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Mindfulness then could help us let go of negative beliefs.
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We could focus on positive beliefs or let go and just be present empty of thought.
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Perfection is not the goal, improving daily is part of the journey.
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Acceptance seems a battle with our “Ego”

 

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As most humans I have strengths and vulnerabilities, ambitions and fears, desires and demons.
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The desire for approval suppresses my acceptance. Wanting and needing others approval is the work of the ego.
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Accepting all of oneself, now, has little need for approval.
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This accepting space has many opportunities for wellbeing and happiness.
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Acceptance is a tall task I struggle to fully accomplish.
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Parts of me that feel unworthy keep resurfacing with life’s stresses.
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My unworthy parts are targeted using a daily affirmation repeated outloud, by directed intention when I sit and by application during the day.
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Assess your strengths and weaknesses, then devise a plan for improving.
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We are not accomplishing anything, we are working on letting negative judgments go, letting the ego rest.
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We never arrive or complete our journey, we just live fully today then wake up tomorrow.
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Choices: the Ego or Mindfulness

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The ego grasps identity, needs approval, covets achievement, and wallows in a sense of superiority.
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Mindfulness is about letting go, bringing perspective to desires.
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The ego is rigid and narrow, mindful flexible and expansive.
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The ego is created, mindful just is.
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The ego feels isolated, better or worse, never equal, the mindful totally connected to one another and things.
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The ego is filled with desires, the mindful, satisfied with life exactly like it is.
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The ego judges, the mindful accepts.
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The ego avoids, the mindful stays even when vulnerable.
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The ego has goals, the mindful, this present moment.
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The ego restricts growth, the mindful has unlimited opportunity.
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The ego feels unworthy, the mindful  complete.
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The ego races, the mindful enjoys, and slows down.
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The ego affiliates with anger, hate, resentment, the mindful has perspective and balance when expressing emotions.
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The ego is lonely, the mindful at peace.
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The ego is sad, the mindful happy.
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Ricard: Learning to welcome Difficult Emotions

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“One crucial aspect of working with our emotions is learning to stop viewing them as obstacles to our happiness.
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We almost always judge the emotions that feel bad as bad; we see them as the enemy, as something to be conquered or eradicated.”
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I think our judging happens without thought, as though it is an involuntary reflex, habitually practiced with every external experience.
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We avoid our own body functions, adrenal stress response (fight or flight), difficult emotions, (fear, anxiety, self doubt, anxiety, etc.), pain or unpleasantness.
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Having the ability to experience awkward, unpleasant, or anxious situations without judgment frees us to experience this current moment.
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Go visit an uncomfortable or awkward situation today without reacting, without judging until these emotions subside.
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Let the storyline go and feel the body sensations, intimately, quietly.
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On the surface judging steals our waking time needed to experience happiness, freedom,the present moment, life.
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99% of all judgments impact our chance of being happy negatively.
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Healing, finding happiness is not a birth right, it is earned through daily work.
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Life?

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Asher Brown Durand (American, 1796-1886)
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“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes.
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Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow.
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Let reality be reality.
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Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.
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Lao Tzu
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Believing and accepting

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Jacob Van Ruysdael (or Jacob van Ruisdael, Dutch, ca.1628-1682)
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“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others.
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Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval.
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Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
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Lao Tzu
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