Posts Tagged ‘Dissociation’

Meeting Perceptions with Observation: Focused and Fearless!

The last places on Earth with no internet– Tierra Patagonia, Chile –




Notice how your attention meets perceptions.

Do you feel that the attention is lurching toward perceptions to embellish experience?

Rest back.

Allow experience to arise and pass.

Observe phenomena from the stability of your seated posture.”

“Each time the attention pounces on a thought, a sight, a sound, rest back again.

Imagine a comfortable armchair positioned in a room with large picture windows opening out to a vast view.

Imagine yourself sitting in the chair observing the expansive view.

You don’t need to chase thoughts or follow after feelings to be aware of them.

Simply observe how each thought arises and passes like a bird flying across the sky.

Remain comfortable and steady in your grand and royal seat!”



Taking action is our goal

Command Module, Apollo 11




Let’s talk about change.

Change happens when we take daily action.

Small daily actions worked best for me.

Having the mindset of small daily improvements, learning what to grasp and what to let go, defines an important part of our journey.

Yesterday, while I was outside taking care of the yard, thoughts about an abusive neighbor grabbed my attention.

It was a brisk but sunny day with a slight wind.

A small epiphany occurred in that moment, I realized the impact of letting a negative emotion take over my consciousness.

Without much effort and little fanfare, I chose to enjoy the simple pleasure of nature.

The heavy, negative thoughts faded quickly as my mood brought a smile at the ease this process unfolded.

Where we place our attention decides what our life is like.

I have realized much of my last ten years has been spent healing, dealing with childhood abuse.

This journey has been rewarding, but life is more than dealing with trauma and suffering.

Moral of story: Choose light hearted or joyful thoughts whenever possible.

I found my negative emotions were getting way to much air time.

How about you?



Are you ever empty of the facades of identity :



From Focused and Fearless:

“Do you ever stand that exposed,

emptied of the facades of identity,

without your roles,

without identification with social status,

utterly empty of concepts,

not preoccupied with who you are

and how you are perceived”.




My two cents: How would you describe this space without roles, identity or social status? Scary, Boring, or pure Happiness?

Have you ever experienced this space?

Americans think emotions are far more important.

For me, living with childhood trauma, negative emotions dominated my consciousness. Confident, worthy, relaxed did not visit me often.

I had to learn to focus and let my negative emotion fade.

My healing would never have happened unless I did.

How about you, how do emotions influence your life?






The Quickest way to heal from PTSD! Know it’s an Illusion



The best opportunity to heal is when a trigger, our fight or flight mechanism fires.

This is PTSD at his/her scariest and most powerful moment.

Trauma scares the hell out of you during this eruption or PTSD loses power.

If we run, avoid, deny, distract or freeze, PTSD grows.

Funny thing, this is traumas most vulnerable time also.

PTSD has gained access to the switch, the switch that fires our fight or flight mechanism.

The adrenaline and cortisol are real. We lose our fine motor skills, respiration, bp, and heart rate increases.

Coagulants and pain killers are secreted to prepare us for a lethal threat.

The big problem is no real danger exists, now. PTSD is an expert at connecting situations to past trauma, then firing our adrenal stress response.

It is a bluff. I started focusing on my breath when my fight or flight mechanism fired.

Yes, the first couple triggers exploding overwhelmed my focus.

In due time my triggers dissipated a little quicker each time.

PTSD is at its apex of power when a triggers fires.

PTSD is also at its weakest, most vulnerable if we can stay present, focused, empty of thought.

With this mindset, my triggers firing changed from being a terrible fear to an opportunity to improve.

This is the battle we must win to heal.




Leave your front door and your back door open.



“Leave your front door and your back door open.

Let thoughts come and go. Just don’t serve them tea.”

~Shunryu Suzuki




My two cents: We have a choice, let our minds continually fill with thoughts or carve out some time when we are focused and empty of thought.

Remember these thoughts carry emotions and moods with them.

Please discount all but your directed thoughts then explore the emotions attached from a distance.

We do not give up thought or emotion, we just explore how they arrive and the impact they have on our happiness.

For me this has a two fold purpose, first my happier moments are absent of thought and emotion and second when my mind is in crisis, I can focus, let go and escape my minds dysfunction.

Next time worry, doubt, resentment, jealousy, or anger grabs you, take a breath, feel the body sensation, then let go.

Remember front door and back door are open.






Let’s see thru emotions for a change: Matthew Ricard first



“The second way to deal with afflictive emotions is to dissociate ourselves mentally from the emotion that is troubling us.

Usually we identify with our emotions completely.

When we are overcome by anxiety or by a fit of anger, we are at one with that feeling.

It is omnipresent in our mind, leaving no room for other mental states such as inner peace or patience, or to consider reasoning that might calm our discomfort.

However, if at that moment we are still capable of a little presence of mind—a capability that we can be trained to develop—we can stop identifying with our anger.

The mind is, in fact, capable of examining what is happening within it.

All we need to do is observe our emotions in the same way we would observe an external event taking place in front of us.

The part of our mind that is aware of the anger is just simply aware—it is not angry.

In other words, awareness is not affected by the emotion it is observing.

When we understand that, we can step back, realize that this emotion has no solidity, and allow enough space for it to dissolve by itself.

By doing so, we avoid two extremes, each as bad as the other: repressing our emotion, which would then remain in a dark corner of our consciousness like a time bomb; or letting the emotion explode at the expense of those around us and of our own inner peace.

Not identifying with emotions is a fundamental antidote that is applicable to all kinds of emotions, in all circumstances.



Changing Channels:



My internal dialogue mirrored my abusive childhood, critical and unworthy thoughts permeated my being.

We perceive these judgments as true.

This kind of negative self talk describes those suffering from PTSD, I have encountered.

It is our thinking, our intrusive thoughts that power PTSD, anxiety and depression.

Change this habit of grasping negative thoughts and life will improve.

We get overwhelmed by wanting to heal now, immediately. Many wish a pill could do the job.

Healing feels like a big monster when we try to heal all at once. We fail because we get overwhelmed with triggers firing.

Focus on a small piece of trauma to start.

Bring awareness to the thoughts that appear in our consciousness, minute by minute.

Learn to let the noise go, start making a habit out of being present, in this moment, empty of thought.

Let everything else go for a while.

We heal much quicker using a focused laser approach, rather than a shotgun approach, handling all symptoms at one time.



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