Posts Tagged ‘Dissociation’

Let’s see thru emotions for a change: Matthew Ricard first



“The second way to deal with afflictive emotions is to dissociate ourselves mentally from the emotion that is troubling us.

Usually we identify with our emotions completely.

When we are overcome by anxiety or by a fit of anger, we are at one with that feeling.

It is omnipresent in our mind, leaving no room for other mental states such as inner peace or patience, or to consider reasoning that might calm our discomfort.

However, if at that moment we are still capable of a little presence of mind—a capability that we can be trained to develop—we can stop identifying with our anger.

The mind is, in fact, capable of examining what is happening within it.

All we need to do is observe our emotions in the same way we would observe an external event taking place in front of us.

The part of our mind that is aware of the anger is just simply aware—it is not angry.

In other words, awareness is not affected by the emotion it is observing.

When we understand that, we can step back, realize that this emotion has no solidity, and allow enough space for it to dissolve by itself.

By doing so, we avoid two extremes, each as bad as the other: repressing our emotion, which would then remain in a dark corner of our consciousness like a time bomb; or letting the emotion explode at the expense of those around us and of our own inner peace.

Not identifying with emotions is a fundamental antidote that is applicable to all kinds of emotions, in all circumstances.



Changing Channels:



My internal dialogue mirrored my abusive childhood, critical and unworthy thoughts permeated my being.

We perceive these judgments as true.

This kind of negative self talk describes those suffering from PTSD, I have encountered.

It is our thinking, our intrusive thoughts that power PTSD, anxiety and depression.

Change this habit of grasping negative thoughts and life will improve.

We get overwhelmed by wanting to heal now, immediately. Many wish a pill could do the job.

Healing feels like a big monster when we try to heal all at once. We fail because we get overwhelmed with triggers firing.

Focus on a small piece of trauma to start.

Bring awareness to the thoughts that appear in our consciousness, minute by minute.

Learn to let the noise go, start making a habit out of being present, in this moment, empty of thought.

Let everything else go for a while.

We heal much quicker using a focused laser approach, rather than a shotgun approach, handling all symptoms at one time.



Change rarely happens without practice!



My Meditation/Mindfulness practice main goal is to choose where I place my attention.

We build focus to enable us to let the noise (thought, judgment) go.

Without this step, our “Ego” controls our life through constant biased thought.

60,000 thoughts a day on average, one a second inundate our consciousness.

Lucky we experience any original, directed thoughts with this kind of distraction.

The “Egos” thoughts are biased, some worthy, many unworthy or negative, but all far less valuable than just being here, empty of thought.

We have to make room, make time, make a space without thought to even realize life has been wasted, judging, narrating, or ruminating.

No wonder we are terrified of sitting quietly, without thought, exploring our own mind.

How else will you heal or find fulfillment?




Sam Rowley’s “Station Squabble” has been picked from more than 48,000 images to claim a wildlife photography award from London’s Natural History Museum, voted for by the public.



My purpose for starting this blog was to fill in the areas that were missing in my healing journey.


There were many things that I learned from research and daily action that therapists never mentioned.


Hell, no therapist challenged me or gave me homework. I brought the books and questions to them.


From my exhaustive research and actions to heal, important things were kept while things that did not work were jettisoned.


From all this, a healing model emerged with a breathing track as focus.


There were no phrases like post traumatic growth or books like “Buddhas Brain” detailing the new discoveries of neuroscience. Meditations impact on healing trauma, created two new therapies, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Dialectic Behavioral Therapy.


I had developed skills while surviving childhood abuse, determined willpower, ability to endure pain and isolation that other kids had little exposure to.


PTSD is confusing and healing feels like triggers erupting at times. A mentor can point the correct direction, triggers are opportunities to heal.


Never heard a therapist say that, but it is the easiest path to healing. Stay present, focused on the breath while your fight or flight erupts allows healing to begin.


I had found a way out of a deep, terrifying hole of complex PTSD. I suffered with my fight or flight exploding 15 times a day, hiding in my dark garage.


PTSD was horrible and death would have been the easy way out.


A big lesson, we never give in, never give up, we die in the end anyway. I had determined not to die a victim but a person trying to get better.


Results were out of my control, but my effort each day would be total.


That gave my life purpose when nothing else helped.


After healing, improving or whatever word you choose, I had enormous amounts of time available. My dissociating had curtailed, my Worry had faded and an almost euphoric feeling from not suffering, not being terrified brought a smile.


Well that has faded and life is still a challenged.


One of my most valuable possessions, supporting others, sharing their healing journey, is priceless to me, permanent.


This blog was built to support those trying to improve, taking daily action, then needing their questions answered.


What is your Purpose?



4 Possible Subtypes of PTSD Powerful statistical tools advance our understanding of critical issues. Grant Hilary Brenner MD, FAPA Posted Jan 30, 2020



Except: Full article here:

Precision medicine” leverages technology and mathematical tools to individualize care. Precision-medicine approaches are on the cutting edge of medicine, and as such are not always ready for primetime. They are often the subject of controversy. Some clinicians and patients are eager to try new things right away, while others prefer to wait to see if they work and if they cause unexpected adverse reactions, also known as “side effects.”

The current study used “latent class analysis” with the National Epidemiological Survey on Alcohol and Related Conditions (NESARC III). This survey collected data from a representative sample to reflect the general U.S. population. Of the over 36,000 participants, almost 2,400 met criteria for PTSD at some point in their lives.

1. Dysphoric (23.8 percent): Intrusive thoughts; avoidance of situations and thoughts related to the trauma; negative thoughts and feelings; isolation, numbing and irritability; and difficulty with sleep and concentration.

They were more likely to be younger, and male. They were less likely to have experienced combat. They were less likely to receive medication for PTSD. They were more likely to be diagnosed with depression, and less likely to be diagnosed with anxiety. They were more likely to use nicotine.

2. Threat (26.1 percent): Increased re-experiencing symptoms; high self-blame and negative emotion; lower levels of loss of interest, numbing, isolation and irritability; and high levels of physiologic arousal (“hyperarousal”). They were more likely to be older, and less likely to have recent homelessness or unemployment.

They were more likely to have personally experienced natural disasters, and had illnesses or injury to people close to them. They were less likely to report childhood sexual abuse as their worst trauma, and reported better mental health. They tended to have fewer additional psychiatric diagnoses.

3. High Symptom (33.7 percent): Elevated levels of all symptoms except trauma-related amnesia and high-risk behaviors. They were more likely to be female, less likely to be White, reported lower education and income levels, and were more likely to have recent public assistance, homelessness, and unemployment. They were more likely to report combat and childhood sexual abuse as their worst trauma, were younger when they developed PTSD and had it longer, and reported worse mental and physical health.

They were more likely to have received therapy and/or medication treatment for PTSD. They had higher rates of other psychiatric conditions, including anxiety disorders, bipolar disorder, chronic depression, marijuana and alcohol use disorders, and personality disorders including Borderline, Schizotypal and Antisocial. This group most closely resembles cPTSD.

4. Low Symptom (16.3 percent): Lower levels of all symptoms, except for intrusive thoughts, negative emotions, and hypervigilance. People in this group were more likely to have higher income levels. They were more likely to report the worst trauma to someone close to them, rather than to themselves personally, and were less likely to report personal war trauma.

They tended to be older and have PTSD for a shorter time, and to have better mental and physical health. They were less likely to have received treatment with therapy and/or medications. They were less likely to have other psychiatric diagnoses, and less likely to have personality disorders.



Happiness and Time: a different look



Man created the clock, being late, showing up early, the past and the future. None of these times can help you experience happiness.

Happiness only exists in one time frame, now, the present moment, not in the past and surely not in the future.

Remembering a past event can bring a joyful moment, any more time and energy spent, robs us of this moment.

Predicting future happiness is a thought, nothing real and definitely not accurate. Even if this prediction comes true, that joy is fleeting.

What we can achieve can be lost, all impermanent possessions change meaning and worth with time.

That promotion may bring resentment and jealousy from your peers. Protecting your title may bring worry and stress.

If you accept that happiness (wellbeing) only inhabits this present moment, how will you adjust your behavior, your thoughts or actions?

All that seeking for external ways to find happiness seem misguided.

Happiness is not an emotion, not something we can achieve or accomplish with actions, it is an internal way of being, of living in the moment.

If we hunt for happiness, it will always be a stranger .

If we can be happy without needing to change or achieve a thing, will you stop seeking happiness out there.

If you are searching, try exploring your inner world, it is the core of happiness.



Mindfulness versus Selfishness



A mindful existence resembles a giver, a person with a healthy list of things he/she is grateful for. A selfish existence brings a sense of lack, a takers mentality.

Kindness, compassion and empathy are other traits a mindful person strives to incorporate into daily life.

Selfishness could be considered as the antithesis of mindfulness.

Mindfulness strives to do no harm, first to ourselves, then to all we meet.

Selfishness leads to suffering, a heightened sense of lack haunts us.

Happiness is not found out there, that sense of lack is created by our unworthy “Ego”.

Change your behavior, be kind instead of selfish, be a giver not a taker, use compassion, be a helper instead of a harsh critic.

Possessions, status, and power are fleeting, kindness to others, giving, lasts beyond our death.

We are on this journey together, not in competition.

There is plenty for all of us, realize happiness is tied to how we treat those less fortunate.

Release that sense of lack, increase your awareness of the gratitude before you.

Smile, be kind, be compassionate, give and be happy.



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