Posts Tagged ‘Desire’

Living Backwards

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“Often people attempt to live their lives backwards;

 


they try to have more things, or more money,

 


in order to do more of what they want,

 


so they will be happier.

 


The way it actually works is the reverse.

 


You must first be who you really are,

 


then do what you need to do,

 

 

in order to have what you want.”


~Margaret Young
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My two cents: Happiness is an internal way of being, living, not an accumulation of external possessions.

 

 

The journey discovers our inner world, our true nature.

 

 

 

All we need is inside us.
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Matthew Ricard: Pleasure is exhausted by usage, like a candle consuming itself.”

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My two cents: Desire a noun: longing or craving, as for something that brings satisfaction or enjoyment: ie pleasure.

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Fulfilling our desires does not quench the desire, in fact desire can be bottomless, never ending.

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Desires are limitless. What politician has enough power, approval or money. What “Ego” is satisfied in their position in life?

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Follow any desire that arises, then gets fulfilled and see that satisfaction does nothing to extinguish our desires.

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After our basic needs are met, desire can be the detour that eliminates our chance at happiness.

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Happiness exists in the act of gratitude and giving, not coveting our neighbors condition.

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How strong are your desires?

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Does jealousy or resentment live inside your current condition?

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Let go of that need to possess things.

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Needing others approval is a really big thing for most of us.
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Our Blind Force: “DESIRE”

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“Everyone would agree that desire is natural and plays an essential role in helping us to realize our aspirations.

 

But desire is only a blind force that in itself is neither helpful nor harmful.”

Matthew Ricard
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My two cents: We have erroneously judged many things to contain happiness, that only offer momentary pleasure or avoidance of blame.

 

We think praise from others contains happiness! We think criticism damages our soul.

 

 

Neither has anything to do with happiness. External stimuli does not decide our wellbeing.

 


Nothing external can reach our spirit, our soul.

 

 

Victor Frankl came out of Auschwitz and wrote “Man’s Search for Meaning.”

 


The human spirit, our soul can find meaning in the worst of conditions.

 


The human spirit can also find suffering in the best of conditions.

 

 

It is our choice to find purpose and meaning out of the only life we have.
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Why is change so difficult???????????

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Where does all the resistance come from? Why do we isolate, avoid unpleasant situations and people. Why do we chase and covet pleasant situations, people who approve of us, accomplishment, power, status and security?

 

Seems a decent strategy to avoid pain and soak up accomplishment in the short-term. Counterintuitive, knowing this strategy leads to suffering.

 

We have practiced habits, patterns of behavior, some subconscious in origin. We have created an “Ego” to mirror our habitual patterns. Our identity is wrapped around this “Ego”. Be it a banker, athlete, monk, priest, accountant, home maker, actor, philanthropist, etc.

 

 

Inside this cocoon, we judge ourself, find a place where we believe we fit, belong. When we enter a room, our “Ego” scans the occupants and decides if we are superior or inferior, then ranks our status.

 

 

Yes, this is superficial and kind of crazy. First, the “Ego” is a mirage, we are not what we think or judge. Second those occupations are what we do, not who we are.

 

 

Our mind is the issue, also the solution.

 

 

Fear of the unknown and this “Ego” are the main culprits keeping us from changing. We would rather suffer a known situation than risk changing, even when there is a possibility of success.

 

 

The “Ego” covets complete control. Healing means the “Ego” loses more and more control. In reality the “Ego” does not know what is good or bad for us. The “Ego” only, desires complete control.

 

 

Remember he/she generates 60,000 thoughts daily to influence where we place our attention.

 

 

You will definitely encounter your own “Ego” if you take this healing journey. He/She is not evil, he/she is only a follower not our captain.

 

 

Training the mind to empty and focus takes power from the “Ego”.
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Choices??

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Let’s begin in the shower, first thing in the morning. Our mind will turn itself into planning the day before us.

 

This is the first opportunity of the day, first choice. Do we look forward to the day with enthusiasm? Do we search ways to avoid or navigate around people and things?

 

Are we in a foul mood, unhappy, agitated, resentful, angry at life and our position in it.

 

That foul mood is a choice! A conscious choice we can let go.

 

Every morning we can choose to be present, focused and enthusiastic.

 

Once again we control only ATTITUDE and EFFORT.

 

First thing in the morning is the perfect chance to choose the present good mood, right now.

 

Feeling sorry for ourselves, feeling depressed or anxious, steals minutes, hours and days, we will never get back.

 

Time on this earth is limited, act like it, be aware.

 

At least be aware when WE waste precious life.
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A component of happiness is plenty of Gratitude

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We need to search and uncover our gratitude. It exists, right there under the surface, under our noses.
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It is hidden by desire, jealousy, need, anxiety, worry, doubt and anger.
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If we covet others possessions or status, gratitude is lost.
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If our desires morph into needs, gratitude disappears.
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Search and write down all you have to be grateful for.
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Simple things we overlook, mundane everyday things, little things are important.
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Happiness is not chasing pleasure, fulfilling desires.
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It is more about appreciating all we have.
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After gratitude overflows our chalice, compassion centers open and giving gains prominence
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Giving without regard for reward enriches our chance for a happy life.
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Takes daily practice and application to unfold.
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Ricard: Learning to welcome Difficult Emotions

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“One crucial aspect of working with our emotions is learning to stop viewing them as obstacles to our happiness.
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We almost always judge the emotions that feel bad as bad; we see them as the enemy, as something to be conquered or eradicated.”
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I think our judging happens without thought, as though it is an involuntary reflex, habitually practiced with every external experience.
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We avoid our own body functions, adrenal stress response (fight or flight), difficult emotions, (fear, anxiety, self doubt, anxiety, etc.), pain or unpleasantness.
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Having the ability to experience awkward, unpleasant, or anxious situations without judgment frees us to experience this current moment.
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Go visit an uncomfortable or awkward situation today without reacting, without judging until these emotions subside.
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Let the storyline go and feel the body sensations, intimately, quietly.
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On the surface judging steals our waking time needed to experience happiness, freedom,the present moment, life.
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99% of all judgments impact our chance of being happy negatively.
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Healing, finding happiness is not a birth right, it is earned through daily work.
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