Posts Tagged ‘compassion’

Unintended Consequences

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My healing path was anchored by hours spent each day devoted to meditating. A byproduct of this action, besides healing, was the opening of my compassion center.

This unintended consequence has brought anguish. Suffering a childhood like mine, then to be disowned by my family currently, felt lonely. I mean all you hear from people is family means everything.

I felt somewhat damaged, a little sorry for myself.

Yesterday, outside the grocery, I encountered a homeless man.

I could tell he was a loner, immediately. Somehow, I felt his isolation, his suffering, his fear.

It was cold and he had no family, no one who cares in the world, I almost cried. Now, this was real loneliness. As far as I could see, he had one tooth when I approached.

His gratitude for my small offering touched my soul.

In our society, we have so many homeless now, we look on them as subhuman.

Meditation has curbed my appetite for needing things. Giving and gratitude smother the desire for possessions, power or status.

I have dreams of having Bezos type money and power, then using it to eliminate suffering.

Without forethought, meditation has changed my life is so many unintended ways.

Carry a sandwich, an apple or a small treat to give to those in need.

This act of giving leads to an increase in gratitude and a better chance at being happy.

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Giving: be inspired by others who give

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Giving is contagious, spread as much as you can everyday.

A smile is a great gift, a kind word even more powerful.

Costs nothing to use kindness in large quantities.

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Are you a giver or do you need more

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Do you have enough in life? (Security, shelter, food, and a small community of friends).

Is your time spent trying to accumulate more possessions, more power, or more status?

Do you judge yourself externally with others, compare possessions, power and status.

How do you judge those who have far less than you?

Do these judgments bring consequences?

Much of our condition is created by our perception of life and judgments.

Altruism, giving without concern for reward, does not happen when we judge ourself as needy, lacking necessities.

Less giving means less happiness.

Greed accumulates wealth, status and power.

Too bad those qualities have nothing to do with happiness.

Happiness is a reward for giving, caring and kindness.

It is our choice how we live life.

Give, share a kindness, live a more joyful existence.

Be nice, be kind, be an example to others.

Be the one who is compassionate in your peer group.

Are your kids givers?

They follow your example.

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I stopped looking for a Cure.

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I stopped looking for a cure, a fix, the secret, a plan to stop my suffering.

My shelves were full of self-help books, devoured with high hopes, always disappointed with the results.

I envisioned being healed, tried to replicate what that would feel like, then embraced the idea it would happen.

Still waiting on that plan to materialize.

A revelation occurred one day. My search of the external, finding a cure out there, was misguided.

There was nothing I could attain, accomplish or seek that would cure me.

What a paradigm change, external to internal.

I stopped searching, fortunately.

With mindfulness/meditation I found an internal way of being.

Healing was an internal journey.

All there was to life laid before me, seemingly mundane moments of daily life.

I had to realize momentary pleasure had no connection to happiness.

Sitting still in a no thought stage, brought clarity, opened my compassion center and changed my life.

All my thoughts about what healing would look like or feel like were erroneous.

It is like love. Let’s deal with love of our children.

Try to describe this pure love for your children.

Cognitive ideas and words can not touch how real love feels.

Being focused, in a no thought stage, is another thoughtless situation words can not define or understand.

Let your mind rest, let thoughts clear as you build focus, expand your compassion and chase happiness.

Mindfulness/Meditation is not an intellectual property. You can not read a book or take a class and reap its benefits.

Mindfulness/Meditation has to be practiced, we have to sit quietly with our demons.

It is the path less traveled, I am sure!

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The Deepest Meaning!

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“The Self Compassion Skills Workbook”

The deepest meaning of self-compassion is relating to every part of ourselves with compassion.

We have compassion for our anxiety,

for our loneliness,

and even for our self-criticism.

It means that every thought, every feeling, and every behavior can be embraced with compassion.

In fact, when we learn how to have compassion for the parts of ourselves that give us the most discomfort and pain, we discover that growth and healing become much easier.

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We need not win but we must fight

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In my opinion, results are way above our pay grade. Results have many external influences out of our control.

We must find our purpose in life, then expend total effort with a positive attitude through good and not so good times.

For me, sentenced to an abusive childhood, winning was impossible.

An adult, a giant, had robbed me of my childhood and traumatized my being that would last a lifetime.

Winning was impossible. Feeling normal a dream, feeling worthy, my battle.

My fight was for survival until I could get away from the torture.

Now, my attitude and effort fill my being. Feeling worthy grew from an internal way of being, accepting and giving.

I do not judge myself anymore, I meditate, grow my gratitude and compassion daily.

We need not win but we must fight.

It is the journey we need to work on, not goals, status or approval.

Fighting is not aggressive, in fact fighting trauma, depression or anxiety is accepting, being vulnerable to our fears.

Healing is a humbling journey, the fight is accepting all of us, a worthy soul, a kind friend to all.

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I started a kindness practice

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My visual dates back to the original Star Trek, specifically how they were transported, beamed to and from planets.


That sparkly stuff (astral energy) surrounding them, I envision as kindness.

 

When I meditate, I surround myself with a blanket of kindness.


Compliments, approval, praise and acceptance join kindness in this soothing space.


Being completely kind to ourselves allows us to lead with kindness towards others.


My focus looks for ways to be kind, gentle with myself and others.


If I find myself ruminating, that is lost in thought, my attention switches to kindness.

 

I am actively choosing where to place my attention.

 

What fires together wires together.

 

Where we withdraw attention whithers, where we place our attention gains power.

 

This should be interesting, self soothing is not a familiar action for me.

 


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