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The Deepest Meaning!

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“The Self Compassion Skills Workbook”

The deepest meaning of self-compassion is relating to every part of ourselves with compassion.

We have compassion for our anxiety,

for our loneliness,

and even for our self-criticism.

It means that every thought, every feeling, and every behavior can be embraced with compassion.

In fact, when we learn how to have compassion for the parts of ourselves that give us the most discomfort and pain, we discover that growth and healing become much easier.

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We need not win but we must fight

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In my opinion, results are way above our pay grade. Results have many external influences out of our control.

We must find our purpose in life, then expend total effort with a positive attitude through good and not so good times.

For me, sentenced to an abusive childhood, winning was impossible.

An adult, a giant, had robbed me of my childhood and traumatized my being that would last a lifetime.

Winning was impossible. Feeling normal a dream, feeling worthy, my battle.

My fight was for survival until I could get away from the torture.

Now, my attitude and effort fill my being. Feeling worthy grew from an internal way of being, accepting and giving.

I do not judge myself anymore, I meditate, grow my gratitude and compassion daily.

We need not win but we must fight.

It is the journey we need to work on, not goals, status or approval.

Fighting is not aggressive, in fact fighting trauma, depression or anxiety is accepting, being vulnerable to our fears.

Healing is a humbling journey, the fight is accepting all of us, a worthy soul, a kind friend to all.

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I started a kindness practice

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My visual dates back to the original Star Trek, specifically how they were transported, beamed to and from planets.


That sparkly stuff (astral energy) surrounding them, I envision as kindness.

 

When I meditate, I surround myself with a blanket of kindness.


Compliments, approval, praise and acceptance join kindness in this soothing space.


Being completely kind to ourselves allows us to lead with kindness towards others.


My focus looks for ways to be kind, gentle with myself and others.


If I find myself ruminating, that is lost in thought, my attention switches to kindness.

 

I am actively choosing where to place my attention.

 

What fires together wires together.

 

Where we withdraw attention whithers, where we place our attention gains power.

 

This should be interesting, self soothing is not a familiar action for me.

 


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Performing Acts of Kindness Can Reduce Depression in Disagreeable People: By Traci Pedersen

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When people who are prone to hostility make an effort to engage in acts of kindness toward their close loved ones, it can significantly reduce their depression, according to new research published in the journal, Translational Issues in Psychological Science.

 

For the study, more than 640 mildly depressed volunteers (average age mid-30s) participated in one of three online compassion training exercises or a control group. The volunteers were asked to complete the instructions and report back via an online platform every other day for three weeks.

 

Two months later, those participants deemed the most disagreeable showed the most significant reductions in depression and greatest increases in life satisfaction when they performed acts of kindness in close relationships.

 

Highly disagreeable people often lack empathy, even in their close relationships, says lead author Myriam Mongrain, professor of psychology at York University’s Faculty of Health. But, she points out, “everybody needs people.”

 

 

“As a result of their hostility and lack of cooperation, disagreeable types risk getting rejected or ostracized,” says Mongrain. “There is a lot of conflict in their relationships, and they suffer the consequences. We found that providing concrete suggestions to those individuals, giving them ways in which they could express empathic concern in their close relationships was tremendously helpful.”

 

 

“Implementing these new behaviours might have left them feeling affirmed and liked in their close social circle. This might have been the anti-depressant ingredient in this group,” she said.

 

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Where our work lies

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I would like my life to be a statement of love and compassion―

 

and where it isn’t,

 

that’s where my work lies.”

 

~Ram Dass
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My two cents: It takes a mindfulness practice to realize where it isn’t!

 

Our work lies in self discovery, awareness and total acceptance.
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Self compassion skills workbook: “Interbeing”

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“I hope you find the practices described in this book to be healing and liberating.

 

However, these practices should be viewed only as an introduction to the extensive teachings on mindfulness and self-compassion that are available.

 

I recommend exploring the teachings of Thich Nhat Hanh, Tara Brach, Sharon Salzberg, Kristin Neff, Chris Germer, Paul Gilbert, and Richard Schwartz.

 

 

Finding teachers that you trust can be incredibly helpful to you on your path.

 

 

Thich Nhat Hanh’s teaching of “interbeing” is one that can be particularly helpful in cultivating compassion.

 

 

He coined the term interbeing to refer to a special way of perceiving who we are and how we are connected to something much greater than ourselves.

 

 

If we believe that we are completely cut off and disconnected from others, it can seem as though there is a conflict between self-compassion and compassion for others.

 

 

The teaching of interbeing explains how this is a mistaken view.

 

 

We can begin to understand interbeing by examining the piece of paper from which you are reading right now.

 

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Never toooooo sooooooon!!!!

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”You cannot do a kindness too soon,

 

for you never know how soon

 

it will be too late.”

 

Ralph Waldo Emerson
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My two cents:

 

 

Wellbeing and happiness reside only in this present moment, that is very soon, now.

 

 

Fight like crazy to be present and alive.
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