Posts Tagged ‘compassion’

Giving: be inspired by others who give

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Giving is contagious, spread as much as you can everyday.

A smile is a great gift, a kind word even more powerful.

Costs nothing to use kindness in large quantities.

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Are you a giver or do you need more

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Do you have enough in life? (Security, shelter, food, and a small community of friends).

Is your time spent trying to accumulate more possessions, more power, or more status?

Do you judge yourself externally with others, compare possessions, power and status.

How do you judge those who have far less than you?

Do these judgments bring consequences?

Much of our condition is created by our perception of life and judgments.

Altruism, giving without concern for reward, does not happen when we judge ourself as needy, lacking necessities.

Less giving means less happiness.

Greed accumulates wealth, status and power.

Too bad those qualities have nothing to do with happiness.

Happiness is a reward for giving, caring and kindness.

It is our choice how we live life.

Give, share a kindness, live a more joyful existence.

Be nice, be kind, be an example to others.

Be the one who is compassionate in your peer group.

Are your kids givers?

They follow your example.

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I stopped looking for a Cure.

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I stopped looking for a cure, a fix, the secret, a plan to stop my suffering.

My shelves were full of self-help books, devoured with high hopes, always disappointed with the results.

I envisioned being healed, tried to replicate what that would feel like, then embraced the idea it would happen.

Still waiting on that plan to materialize.

A revelation occurred one day. My search of the external, finding a cure out there, was misguided.

There was nothing I could attain, accomplish or seek that would cure me.

What a paradigm change, external to internal.

I stopped searching, fortunately.

With mindfulness/meditation I found an internal way of being.

Healing was an internal journey.

All there was to life laid before me, seemingly mundane moments of daily life.

I had to realize momentary pleasure had no connection to happiness.

Sitting still in a no thought stage, brought clarity, opened my compassion center and changed my life.

All my thoughts about what healing would look like or feel like were erroneous.

It is like love. Let’s deal with love of our children.

Try to describe this pure love for your children.

Cognitive ideas and words can not touch how real love feels.

Being focused, in a no thought stage, is another thoughtless situation words can not define or understand.

Let your mind rest, let thoughts clear as you build focus, expand your compassion and chase happiness.

Mindfulness/Meditation is not an intellectual property. You can not read a book or take a class and reap its benefits.

Mindfulness/Meditation has to be practiced, we have to sit quietly with our demons.

It is the path less traveled, I am sure!

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The Deepest Meaning!

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“The Self Compassion Skills Workbook”

The deepest meaning of self-compassion is relating to every part of ourselves with compassion.

We have compassion for our anxiety,

for our loneliness,

and even for our self-criticism.

It means that every thought, every feeling, and every behavior can be embraced with compassion.

In fact, when we learn how to have compassion for the parts of ourselves that give us the most discomfort and pain, we discover that growth and healing become much easier.

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We need not win but we must fight

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In my opinion, results are way above our pay grade. Results have many external influences out of our control.

We must find our purpose in life, then expend total effort with a positive attitude through good and not so good times.

For me, sentenced to an abusive childhood, winning was impossible.

An adult, a giant, had robbed me of my childhood and traumatized my being that would last a lifetime.

Winning was impossible. Feeling normal a dream, feeling worthy, my battle.

My fight was for survival until I could get away from the torture.

Now, my attitude and effort fill my being. Feeling worthy grew from an internal way of being, accepting and giving.

I do not judge myself anymore, I meditate, grow my gratitude and compassion daily.

We need not win but we must fight.

It is the journey we need to work on, not goals, status or approval.

Fighting is not aggressive, in fact fighting trauma, depression or anxiety is accepting, being vulnerable to our fears.

Healing is a humbling journey, the fight is accepting all of us, a worthy soul, a kind friend to all.

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I started a kindness practice

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My visual dates back to the original Star Trek, specifically how they were transported, beamed to and from planets.


That sparkly stuff (astral energy) surrounding them, I envision as kindness.

 

When I meditate, I surround myself with a blanket of kindness.


Compliments, approval, praise and acceptance join kindness in this soothing space.


Being completely kind to ourselves allows us to lead with kindness towards others.


My focus looks for ways to be kind, gentle with myself and others.


If I find myself ruminating, that is lost in thought, my attention switches to kindness.

 

I am actively choosing where to place my attention.

 

What fires together wires together.

 

Where we withdraw attention whithers, where we place our attention gains power.

 

This should be interesting, self soothing is not a familiar action for me.

 


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Performing Acts of Kindness Can Reduce Depression in Disagreeable People: By Traci Pedersen

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When people who are prone to hostility make an effort to engage in acts of kindness toward their close loved ones, it can significantly reduce their depression, according to new research published in the journal, Translational Issues in Psychological Science.

 

For the study, more than 640 mildly depressed volunteers (average age mid-30s) participated in one of three online compassion training exercises or a control group. The volunteers were asked to complete the instructions and report back via an online platform every other day for three weeks.

 

Two months later, those participants deemed the most disagreeable showed the most significant reductions in depression and greatest increases in life satisfaction when they performed acts of kindness in close relationships.

 

Highly disagreeable people often lack empathy, even in their close relationships, says lead author Myriam Mongrain, professor of psychology at York University’s Faculty of Health. But, she points out, “everybody needs people.”

 

 

“As a result of their hostility and lack of cooperation, disagreeable types risk getting rejected or ostracized,” says Mongrain. “There is a lot of conflict in their relationships, and they suffer the consequences. We found that providing concrete suggestions to those individuals, giving them ways in which they could express empathic concern in their close relationships was tremendously helpful.”

 

 

“Implementing these new behaviours might have left them feeling affirmed and liked in their close social circle. This might have been the anti-depressant ingredient in this group,” she said.

 

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