Posts Tagged ‘AWARENESS’

Spotting the “Ego”

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I challenged my group to spot their ego or others this week.


Notice when your Ego is front and center, in control.


Wherever strong emotions or judgments occur, our ego is definitely in charge.


Feel a need for approval or get upset over criticism, guess who captains that ship.


Catch yourself ruminating, yes, it is our ego exploring the past or future.

 

Worry, doubt, resentment, jealously, anger, depression etc. are ruled by our ego.

 

Can you spot others ego?

 

A five-year old child will school you on ego’s.

 

Do you know a narcissist? All ego, all the time is the their behavior.

 

Can you spot when the ego fades?

 

Certain jobs reward narcissistic traits . Lawyers, professional athletes, politicians etc.
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A Healing journey has ________.

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A Healing journey has setbacks, presumed loss and days of confusion.

 

I judged myself harshly as failing, when a setback arrived. My erroneous judgment and subsequent search for why, powered PTSD.

 

Trying to make sense of, trying to find the rational reason to an irrational disorder (behavior) deepened my suffering.

 

I ended up agoraphobic following this ill-fated cognitive endeavor.

 

Healing needs no understanding of the irrational trauma feelings to heal.

 

Relief came when I learned to not think or cognitively engage trauma.

 

When I learned to let go, to live in the present moment, PTSD lost power.

 

I learned not to waste time and energy wondering why.

 

Why me, why can’t I solve this disorder, why does this not make rational sense, disappeared from my consciousness.

 

Leave guilt and judgment alone.

 

Surround yourself with kindness to overpower these negative thoughts and emotions.
We can be happy with this next breath.


Happiness does not happen in the future, so quit planning and start living.


Look for happiness today. It surrounds all of us.
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L.A.’s homelessness surged 75% in six years. Here’s why the crisis has been decades in the making By GALE HOLLAND

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Excerpt:

“The growth of a homeless day camp at the halls of civic power speaks to the breadth of Los Angeles’ burgeoning homelessness problem.

The number of those living in the streets and shelters of the city of L.A. and most of the county surged 75% — to roughly 55,000 from about 32,000 — in the last six years. (Including Glendale, Pasadena and Long Beach, which conduct their own homeless counts, the total is nearly 58,000.)

Three out of four homeless people — 41,000 — live in cars, campers, tents and lean-tos, by far the biggest single group of unsheltered people in any U.S. city. If you took out Los Angeles, national homelessness would have dropped last year for the first time since the recession.”
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My two cents: I see more people financially stressed, panicking, today than anytime in my life. Living in Eugene, Oregon, homeless are everywhere.

 

In big cities the homeless are isolated in certain areas, in Eugene they are everywhere.
We have some signs that say, do not give handouts.


Maybe we should watch them starve to death on the corners.

Do you have compassion for the needy in your town.


Do you think about giving an apple to the hungry man or woman on that corner.

 

Is our happiness tied to these homeless?

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Be your own Life coach

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Change these behaviors: We eat for a few reasons, to avoid starvation, health and enjoyment. A healthy diet and moderation makes sense.


Three times a week enjoy some rigorous aerobic exercise. At least 30 to 60 minutes a workout. If you have energy yoga or resistance training are wonderful.


Practice meditating a minimum of 15 minutes a day. Bring energy, focus and gratitude to this soothing gift. Apply the awareness you have built during the day.

 

Calm the mind and try to release your stress.

 

Can you inspire yourself? Can you approach these challenges with a deep passion. I chose three areas to work on. You can add finances, shopping, planning, etc.

 

One of the greatest benefits of having a life coach is the demand for action. Many more people would heal if they took daily action.

 


Look at your practice with gratitude. Make a schedule to hold yourself accountable.
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Topics in my Mindfulness group

 

 

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We discussed our intention or goal for our mindfulness/meditation practice.

 

Awareness always comes first. We try to be aware of the observer, that person who sees thinking without being part of thought.

 

Focus on the breath, meditating, carves out a space between stimulus and response. This space gives us a chance to not react.

 

We also discussed the “Ego’s” role in judging stimulus in a biased way,  reacting  differently than our core values.  

 

Meditating slows the speed of the mind, focuses intently on this moment,  and makes the space available to change behavior.

 

The “Ego” is front and center when we experience judgment and strong emotion.

 

I challenged the group to notice their “Ego” during the week. Yes, become aware of your “Ego’s” bias, feelings and behavior.

 

Example: Months ago, a friend said something that made me angry. I responded to him in this way, my “Ego” is pissed at you.

 

I had separated my “Ego” and abandoned my normal reaction.  I was amused and calm instead of reactionary and aggressive.

 

It takes actual application of mindfulness to reap the benefits.

 

Work on small challenges everyday to accelerate your healing and wellbeing.

 

Any other ideas?

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What is our Responsibility?

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Is our happiness separate,  isolated from those around us?

 

Can one be happy when surrounded by suffering?

 

Do we have a responsibility to give to others?

 

Is our happiness indirectly tied to giving?

 

I think we must choose our way of supporting others, then take action.

 

What do you think?

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updated: Awareness of the Whole Self —–Linda Graham, a neuroscientist describes self! no self sort of!!!!!!


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We learned in chapter 3 to develop the awareness that all emotions and sensations of the body are transient, as are all contents, processes, states, and traits of mental activity.
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Awareness — the state of mind that observes all of that coming and going as coming and going — is itself not coming and going.
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Our awareness of that greater awareness may come and go; most of us lose awareness of awareness in our busy daily lives.
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But the awareness itself is ever present, always ready to be rediscovered any time we choose to focus our attention.
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When we find the space between the stimulus and the response, we alter the rhythm of our doing; we wake up and create space for being.
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Awareness is the knowing, not the contents that are known.
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We can experience it as a vast sky that can hold all the clouds and storms moving through it.
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We usually pay more attention to the contents of clouds and storms than to the sky that contains them.
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As the Zen teaching tells us, when we are in a contracted state of mind, it’s like looking at the sky through a pipe.
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With mindfulness of awareness, we become adept at putting down the pipe and looking at the whole sky again.
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My two cents:  Unbelievable, Each sentence is amazing to me!
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