Posts Tagged ‘Attitude’

Willpower and engaging in the battle

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“Know that with practice there comes a time when the mind steadies, relaxes, and concentration becomes undivided.”

Buddha

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My two cents: Meditation/Mindfulness is an accumulative practice.

The more you practice, the stronger the focus and benefits.

It is a battle of willpower against our Ego for control of the mind.

Our Ego must believe we are serious, that we are going to change before he/she loosens their grip.

Focus, sit with the breath in the middle of your anxiety and fear.

Curiosity and observation are the tools.

It is a simple task, an extremely challenging one at that.

Accept this challenge, battle for your freedom!

Surrender, be vulnerable, heal.

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Limit the noise!

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In the TV series “Elementary” Holmes decries, resist filling your mind with unimportant data. It works much better using less bandwidth.

Worthless trivia clogs the mind, think what trauma thoughts do to the minds ability to focus.

We can only focus on a finite amount of data at one time.

I,truly believe this and have benefitted greatly.

Trauma or unworthy thoughts get less time in my consciousness.

At the first signs of my mind grasping negative thought, I breathe and come back to now. Sight is my anchor for coming back to now.

Very simple for me, I have come back to now letting go of thought, until it is habit.

Does not take talent or intelligence, it is repetition, it is concrete and immediate. Takes more willpower and courage than smarts.

We can learn how to stop judging and start observing life.

Try it today, give up judging, come back to now, immerse yourself in what your eyes see.

Observe not judge.

It will change your personality.

Expecting different result from the same behavior is crazy.

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We need not win but we must fight

Pixabay: Michalqiao13591

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In my opinion, results are way above our pay grade. Results have many external influences out of our control.

We must find our purpose in life, then expend total effort with a positive attitude through good and not so good times.

For me, sentenced to an abusive childhood, winning was impossible.

An adult, a giant, had robbed me of my childhood and traumatized my being that would last a lifetime.

Winning was impossible. Feeling normal a dream, feeling worthy, my battle.

My fight was for survival until I could get away from the torture.

Now, my attitude and effort fill my being. Feeling worthy grew from an internal way of being, accepting and giving.

I do not judge myself anymore, I meditate, grow my gratitude and compassion daily.

We need not win but we must fight.

It is the journey we need to work on, not goals, status or approval.

Fighting is not aggressive, in fact fighting trauma, depression or anxiety is accepting, being vulnerable to our fears.

Healing is a humbling journey, the fight is accepting all of us, a worthy soul, a kind friend to all.

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Hiding in plain Sight!

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Most people I run across have lost sight of the importance of gratitude and kindness.

We all think we are flawed or we need to change, overcome or cure something to be happy.

Gratitude becomes hidden, buried amongst unfulfilled desires, replaced by Worry, doubt and unworthiness.

Hard to be grateful when we feel loss, hurt, sadness, anger, hate, jealousy or depression.

If we have a disorder like Anxiety, PTSD, depression, bi polar etc., how often do we feel gratitude.

We have a mountain of gratitude, an unlimited amount of kindness available right now.

We search for all these external cures when vast amounts of gratitude and kindness are available right below the surface.

Gratitude for ourselves remains hidden deeper, harder to find.

I know people who shower others with kindness, then ignore giving any praise for themselves.

In fact, many feel unworthy, who shower others with praise and kindness.

How can we be grateful right now?

We have to let all those false judgments about who we are go!

We are present, in this moment, focused and aware, that is enough.

The mind can be trained to focus, to empty itself of ruminating thought and be present in this moment.

All the noise fades into oblivion, and we see what has been in front of us all along, hidden in the confusion of thought and negative emotions.

How will you know if a better way of living is available?

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Ptsd makes us defensive maybe even in denial

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I deal with people with PTSD, some with childhood Trauma.

Childhood trauma is a special kind of trauma, our brains have not developed, so trauma intertwines itself like an octopus with our mind.

Since trauma was endured over such a long period of time, healing is more arduous and lengthy. Remember trauma is stored with our abilities at the time it occurs.

Some trauma feels like a five year old memory to me.

Understand you have the cognitive abilities of a five year old when in the midst of this trigger firing.

Trying to think your way out will fail. It is a subconscious terrain that houses that memory.

We carry this trauma, reinforce the narrative we create with others. This narrative influences the “Ego” we create.

Think how we define “Who am I” with these influences.

Sometimes our narrative describes us as a victim of circumstance. Any narrative is a mirage.

I damn sure am not a superhero either, or some great savior of mankind.

PTSD sufferers will fight you to keep their narrative. This narrative excludes them from taking responsibility for their life.

What does your narrative say about you?

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Who am I?

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I was given my identity from my parents, my mother said God made me to be a professional baseball player. My father had stronger convictions about who I was.

Of course my “Ego” was created around this edict. “Who am I” was decided for me, “I” did not have a say according to my parents.

Before 30 I was out of professional baseball, who was I now has always been a conundrum for me.

My father treated me differently depending on my performance. Yes, it was complete conditioned love ❤️. A toxic love of brutality and control.

What hapoens when your first caregivers steal your identity?

You wander through life lost, looking for meaning, relevance, identity.

At 67 my “Ego” has dropped that baseball ⚾️ moniker.

It was hard to accept others definition of who you are.

My childhood was stolen. It is our job to limit the impact to just our childhood.

It was only my childhood, I have found out “Who I am “ during my healing journey.

I am not any label and definitely not unworthy.

I am present, aware and focused. That is enough!

I am a giver, a person with large amounts of gratitude, a content, calm, kind man.

That last sentence did not appear without great effort on my journey.

Find your true self through inner exploration and discovery.

Trauma is an invisible prison!

Refuse to label, stay present, alive, and active.

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What are the traits of Happy people

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Think of people who are happy. How about happy couples, know any?

Do happy people have better physical traits? Does size, weight, or looks matter?

Are happy people more intelligent, more skilled, more powerful?

Are the happiest marriages the ones who have more sex?

Are happy marriages the ones with bigger houses, nicer cars, and more status?

Well, happy people I know worry less, seem much more content with themselves, and remain calm and relaxed.

They smile more and exude an easy positive personality.

Happy people care about others and have a core of close people around them.

In a marriage they seem to be soul mates, committed, loyal and supportive.

How do we attain these things?

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