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The first time I felt worthy and at peace was ?

The first time I felt worthy, at peace was meditating. Oh it took time to build strong focus, being able to let the noise pass on through.


Then one day, thought ceased, my mind cleared while focused intently on my breath. It was spacious, expansive and full of some kind of energy.



My trauma anxiety had receded. That fear and anxious hypervigilance was gone. I was so excited the first time it happened, it broke my concentration and brought me back to consciousness.



I had found an oasis of opportunity and calm. It was a brief encounter, the first time I had experience being whole, worthy, complete.


It took me two years of practice, trying different approaches to discover my worthiness, just sitting quietly following the breath.



This practice was an internal exploration, dependent on nothing or no one external.
Desire is lost during practice. If I could not be content, free and calm sitting quietly, alone, how could a mate, a fancy car, a yacht, mansion or power bring me happiness.



Desire for approval melted away when I meditated. This was huge for me.



My compassion center opened up, gratitude proliferated, and giving regained importance.


Thinking seems to be self-centered for me, while meditating is a selfless activity. I tried to be an observer of life, not a narrator.



My conclusion: If we can not find peace sitting quietly with our mind, how will we heal?


How will we find freedom or peace?

some small, simple things bring BIG CHANGES


I pay attention when I am herding cats.

Bring awareness to the way you approach life, a situation, a person, a chore, an obstacle, a challenge and feel the enormous change.


Can you enter a task absent of judgment? Can you listen intently to someone, focused on them rather than preparing your response.


Can you slow down your mind. Maybe you can focus on your breath intently and let the mind empty of thought.


The mind wants to go fast and handle complex thought, abstract creations or outrageous fantasies.


The mind responds best to simple, immediate, concrete ideas or tasks.


The mind functions best going slow, empty of thought, open to whatever exists in front of you.


The mind has much greater opportunity to find happy moments when it is going slow, empty of thought.


The mind never experiences happiness when it is in the past or future. It is like life being wasted if we spend all our time there.


If you’re hungry you find a grocery or restaurant, if you’re looking to be happy, you stay present and let the noise pass on through.


Shop for happiness today.


Is PTSD a Precursor to Psychogenic Nonepileptic Seizures in Veterans? Neurology Reviews. 2013 June;


SAN DIEGO—Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) preceded a diagnosis of psychogenic nonepileptic seizures in 58% of military veterans and a diagnosis of epileptic seizures in 14% of military veterans, according to Martin Salinsky, MD. His study found that a preceding history of PTSD was the only significant psychiatric predictive factor for psychogenic seizures in this population.


“This finding is largely driven by patients with a history of TBI, and particularly by patients with a history of mild TBI,” said Dr. Salinsky. “We are beginning to see a model develop whereby the development of psychogenic seizures in veterans with mild TBI may be mediated by PTSD.” Dr. Salinsky, Director of the Epilepsy Center of Excellence at the Veterans Affairs Medical Center in Portland, Oregon, presented his results at the 66th Annual Meeting of the American Epilepsy Society.


Diagnosing Psychogenic Nonepileptic Seizures in Veterans
Dr. Salinsky’s findings are the latest in his ongoing research in veterans with psychogenic nonepileptic seizures. Previously, he and his colleagues had identified psychogenic nonepileptic seizures in 25% of veterans and in 26% of civilians who were admitted to a shared epilepsy monitoring unit. “In veterans, we saw more patients with psychogenic seizures than with epileptic seizures,” he said. “In civilians, we saw many more patients with epileptic seizures as compared to psychogenic seizures. This gives the appearance that psychogenic seizures are more common in veterans, but as a percentage of all admissions, it’s almost the same.”

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5 Things Happy People Consistently Do By John D. Moore, PhD

Happiness can be a habit


Do what happy people do if you want to feel good. Joyful individuals behave in certain ways, avoiding some actions and embracing others. When you stop doing what makes you feel bad and do more of what improves your mood, you’ll be happy too.


1. Avoid procrastination

Procrastination increases stress and won’t make you happy. The most satisfied people in the world get on with tasks, especially those they dislike. They know they will be relieved when jobs are complete and not have to worry about them.

Carry out chores you hate early in the morning when you have the most energy. As a result, you’ll feel liberated from burdens and free to enjoy the rest of the day with a smile.


2. Build gratitude
Happy people aren’t just grateful; they develop gratitude with positive thoughts. They count their blessings, making themselves hyper-aware of the abundance in their lives. Likewise, they appreciate the little gems of life around them, like rainbows and wildlife.

Generate happy thoughts by focusing on gratitude. List the prosperity available to you, including shelter, food, love, and anything else that pops into your head. Also, spend at least ten minutes appreciating positive aspects of your day.


3. Exercise
Get moving! Stagnation, also known as sitting for too long, causes ill-health. Exercise increases feel-good chemicals. Happy people are active. They might also rest, but they don’t loll on the couch for long periods.

Go to the gym. Attend exercise classes. Or take a stroll. Walking each day improves physical and emotional health. For added benefits, exercise outdoors; nature calms the soul. It reduces stress, increasing room for joy.



4. Quit worrying
Everyone worries, but people who are always happy know when to stop. They understand worrying makes them ill and doesn’t solve problems. Your unhappiness will increase if you worry, so learn how to quit.

When troubling thoughts arise, shift your focus. Don’t dwell on problems that run through your mind and make them grow. Studies show distraction and positive thinking lessen worries. Happy people combine the two by entertaining themselves with upbeat thoughts.


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Triggers part two,,2,,



Let’s be realistic about our expectations. Our healing path will have set backs, frustrating results, intense anxiety mixed with fear.


Our trauma (PTSD) has access to our fight or flight mechanism. A trigger thought, a sound or smell ignites our fight or flight mechanism. We are preparing for a lethal threat from the past, but none currently exists.


PTSD is a mirage, a stored implicit memory of trauma. The physical changes and drugs our body secretes are real.


There is no real danger, just our own defense mechanism. Hopefully, this wisdom helps us resist avoiding, ruminating or freezing (shutting down).


In my mindfulness group, if someone is triggered, I trace five slow, intense breaths with them. Eyes open, I sit across from them, tracing the breathing track together.


I reassure them of their safety, using slow breaths to dissipate the cortisol and adrenaline. They are instructed to let go of the storyline and absorb the cortisol with their slow exhales.


It may take five or more breaths. They realize you can impact PTSD fear and anxiety.


It surprises them when things calm a bit. The intense fear and anxiety can be influenced.


PTSD loses some power each time we focus, let go and breathe deeply.


Our fearful thoughts and judgments soften and fade.

Each time we let the storyline go, we inch closer to wellbeing.


This is when PTSD is at its strongest, triggering the fight or flight mechanism. We fear triggers so much we avoid people and situations that ignite our trauma.


This is also the time when PTSD is at its most vulnerable.


If you can entertain the thought that PTSD is a bluff, that no real power or danger is present, healing is possible.


If we can stay present, focused, PTSD loses power.



You will discover no real danger exists inside our defense mechanism.



With practice we can learn to accept the anxious, scary mechanism as normal.



My fight or flight mechanism does not fire around my triggers anymore.


You can also integrate your trauma and calm your nervous system!

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Do you ever observe the person who judges?

What are the characteristics of the “Ego” you created?



Gender makes quite a difference in “Egos”. A female “Ego” is connected more with the creative side, having a larger connection (Corpus Callosum) between hemispheres.


“Egos” can be worthy or unworthy, depending on external stimulus. Life can be similar to a roller coaster if we become our “Ego”.


A traumatized “Ego” senses more danger, more unworthiness, more turmoil, more fear.  Life is filled with “What ifs”, worry and guilt.


An “Ego” raised in a loving, caring home, feels more worthy, more likely to believe things will turn out ok.  He/She worries less, doubts less and enjoys life much more.


What triggers your “Ego” to anger, to fear, to avoidance, to feeling secure?


Can you focus and let go, then observe the thinker, the one who judges.


With practice you can peel the onion layers back and see the thinker.

Aerobic Exercise Shown to Outdo Other Therapies for Depression By Traci Pedersen

Supervised aerobic exercise may offer significant relief for patients with major depressive disorder, according to a new study published in the journal Depression and Anxiety.


Although research has shown a link between exercise and reduced levels of depression, few studies have established the effects of aerobic exercise (AE) interventions on clinically depressed adult patients.


The purpose of this meta‐analysis was to look at the antidepressant effects of AE versus nonexercise therapies exclusively in depressed adults (18–65 years) who had been recruited through mental health services with a referral or clinical diagnosis of major depression.


The study looked at 11 trials involving 455 adult patients with major depression as their primary disorder. The participants engaged in supervised aerobic exercise for an average of 45 minutes at moderate intensity, 3 times per week for 9.2 weeks.



The AE intervention showed a significantly large overall antidepressant effect compared with antidepressant medication and/or psychological therapies.



Importantly, aerobic exercise revealed moderate-to-large antidepressant effects among trials with lower risk of bias, as well as large antidepressant effects among trials with short-term interventions (up to 4 weeks) and trials involving preferences for exercise.



Subgroup analyses showed similar effects for aerobic exercise across various settings and delivery formats, and in both outpatients and inpatients regardless of symptom severity.


“Collectively, this study has found that supervised aerobic exercise can significantly support major depression treatment in mental health services,” said lead author Dr. Ioannis D. Morres from the University of Thessaly in Greece.


Major depressive disorder affects around 14.8 million American adults, or about 6.7 percent of the U.S. population age 18 and older, in a given year. While major depressive disorder can develop at any age, the median age at onset is 32. As many as one in 33 children and one in eight adolescents have clinical depression. It is more prevalent in women than in men.


Depression in adults has been associated with several other chronic medical conditions such as diabetes, obesity, and chronic kidney disease, which can influence whether antidepressants are likely to help. For patients with these types of conditions, exercise may be particularly helpful.



In fact, previous research has shown that middle-aged people with high fitness levels are much less likely to eventually die from heart disease following a depression diagnosis.

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