Posts Tagged ‘ACCEPTANCE’

Find a purpose for each thing you do

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From positive psychology
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Enter your mundane chores. Be the knife that slices the vegetables.  Slow down your pace, increase awareness.  

 

Let thought go, just be in the middle of this task.

 


Find the purpose for doing the laundry, washing the dishes, cutting the grass or going to school.

 

There exists joy in the present moment if we search for it.


Nothing is a waste.
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mindful thoughts


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Take stock of how your mind behaves. What do you think about first thing in the morning?

 

 

Write down your doubts, worries and fears.

 


Write down your strong points, your actions that bring the most peace.

 


Become aware if doubts, worries and fears outnumber your joys and peaceful moments.

 

 

Are you a positive or negative thinker?

 


What influences these choices?

 

 

Get to know your mind, explore!
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The Parts of the Breath: Purpose

 

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In my universe, the breath has four distinct parts, each with a purpose. Working fluidly together, they can flow like a sheet of music.

 

The inhale brings oxygen (life force) into our lungs. This movement takes energy to expand our lung cavity. Inhaling deep down into the diaphragm absorbs 20% more oxygen. Focus as your lungs expand.

 

The first pause takes power to hold back our inflated lungs. The purpose is to allow the oxygen to be absorbed, the most immediate physical need we have. Suicide rates are higher at higher altitudes, connected to oxygen levels. Our mind uses 25% of our oxygen, it never sleeps.


The exhale releases carbon dioxide, the waste product from our oxygen consumption. The pressure is released slowly, effortlessly, calming our nervous system. The exhaust is warmer than the inhale, slower without effort.


The last pause takes little energy. The lungs are empty and at rest, the purpose is to let the toxic air, the carbon dioxide, to dissipate. We do not want to inhale air-filled with carbon dioxide. We pause to take in oxygen rich air.


Meditation is the specific focus, on each part of the breath. It is training the mind to expand awareness, to unplug the cognitive engine for a break.
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Know your mind, explore the inner world

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Where does your mind settle? What entices your mind into thought?

 

Rick Hanson’s says our mind has a negative slant, positive is Teflon, negative is Velcro. We always slow down to see the horrific wreck on the freeway.

 

Our mind unattended finds the negative, quickly!

 

This seems to be the origin of how we waste our lives.

 

We need to limit the time our mind is left unattended, wandering or ruminating in thought.

 

Seems a simple task. Our mind can be our friend or mental torturer.

 

Get to know the patterns of your mind, your daily thoughts, worries, doubts and fears.

 

Our wellbeing grows when we limit dissociation into past or future thought.

 

Do you know your mind or does your mind control you?

 

Do you know your inner world, nervous system?
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Healing from childhood abuse

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Trauma is stored in the right amygdala as implicit memory at the time it occurs.

 

It is stored along side your capabilities at that age.  Abused at five or ten and you feel like a child when trauma erupts. 

 

Part of healing integrates this trauma to the present moment.

 

My trauma is many decades old and my abuser is dead, so real danger is a mirage in real life.

 

The adrenaline and cortisol that jolts my nervous system is real. Our fight or flight mechanism is broken, reading danger everywhere.

 

Our goal is to integrate this implicit memory to now. We are not a 10-year-old anymore and have many more skills and alternatives now.

 

Our trauma happened before our minds developed fully thus confusing development with trauma.

 

Know the mechanism and characteristics of your abuse.  Write your triggers down to limit their power and their ability to impact your nervous system.

 

Develop a plan and a daily practice to confront this disorder.

 

Take action!

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A simple task

 

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In this moment right now, I am Present, I am Aware.

 


I observe my senses, the smells, textures, sounds and sights before me.

 


This is my simple, concrete task for today.
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The first time I felt worthy and at peace was ?


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The first time I felt worthy, at peace was meditating. Oh it took time to build strong focus, being able to let the noise pass on through.

 


Then one day, thought ceased, my mind cleared while focused intently on my breath. It was spacious, expansive and full of some kind of energy.

 

 

My trauma anxiety had receded. That fear and anxious hypervigilance was gone. I was so excited the first time it happened, it broke my concentration and brought me back to consciousness.

 

 

I had found an oasis of opportunity and calm. It was a brief encounter, the first time I had experience being whole, worthy, complete.

 


It took me two years of practice, trying different approaches to discover my worthiness, just sitting quietly following the breath.

 

 

This practice was an internal exploration, dependent on nothing or no one external.
Desire is lost during practice. If I could not be content, free and calm sitting quietly, alone, how could a mate, a fancy car, a yacht, mansion or power bring me happiness.

 

 

Desire for approval melted away when I meditated. This was huge for me.

 

 

My compassion center opened up, gratitude proliferated, and giving regained importance.

 


Thinking seems to be self-centered for me, while meditating is a selfless activity. I tried to be an observer of life, not a narrator.

 

 


My conclusion: If we can not find peace sitting quietly with our mind, how will we heal?

 


How will we find freedom or peace?
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