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Body and Soul!




Breath is the cord that ties the soul to the body


Brother Ramananda




My two cents:   Breathing can be slow, deep, relaxed and calm. 



Breathing can also happen in a gasping, excited, frightened or terrified way.



One is shallow, tense and quick, the other calm, deep and present.




“Perfect Breathing”. Transform your life One Breath at a time




For something so simple, automatic, and for most people, unconscious, breathing carries with it great power.


It is the single most dynamic energy conversion in the human body and fuels every one of your cells. Every neuron, every synapse, every muscle feeds on the flame of your breath.


Breathing is not only critical to sustaining life, but done correctly and consciously, it can be a valuable tool for getting the most out of every human endeavor, from the most demanding physical challenges to the pursuit of understanding life’s deepest spiritual mysteries.


But the power of the breath is easily overshadowed by the times in which we find ourselves.


We live in an age of rampant stress and crushing information overload.


We find ourselves in an era when time is the hottest commodity, when the demands to produce and perform levy a huge toll on our well-being, when we scramble around every day in a panic, unable to keep up with an increasingly frenetic pace.


Jobs and careers ask more from us than we can provide.


Our relationships with family and friends suffer. We neglect our physical health to the point that our bodily systems begin to fail—more colds and flu, infections and disease, toxic buildups, aching muscles and joints and backbones that refuse to cooperate.


Sleep eludes us. We lose focus and creativity. We run out of energy. We regret what we didn’t get done or did poorly yesterday, and worry incessantly about the future, all the while completely forgetting about the possibilities of today.



We try to counteract it all with an abundance of flimsy self-help advice, quick fixes, easy treatments, and a pill to cure seemingly every mental, emotional, and physical affliction for which drug companies can invent names.




Self Compassion Skills workbook: most discomfort and pain



“The deepest meaning of self-compassion is relating to every part of ourselves with compassion.


We have compassion for our anxiety, for our loneliness, and even for our self-criticism.


It means that every thought, every feeling, and every behavior can be embraced with compassion.



In fact, when we learn how to have compassion for the parts of ourselves that give us the most discomfort and pain, we discover that growth and healing become much easier.”
My two cents: This practice is the opposite of avoidance.


Instead of pushing away, denying or avoiding, we bring warmth and compassion to our vulnerabilities, then we let them fade on their own.


We observe without judgment, without narration, without emotion.


This is the road less traveled!

My two cents: common sense

Seems to me that having success, rivaling the lifestyles of the rich and famous, may not lead to inner peace.



Inner peace must not be linked to iconic success, stardom, power, luxury or approval.


The Buddhists have always said these are impermanent, ephemeral and fleeting.


We sure enter this world and leave it bare ass and vulnerable.


Why value things we do not take with us?



So where does inner peace live?



I know that inner peace cohabitates with gratitude and giving!



It thrives in the absence of ego, where desire exists in perspective (balance) and being present dominates life.



Where do you think inner peace thrives?

Check in with those we know are at risk of depression, ptsd, self-harm or Suicide!!!


Search out your friends who maybe at risk of self harm or suicide.


Visit, call, Skype, or text a friend at risk.


Make contact even if it is to tell them you care for them!


Your kindness may save their life that day.


Giving is such a boomerang of goodness, for us and for those we give freely to.


Show someone you love them unconditionally.


It costs nothing to save a life with kindness.


Reach out even if you feel it could be awkward.

The risk of ‘contagion’ after suicides is real 6:01 AM EDT June 9, 2018


My mindfulness group is inside a NAMI office.   They give mental health support for free.



By Jacqueline Howard, CNN

“American fashion designer Kate Spade was found dead in her Manhattan apartment in an apparent suicide on Tuesday. 

Then on Friday morning, CNN’s Anthony Bourdain, the chef and storyteller who took viewers around the world in “Parts Unknown,” was found unresponsive in his hotel room in France. The cause of death was suicide.

Mental health experts agree that several high-profile celebrity suicides could possibly cause an increased risk of what’s called suicide contagion, and that all of us should be aware of the risk factors related to suicide.


Suicide contagion is a process in which the suicide of one person or multiple people can contribute to a rise in suicidal behaviors among others, especially those who already have suicidal thoughts or a known risk factor for suicide.


“If they’re already struggling with thoughts of depression or risk of suicide, they’re already trying to get information about how other people are experiencing it,” said John Ackerman, suicide prevention coordinator in the Center for Suicide Prevention and Research at Nationwide Children’s Hospital in Columbus, Ohio.


“Especially when you’ve got high-profile people who are successful and who the world views as having a lot going for them and they die by suicide, it can generate feelings of hopelessness.”


There was a 9.85% increase in suicides — an additional 1,841 deaths — recorded in the United States in the four months following comedian Robin Williams’ death by suicide in 2014, according to a study published in the journal PLOS ONE in February.


That study was based on monthly suicide data from the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, dated from 1999 to 2015. 



The researchers then analyzed that data, taking a close look at suicide rates before and after his death.


“In the story with Robin Williams, you saw a 10% increase in deaths especially among middle-aged men using the method that was described,” said Ackerman, who was not involved in that previous study.


“So we get concerned with celebrity suicides because when there’s lots of attention and lots of specific reporting about it in a sensational way people may be more likely to identify with that person,” he said.


Suicide contagion has also been studied within schools, military units, groups of friends, and families.


“Following exposure to suicide or suicidal behaviors within one’s family or peer group, suicide risk can be minimized by having family members, friends, peers, and colleagues of the victim evaluated by a mental health professional. 


Persons deemed at risk for suicide should then be referred for additional mental health services,” according to the US Department of Health and Human Services.


Risk factors for suicide


Globally, close to 800,000 people die due to suicide every year, which is about one person every 40 seconds, according to the World Health Organization. 


In 2015, more than 78% of those global suicides occurred in low- and middle-income countries.


In the US, suicide rates significantly increased in 44 states from 1999 through 2016, rising by more than 30% in 25 states, according to a new Vital Signs report published by the CDC on Thursday.


Nearly 45,000 lives were lost to suicide in 2016, according to that report. More than half of people who died by suicide did not have a known mental health condition, and various circumstances contributed to suicides among those with and without known conditions.

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The Crystallization of the “Ego”: Matthew Ricard


Among the many aspects of our confusion, the most radically disruptive is the insistance on the concept of a personal identity: the ego.


Buddhism distinguishes between an innate, instinctive “I”—when we think, for instance, “I’m awake” or “I’m cold”—and a conceptual “self” shaped by the force of habit.


We attribute various qualities to it and posit it as the core of our being, autonomous and enduring.


At every moment between birth and death, the body undergoes ceaseless transformations and the mind becomes the theater of countless emotional and conceptual experiences.


And yet we obstinately assign qualities of permanence, uniqueness, and autonomy to the self.


Furthermore, as we begin to feel that this self is highly vulnerable and must be protected and satisfied, aversion and attraction soon come into play—aversion for anything that threatens the self, attraction to all that pleases it, comforts it, boosts its confidence, or puts it at ease.


These two basic feelings, attraction and repulsion, are the fonts of a whole sea of conflicting emotions.


The ego, writes Buddhist philosopher Han de Wit, “is also an affective reaction to our field of experience, a mental withdrawal based on fear.”



Out of fear of the world and of others, out of dread of suffering, out of anxiety about living and dying, we imagine that by hiding inside a bubble—the ego—we will be protected.


We create the illusion of being separate from the world, hoping thereby to avert suffering.



In fact, what happens is just the opposite, since ego-grasping and self-importance are the best magnets to attract suffering.



Genuine fearlessness arises with the confidence that we will be able to gather the inner resources necessary to deal with any situation that comes our way.



This is altogether different from withdrawing into self-absorption, a fearful reaction that perpetuates deep feelings of insecurity.



Each of us is indeed a unique person, and it is fine to recognize and appreciate who we are.


But in reinforcing the separate identity of the self, we fall out of sync with reality.


The truth is, we are fundamentally interdependent with other people and our environment.


Our experience is simply the content of the mental flow, the continuum of consciousness, and there is no justification for seeing the self as an entirely distinct entity within that flow.



Imagine a spreading wave that affects its environment and is affected by it but is not the medium of transmission for any particular entity.



We are so accustomed to affixing the “I” label to that mental flow, however, that we come to identify with it and to fear its disappearance.


There follows a powerful attachment to the self and thus to the notion of “mine”—my body, my name, my mind, my possessions, my friends, and so on—which leads either to the desire to possess or to the feeling of repulsion for the “other.”



This is how the concepts of the self and of the other crystallize in our minds.



The erroneous sense of duality becomes inevitable, forming the basis of all mental affliction, be it alienating desire, hatred, jealousy, pride, or selfishness.



From that point on, we see the world through the distorting mirror of our illusions.



We find ourselves in disharmony with the true nature of things, which inevitably leads to frustration and suffering.



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