Posts Tagged ‘ACCEPTANCE’

Emptiness: Ever been told your “Full of it”. Some have added a sh

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“Emptiness means to be full of everything but empty of a separate existence.”

Thich Nhat Hahn

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My two cents: He is speaking of non-duality, the “Ego” we create (I, me, mine) does not exist.

Marty is the name that identifies me, not who I am. Now, I try to just be present, observing without Marty’s biased judgments.

Incredible how this action changes my thoughts, my enjoyment of life.

When we let this “Ego” recede we become more full of everything.

When the “Ego” dominates our existence life narrows substantially.

Full of Everything means desire and needs are in perspective, gratitude and giving are valued like gold.

Possessions are not an important part of everything.

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Thanksgiving is an hourly practice

Our first snow enjoyed by Mr. Brighton

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Thanksgiving is an hourly practice, not a once a year novelty.

Gratitude grows giving, then giving returns the favor.

When my compassion center opened, gratitude and giving increased.

If you want your life to count, then be grateful and give freely.

Of all my accomplishments, giving has lasted, the trophies are tarnished and dusty, long forgotten.

Sadness and depression do not visit grateful givers as often, I know.

On this day, realize we are on this journey together.

Good deeds travel, possesssions are left behind when we depart this earth.

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STILLNESS: Thich Nhat Hahn “The Art of Living”

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In Plum Village, the mindfulness practice center in France where I live, there used to be a veranda called the Listening to the Rain Veranda. We made it specially for that purpose—so we could sit there and listen to the rain and not need to think about anything. Listening to the rain can help the mind come to stillness.

Bringing the mind to stillness is easy. You need only to pay attention to one thing. As long as your mind is listening to the rain it is not thinking about anything else. You don’t need to try to still your mind. You need only to relax and continue listening to the rain. The longer you are able to do so, the more still your mind becomes.

Sitting in stillness like this allows us to see things as they truly are. When the body is relaxed and the mind comes to rest, we can see clearly. We become as still and clear as the water in a mountain lake whose tranquil surface reflects the blue sky above, the clouds, and the surrounding rocky peaks just as they are.

As long as we’re restless and the mind is unsettled, we won’t be able to see reality clearly. We’ll be like the lake on a windy day, its surface troubled, reflecting a distorted view of the sky. But as soon as we restore our stillness, we can look deeply and begin to see the truth.

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Some Thanksgiving thoughts

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Thanksgiving, the ultimate gratitude experience for Americans.

 

 

This is the one day we feel obligated to feed the homeless, that would be great if hunger only happened on one day a year.

 

 

It must seem weird to the homeless, to see people get involved for a day.

 

 

I would recommend we spend an hour a day growing gratitude and giving as much as possible.

 

 

It’s winter, that old warm coat in the closet would bring some degree of comfort to a needy soul.

 

 

That act of giving will change you. You will feel something, someone in need, right now.

 

 

His/Her existence can be influenced by our kindness and acts of giving.

 

 

Great way to teach your children compassion for others.

 

 

If you ignore the needy, your kids most likely will not care either.

 

 

Be humble, give thanks for all you have.

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Unintended Consequences

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My healing path was anchored by hours spent each day devoted to meditating. A byproduct of this action, besides healing, was the opening of my compassion center.

This unintended consequence has brought anguish. Suffering a childhood like mine, then to be disowned by my family currently, felt lonely. I mean all you hear from people is family means everything.

I felt somewhat damaged, a little sorry for myself.

Yesterday, outside the grocery, I encountered a homeless man.

I could tell he was a loner, immediately. Somehow, I felt his isolation, his suffering, his fear.

It was cold and he had no family, no one who cares in the world, I almost cried. Now, this was real loneliness. As far as I could see, he had one tooth when I approached.

His gratitude for my small offering touched my soul.

In our society, we have so many homeless now, we look on them as subhuman.

Meditation has curbed my appetite for needing things. Giving and gratitude smother the desire for possessions, power or status.

I have dreams of having Bezos type money and power, then using it to eliminate suffering.

Without forethought, meditation has changed my life is so many unintended ways.

Carry a sandwich, an apple or a small treat to give to those in need.

This act of giving leads to an increase in gratitude and a better chance at being happy.

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Would you tell your story? “There are no Others” by Kyle Hoobin

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Remember: Misery doesn’t just love company, it need something it.

You would not be able to struggle (well, at least not very easily) if you realized that there was nobody there to complain to about it.

If there was nobody there to hear your story, would you still tell it?

Struggle makes absolutely no sense if it’s just you.

If it’s just you, then struggling with something becomes impractical, non-productive.

If it’s just you, struggle is pointless.

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My two cents: Seems everyone has a story, some have a narrative explaining their victimhood.

Childhood trauma impacts adulthood, usually we remain a victim, mirror our abusers behavior or become the opposite.

Can we be happy without a storyline?

Can we just be?

Abuse happened to me, it definitely is not who I am!

Happy or sad, I refuse to feel sorry for myself, make excuses or be a victim.

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What is implicit memory? It is where PTSD is stored!!!!!!!

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“Mindfulness Skills workbook for clients and clinicians”. Debra Burdick,

 
What is implicit memory?

•  Encoded throughout our lives. •  Probably the only type of memory infants have. •  Allows us to remember how to do something without being conscious of how to do it, such as riding a bicycle, walking—anything procedural.

•  Gets stored without our conscious awareness.

•  Gets retrieved without our awareness—“I don’t know I’m having a memory.”

•  Past memories come flooding in without knowing they’re from the past; it feels like it is all coming from the present.

•  Drives behavior without our awareness—often negatively.

•  Primes us to respond in a certain fashion.

•  Readies us for the future.

•  Designed to protect us.

•  Can create here and now perceptions and beliefs that are actually from the past.

•  Can show up as a physical feeling in our body, an emotional reaction, a behavioral pattern, or a bias.

•  The amygdala is responsible for implicit memory as it scans earlier memories of danger.

•  Procedural memory is a subset (how to do things).

 

 

Why do we care?

 

 

•  Implicit memories can emotionally hijack our prefrontal cortex and drive behavior without our awareness.

•  Can often create a total misinterpretation of a current situation.

 

•  Implicit memory is like the child that lives within us.

•  Implicit memories may show up in body sensations.

•  Mindfulness allows us to integrate implicit with explicit memory to improve emotional response and behavioral patterns.
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