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Number of children going to ER with suicidal thoughts, attempts doubles, study finds. By Dr. Edith Bracho-Sanchez, CNN; Mon April 8, 2019

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The number of children and teens in the United States who visited emergency rooms for suicidal thoughts and suicide attempts doubled between 2007 and 2015, according to a new analysis.


Researchers used publicly available data from the National Hospital Ambulatory Medical Care Survey, administered by the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention every year. From the 300 emergency rooms sampled, the researchers tracked the number of children between 5 and 18 who received a diagnosis of suicidal ideation or suicide attempts each year.


Diagnoses of either condition increased from 580,000 in 2007 to 1.12 million in 2015, according to the study, published Monday in JAMA Pediatrics. The average age of a child at the time of evaluation was 13, and 43% of the visits were in children between 5 and 11.


Suicides under age 13: One every 5 days


“The numbers are very alarming,” said Dr. Brett Burstein, the lead study author and a pediatric emergency room physician at Montreal Children’s Hospital of McGill University Health Centre. “It also represents a larger percentage of all pediatric emergency department visits. Where suicidal behavior among the pediatric population was just 2% of all visits, that’s now up to 3.5%.”

The findings come as no surprise to child psychiatrists.


“We know that suicide and depression have been rising significantly,” said Dr. Gene Beresin, executive director of The Clay Center for Young Healthy Minds at Massachusetts General Hospital and professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, who was not involved in the study.


Depression and a prior suicide attempt are the two biggest risk factors for suicide, and with rates of suicide on the rise, it makes sense for risk factors to increase as well, he explained.

The reason? It’s complicated

One reason for the increase in depression and suicidal behaviors may be more stress and pressure on kids, Beresin said.

“Kids are feeling more pressure to achieve, more pressure in school, and are more worried about making a living than in previous years,” he said.

Parents and caregivers are also more stressed, Beresin said, adding that rates of suicides have increased in all age groups over the past 20 years and that the stress is passed down to children and teens.

Another reason may be the rise of social media and increasing rates of cyberbullying that have come with it, Beresin said.


Approximately 15% of US high school students report that they’ve been bullied online in the past year, according to the CDC. A Pew Research Center survey found that the number could be even higher: 59%.


“Cyberbullying can be especially difficult for kids,” explained Dr. Neha Chaudhary, child and adolescent psychiatrist at Massachusetts General Hospital and Harvard Medical School and co-founder of Brainstorm:


Stanford Lab for Brain Health Innovation and Entrepreneurship. “Unlike in settings like schools, it can fly under the radar without anyone knowing it’s happening and without the same repercussions for the bullies.”

In isolation, none of these factors has been proven to lead to an increase in suicidal behaviors and ultimately suicide, but taken together, a pattern begins to emerge, Beresin said.


And the country may not be adequately equipped to deal with the problem.


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Dissolve your problems: “Breath to Breath”



If you’ve sat with the breath for even a few minutes, you’ve seen that this practice is an open invitation for everything inside you to come up.


You see your wild mind, which we all have, and which can be quite overwhelming at first. 


It has been there all along, of course, but this concentration has brought it into relief.


The ultimate goal—though this is no easy thing and takes time to develop—is to allow everything to come up, with all its energy: 


all of, for instance, your anger and loneliness and despair, to allow these things to arise and be transformed by the light of awareness. 


There is tremendous energy in these states, and much of the time we suppress them, so that we not only lose all the energy that is in them but also expend a great deal keeping them down. 


What we gradually learn is to let these things come up and be transformed, to release their energy. 


You don’t solve your problems in this practice, it is sometimes said, you dissolve them. 


But the wild mind that we all confront when we start discourages many practitioners. 



Updated: Visualize your “Ego” as a ventriloquist Dummy


Think of how our mind is constructed. One of the most complex organs ever found, capable of tremendous achievement or extreme suffering.


One of the parts we invent has no origin or real existence. Yes, it is the “Ego”. Search every part of your mind and an ego can not be found.


Yes, we invent this “Ego” for identity, I, me, mine! Identity is its purpose. Nothing more.


Think of your “Ego” as a ventriloquist dummy. We give that damn puppet power and life, not command of our being.


That dummy runs a good part of our life unfortunately.


The Dummy is the one who feels resentment, judges constantly, and feels unworthy. The “Ego” is never equal to another “Ego”. He/She judges itself superior or inferior to all “Ego’s” it encounters.


Here in lies the rub, we never feel complete when the “Ego” is in control.


That means happiness is impossible.


One day I was having a conversation with a friend and he said something upsetting. My response to him was, my “Ego” is pissed at you.


Finally I had isolated my “Ego’s” needs and emotion in a real encounter. I could see “I” disagreed with my “Ego”. I had a choice for the first time.


Just because my “Ego” was pissed meant nothing unless I agreed.


Our “Ego” covets total control. This leads to suffering and loss.


Is your dummy controlling your life?


The “Ego” is dormant during meditation, also the time when our happy emotions, contained in the left prefrontal cortex light up.

I started a kindness practice

My visual dates back to the original Star Trek, specifically how they were transported, beamed to and from planets.

That sparkly stuff (astral energy) surrounding them, I envision as kindness.


When I meditate, I surround myself with a blanket of kindness.

Compliments, approval, praise and acceptance join kindness in this soothing space.

Being completely kind to ourselves allows us to lead with kindness towards others.

My focus looks for ways to be kind, gentle with myself and others.

If I find myself ruminating, that is lost in thought, my attention switches to kindness.


I am actively choosing where to place my attention.


What fires together wires together.


Where we withdraw attention whithers, where we place our attention gains power.


This should be interesting, self soothing is not a familiar action for me.





Can the mind steady with Practice?



Know that with practice there comes a time when the mind steadies,




and concentration becomes undivided.






My two cents:  Meditation/Mindfulness is an accumulative practice.


The more you practice, the better your focus and benefits becomes.


It takes daily action for a period of time to see the mind steady, relax and focus.



Choosing our Purpose

Life seems easier when we have a purpose, a direction.

I lost sight of my purpose when PTSD exploded. Purpose was replaced with survival, a desire to withstand my suffering.

To have a chance at happiness (wellbeing), doubt, worry, fear, anxiety, depression, etc. can not dominant our existence.


Next our purpose decides direction. If our purpose is to be wealthy and powerful, happiness may not be attainable.


Acceptance, giving and gratitude seem to be in the midst of wellbeing.


How could Mother Teresa’s life been that rewarding?


It looks like total sacrifice for the throw aways of society.

She lacks the pleasures we Americans think make us happy. She surrounds herself with lepers in need. Looks like back-breaking service without financial reward or power.


How could a life surrounded by disease, suffering and death been so rewarding.


If I were to guess, I would say she is happier than me or you.

Motives: explore below the surface



I found ulterior motives behind certain desires and behaviors. Nothing sinister or evil, but damaging at times and a total waste of life.

An example: This blog

I started and continue this blog to support others and give back. This seems very noble.

Under the surface, I found my “Ego” wanting relevance, approval and some sort of fame. I yearned secretly for thousands of hits, complimentary responses and iconic status.

Both of these scenarios are part of me, each taking center stage as my day progresses. If I am focused and centered, giving without the need for reward is captain of my ship.

If I am feeling low, adulation sure feels like happiness. Amazing how compliments or praise can make my spirit soar for a brief moment.

What a mirage! That feeling collapses into more need and unwanted feelings, quickly.

That person needing approval is very vulnerable, insecure and not happy.

That person who chases approval never finds enough to make a difference. We search externally to fill our internal condition.

My blog has taught me lessons about myself. Yes sometimes, it is not pretty looking into the reality of our inner world.

The only way to change our inner dialogue is exploration.

Explore your inner world. Look below the surface and find the rest of your motives.

Awareness is always the first step of any journey.

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