Posts Tagged ‘ACCEPTANCE’

What Is Alcoholism or Alcohol Use Disorder?

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Alcoholism is when one can no longer control their use of alcohol, compulsively abuse alcohol, despite its negative ramifications, and/or experience emotional distress when they are not drinking may be suffering from an alcohol use disorder (AUD) or alcoholism.

AUD is a chronic, relapsing disease that is diagnosed based on an individual meeting certain criteria outlined by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5).

To be diagnosed with alcoholism, individuals must meet any two of the below criteria within the same 12-month period:

Using alcohol in higher amounts or for a longer time than originally intended.

Being unable to cut down on alcohol use despite a desire to do so.

Spending a lot of time obtaining, using, and recovering from the effects of alcohol.

Cravings, or a strong desire to use alcohol.

Being unable to fulfill major obligations at home, work, or school because of alcohol use.

Continuing to abuse alcohol despite negative interpersonal or social problems that are likely due to alcohol use.

Giving up previously enjoyed social, occupational, or recreational activities because of alcohol use.

Using alcohol in physically dangerous situations (such as driving or operating machinery).

Continuing to abuse alcohol despite the presence of a psychological or physical problem that is probably due to alcohol use.

Having a tolerance (i.e. needing to drink increasingly large or more frequent amounts of alcohol to achieve desired effect).

Developing symptoms of withdrawal when efforts are made to stop using alcohol.



My two cents: PTSD sufferers have an issue with self medicating.

Adding alcohol to PTSD does not end well.



Thoughts are an appendage, there beyond your outstretched arm?

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Thoughts are air without attention, harmless, unnoticed noise.

Thoughts are an appendage, our true self, soul is our core.

Let’s explore that hypothesis. Meditation/Mindfulness practice continues when our eyes are open and we are in the waking world.

The next thought that our mind becomes enthralled with, pull back and observe it.

We can isolate this thought, separate it with our focus.

Without attention, we can witness how transparent and fleeting a thought becomes.

We witness the thought arriving, then without attention, fade quickly, like it never existed.

We can see how powerless any thought or emotion is without energy, attention.

If we want to be happy or heal, where we place our attention is our greatest power.



The challenge: can we take action

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Experiencing one’s own inadequacies and still going on in spite of them are two of the greatest achievements of adulthood. Success in many ways, is not as important as failure and how you handle it.

–Robert Hand




My two cents: It is the same with courage, it is needed when we feel the most vulnerable, most afraid.

Courage looks different when facing PTSD.

We need to be brave enough to focus and face our fears.

Choosing to be open and vulnerable in the face of a trigger exploding, takes courage.

It is the road less travelled.



Do you welcome Adversity as a challenge or a punishment?

e: Bob Beamon of the USA leaps a record-breaking 29ft 2.5in (8.9m) at the 1968 Olympic Games in Mexico City © Tony Duffy/Getty Images



Adversity uncovers strengths and weaknesses, character and character flaws.

Adversity brings fear to some, an opportunity to others.

Without adversity my life would be hollow.

Adversity has given me the greatest satisfaction and purpose in my life.

Athletically, it is my weekly anchor. Pushing this chronic pain filled body, four miles, to near exhaustion, invigorates my spirit.

It flushes poisons, gains accomplishment which is shared with my mind.

Pushing beyond wanting to quit, beyond pain, exerting great effort, is the most alive I feel.

I am in the moment, all focus on picking up one leg, followed by the other, thought has ceased, Worry and doubt have long left the building.

Challenge yourself, push beyond your perceived limits.

Without adversity how could you ever know what you are capable of.

Extend those false boundaries, push, risk, exert.



Perfectionism: “The Tao of Fully Feeling; Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame”

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Perfectionism arises automatically in children subjected to excessive criticism and punishment.


Hoping to eliminate their parents’ apparent reasons for being so displeased, they strive to achieve the impossible goal of becoming mistake-free.


Out of fear of their parents’ disapproval, they vilify themselves for even the most minor miscues.


Many, out of fear of being a nuisance, eventually conclude that many of their normal needs are flaws that must be eliminated.


Perfectionism can also manifest spontaneously in a child as a response to neglect.


Perfectionism is often the child’s desperate attempt to win parental love.


If only he could faultlessly excel and be perfectly self-sufficient, and if only he never needed new clothes and never spilt his milk, and if only he didn’t get sick and could stay out of mom’s way, then maybe his parents would act lovingly to him.


And if only her nose were a little smaller, and if only she were more like that perfect little girl on TV, and if only she could remember to keep that smile permanently plastered on her face, then, maybe then, her parents would love her.



What to do when a crisis hits

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I have learned not to run, not to isolate, not to dissociate and not to panic.

The best action is to sit quietly in the middle of the mess.

Do not try to escape the uncomfortable, awkward or terrifying thoughts.

Let the narrative fade. Do not try to distract, judge, or change the narrative, just observe.

Observe and become familiar with all the body sensations.

It is difficult to observe, to do nothing, to not try to influence the narrative.

My nervous system was assaulted at such an early age and with such intensity, total incapacitation grips me.

It does not have to be anything dangerous or scary.

My triggers were so mundane, I knew there was no danger but my nervous system erupted violently.

The mind does not function the same when a perceived lethal threat is spotted.

Common sense and rational thinking stop in this state.

Cognitive function can not reach trauma except to make it worse with more thought.

The only solution is to sit in the middle of the mess until it fades, then we come back to the present moment, observing what the eyes see, the nose smells, the ears hear.

Simple, not easy.



Doing the daily work


This collection of William Shakespeare’s plays is widely considered one of the most significant treasures in literary history. Formally titled “Mr. William Shakespeare’s Comedies, Histories & Tragedies,” the folio contains all but four of the Bard’s dramatic works. Of the 750 copies originally published seven years after his death in 1623, only 228 remain. Paul Allen, the co-founder of Microsoft, snatched one up at Christie’s, an auction house in New York City, in 2001. It cost him a cool $6.2 million.



Meditation/Mundfulness is not an intellectual property, take a class or read a book and you only gain a cognitive perspective.


I could read every book about hitting a baseball ever written, an expert of sorts. Does not mean I could ever hit a big league fastball.


Meditation/Mindfulness is an action practice, you have to sit quietly, focused, observing your demons.


Reading a book or taking a class will not touch that experience.


The more you sit, building your focus through daily practice, the more you benefit.




Better to take 30 minutes of daily action than read 1,000 books.


Takes action to change, to heal, to earn our fredom.


Takes courage to resist, to stand up, to finally take action.



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