Posts Tagged ‘ACCEPTANCE’

Dwelling in the past

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We do not heal the past by dwelling there;

 

we heal the past by living fully in the present.”

 

~Marianne Williamson
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My two cents: We suffer when we get stuck.

 

Living in the past fuels depression, anxiety, PTSD, anger, resentment, worry, doubt and sadness.

 

Simplify, stay in this moment while thought fades into the noise.
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Let’s talk “Worry”, do we have a choice?

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Let’s take daily action to minimize our worrying.   Our destructive default mode is fueled by worry,  powered by negative,  emotionally charged thought.   I, me, mine assumes control of our mind and body.

 

Worry is a not a present tense entity,  it draws from past experience to project future doom.

 

Now at 66, my lifelong worries have never materialized but my belief in them has stolen many years of my life.   So 99% of my worry never happened.   This could be called conjecture.

 

 

What can we do?

 

 

Simple,  concrete,  immediate goals are grasped by the mind much easier.   Abstract thoughts about the future,  do not move our organism to action.

 

 

So we need to leave this present moment to feed worry.   Second,  low self confidence and doubt make fertile ground for worry.

 

Mindfulness practice,  focus on the breath,  allows us to stay present,  allows us to let thoughts go.

 

When worry arrives,  let the storyline go,  bring compassion to yourself.

 

Wish yourself inner peace and understand worry is an abstract prediction,  pessimistic in nature and almost always wrong.

 

Hug yourself,  place your hand on your heart and wish for inner peace.

 

Worry is a choice,  so is compassion!
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Resistance, resist, at all cost!

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Resist allowing your mind to leave this present moment.

 

 

The mind goes into default mode, growing the self and all his/her issues.

 

 

The repetitive, negative storyline of I, me, mine flourishes in its emotional drama and doubt.

 

 

Suffering thrives inside the mind”s default mode, happiness thrives in this present moment, when the mind is empty and focused.

 

 

Meditation/Mindfulness lets the worry, doubt and suffering wane, lose power.

 

 

Life is a journey, definitely not a destination.

 

 

Call it a moment to moment choice, battle, war or challenge, but resist with all your might.

 

 

Fight for each moment, each day until we exit.
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Let’s talk wellbeing, happiness!

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Wellbeing or happiness is not dependent on situations, geography, status, accomplishment or achievement.

 

Wellbeing or happiness is not excluded because of loss, crisis, sadness, attitude, poverty or handicap.

 

Wellbeing or happiness does not exist in the past or future.

 

Wellbeing or happiness hides inside each breath, each mundane event, each visual our eyes encounter, only in this current moment.

 

Our goal is to not get stuck on any joyous, sad or traumatic moment.

 

Change is inevitable, we wither and die, so do not get stuck and waste one breath.
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“Altered Traits”: IN A NUTSHELL .

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“The brain’s default mode activates when we are doing nothing that demands mental effort, just letting our mind wander; we hash over thoughts and feelings (often unpleasant) that focus on ourselves, constructing the narrative we experience as our “self.”

 

 

The default mode circuits quiet during mindfulness and loving-kindness meditation.

 

 

In early stages of meditation this quieting of the self-system entails brain circuits that inhibit the default zones; in later practice the connections and activity within those areas wane.

 

 

This quieting of the self-circuitry begins as a state effect, seen during or immediately after meditation, but with long-term practitioners it becomes an enduring trait, along with lessened activity in the default mode itself.

 

 

The resulting decrease in stickiness means that self-focused thoughts and feelings that arise in the mind have much less “grab” and decreasing ability to hijack attention.”
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“Altered Traits”: the happiest point in your life?

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“The Dalai Lama’s emotional life seems to include a remarkably dynamic range of strong and colorful emotions, from intense sadness to powerful joy.

 

His rapid, seamless transitions from one to another are particularly unique—this swift shifting betokens a lack of stickiness.

 

 

Stickiness seems to reflect the dynamics of the emotional circuitry of the brain, including the amygdala and the nucleus accumbens.

 

These regions very likely underlie what traditional texts see as the root causes of suffering—attachment and aversion—where the mind becomes fixated on wanting something that seems rewarding or on getting rid of something unpleasant.

 

The stickiness spectrum runs from being utterly stuck, unable to free ourselves from distressing emotions or addictive wants, to the Dalai Lama’s instant freedom from any given affect.

 

 

One trait that emerges from living without getting stuck seems to be an ongoing positivity, even joy.

 

When the Dalai Lama once was asked what had been the happiest point in his life, he answered, “I think right now.
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WHat is Terrifying

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The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.”

 

—Carl Jung
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My two cents: We always have plans to improve, to overcome flaws, to accomplish goals, becoming more worthy, peaceful.

 

That places well-being and happiness in the future, a fallacy of the highest order.

 

Accepting oneself completely is a strenuous daily practice.

 

I still struggle with this task.
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