Posts Tagged ‘ACCEPTANCE’

PTSD picks the very, very brave soldiers, also



“Hacksaw Ridge”

“The true story of Pfc. Desmond T. Doss, who won the Congressional Medal of Honor despite refusing to bear arms during WWII on religious grounds. Doss was drafted and ostracized by fellow soldiers for his pacifist stance but went on to earn respect and adoration for his bravery, selflessness and compassion after he risked his life — without firing a shot — in the Battle of Okinawa.”


Over a 12 hour period, demonstrating superhuman strength and courage, he lowered 75 wounded comrades to safety. Two days later he returned to that Ridge and was wounded.


The movie ends with this euphoric life of grandeur, Desmond lauded and decorated with fame and glory. The real story was he suffered from crippling PTSD the rest of his life. He lived as an invalid for years, depending on his wife to take care of him. Nightmares haunted him until death.



The idea that weak soldiers get PTSD and strong ones do not, is almost abusive in nature.



This statement pisses me off and violates everything my blog and volunteering stands for.


There is a small percentage of people who are resistant to PTSD but that is under 5%. The rest of us are vulnerable. In battle placing a soldier at the front for extended periods increases PTSD significantly. Redeployments have also added to this epidemic of not only PTSD but suicides.


Soldiers with PTSD will not seek help if you strengthen that stigma of being weak causes PTSD.   This statement could not be more ignorant or uninformed.


Being vulnerable, accepting our weakness are part of the healing journey.
22 suicides a day is the opposite.


5 Things Happy People Consistently Do By John D. Moore, PhD

Happiness can be a habit


Do what happy people do if you want to feel good. Joyful individuals behave in certain ways, avoiding some actions and embracing others. When you stop doing what makes you feel bad and do more of what improves your mood, you’ll be happy too.


1. Avoid procrastination

Procrastination increases stress and won’t make you happy. The most satisfied people in the world get on with tasks, especially those they dislike. They know they will be relieved when jobs are complete and not have to worry about them.

Carry out chores you hate early in the morning when you have the most energy. As a result, you’ll feel liberated from burdens and free to enjoy the rest of the day with a smile.


2. Build gratitude
Happy people aren’t just grateful; they develop gratitude with positive thoughts. They count their blessings, making themselves hyper-aware of the abundance in their lives. Likewise, they appreciate the little gems of life around them, like rainbows and wildlife.

Generate happy thoughts by focusing on gratitude. List the prosperity available to you, including shelter, food, love, and anything else that pops into your head. Also, spend at least ten minutes appreciating positive aspects of your day.


3. Exercise
Get moving! Stagnation, also known as sitting for too long, causes ill-health. Exercise increases feel-good chemicals. Happy people are active. They might also rest, but they don’t loll on the couch for long periods.

Go to the gym. Attend exercise classes. Or take a stroll. Walking each day improves physical and emotional health. For added benefits, exercise outdoors; nature calms the soul. It reduces stress, increasing room for joy.



4. Quit worrying
Everyone worries, but people who are always happy know when to stop. They understand worrying makes them ill and doesn’t solve problems. Your unhappiness will increase if you worry, so learn how to quit.

When troubling thoughts arise, shift your focus. Don’t dwell on problems that run through your mind and make them grow. Studies show distraction and positive thinking lessen worries. Happy people combine the two by entertaining themselves with upbeat thoughts.


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Trauma Sensitive Mindfulness: EXPOSURE


“Left to our own devices, we typically move away from pain and toward what is pleasurable. It’s a habitual, deeply wired response.


But part of practicing mindfulness is deliberately exposing ourselves to whatever is happening in our field of awareness, both pleasant and unpleasant. Whether we’re daydreaming about our next meal or feeling a sharp pain in our shoulder, we stay present.


We let ourselves be impacted by whatever is happening—right here, right now. For many beginning meditators, this can seem counterintuitive, but mindfulness works differently.


We practice turning toward what is arising instead of away from it.”
My two cents: Mindfulness is the safe and secure way to start exposure therapy. We observe our thoughts without judgment.

We have no control over what thoughts surface, only power over where we place our attention. If we have PTSD, intrusive thoughts will arrive without input from us. We do not fight them, engage them or avoid them.


Avoiding our triggers leads to isolation and suffering. Our fears have an unknown quality to them, when we avoid them. They grow more terrifying inside our thoughts.


Staying present, feeling the emotional thought and the body sensation linked to it fully, enables us to let it all go.

Observe the thought patterns of your mind. Most trauma thoughts repeat themselves over and over and over until we integrate them.

What Is Hypervigilance? Healthline Blog



“Hypervigilance is a state of increased alertness. If you’re in a state of hypervigilance, you’re extremely sensitive to your surroundings. It can make you feel like you’re alert to any hidden dangers, whether from other people or the environment. Often, though, these dangers are not real.


Hypervigilance can be a symptom of mental health conditions, including:

post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
anxiety disorders

These can all cause your brain and your body to constantly be on high alert. Hypervigilance can have a negative effect on your life. It can affect how you interact with and view others, or it may encourage paranoia.


Hypervigilance symptoms
There are physical, behavioral, emotional, and mental symptoms that can go with hypervigilance:


Physical symptoms

Physical symptoms may resemble those of anxiety. These may include:

a fast heart rate
fast, shallow breathing
Over time, this constant state of alertness can cause fatigue and exhaustion.


Behavioral symptoms

Behavioral symptoms include jumpy reflexes and fast, knee-jerk reactions to your environment. If you’re hypervigilant, you may overreact if you hear a loud bang or if you misunderstand a coworker’s statement as rude. These reactions may be violent or hostile in a perceived attempt to defend yourself.


Emotional symptoms

The emotional symptoms of hypervigilance can be severe. These can include:

increased, severe anxiety
worrying that can become persistent
You may fear judgment from others, or you may judge others extremely harshly. This may develop into black-and-white thinking in which you find things either absolutely right or absolutely wrong. You can also become emotionally withdrawn. You may experience mood swings or outbursts of emotion.



Mental symptoms

Mental symptoms of hypervigilance can include paranoia. This may be accompanied by rationalization to justify the hypervigilance. It can also be difficult for those who experience frequent hypervigilance, like those with PTSD, to sleep well.


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When an unworthy thought arrives, I have a planned response!!

In this moment, right now, I approve of me.



In this moment, right now, I shower myself with kindness, compassion and inner peace.



Each time an unworthy thought arrives,  I substitute this affirmation.



Fight for your wellbeing, take action if you want to improve.



This action changes our self-image

A different Diet for PTSD!!!



I looked at a picture taken the other day, unfortunately I had gained ten plus pounds.

Looking in the mirror this last month, somehow I could rationalize me slim and trim visually.


A picture does not lie! 😊



We need to apply this awareness to thoughts and judgments we have accumulated.


A thought diet!


Depression, anxiety and PTSD are fueled by this kind of thought. Wellbeing thrives in directed thought or no thought environments.


Our mind needs a break from constant thought, aimless ruminating and worrying.


How will we ever know what you’re capable of accomplishing, enduring, or who you can inspire in life?


If your life is filled with thought, worry and doubt, try something different.


Try being present, focused, empty of thought and open.


Happiness is not a cognitive based way of living.

Pay attention to what you are doing!


How many times did you hear that as a kid?


Sounds like “Awareness” practice to me.

Not paying attention, wastes our abilities and chance at wellbeing.


Multitasking is another form of not paying attention.


We now know multitasking decrease efficiency and accuracy significantly. Also, multitasking eats energy and attitude.


I try to pay attention to my mundane tasks, house chores living with my three grandkids.



Doing laundry is calming at times. My purpose is allow my grandkids to look clean, neat and their best.



I slow down focus to hang everything properly, then time disappears as I enter this task.



A chore has changed, time suspended, we are living life as fully as possible in this mundane moment.


Then we move to the next moment, hopefully leaving the thoughts about this task behind.


Practice on mundane things first, then tackle the awkward and upsetting situations next.



Perfection is never a goal, being able to come back to now after we get lost will suffice.



The election is over, how long will you carry your judgments, your thoughts.   Direct thought to a solution, a plan, then come back to the laundry, now.



Try staying present more, wandering off, doubting, worrying and obsessing less.

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