Purpose is needed for change

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Our mind responds best to stimuli that is simple, concrete, and immediate.

 

 

If that stimuli contains a strong enough purpose, we will take action.

 

 

Example 1: Weight loss
simple, concrete, immediate: change food intake, increase exercise, increase positive self-image practice (Meditate, affirmations), good snacks when hunger calls, willpower.

 

 


Example 2: improve my PTSD
simple, concrete, immediate: focus on awareness and letting go, affirmations everyday, meditation (mindfulness) practice (nothing simpler), aerobic exercise, constant vigilance of where my mind has wandered, a focus plan for panic attacks, resilience (willpower)

 

 

If you are a coach, personal trainer, or a therapist, inspiring clients to take action is the challenge.

 


Change does not happen without action.

 

 


Actions overcome words, thoughts and emotions.

 

 


What purpose is important enough for you to take action?
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A few Choices during the day.

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Desire or Gratitude?

Choose gratitude.

 

 


The past, present or future?

Choose this present moment.

 

 


Being sedentary or taking action?

Choose action.

 

 

 

Giving, taking or receiving?

Choose giving.

 

 

 

Simple or complex?

Choose simple.

 

 

 

Taking responsibility or victim hood?


Responsibility is our only choice!
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Happiness and our “Ego” are strangers!

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Let’s discuss happiness. It is much larger than an emotion. Emotions are ephemeral and fleeting, changing from one to another constantly. Happiness can last for days, weeks or more.

 

 

Happiness can be found in the midst of stress or pain. Happiness is an internal way of living.

Our “Ego” holds a much different reality.

 

 

This Ego we create thinks happiness is connected with him/her being inflated and in control. Our “Ego” seeks pleasure, approval and control.

 

 

The “Ego” judges each “Ego” it encounters as superior or inferior. Unfortunately it never feels equal to another “Ego”.

 

 

How can we find happiness with such a divisive creation?
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Who is the Thinker?

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Our “Ego” identifies with the Thinker, the one who thinks. I discovered while meditating, my Thinker would recede as an ever present Observer emerged.

 

This was a strange place at first, then after exploring, I found life had an expansive, brilliant side. Time dissolved, worries vanished, an inner peaceful feeling enveloped me.

 

This Observer had connections to worthiness, to opportunity, and to happiness. I felt more creative, free and worthy.

 

This worthy feeling was unfamiliar. What had I touched in my inner world?

 

 

My true self, just like your true self, perfect with an imperfect shell (body).

 


This Observer needs no approval, does not know of the existence of the past or future. He/She observes the world with wonderment and enthusiasm.

 

 

He/She has enormous gratitude for life and invests in giving without regard for reward.

 

 

He/She, as Observer, can find happiness in stressful times.

 

 

The Thinker suffers in stressful times. Thinking leads us into the past and future.

 

 

Happiness only exists in one time zone, this present moment.

 

 


You cannot be happy in the past or future. Why go there?
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The Moment Before

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“Well,” said Pooh,

 

“what I like best,”

 

and then he had to stop and think.

 

Because although Eating Honey was a very good thing to do,

 

there was a moment just before you began to eat it

 
which was better than when you were,

 

 

but he didn’t know what it was called.

 

~A.A. Milne
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My two cents: Even a simple mind can exhibit clarity and awareness of his/her inner world.

 

 

Studies have demonstrated that the most enjoyable part of a vacation can be the planning and anticipation of the trip.

 

 


Satisfaction rarely lives up to our emotional desires.

 

 


Satisfaction never quenches the ever-present desire for more.

 

 

 

Pooh realizes that the anticipation carries the most weight, not the fulfillment.
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Living Backwards

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“Often people attempt to live their lives backwards;

 

they try to have more things, or more money,

 

in order to do more of what they want,

 

so they will be happier.

 

The way it actually works is the reverse.

 

You must first be who you really are,

 

then do what you need to do,

 

 

in order to have what you want.”

~Margaret Young
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My two cents: Happiness is an internal way of being, living, not an accumulation of external possessions.

 

 

The journey discovers our inner world, our true nature.

 

 

 

All we need is inside us.
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Matthew Ricard: Pleasure is exhausted by usage, like a candle consuming itself.”

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My two cents: Desire a noun: longing or craving, as for something that brings satisfaction or enjoyment: ie pleasure.

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Fulfilling our desires does not quench the desire, in fact desire can be bottomless, never ending.

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Desires are limitless. What politician has enough power, approval or money. What “Ego” is satisfied in their position in life?

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Follow any desire that arises, then gets fulfilled and see that satisfaction does nothing to extinguish our desires.

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After our basic needs are met, desire can be the detour that eliminates our chance at happiness.

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Happiness exists in the act of gratitude and giving, not coveting our neighbors condition.

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How strong are your desires?

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Does jealousy or resentment live inside your current condition?

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Let go of that need to possess things.

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Needing others approval is a really big thing for most of us.
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