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Spotting the “Ego”

I challenged my group to spot their ego or others this week.

Notice when your Ego is front and center, in control.

Wherever strong emotions or judgments occur, our ego is definitely in charge.

Feel a need for approval or get upset over criticism, guess who captains that ship.

Catch yourself ruminating, yes, it is our ego exploring the past or future.


Worry, doubt, resentment, jealously, anger, depression etc. are ruled by our ego.


Can you spot others ego?


A five-year old child will school you on ego’s.


Do you know a narcissist? All ego, all the time is the their behavior.


Can you spot when the ego fades?


Certain jobs reward narcissistic traits . Lawyers, professional athletes, politicians etc.

Watering our garden!!


We are the garden, our mind, the head gardener!


Aiming our focus at taking action instead of results frees us.


If we water our self worth daily, the results will follow on their own.


Small, simple, concrete, repeatable actions program our mind, not large, complex, abstract ones.


Living in the moment, supported by how we water our garden, determines much of life.


External stimulus can be the same, our internal reaction decides if it is good, bad, or maybe without a judgment.

We can let the external noise pass without our judgment.


If we must judge, use this skill sparingly!


Water your garden, give yourself inner peace.

A Healing journey has ________.

A Healing journey has setbacks, presumed loss and days of confusion.


I judged myself harshly as failing, when a setback arrived. My erroneous judgment and subsequent search for why, powered PTSD.


Trying to make sense of, trying to find the rational reason to an irrational disorder (behavior) deepened my suffering.


I ended up agoraphobic following this ill-fated cognitive endeavor.


Healing needs no understanding of the irrational trauma feelings to heal.


Relief came when I learned to not think or cognitively engage trauma.


When I learned to let go, to live in the present moment, PTSD lost power.


I learned not to waste time and energy wondering why.


Why me, why can’t I solve this disorder, why does this not make rational sense, disappeared from my consciousness.


Leave guilt and judgment alone.


Surround yourself with kindness to overpower these negative thoughts and emotions.
We can be happy with this next breath.

Happiness does not happen in the future, so quit planning and start living.

Look for happiness today. It surrounds all of us.

L.A.’s homelessness surged 75% in six years. Here’s why the crisis has been decades in the making By GALE HOLLAND



“The growth of a homeless day camp at the halls of civic power speaks to the breadth of Los Angeles’ burgeoning homelessness problem.

The number of those living in the streets and shelters of the city of L.A. and most of the county surged 75% — to roughly 55,000 from about 32,000 — in the last six years. (Including Glendale, Pasadena and Long Beach, which conduct their own homeless counts, the total is nearly 58,000.)

Three out of four homeless people — 41,000 — live in cars, campers, tents and lean-tos, by far the biggest single group of unsheltered people in any U.S. city. If you took out Los Angeles, national homelessness would have dropped last year for the first time since the recession.”
My two cents: I see more people financially stressed, panicking, today than anytime in my life. Living in Eugene, Oregon, homeless are everywhere.


In big cities the homeless are isolated in certain areas, in Eugene they are everywhere.
We have some signs that say, do not give handouts.

Maybe we should watch them starve to death on the corners.

Do you have compassion for the needy in your town.

Do you think about giving an apple to the hungry man or woman on that corner.


Is our happiness tied to these homeless?


Be your own Life coach

Change these behaviors: We eat for a few reasons, to avoid starvation, health and enjoyment. A healthy diet and moderation makes sense.

Three times a week enjoy some rigorous aerobic exercise. At least 30 to 60 minutes a workout. If you have energy yoga or resistance training are wonderful.

Practice meditating a minimum of 15 minutes a day. Bring energy, focus and gratitude to this soothing gift. Apply the awareness you have built during the day.


Calm the mind and try to release your stress.


Can you inspire yourself? Can you approach these challenges with a deep passion. I chose three areas to work on. You can add finances, shopping, planning, etc.


One of the greatest benefits of having a life coach is the demand for action. Many more people would heal if they took daily action.


Look at your practice with gratitude. Make a schedule to hold yourself accountable.

3 veterans die of suicide over 5 days at VA facilities in 2 states Travis Fedschun


Three U.S. military veterans took their lives within 5 days of each other at VA facilities in 2 states earlier this month, prompting a call for action by lawmakers.


The first death was reported on April 5, when the body of 29-year-old Gary Pressley was discovered inside a vehicle in the parking lot of Carl Vinson VA Medical Center in Dublin, Georgia.


Pressley had a gunshot wound in his chest and was pronounced dead at 8:45 p.m., Laurens County Coroner Richard Stanley told the Atlanta Journal-Constitution.


Pressley’s family said he was medically discharged in 2012 after a bad car accident and struggling with mental health care, according to the newspaper.


His mother, Machelle Wilson, told WMAZ-TV that Pressley’s sister called the VA to tell them her brother was threatening suicide from their parking lot just moments before he killed himself


“He told his girlfriend he was going to do it in the parking lot, so they could find his body, so somebody can pay attention to what’s happening, so other vets do not have to go through this,” she told the television station.

Twenty veterans take their lives each day; national security correspondent Jennifer Griffin reports.


The following day in Decatur, Ga., 68-year-old Olen Hancock of Alpharetta killed himself outside the Atlanta VA Medical Center. Hancock had been seen pacing the lobby of the building before going outside and shooting himself, WSB-TV reported.

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Topics in my Mindfulness group





We discussed our intention or goal for our mindfulness/meditation practice.


Awareness always comes first. We try to be aware of the observer, that person who sees thinking without being part of thought.


Focus on the breath, meditating, carves out a space between stimulus and response. This space gives us a chance to not react.


We also discussed the “Ego’s” role in judging stimulus in a biased way,  reacting  differently than our core values.  


Meditating slows the speed of the mind, focuses intently on this moment,  and makes the space available to change behavior.


The “Ego” is front and center when we experience judgment and strong emotion.


I challenged the group to notice their “Ego” during the week. Yes, become aware of your “Ego’s” bias, feelings and behavior.


Example: Months ago, a friend said something that made me angry. I responded to him in this way, my “Ego” is pissed at you.


I had separated my “Ego” and abandoned my normal reaction.  I was amused and calm instead of reactionary and aggressive.


It takes actual application of mindfulness to reap the benefits.


Work on small challenges everyday to accelerate your healing and wellbeing.


Any other ideas?



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