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In anger, blood goes to your hands. Fear goes to legs!!!!



From “Emotional Awareness” by Paul Ekman and Dailia Lama:

Ekman: Still another characteristic is that emotions have a set of sensations. We are not always aware of those sensations.

I have developed exercises for developing conscious awareness that you are becoming or are emotional. These are to be used not in place of, but in addition to, meditation.

One of them is an exercise to increase your sensitivity to the sensations in your body so that those sensations will ring a little bell, so you will be aware of “getting”—you know the phrase?—“ hot under the collar.”

The most dramatic difference in the sensations is anger versus fear.

In anger, blood goes to your hands.

It is preparing you to hit.

In fear, it goes to the large muscles in your legs.

DALAI LAMA: So, preparing to run.

EKMAN: Yes, right. That does not mean you will run, or that you will hit.

But evolution has prepared you in this way.

And you can learn to be sensitive to the difference in how your body feels when you are afraid as compared to angry.



Emotions are not only human



From “Emotional Awareness” by Paul Ekman and Dailia Lama

Ekman: “It seems, however, that the emotion system is not fear specific, in that we can become angry in an instant, without thought or consideration, just as we can become afraid in an instant.

So that is my third defining characteristic of an emotion: the initial lack of consciousness when experiencing it.

Another characteristic is that if it is an emotion, it is not unique to humans.

Other animals have emotions.

If it is something that is unique to humans, it is probably not an emotion.

The only emotion that I thought was unique to humans was contempt,

but it turns out that if you have a juvenile chimpanzee make a threat toward an alpha male,

the alpha male shows the contempt expression.”

Still another characteristic of emotions is that an emotion can be as short as a few seconds.

Sometimes it lasts minutes or even an hour, but an emotion never lasts a whole day. If it does, it is actually a mood.

Emotions come and go. People differ in terms of how fast they recover from an emotional episode.


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Knowing the Thought: Shaila Catherine from “Focused and Fearless”

Banded iron: National Museum of Natural History



“You do not need to get rid of thoughts, just cease to believe them.

If you are not seduced by the story that they represent, the thoughts will not disturb your mind.

Tenzin Palmo, a nun in the Tibetan tradition wrote:

There is the thought, and then there is the knowing of the thought.

And the difference between being aware of the thought and just thinking is immense.

Normally we are so identified with our thoughts and emotions, that we are them.

We are the happiness, we are the anger, we are the fear.

We have to learn to step back and know our thoughts and emotions are just thoughts and emotions.

They’re just mental states. They’re not solid, they’re transparent.”




My two cents: We let the emotional storyline go, then explore the body sensations connected to the narrative.

I healed when I stopped thinking about my scary abusive thoughts and emotions.

Introduce yourself to your inner world, this is where we will find healing and wellbeing.



More Emotional insight:……… Does having a strong emotion attached to a thought make it more accurate or powerful?



Matthew Ricard:

“Despite their rich terminology for describing a wide range of mental events, the traditional languages of Buddhism have no word for emotion as such.

That may be because according to Buddhism all types of mental activity, including rational thought, are associated with some kind of feeling, be it one of pleasure, pain, or indifference.

And most affective states, such as love and hatred, arise together with discursive thought.

Rather than distinguishing between emotions and thoughts, Buddhism is more concerned with understanding which types of mental activity are conducive to one’s own and others’ well-being, and which are harmful, especially in the long run.

This is actually quite consistent with what cognitive science tells us about the brain and emotion.

Every region in the brain that has been identified with some aspect of emotion has also been identified with aspects of cognition.

There are no “emotion centers” in the brain.

The neuronal circuits that support emotions are completely intertwined with those that support cognition.

This anatomical arrangement is consistent with the Buddhist view that these processes cannot be separated: emotions appear in a context of action and thought, and almost never in isolation from the other aspects of our experience.

It should be noted that this runs counter to Freudian theory, which holds that powerful feelings of anger or jealousy, for instance, can arise without any particular cognitive or conceptual content.”



Let’s see thru emotions for a change: Matthew Ricard first



“The second way to deal with afflictive emotions is to dissociate ourselves mentally from the emotion that is troubling us.

Usually we identify with our emotions completely.

When we are overcome by anxiety or by a fit of anger, we are at one with that feeling.

It is omnipresent in our mind, leaving no room for other mental states such as inner peace or patience, or to consider reasoning that might calm our discomfort.

However, if at that moment we are still capable of a little presence of mind—a capability that we can be trained to develop—we can stop identifying with our anger.

The mind is, in fact, capable of examining what is happening within it.

All we need to do is observe our emotions in the same way we would observe an external event taking place in front of us.

The part of our mind that is aware of the anger is just simply aware—it is not angry.

In other words, awareness is not affected by the emotion it is observing.

When we understand that, we can step back, realize that this emotion has no solidity, and allow enough space for it to dissolve by itself.

By doing so, we avoid two extremes, each as bad as the other: repressing our emotion, which would then remain in a dark corner of our consciousness like a time bomb; or letting the emotion explode at the expense of those around us and of our own inner peace.

Not identifying with emotions is a fundamental antidote that is applicable to all kinds of emotions, in all circumstances.



The CONTRAST before and after HEALING !!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!



Severe childhood abuse impacted how my mind wired together, besides filling my amygdala with trauma laced implicit memories.

Even after healing, remnants exist in the recesses of my mind.

Before I healed, suffering was compounded by thoughts that were endless, intrusive and completely unworthy in nature.

Severely abused kids carry the damage not only in the mind but throughout our bodies.

Hard to describe an upside down nervous system erupting double digit times everyday.

Healing was long, arduous and painful for me.

The contrast before and after healing, Startling.

Just the elimination of intrusive thoughts seemed Euphoric.

The absence of suffering can be considered Exhilarating on its own.

The cessation of never feeling good enough Ecstatic.

This concept like PTSD can not be described by words but experienced in real life.

Beyond the euphoric and ecstatic, the ability to let the noise go and enter this moment unencumbered by unworthy thought, seems miraculous at first.

Yes, I came back to earth after a while.

Learning to accept and not question or resent my childhood abuse was not easy.

Moving forward, my childhood still can be awakened and unleashed.

This lives a short existence now, but I admit, yearning for happy go lucky moments, still overtakes my desires.

I guess we all wish for things we will never experience.

That desire is not a need and fades as quickly as unwanted thought, now.

Moral of the story: Never give up, never give in, fight for your wellbeing.

It is the journey we need to improve, not the destination.

The destination is always death, so enjoy the ride as much as possible.

That does not mean chasing pleasure but have enormous gratitude and be a world class giver for a start.

Have a good journey today.



Changing Channels:



My internal dialogue mirrored my abusive childhood, critical and unworthy thoughts permeated my being.

We perceive these judgments as true.

This kind of negative self talk describes those suffering from PTSD, I have encountered.

It is our thinking, our intrusive thoughts that power PTSD, anxiety and depression.

Change this habit of grasping negative thoughts and life will improve.

We get overwhelmed by wanting to heal now, immediately. Many wish a pill could do the job.

Healing feels like a big monster when we try to heal all at once. We fail because we get overwhelmed with triggers firing.

Focus on a small piece of trauma to start.

Bring awareness to the thoughts that appear in our consciousness, minute by minute.

Learn to let the noise go, start making a habit out of being present, in this moment, empty of thought.

Let everything else go for a while.

We heal much quicker using a focused laser approach, rather than a shotgun approach, handling all symptoms at one time.



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