Happy Thanksgiving: Holidays are difficult for some

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The Holidays brings anxiety, reminders of childhood terror, strained family relationships or no family relationships.
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It is a time when memories, pain, fear and abuse replay during the holidays.
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This is a time when our mindfulness practice allows us to let go of our negative emotional thoughts.
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Thoughts, judgments, resentments and anger can consume us.
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Use your skills, focus, follow your breath, activate your parasympathetic nervous system (the brakes), accept, surrender, then observe.
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Let the storyline play on a tv screen about 6 foot in front of you.
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Just observe, detached, neutral. A rerun of you is playing on the screen, therefore impossible to alter or have a present conversation.
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Hopefully you can tolerate the anxiety, the irrational fear, accepting the storyline completely, then letting it go, moving on calmly.
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Life does not pause for us but keeps rolling. Change is a constant companion.

Happiness can not be found in the past or future, it is a mirror of mindfulness, all of it exists in this present moment.
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Therefore happiness is only available in this present breath, then we move on to the next breath. Life is simple but extremely satisfying from this space.
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That’s all there is.
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Nothing magical exits in the future, nothing we can achieve or gain carries lasting happiness.

Look at all the accomplishments, accolades, power and money these Hollywood and famous men attained but scandal has robbed them of any legacy or legitimacy.
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Kevin Spacey or Harvey Weinstein have lost their souls not gained happiness. Ostracized and scorned are harsh realities for those used to praise, power and stardom.
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An invisible prison will be their plight until death or suicide.
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Watch what you chase, make sure it is permanent.
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Happiness exists in permanent things, our true self (soul, spirit), our giving, our present moment to moment awareness.
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Ask yourself, What did I do to help a less fortunate person or family today, Thanksgiving?
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Start small. Bring a smile and a kind word to all that cross your path.
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Give kindness and empathy to everyone you meet.
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Giving is not just a thanksgiving day thing.
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2 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Jennifertem on November 23, 2017 at 3:52 pm

    I’m alone this year. Here is the positive side of Thanksgivjing for 1.
    1) Can make whatever I want for my dinner.
    2) Can eat whenever I want.
    3 Can eat in my pajamas if I chose.
    4) Can spend extra time at the gym

    Yes I miss being with my family and friends but don’t chose to focus on negative.

    I will have a nice meal and enjoy it thoroughly in the company of one!

  2. A gratitude list I am working on:

    Gratitude

    Sight: My therapist is blind. This has given me a great sense of gratitude toward the benefits of sight. I value sight over all other senses. I get to experienice the world in vivid color and contrast. Being able to see give me great mobility. I can drive, walk, navigate or navigate fluidly without trouble.
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    Air: A month ago our area fires blanketed us with heavy smoke. Going out was dangerous so we realized how important, critical clean air became. I have to admit, clean air was overlooked, taken for granted.
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    Light: I ask people in group to give me a description of the room. An inventory of everything the eyes see. Almost everyone overlooks the two biggest items.
    Light and the space in between the objects. Without light we can not see anything.

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