The Trap of Self-Improvement

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In the healing work of self-compassion, it’s important to avoid the trap of getting caught up in self-improvement.
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When you have a pervasive sense of unworthiness, this can be tricky.
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The identity of unworthiness is formed of self-blame and a deluge of self-judgments offered by an inner critic who wants nothing to do with self-compassion.
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It’s far more interested in masochistic endeavors like self-improvement projects that it’s never satisfied with.
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But this just gets you more stuck in feeling deficient for several reasons, the foremost being the very idea that there’s a faulty and unworthy self that needs to be improved.
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As discussed, Buddhist psychology asserts that the very concept of a static and enduring self is the most profound of delusions and the source of endless suffering.
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Believing that you can fix the unworthy self just leaves you trapped in the never-ending pursuit of being “good enough” through better workshops, new therapies, or a better diet or exercise program.
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In many ways it’s no different from always striving for more money or more things.
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It’s just another variation on eternally wanting something more or better.
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