The Awareness That Sees Self Is Free of Self

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“Living with your Heart Wide Open”
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Years ago at an extended meditation retreat, a meditation teacher informed us that he wasn’t interested in any of our stories.
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We were stunned and taken aback—until he went on to acknowledge the profound tenderness, woundedness, and pain that our stories hold but said that he wanted to help us explore possibilities that lay beyond these self-limiting definitions of ourselves.
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As we sat with these ideas for a while, it brought home how easy it is to identify with old stories we’ve fallen for again and again, only to find ourselves in the same swarms of mental and emotional hornets that have stung us so many times before. How many times do we have to get stung before we see that the story isn’t who we are?
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This is where mindfulness and self-compassion can be so beneficial.
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They allow you to see and acknowledge the tenderness and pain in your story without falling under the delusion that the story defines who you are.
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It may be your story, but it isn’t you.
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A pervasive sense of unworthiness has core components of self-blame, self-consciousness, and resentment.
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These habits of mind are all connected and stem from habitual ways of looking at things.
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In each moment, you’re creating your sense of self.

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Anytime you recognize this self-constructing activity, it can help free you a little more from the confines of the self you’ve created.
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3 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Jennifer on April 2, 2017 at 8:53 pm

    Good reminder. Easy to get caught up in your own crap.

  2. Posted by Dar on April 2, 2017 at 9:25 pm

    I like the phrase “living with the heart wide open” – it makes you more vulnerable but it also helps you heal. Blessings to all who have the courage to do so. D

  3. Yes! So true. We’re not limited to our stories or labels. Love this.

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