Part Two: The Many Paths to Self-Compassion: Living with your Heart Wide Open

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If you notice that you’re ruminating on a feeling like guilt and saying things to yourself that are just making you feel more guilty, you can acknowledge this morbid indulgence; for example, you might say, “This is just a guilt-fest” or “Will heaping on even more guilt really help me learn from this mistake?”
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For most of us, learning to attend to our thoughts and emotions with this friendly kind of attention is a very different way of being in the world.
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Caring for ourselves in relationships with others is another way to cultivate self-compassion.
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Do you really need to remain in relationships that make you feel small or less alive?
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Do you really need to accommodate yet another phone conversation with the “friend” who calls you only when she needs advice or reassurance?
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Do you always have to accommodate lunch invitations from a coworker who likes to gossip about the other people in your workplace?
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Why not try discouraging relationships that feel like they deplete you and nourishing relationships that make you feel loved and appreciated and bring out the best in you?
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We are meant to love one another and care for one another in the deepest sense, and cultivating relationships that manifest these qualities is the very heart of self-compassion.
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