“In Touch”. : We are not who we believe we are


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Photograph by Steven Riley
“How often have we been advised “not to take it personally”—a profound wisdom teaching disguised as ordinary advice?
When self-inquiry goes very deep, we recognize that nothing that happens to us is actually personal.
It is a surprising and very liberating discovery to see that we are not who we believe we are.
The less attached we are to a story or image about ourselves, the more we are able to see things as they are.
As we become clearer about who we are not—all of our stories and self-images—our thinking becomes increasingly clear, and our feelings become more stable and refined.
We are often unaware of how much our thinking affects our feelings because the interpretive lens of our self-view and worldview is largely hidden.”

3 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Jennifer on March 13, 2016 at 8:09 pm

    I respectfully disagree.

    A child a victim of physical abuse,… isn’t that personal? Attached to story line, PTSD as a result of child abuse. There is accountability for our actions, words. I once said something to my sister and her response was “nothing personal, but I hate you”. Making me aware that what I had said was over the top, certainly not meant that way. There is a fine line here depending on the incident.

  2. Yes, we are naieve as kids, helpless to our giant caregivers. To carry this personally throughout our life brings suffering and loss. Healing releases us and let’s us live our life free, in the moment.

    On the PTSD discussion board and on this blog, I was shocked initially to experience how many women had been sexually molested by their fathers, brothers or uncles. Many were still suffering, still traumatized as mature adults. A bitterness and and a resentment permeated every breath.

    Continue to take it personally and it will destroy you.

    Life is not fair and we give power to our abusers unless we let go.

  3. Posted by Jennifer on March 14, 2016 at 2:56 pm

    The initial abuse IS personal, however I agree with what you have said. “Continue to take it personally and it will destroy you.”.

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