Rick Hanson: Buddhas Brain; Desiring not all it’s cracked up to be!

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“But reaching for what’s pleasant can also make you suffer:
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Desiring itself can be an unpleasant experience; even mild longing is subtly uncomfortable.
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When you can’t have things you desire, it’s natural to feel frustrated, disappointed, and discouraged—perhaps even hopeless and despairing.
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When you do fulfill a desire, the rewards that follow are often not that great.
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They’re okay, but look closely at your experience: Is the cookie really that tasty—especially after the third bite?
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Was the satisfaction of the good job review that intense or long lasting?
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When rewards are in fact pretty great, many of them still come at a stiff price—big desserts are an obvious example.
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Also consider the rewards of gaining recognition, winning an argument, or getting others to act a particular way.
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What is the cost/benefit ratio, really?
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Even if you do get what you want, it’s genuinely great, and it doesn’t cost much—the gold standard—every pleasant experience must inevitably change and end.”
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One response to this post.

  1. Posted by Jennifer on October 26, 2015 at 2:11 am

    Yes the cookies are still tasty after the 3rd bite, – but perhaps NOT after the third cookie! Moderation and awareness.

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