Empathy: making sense of how we came to be who we are, or how others came to be who they are

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“Bouncing Back”
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Empathy works through the prefrontal cortex and related structures on both sides of the brain to move beyond noticing and naming emotional experience, ours or that of another, to generating a cognitive understanding of that experience: to be aware of why somebody (including us) might be feeling the way they do.
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This process makes sense of the experience, present or past.
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Empathy generates meaning out of our experiences and our reactions to our experiences.
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We can get caught in very powerful stories about what is happening or has happened before, positive or negative — and frequently do.
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We saw how Margaret began to spin a story about Daniel’s failure to call her when he said he would, based on her childhood experience when her father failed to pick her up after school.
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We may carry a belief that we were the sole cause of our parents’ divorce or the sole cause of our fledgling business going under.
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Using mindful empathy to come to clarity and make sense of how we came to be who we are, or how others came to be who they are, is essential if we are to begin to be resilient.
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The subjective experience of empathy — of being seen and understood, or of understanding ourselves — is one of the primary catalysts for rewiring our brain’s encoded messages about ourselves, our connections, our competence, our vulnerability, and our courage.
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One response to this post.

  1. Empathy is the way to see things, people and situation in the new way. It is the effective way even to deal with people who against us. Empathy can turn you to be the same side with them!

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