Using Self-Compassion to Answer the Inner Critic


Kristin Neff, PhD, suggests in her book Self-Compassion that self-compassion is the complement of self-appreciation, the other side of the coin. Both are self-nourishing practices of emotional intelligence and resilience and gateways to resilient action.
Self-appreciation helps us celebrate our strengths and positive attributes, intentions, and choices. Self-compassion helps us recognize and use our frailties, flaws, and vulnerabilities as opportunities for proactive self-care.
We especially need to practice self-compassion and self-care when our inner critic starts to pummel us with harsh, negative self-talk. “What a goofball! You can’t even pay your taxes on time, let alone save ahead!”
We tend to feel compassion when we see other people relentlessly beating themselves up or putting themselves down, but we might not be aware how many times a day we do the same thing to ourselves.

2 responses to this post.

  1. So many people who suffer depression/anxiety/ptsd are effortlessly compassionate toward others and bullies to themselves. Thank you for the reminder to be as compassionate with ourselves as we are with others.

  2. Self talk goes on until we bring awareness to our thoughts, why we feel pulled a certain way to act.

    Changing the self image and the ego are a must to stop digging deeper making PTSD or depression worse

    Thanks for the Input

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