Unintended consequences of meditation

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My healing journey floundered through therapies with little impact.

Healing seemed impossible until I wandered into a new hybrid therapy that used mindfulness, ACT (Acceptance and Commitment therapy).

Being obsessed with healing, I meditated with a vengeance. Five hours a day for five years.

Healing was slow without direction or the wisdom needed to heal, so I sat more.

Healing arrived in subtle ways at first, then plotted a path to wellbeing.

Unintended consequences arrived with the planned ones.

My compassion center opened wide and I could feel others suffering intimately.

To this day seeing homeless people tears at me emotionally.

I feel their suffering immediately, it impacts my life, my thoughts, and my emotions.

It is a helpless feeling, I can not impact all this suffering.

My happiness is clouded with knowing these souls suffer in my midst.

Most people ignore or do not see these souls as people worth caring about.

Yesterday, while buying a pizza for my grandkids inside this crowded market, I asked for a extra slice.

While buying that piece of pizza, I announced that slice was for the homeless guy at the exit.

It was not to enhance my ego, but to show others it is ok to care and give.

Most were shocked, a few smiled and I could see the givers amongst me.

We need to be a country of givers, a society of compassionate souls.

The landscape I see does not resemble giving, we have become takers as a country.

Open your compassion center, giving to the less fortunate is a road that leads to a happy, fulfilled life.

We think money and power lead to happiness.

Happiness is not an isolated feeling, hard to be happy with suffering overwhelming our landscape.

Please share your feelings on others suffering.

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If boredom is an issue, you are not using the mind properly!

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From the book Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom by Rick Hanson.

“The brain is the primary mover and shaper of the mind.

It’s so busy that, even though it’s only 2 percent of the body’s weight, it uses 20–25 percent of its oxygen and glucose.

Like a refrigerator, it’s always humming away, performing its functions; consequently, it uses about the same amount of energy whether you’re deep asleep or thinking hard.

The number of possible combinations of 100 billion neurons firing or not is approximately 10 to the millionth power, or 1 followed by a million zeros, in principle; this is the number of possible states of your brain.”

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My two cents: “1 followed by a million zeros”, possible states of our brain.

To me, it seems imperative we keep our minds focused, calm, aware.

That means the mind performs best going slow, focused, aware of where it is directing the mind or just being in the moment.

All those opportunities could be such a distraction, confusing, tiring, emotionally unnerving.

Be the captain of your mind, keep your ship calm and focused.
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Willpower and engaging in the battle

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“Know that with practice there comes a time when the mind steadies, relaxes, and concentration becomes undivided.”

Buddha

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My two cents: Meditation/Mindfulness is an accumulative practice.

The more you practice, the stronger the focus and benefits.

It is a battle of willpower against our Ego for control of the mind.

Our Ego must believe we are serious, that we are going to change before he/she loosens their grip.

Focus, sit with the breath in the middle of your anxiety and fear.

Curiosity and observation are the tools.

It is a simple task, an extremely challenging one at that.

Accept this challenge, battle for your freedom!

Surrender, be vulnerable, heal.

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Happiness is permanent.

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Happiness is permanent.

It is always there.


What comes and goes is unhappiness. 


If you identify with what comes and goes, you will be unhappy.

If you identify with what is permanent and always there, you are happiness itself.

Poonjaji, 1910 – 1997, Indian non-dualist teacher

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The Deepest Meaning!

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“The Self Compassion Skills Workbook”

The deepest meaning of self-compassion is relating to every part of ourselves with compassion.

We have compassion for our anxiety,

for our loneliness,

and even for our self-criticism.

It means that every thought, every feeling, and every behavior can be embraced with compassion.

In fact, when we learn how to have compassion for the parts of ourselves that give us the most discomfort and pain, we discover that growth and healing become much easier.

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Working with Anxiety

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I have had success sitting with those suffering from PTSD or other anxiety disorders.

I am like a security blanket, extra protection, for those trying to heal.

They must trust me enough, to sit still in the middle of there anxiety.

The biggest challenge is having the courage to sit quietly when our fight or flight mechanism explodes.

If I can help them dissipate their anxiety with the breath, life changes.

Knowing we can influence anxieties grip on our life gives us hope.

We are not helpless, we can dissipate anxieties power.

We have to be terrified of our trauma, our anxiety to suffer the awful symptoms of panic, hypervigilance, dissociation etc.

Sitting quietly, focused on the breath first, then focused on the body sensations helps integrate anxiety or trauma.

Judgment has ceased, we have entered the subtleties of our inner 🌎 world.

Once we have organically felt the power to dissipate anxiety, it loses some power.

Our mind follows repetitive thoughts. Like meditation, it is an accumulative practice.

Each time we sit quietly focused dissipating anxiety, each time it loses more power.

A calmer, more confident you will become the new default mode.

Expand your boundaries, search out a mindfulness group or an appropriate support group.

Take action, make a daily plan if you value improving.

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Limit the noise!

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In the TV series “Elementary” Holmes decries, resist filling your mind with unimportant data. It works much better using less bandwidth.

Worthless trivia clogs the mind, think what trauma thoughts do to the minds ability to focus.

We can only focus on a finite amount of data at one time.

I,truly believe this and have benefitted greatly.

Trauma or unworthy thoughts get less time in my consciousness.

At the first signs of my mind grasping negative thought, I breathe and come back to now. Sight is my anchor for coming back to now.

Very simple for me, I have come back to now letting go of thought, until it is habit.

Does not take talent or intelligence, it is repetition, it is concrete and immediate. Takes more willpower and courage than smarts.

We can learn how to stop judging and start observing life.

Try it today, give up judging, come back to now, immerse yourself in what your eyes see.

Observe not judge.

It will change your personality.

Expecting different result from the same behavior is crazy.

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