Alan Watts: the Ego

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Ego, the self which he has believed himself to be,

 

is nothing but a pattern of habits.

 

Alan Watts
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The “Ego” is who seeks approval and avoids criticism.

 

A bad habit, I believe.
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Choices during the day.

 

 

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Choose gratitude over desire.

 

Choose this present moment over thinking (thought).

 

Choose positive over negative.

 

 

Choose action over sedentary.

 

Choose giving over taking.

 

Choose opportunity over despair.

 

Choose worthy over unworthy.

 

Choose simple over complex.
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We must be able to endure the awkward, the uncomfortable

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Reading one of the blogs I follow, a post listed all the doubts, judgments, concerns about the therapist, therapy and her own worthiness or unworthiness.

 

It seemed a celebration of victimhood wrapped in the Ego’s narrative.

 

Healing will never happen if we wait till things feel good or it is the right time to try.

 

Safe is never arriving, even the richest man has no idea what’s around the next bend.

 

 

We have to learn to withstand, to endure situations and people who make us uncomfortable, uneasy or even a little scared.

 

Unless we endure, experience these situations, healing or happiness will always be a stranger.

 

We will never feel that calm, that feeling of I am ok, worthy!

 

Being worthy comes from within, not through achievement or approval.

 

Next time a trigger explodes, focus on your breath, observe the narrative and watch it fade away.

 

A calm, a knowing you are fine arrives to greet us.

 

 

Healing or being on a spiritual journey is not an easy, calm path, it can be highly charged, scary and turbulent, like life.

 

Build your focus and hunt down your fears.

 

 

It is a battle, many do not see it like this.
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Bouncing Back: Linda Graham. Prefrontal cortex

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“The prefrontal cortex also makes possible

 

the processes of attunement (tuning into the feelings of others),

 

 

empathy (making sense of the feelings of others),

 

 

and self-awareness (making sense of ourselves and our story),

 

 

which enable us to efficiently rewire our brains.”
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The mind is immensely more pliable than anyone thought.

 

 

Change is not only possible, but expected with daily practice.

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Google PTSD symptoms and therapies

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In my experience, on my healing journey, the amount of complex information was overwhelming! A plethora of therapies, a multitude of symptoms and an abundance of potential causes, brought a feeling of helplessness, a feeling of imminent danger.

 

Time is distorted, fear arrives as an eruption of cortisol and loss of physical skills, then we feel frozen in the past.

 

 

Out of all this complexity, confusion reigns supreme.

 

 

Google PTSD symptoms and therapies. Count the number of different ways available to treat this disorder.

 

 

How can we choose intelligently?

 

 

I struggled for five years in this vast wasteland before I found a simple way out.

 

No matter what therapy  you decide, find a simple skill that takes daily practice.

 

 

Affirmations, meditation/mindfulness, aerobic exercise, acceptance practice etc. will help bring movement, action to our wellbeing.

 

 

No matter what therapy we decide upon, our daily action heals the most.
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Heaven or Hell!

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Former Associated Press photographer Max Desfor, whose photo of hundreds of Korean War refugees crawling across a damaged bridge in 1950 helped win him a Pulitzer Prize, died Monday. He was 104.

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“If You Suffer

it is Because of You,

If you Feel Blissful

It is Because of You.

Nobody else is Responsible-

Only You and You Alone.

You are Your Hell

and Your Heaven too.” –

Osho
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Does that mean approval or criticism are not that important.
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Trouble from opinions

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We are not troubled by things,

 

but by the opinions we have about things.

 

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Things grow bigger when opinions are added.

 

 

The added part is not real, just conjecture!
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