“Updated: A winner is just a loser who tried one more time.” . ~ George M. Moore, Jr. ~

I am not a loser or a winner, I am much freer, much deeper, much more present.


Winning or losing has nothing to do with real happiness, more temporary exhilaration or agony of defeat as they say.


Competing has its own rewards and benefits without judgments.


The mindful way knows that the discipline, the exerting beyond tired, holds the gift, not prizes about the result.

The old trophies gather dust after time, almost forgotten, but the journey of determination and all out effort stays until death.


Living fully in this moment, is the reward of our practice, where real lasting happiness flourishes.


Enjoy the wins, feel the sting of a loss, then let go, be at peace with the effort and discipline of this challenge.


Life is a journey, travel well.

A great insight



“For us, there is only the trying.

The rest is not our business.”


– T. S. Elliot




I love this, so simple, so powerful, so bare.

This quote tells me my effort and attitude are far more important than my thoughts, desires and emotional worries.

In fact, I am at my best, focused, observing without judgment.

Judgment and thought can be our invisible prison during this pandemic.



Physical and Emotional Pain: The Undeafeated Mind!




Though the experience of physical pain and emotional pain are clearly different, functional imaging studies show that, with few exceptions, the regions of the brain that these types of pain activate are identical.

These include not only the regions responsible for giving pain its unpleasant character, but also those responsible for regulating its size, location, and intensity (perhaps partially explaining the startling finding that Tylenol, a centrally acting pain reliever, alleviates not only the pain of a smashed finger but also the pain of hurt feelings.

No wonder, then, that physical and emotional pain produce the same reaction: a strong desire to avoid the things that cause them.

“Suffer what there is to suffer. Enjoy what there is to enjoy. Regard both suffering and joy as facts of life,” wrote Nichiren Daishonin.

Yet most of us clearly don’t.

Unfortunately, the strategies we use to avoid emotional pain often cause more harm than does the experience of emotional pain itself:

more harm results, for example, from excessive drinking or drug use than from the anxiety they’re often used to anesthetize;

more harm results from relationship sabotage than from the fear of intimacy that often drives it.

Not only that, but attempting to suppress emotional pain may paradoxically increase it.

In contrast, being accepting of emotional pain, being willing to experience it without attempting to control it, has actually been found to decrease it.

In one study of patients with generalized anxiety disorder, for example, subjects who were taught to accept their anxiety reported substantial reductions in worry, reductions that persisted even beyond the duration of the study.

But such a decrease is only a happy byproduct, for the true purpose of acceptance isn’t to diminish emotional pain but rather to become more comfortable feeling it.



Where is our power Source?




The Heart of Meditation by Swami Durgananda (Sally Kemptom)

“The ego bears the same relationship to the Self as a lightbulb does to the electrical current that runs through it.

The bulb looks as if it gives light independently, but in fact it doesn’t.

It’s just a container.

The true source of illumination is the electrical current that runs through the bulb.”




My two cents: That container, our created “Ego” we elevate as who we are!

The “Ego” can not exist without the the self, its power.

Our self exists just fine without an “Ego”.

In the dark of night, how useless is a ceiling light with a bright bulb without electricity.

Why honor a creation when our powerful current is available for use.

Our true self, true nature has nothing to do with that shallow “Ego” we invented for identification.

Seems our goal is to follow the source of our power, our true nature.




Spend a little time identifying your gratitude instead of worrying

Pixabay: Alexas_Fotos



From Source of Inspiration: Pat Cegan:

I am starting a gratitude list to help me remember this prayer: “Dear God, may we always be grateful.” I believe that gratitude is the key to serenity.

Truly gratitude is a transformer in our lives. The more I cultivate it, the more joy and serenity I find in my life. Please feel free to add to this list in the comment section…or start your own gratitude list.

909 of them

1. fresh breezes smelling of loamy ground after a gentle rain

2. little girl giggles that remind me to smile

3. sweet smell of puppies

4. ants marching in a row carrying leaves above their heads

5. raindrops that wash away tears

6. lilacs in the wind

7. friends who make me laugh

8. sweet potato pie with a hint of lemon

9. old men with hairy ears

10. red berries hidden beneath shiny green leaves

11. sweet memories of days gone by

12. mushroom prints that I make during rainy season

13. friends who call just to see how I am

14. walks in the floresta

15. page-turner books cozy quilt on a cold night

16. hic-ups from laughter

17. warm feet next to my cold feet

18. snooze alarms on cold mornings

19. spring water from a house faucet

20. little girls doing cartwheels

21. tadpoles changing

22. rain while the sun is shining

23. walking the beach at sunset

24. Grandmother’s pecan pie

25. books with woman heroes

26. blowing soap bubbles

27. coloring with my grandchildren

28. silly songs I sing for the children

29. birds taking baths in puddles

30. good books with sequels

31. reunions with old friends
32. poetry that lifts my soul

33. fragrance of fresh cut grass

34. grandmother’s rocking chair

35. kitty purrs

36. car with good gas mileage

37. spring tulips dotting my heart with color

38. socially acceptable burps and farts

39. belly laughter

40. old age’s patience

41. summer storm that cools the air

42. tea made from mint and lemongrass in the garden

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A sense of Responsibility




In the elderly, feeling a sense of responsibility has been found not only to improve daily functioning but also to increase lifespan.

In a study of nursing home patients by researchers Ellen Langer and Judith Rodin, residents on one floor were given a plant for which they themselves were expected to care (the experimental group)

while residents on another floor were given a plant for which their nurses would care (the control group).

After three weeks, 93 percent of residents in the experimental group showed an overall improvement in socialization, alertness, and general function; in contrast, for 71 percent of residents in the control group functioning actually declined.

And in a follow-up study eighteen months later, half as many of the residents who’d received plants for which they were expected to care by themselves had died as the residents who’d been given plants for which their nurses cared.

Finally, perhaps the most significant way in which embracing a sense of personal responsibility increases resilience is by motivating action (remember, resilience is also defined by our ability to persevere through obstacles).

In fact, feeling responsible for achieving an outcome may motivate us even more powerfully than our desire to achieve it.

After all, a sense of responsibility often makes us do things we don’t want to do.



Can we not worry, not think?



Similar to not thinking, trying to not worry is near impossible.

An example: On the tee at a short par three, one of my buddies shouts out, don’t worry about that water.

It is impossible to not think about that water. During my backswing or right before I hit the ball, the anxiety about the water impacts me.

We can not, not think, not worry, or not doubt, but we can focus and take action. Back to that tee box, I visualize my fight path and landing zone.

Now I can do that, focus and absorp the current moment. That water gets no attention when I focus intently on something else.

Look at how professional athletes stay focused and calm under extreme pressure with millions watching.

Put a superstar athlete under tremendous pressure and you will see a gem.

Place Michael Jordan, Tom Brady or a Lionel Messi under extreme scrutiny and you will see a transformational performance.

They thrive when you force them to focus more intently.

Their minds are calm, like they see things in slow motion from their intensity.

They also have supreme confidence and trust they will prevail.

Doubt does not exist when you get enthralled in the present moment, whether competing for a Super Bowl or just meditating alone at home.

We do not have to be superstars to focus and eliminate negative thought and emotion.

We only need to focus on our breath, on our purpose and our actions.

Live in the moment, do not entertain thoughts like, can I do this for a month. Suffering follows negative thought and judgment.

Just be ok right now and leave it alone.

We need to use our minds to help not hinder us.



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