Thoughts about Thoughts

The mind is capable of complex equations, incredible abstract thought, hosting a crescendo of mercurial emotions, or simple intense focus.



One side houses our cognitive functions, our judgment center, our identity (Ego) and where we fit in with other “Egos”. This side exists in the past, some present and the future. Our self talk and self-image are developed on this side (judgments).



The other side is expansive, creative and only knows this present moment. This side does not think but observes intently. It is void of words, sentences, judgments, right or wrong or good or bad. We are all perfect, worthy and have enormous opportunity on this side.



Meditation/Mindfulness attempts to access this creative side while focusing intently on the breath. We practice letting go of thought, our cognitive engine. We stay present and observe, not think for periods of time.



60,000 thoughts on average cross our path daily. This means the temptation to constantly think and travel into the past or future becomes dominant.



Retraining the mind takes daily practice and constant vigilance.

Sunday quote

Three Marks of Existence:





“Street” version by Jon Kabat-


Shit happens.
Everything changes.

It’s not about you, anyway.

Distracted versus Focus Mind!!!!

A distracted mind wanders into quicksand over and over again.



Worry, doubt, anxiety, resentment, jealousy, and fear lie beneath our distraction.


The distracted mind tunes into the noise, the focused mind observes.



The distracted mind is like Velcro, always slowing down, viewing the accident in the other lane, always attracted to the light of confusion.


The focused mind builds awareness and thus has the ability to let all the noise fade into oblivion.


Mindfulness is the moment to moment application of focus (awareness).


When we find ourselves distracted, we use our focus practice to come back to now, empty of thought.


At first, our focus on the breath is more mechanical, becoming more natural and organic with practice.


Distracted states:
Worry: The past failures bleed into our future.
Doubt: We judge failure or embarrassment is possible.
Jealousy: Our selfish part needs more.
Anger: Rarely needed, constantly overused.
Fear: Thought and emotion create its own habitual fear.
Anxious: Leads into dissociative thought.
Pessimism: A negative way of living.


Choiceless Awareness from “The Need to Please”


“In developing mindfulness, we start with practices that have a laser-like focus, such as Mindfulness of the Breath. These directed meditations help us build concentration and steadiness of attention.


Over time, the focus expands to include more of our present-moment experience.


Eventually, we drop any particular focus of attention and, with the breath as an anchor, watch the flow of our experience, holding it all in kind, independent awareness.


This type of meditation is known as choiceless awareness.


The practice of choiceless awareness beckons us to be completely open to whatever experience presents itself: thoughts, feelings, sounds, or sensations.



We simply rest in awareness of these experiences, not choosing, fighting, or encouraging anything in particular as the object of awareness.



You might think of choiceless awareness as simply being present with yourself. With practice, you can watch experiences come and go much like bubbles that float into your awareness and then drift away or pop.



Mindfulness practice helps us experience that our awareness is separate from the objects of our awareness.”

Purpose is needed for change


Our mind responds best to stimuli that is simple, concrete, and immediate.



If that stimuli contains a strong enough purpose, we will take action.



Example 1: Weight loss
simple, concrete, immediate: change food intake, increase exercise, increase positive self-image practice (Meditate, affirmations), good snacks when hunger calls, willpower.



Example 2: improve my PTSD
simple, concrete, immediate: focus on awareness and letting go, affirmations everyday, meditation (mindfulness) practice (nothing simpler), aerobic exercise, constant vigilance of where my mind has wandered, a focus plan for panic attacks, resilience (willpower)



If you are a coach, personal trainer, or a therapist, inspiring clients to take action is the challenge.


Change does not happen without action.



Actions overcome words, thoughts and emotions.



What purpose is important enough for you to take action?

A few Choices during the day.


Desire or Gratitude?

Choose gratitude.



The past, present or future?

Choose this present moment.



Being sedentary or taking action?

Choose action.




Giving, taking or receiving?

Choose giving.




Simple or complex?

Choose simple.




Taking responsibility or victim hood?

Responsibility is our only choice!

Happiness and our “Ego” are strangers!


Let’s discuss happiness. It is much larger than an emotion. Emotions are ephemeral and fleeting, changing from one to another constantly. Happiness can last for days, weeks or more.



Happiness can be found in the midst of stress or pain. Happiness is an internal way of living.

Our “Ego” holds a much different reality.



This Ego we create thinks happiness is connected with him/her being inflated and in control. Our “Ego” seeks pleasure, approval and control.



The “Ego” judges each “Ego” it encounters as superior or inferior. Unfortunately it never feels equal to another “Ego”.



How can we find happiness with such a divisive creation?

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