Posts Tagged ‘PTSD’

A letter to Those old white guys contemplating suicide…………..

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so everyone will know or accuse me of being racist or have to grant me my constitutional right of free speech, here is the article this post refers to:      Robin Williams in a group facing higher risk of suicide:  older white men.

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“As men look back on their lives, they may become more reflective, asking themselves whether they focused on what really mattered to them, and what they are going to do next, Kaslow said.
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“Has the career been worth it, or did I sacrifice my family . . . I think that is part of what happens for people,” she said.
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Dear Sirs,
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Bluntness is the vehicle I have chosen to share what life is for!
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Nobody gives a shit what your career accomplishments were, how far it advanced mankind, life is about something completely different.
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Wonder if being important, leaving a legacy is worthless to a dead guy.
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You killed yourself for nothing, maybe there is no legacy, no concern, no way of knowing people worship you after death.
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Life in my opinion, what I believe is optimal, is lived in this moment, absent of judgment, worry, doubt or low self image, in fact life should be the pursuit of happiness.
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I did not say anything about creating and then fulfilling desires with impermanent satisfaction, substituting for real happy..
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Sit quietly, follow as you slow your breath, let go and you will not kill yourself, simple, take action.
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When you get stuck, depressed, frozen, stop thinking, do, act, exercise past exhaustion, the mind will move with repeated effort.
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Want to heal, bring passion, willpower and effort everyday to your healing space, believe, expect to improve, them double your efforts tomorrow.

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Simplicity: …. If we find happy on top of the mountain,,,, we brought it with us…..

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True Refuge: Finding Peace and Freedom in Your Own Awakened Heart
by Tara Brach
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When Buddhist teacher Thich Nhat Hanh was invited to the San Francisco Zen Center in the 1970s, the students asked him what they could do to improve their practice.
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He had entered a monastery at age sixteen, was an ordained monk, and had endured the horrors of the war in Vietnam.
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I imagine they expected some rigorous prescription for deepening their spiritual life.
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Thich Nhat Hanh’s response:
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“You guys get up too early for one thing, you should get up a little later.
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And your practice is too grim.
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I have just two instructions for you this week.
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One is to breathe, and one is to smile.”
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This is such good advice.
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Approach your practice (and your life) with an earnest yet relaxed heart. *
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You can make a dedicated effort without tension and striving.
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Whether you are new to practice or an experienced meditator, keep alert for judgment.
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Whenever it arises, give permission for your experience to be whatever it is.
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Judging is a habit, and when you remember to release it, you will reconnect with the inner ease and sincerity that naturally carry you to presence and freedom.
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Habit changes with finite, solid, immediate action,,,,, The mind craves, simple, empty, immediate, finite, focus……

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Do you make regular visits to yourself?
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Sit quietly, introduce yourself, let go, do, be, smile, laugh.
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Part two: Us old white guys are offing ourselves at an incredible rate!!!!!,

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Ironically, when depression is lifting or someone is released from rehab or treatment, they are also vulnerable to a suicide attempt, said Nadine Kaslow, a psychology professor and vice-chair of the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Emory University School of Medicine. In recent months, Williams had gone through rehab again. In July, the Oscar winner spent a few weeks at the Hazelden addiction treatment center in Minnesota, participating in a program designed to reinforce sobriety. “After working back-to-back projects, Robin is simply taking the opportunity to fine-tune and focus on his continued commitment, of which he remains extremely proud,” his representative had told the Los Angeles Times.
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During rehab, people often feel safe and protected, Kaslow said, “but when they come out, they may be overwhelmed by the world around them.”
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A toxicology report that would reveal whether Williams had any chemicals in his blood at the time of his death will be released in two to six weeks, according to the Marin County Sheriff’s Office.
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One thing most older men won’t know is the feeling of having a television series canceled. Williams recently lost his latest television project, “The Crazy Ones,’’ which didn’t attract enough viewers to earn a second season on CBS.
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But the wind-down of a successful career and the loss of self-esteem that may entail is a common problem for older men, especially if they are also having financial problems.
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As men look back on their lives, they may become more reflective, asking themselves whether they focused on what really mattered to them, and what they are going to do next, Kaslow said.
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“Has the career been worth it, or did I sacrifice my family . . . I think that is part of what happens for people,” she said.
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An emerging area of interest for many mental health experts is the impact of feelings that the person who attempts suicide has begun to feel he is a burden to his family and friends, who, he believes, would be better off without him.
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Recent studies have shown a solid association between those sentiments and suicide, Cornette said, stronger even than the power of depression. While depression and suicide has been more thoroughly studied, many are paying attention to the newest risk factor, she said.
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In the end, she said, “regardless of what we end up learning from the police, no one but this guy’s therapist, and maybe his friends and family, knew all these risk factors. It’s speculation on our part.”
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Part 1, one,,,, Robin Williams in a group facing higher risk of suicide: Older white men with depression

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By Lenny Bernstein and Lena H. Sun August 12
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If you tried to create a profile of someone at high risk of committing suicide, one likely example would look like this: A middle-aged or older white male toward the end of a successful career, who suffers from a serious medical problem as well as chronic depression and substance abuse, who recently completed treatment for either or both of those psychological conditions and who is going through a difficult period, personally or professionally.
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In short, that person would look a lot like Robin Williams, the 63-year-old actor and comedian who, authorities said Tuesday, hanged himself with a belt in the bedroom of his San Francisco Bay area home a day earlier.
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While certainly not the only group susceptible to suicide — 39,518 people took their own lives in 2011 — older white males with that cluster of characteristics have been on psychologists’ radar at least since federal statistics released last year showed an alarming spike in their suicide rate between 1999 and 2010. The suicide rate for white men increased by nearly 40 percent, to 34.2 per 100,000 people.
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“This is certainly the demographic, middle-aged or older Caucasians,” said Dost Ongur, associate professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. “And certainly men with medical problems.” Williams had an aortic valve replacement in 2009.
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Men account for only about 20 percent of suicide attempts but represent about 80 percent of completed suicides, statistics show, almost certainly because they choose more lethal methods: guns and leaps from high places instead of drug overdoses, Ongur said.
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Beyond the mechanics of suicide lies a variety of risk factors that predispose men, particularly middle-aged men, to suicide, experts said.
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“Men are much less likely to seek help than women are,” said Michelle Cornette, executive director of the American Association of Suicidology. And “apart from seeking help professionally, [men] utilize their friendships in different ways. Men are less likely to disclose to a male friend that they are struggling psychologically.”
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At the same time, aging may take a larger toll on the male psyche. Older men who value their self-reliance may find themselves less able to cope as they age, when they are no longer in their prime physically, sexually and at work.
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“I often refer to them as being developmentally unsuccessful, because they’re not equipped to handle the challenges of getting older if they are so tied into their masculinity . . . and making a lot of money,” said Christopher Kilmartin, a psychology professor at the University of Mary Washington.
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“Things aren’t the way they used to be,” Ongur said. “The power you knew, the control you knew, aren’t the same.”
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When depression, addiction and medical problems are added to the mix, the risk of a suicide attempt increases significantly. Williams was grappling with “severe depression,” according to his publicist — a condition that creates hopelessness and despair, frequent precursors to suicidal ideation. Substance abuse suppresses inhibition and can lead to an impulsive act.
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What happens when we stay present during a scary, cortisol jolting trigger?

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Incredible things happen:
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First, our direction in life changes, instead of avoiding, we find ourselves headed toward our fear, towards PTSD’s scariest moment, towards healing.
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Second, the delusion of Traumas implicit memories, PTSD is hollow, unfolds.
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PTSD only has access to firing our fight or flight mechanism, access to the switch, no inherent power, in fact powerless without our attention.
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Third, our nervous system has been dampened a little, calmed by our courage to stay and see.
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Fourth, our awareness has grown, familiarity with our body mechanisms dissipates the fear, decreasing its intensity.
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Fifth, momentum has been gained, that snowball is headed downhill, finally.
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Sixth, smile, PTSD has blinked, it is only a matter of time for healing to be complete.
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Incremental healing,, complex PTSD does not heal in some miraculous event or epiphany!!!!

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My focus, my meditation practice was weak at first, collapsed under the pressure, the stress of a trigger exploding, cortisol jolting my solar plexus with violence, fear gripping me.
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Over time a few things evolved:
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My triggers became more familiar,
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zapped the power from PTSD.
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If you can stay present, in this moment, when a trigger explodes, PTSD loses significant power, and intimidation.
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The unknown becomes known, PTSD is a ghost, a delusion.
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Prepare, take action,,, let thought fade, live, live,,, breathe..

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“It wasn’t raining when Noah built the ark.” – Howard Ruff
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Sit when life is calm, deepen, grow, prepare for the trauma storm.
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“If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.” – Milton Berle …

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Wonder if a door is not needed.
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Let go, take action, risk, live a little fuller.
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Happiness: … Suicide….what makes the difference?

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They had everything from my perch.
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Her behavior, loving kindness giving, must be more powerful than ultimate stardom, adulation, power, iconic status as I view the situation.
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Something must have permanence in her life.
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Something is real, permanent, like my concept of happiness, we carry with us in life, dead or nonexistent in their life.
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