Posts Tagged ‘PTSD’

Perfection or not

  
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“Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect.
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it means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.”
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– Unknown –
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It means we have stopped judging, narrating life.
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It means we trade thought for being present, for periods of time during the day.
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Happiness has nothing to do with being perfect, flawless or powerful.
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Underneath all those judgments, exists the real you, our inner guide, our spirit, our soul.
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Empty the mind and introduce yourself.
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. “I make myself rich by making my wants few. . —Henry David Thoreau–

  
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Yes, we create an atmosphere of openness, a chance to be happy, by not reacting to our pleasure chemicals.
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If we follow a path of chasing pleasure, coveting dopamine, needing that temporary euphoric fix, we suffer.
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The cycle of desire, the need to fulfill, brings only temporary satisfaction.
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This satisfaction is fleeting, in fact this satisfaction is the starting point for more, more desire, more need.
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The next victory or conquest leads only to more need and loss.
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Chasing pleasure never fills the chalice of satisfaction.
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That container is a sieve.
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That path contains no happiness.
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The less desire we harbor, the more chance for happiness we create.
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Disposition not circumstance!

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The greatest part of our happiness
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depends on our dispositions,
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not our circumstances.
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– Martha Washington –
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A mindful life looks the same, all change is internal.
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Opportunity

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Opportunity is missed by most because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.
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– Thomas Alva Edison –
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Matthieu Ricard states that happiness is not a given right, it must be earned through hard work.
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Change does not happen without perseverance, courage, and daily effort.
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It is how we journey that matters.
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Sunday question: is there a chance for Happiness with our behavior (lifestyle)?

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Matthieu Ricard states, the purpose of life is to be “Happy”.
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Three things need to happen.
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First: Doubt, worry, fear and unworthiness are reduced to minimal levels.
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Second: Desire and need are replaced by gratitude and giving.
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Third: We live in the moment, the only place happiness exists.
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We explore life, let go, empty the mind, then bask in the expanse of now.
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When we shower first thing in the morning, observe who and what your mind gravitates toward.
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If it searches for ways to avoid the day, sees gloom and doom, then happiness will be a stranger.
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If opportunity and brilliance await you in the shower, happiness is at hand.
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Happiness endures hardships and daily loss.
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Check out the truly happy around you.
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Their lives are not void of loss or tragedy.
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Happiness endures.
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That is what I have witnessed and experienced.
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How about you?
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Linda Graham: Bouncing Back; Somatic threshold

  
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“He suggests that when confronted with anything new, our responses range from the survival reactions of fight-flight-freeze, which halt any positive activation, all the way to adaptive activation and the free-flowing expression of creativity.
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Somewhere on that continuum there is a somatic threshold that we feel viscerally, where our body and brain chemistry stops us from going forward even though consciously — mentally, emotionally, and spiritually — we are ready to dive in.
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It can take the form of writer’s block; cold feet on the morning of the wedding; or the last-minute justification of “I don’t know anybody at the party, and I’m to tired anyway.
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This somatic marker is the disruption of the dopamine circuit, which is telling us, “Uh-oh, this is not what was expected.”
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That’s true: it’s not. It’s new.
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But that doesn’t necessarily mean we should stop abruptly.
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When we deliberately face our fear of doing something new or risky, or confront deep doubts about ourselves as human beings, we come to the somatic threshold that might block us from moving forward.
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As the meditation teacher Jack Kornfield says, we can read that anxiety not as a warning to retreat to the familiar and comfortable but as a signal that means “About to grow!”
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By facing the fear and intentionally crossing the threshold into action, we are deliberately choosing to evoke new experiences that recondition the anxiety in our nervous system.
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By pairing an old pattern of fear or block with a new, more positive pattern of courage and action, we contradict the old and rewire it.
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This is reconditioning at its finest.”
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Dopamine: Part two!

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“Mindfulness is the key here — awareness that always involves discernment of the wholesome from the unwholesome and the effect of our choices on our resilience.
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Dopamine operates on the basis of expectation.
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When the brain experiences what it expects to experience —
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when we turn on the kitchen faucet and water comes out —
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dopamine levels stay steady.
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If something unexpected happens —
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we turn on the faucet and no water comes out —
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the expectation is disrupted.
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The disruption switches off the dopamine and
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generates a slight unease in the body.
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A mistake has been detected.
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The brain directs us to stop moving forward until we know things are okay.”
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