1. Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness helps reduce anxiety and stress for everyone. Consider a way to practice mindfulness everyday that is easy to remember. Maybe mindfully brush your teeth or mindfully drink your coffee. Consider using a bracelet or a sticky note to remind yourself.
5: Give up your attachment to outcomes. Being too attached to certain outcomes or living a certain way or having a certain solution limits you and leads to suffering. Be open to what comes.
-8: Stay focused on what is in your control. Attempting to control other people or events creates anxiety, anger, feelings of helplessness and turmoil. For example, you can’t control how someone else treats you, but you can often choose how much time you spend with them or work on how you react to the way they treat you. You can’t control that someone you love chose to spend the weekend with other friends, but you can control how you spend your weekend.-9: Accept Imperfection. Life is messy and imperfect. Striving for perfection that doesn’t exist crushes joy and contentment.
-10: Stop comparing to others who have it better. Comparing is a way of evaluating and judging ourselves and others. Most often we compare ourselves to a characteristic of someone else who we see as superior to us. It’s also a way of competing. See yourself as part of a community where each person’s success benefits us all. Practice saying, “Good for them, good for us all.”-
Posts Tagged ‘Judging’
Can we explore our process of judging situations, people and things? Bring awareness to any judgment of good or bad, right or wrong, pleasant or unpleasant.
Vacate the story behind the judgment, following the body sensations today. When we judge someone, where do these body sensations settle.
Does the feeling change when we vacate our judgment of someone? Do we see differently without judging someone? Absolutely!!!!
Example: A man with his kids hop a bus where the kids are misbehaving, being loud and boisterous. We are annoyed and harshly judge this father as lacking. Someone actually says something to him about his kids.
He responds that they just buried their mother and he was preoccupied in grief. Now, let us explore that judgment.
We now look at our judgment differently. We feel bad that more was going on than we could see.
Why limit ourselves with owning judgments we can drop. Each judgment is a small wall that isolates the mind from its capabilities. Drop judgments and free your mind.
If we relinquish judging, then our ego is not insulted or has no need to react to situations or people. Now, when something happens in life, I let it exist on its own without my involvement.