Does the satisfaction gained from our desires lead to happiness? Is satisfaction worth the energy given to our desire? In my opinion, no, absolutely not, in fact the opposite is true!!!!
Maybe some of our desires bring loss, resentment and low self-image with the constant need for satisfaction. Do we set our sites on a lofty carreer, status, possessions, power, family and titles?
All those desires bring a great responsibility to protect from loss while they are impermanent desires. If we lose a job, a house, a mate or power , resentment and depression visit us.
Approval or avoidance of disapproval guides most of our lives. We can see that our happiness is handed off for others to control. Let go of the desire for approval from others and accept yourself as perfect.
My healing solidified when approval did not matter anymore. Freedom had arrived. Happiness is possible when all those desires were let go.
From Wisdom Wide and Deep by Shaila Catherine:
“Insight is not intended to foster cleverness, speculation, or intellectual knowledge. Insight refers to an immediate knowing that will move you beyond the fragmentation of the conceptual mind. Problems arise only through how you conceive of things. You make experience problematic by conceiving of the impermanent as permanent, by interpreting that which is unreliable as satisfactory, and by viewing what is impermanent and unreliable as self.”
In plain English, we can not think our way out or follow the ego. The ego is impermanent and unreliable, needing approval and energy from us to exist. Be here and experience now, instead of getting lost in cognitive wandering.