Posts Tagged ‘EGO’

THE DECEPTIVE EGO ~~Ricard


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“In our day-to-day lives, we experience the self through its vulnerability.
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A simple smile gives it instant pleasure and a scowl achieves the contrary.
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The self is always “there,” ready to be wounded or gratified.”
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The “ego”, the self, is never equal, always superior or unworthy, contrary to awareness, being present and letting go.
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The ego compares, judges, invents importance, and tries to separate us from others.
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With practice and application, I eventually saw the ego as an appendage, like an arm, not the power of my being.
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I gave it a special separation, announcing at times, how my ego was reacting to another.
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My ego is pissed at this person, oh well, does not mean I grasp this delusion.
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Antagonists:::: the “Ego” versus mindfulness!!!!!!


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Mindfulness listens,
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The ego lectures,
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One is selfless,
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The other Egocentric.
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One hugs,
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One judges
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One Peace of mind,
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One numerous desires,

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One slows down
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One loves speed,
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Either compassionate,
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Or Self-centered.

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One gives
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One takes
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One happy
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One sad.

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One opportunity,
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The other barriers,
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One present,
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One past.

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Science of emotion????? Ekman and Ricard——


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“Experience tells us that those who have managed, even partially, to free themselves of the ego’s diktat think and act with spontaneity and freedom.
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This is in contrast with the constant paranoia provoked by the whims of a triumphant sense of self.
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Paul Ekman, one of the world’s specialists in the science of emotion, has been inspired to study “people gifted with exceptionally human qualities.”
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Among the most remarkable traits shared by such people, he notes, are “an impression of kindness, a way of being that others can sense and appreciate, and, unlike so many charismatic charlatans, perfect harmony between their private and public lives.”
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They emanate goodness.
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Above all, writes Ekman, they exhibit “an absence of ego.”
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These people inspire others by how little they make of their status, their fame—in short, their self.
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They never give a second thought to whether their position or importance is recognized.”
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Such a lack of egocentricity, he adds, “is altogether perplexing from a psychological point of view.”
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Ekman also stresses how “people instinctively want to be in their company and how, even if they can’t always explain why, they find their presence enriching.
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In essence, they emanate goodness.”
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Such qualities offer a striking contrast to the champions of the ego, whose presence can be really aggravating.
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Between the theatrics and occasional ferocity of the rampant ego and the warm simplicity of the egoless, the choice is not a hard one.”
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The ego is going to judge no matter what???.


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Next time in a restaurant, watch someone new arrive.
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The ego has made a judgment without your input.
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Remember the ego never feels equal, only superior or inferior, maybe another draws our compassion, feeling sorry for them.
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Maybe someone scares us, another reminds us of someone we hate.
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Walk into a department store, go to the blouses or dress section and see if garments do not elicit a judgment. That one is nice, that color is horrible, love that dress.
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Our practice allows us to let go of these judgments, coming back to this moment, experiencing the good, bad and mundane of now.
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That is all their is with life, this moment to experience as fully as possible.
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let’s visit the importance of the ego!


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The ego ultimately identifies us, blesses us with uniqueness, and having a positive ego remains ultimately important for a happy life.
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Establishing the need for an ego, does not mean giving up directing our attention moment to moment.
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The ego can be used to drive our being toward achievement, giving full effort beyond normal, as long as we do not believe achievement holds happiness.
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Life is a journey, the ego wants to establish goals, rigid goals turning into barriers to living fully, a place to shoot for.
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Achievement thoughts and actual achievement do not hold happiness for any period of time.
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The ego does not engage the true self but creates a worldly ownership, a need to possess things that lead to happy, careers, power, success, a house, etc.
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Think of being an athlete, training to exhaustion for the big game, race, event, so winning, losing or playing to a draw, does not matter.
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We have exercised our being physically and mentally past tired, benefitting us enormously, no matter what results become reality.
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Loss is created by grasping at desires or needs to heavily.
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We are not our job, our performance, our ego, our desires or our judgments.
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Let go of all that crap.
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“It can be useful to grow sensitive to the tendency to seek respect, appreciation, confirmation, praise, or recognition.” Shaila again….sit over seven years accumulated in silent retreat and clarify emotion, ego, thought.


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Set out on a quest to know the workings, machinations of the ego.
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Through investigative observation, a knowing arrives, the limitations of the constructed ego emerges.
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The ego reveals itself as flawed, shallow, highly dependent on external approval, praise and avoidance of criticism.
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The ego erects barriers, walls of rigid thoughts and judgments, flawed comparisons of importance or lack of importance.
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The ego is a terrible captain of our ship, does not have the ability to know the true self, and is limited to childish behavior at times.
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The ego needs constant attention, throws outrageous tantrums and does not have the expertise to know if it’s behavior harms or helps us.
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The ego is rudderless, a meandering exercise in pleasure chasing, trying to satisfy created needs and desires.
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The ego is an ant on an elephants ass, my true self. Humor is always good.
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The self organizes around strong desires!!!!


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If alone in this boat, the ego could fade away.
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“When the feeling tone is neutral, the self tends to fade into the background.” Really!
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Our target then, is to generate more neutral feeling tones.

How? Why of course with slowing the breath and letting go of thought, emotion and desire.
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Practice letting go throughout the day. Awareness is the first step to changing habit, ego habits also.
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Look at the difference of how life looks, when viewed through our ego and then viewed with the ego in the background.
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Example, out in public, observe people through the ego, then step back, let the ego fade and observe again.
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The ego limits life’s possibilities, brings desires, needs and barriers, has to figure out if we are better or worse than others.
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The ego never feels equal, so judging or comparing if we are above or below others is a waste of life.
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Drop desires and observe life expanding, barriers falling away.
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Failure is Impossible, a mindful truth not a cognitive one!!!

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Failure is impossible while living mindfully, I profess.
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Letting the cognitive judgment, opinion and comparisons go, opens up life, opportunity, as failure or even wasted thought about failure disappears.
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When the ego subsides, words and dialogue are gone, consonants and vowels have no meaning, judgment is nonexistent.
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If we have no need to judge, to pronate ourselves for approval, to strive to be different, then the door of opportunity and living appears.
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The greatest performers, athletes and artists do not think when performing, but intuitively know in their body the way to creative genius.
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Failure does not enter their space, invade their consciousness or deter them from performing flawlessly under stress and pressure.
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They do it with focus, practice till the body intuitively knows the landscape.
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We can use mindfulness to focus and integrate trauma, heal, let go, expand, explore and live fully.
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We don’t let go into trust until we’ve exhausted our egos. _______—ROB LEHMAN

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Our cognitive, dominant ego dissects, judges, gives opinions and erects walls to hide the expansive, perfect side of us.
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The ego likes to race at high speeds, likes to handle multiple thoughts, multiple emotions no matter the consequences.
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Awareness is near impossible at high speed thought, aimlessly wandering from thought to emotional thought.
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The mind craves to go slow, to be empty of thought and emotion, to rest, to recoup, to repair, to feel the expansive happiness below the ego.
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Give your mind a brake, empty it, slow down the breath, focus, free yourself from the cognitive for a change.
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Underground, another way of describing below the ego, conscious!!


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We make such messes in this life, both accidently and on purpose. But wiping the surface clean doesn’t really make anything any neater. It just masks what is below. It’s only when you really dig down deep, go underground, that you can see who you really are.
— Sarah Dessen
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It takes being vulnerable, uncomfortable, scared and focused to heal.
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That happens with some determination and discipline plus effort.
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