Posts Tagged ‘Ego’

Building good habits: We spend very little time assessing self-worth.

  
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We spend very little time assessing self-worth.
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Entering a room with five strangers, our ego tries to determine where we fit, quickly.
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On every team their are leaders, followers and renegades.
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Our judging champion (Ego) never feels equal to another person, superior or inferior, sometimes subtlety, sometimes dramatically.
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The “Ego’s job is to separate us from others, identify us as special, unique.
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An unworthy “Ego” separates us as not good enough, damaged, not capable of being loved.
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Mindfully, all this is air without action, attention.
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A judgment is abstract, as thought without some outward action.
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We have to speak, write or act out our judgments and thoughts for them to be known.
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Without this, they resemble air, invisible mirages.
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Sit today, focus, learn to let go, claim your life back.
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20 focused minutes a day can facilitate change, big change!
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One of the goals of this blog is to help you take action, take that first step, to move forward.
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Reading is fine, taking action alters life and us.
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Let’s be like Ricky Henderson

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The greatest lead off hitter in the history of baseball and it’s all time base stealer, often spoke in third person.
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Ricky would lament, “Ricky is a first ballot hall of famer.”
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He would describe himself in third person frequently.
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I adopted this technique with my ego.
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One day someone did something that angered me, I said, you have pissed off my ego.
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Funny, it detached me from him and I laughed as that negative emotion faded.
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We create our ego, he/she is not real, a bit actor of sorts.
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It is more a possession not our core.
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We can ignore our ego, discount the many offerings, trading in thought for this present moment, empty, aware.
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The Ego’s purpose?

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“Real Love is Free”: by Jade the Mystic:
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“The self you create is to satisfy people, not you”
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The “Ego” is all about appearance, looking good to others, approval, lastly the absence of criticism and disapproval.
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We humans will expend more energy, worry endlessly about losing something, and avoid feeling guilty or ashamed at all costs.
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none of this leads to any happiness.
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Can you engage your “Ego” as a third party, an appendage, insignificant, unimportant??????????????

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Being told by an authoritative figure on a blog that I was worthless, beneath the professors brilliant mind, pissed my “Ego” off.

He was ready to engage, defeat, destroy, thinks bad thoughts, conjure up grievous harm and loss being perpetrated on “Me”.
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My choice had arrived: Do I grasp this “Ego” of mine, which is perceiving an attack and demanding a counterattack or use my mindfulness to let go.
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My focus practice allowed me to disengage my “Ego”, to let go of all that thought, all that judgment and just be, present.
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In this space, external stimuli, people own their behaviour without me needing judge or to even comment.
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I acknowledge and verbally voice this statement to myself,
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“Seems my ego is pissed at this guys actions.”
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This is a clear distinction, I am saying the “Ego” is a thing, an entity out there, at the end of my outstretched arms, an appendage, insignificant in the search for happiness.
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So, this leaves me room, a space, to be in this moment, empty.
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My self worth is untouchable except for me, internally to adjust.
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Without grasping the “Ego’s” emotions, life simplifies and begins to focus on permanent things.
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We live a little fuller life everyday.
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The “Ego” has less and less influence.
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Ricky Henderson, a first ballot hall of fame baseball player, spoke of himself in third party at times: He would say “Ricky” did this or “Ricky” did that.

Try it on for size. Treat your ego with irreverence and insignificance at every chance..
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How many thoughts, desires, needs, doubts, and worries are connected to the “Ego”?

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The “Ego” is constructed from past memories, what others think of us, how they have treated us and finally what we think about ourselves.

This image we label “I”.

Henceforth we will defend him/her, devote a lifetime chasing him/hers likes while avoiding dislikes.

Thoughts and emotions can arrive without our conscious participation. On average a thought a second, floods the mind.

Many of these are “Ego” created from desires or a reaction to feeling unequal,,better or more flawed, inadequate to another.

One unfortunate trait of the created “Ego” is he/she never feels equal to anyone or anything.

Always superior or inferior. It’s fatal flaw!

This is why we let go of the Ego” and focus on the breath.
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Freedom from attachment.
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Always a judgment, a need to change, improve or hide, avoid, or gloat from that high perch we perceive.

Real happiness does not involve our “Ego” as far as I can determine.

When the “Ego” is dominant, mindfulness fades, the chance for happiness disappears.

Most of our desire, all of our created need, springs anew from the “Ego”.

When we can let go of desire, need, thought, emotion, and crisis, the ego fades and awareness arrives.

The “Ego” is a judgment machine.

Seems his/her obsession is comparing.

Comparing everything with a jaundice eye.

If we have trauma, anxiety or depression the “Ego” is the culprit for our suffering.

An equation:

Less “Ego” plus less desire equals more happiness.

Simple math, simple breath, simple focus.
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