Posts Tagged ‘desires’

11 Sep

Updated:___Desire or Pleasure: Let’s Explore the Mechanism

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Scenario:  We arrived at a high-end luxurious buffet at a five-star restaurant.

The entrée is first; lobster, filet, chicken, pork, lasagna or something you spot.  When does the desire for your choice begin.  Feel the draw, the strength and perceived satisfaction or pleasure to be enjoyed.  Now, we move forward.

When does the desire for the entrée stop and the next desire for a certain type of side dish, begin.  Does it stop when you start to select or does it stop after the desire for your next choice begins?  Does the desire for the side dish match the desire for the entrée?  Now move on to the salad choices.

Familiarize yourself with the ebb and flow of desire.  Check out if the satisfaction meets the desire.  Does desire stop with the satisfaction of our desires at any time?

What judgements have we made of this meal to past meals, past desires, past satisfaction

20 Jul

C-PTSD:–Desires = Satisfaction = Happiness = No Way!

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George Hendrick Brietner

Let us assume that if our desires were fulfilled,  satisfaction or pleasant (happiness) feelings would follow, correct.  If not, why do we covet and exert energy to satisfy these desires.  Having more desires would then lead to more and more pleasant feelings toward happiness.

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The exact opposite is true.  My life is much calmer and joyful shedding most desires.  My breaths that I have left are not spent chasing desires, now.  I am stingy, my desires gain little traction now.

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Life frees up as we stay present without those desires to rob us of living.  Yes, rob you of life and increase your trauma symptoms.  I spent many months worrying every waking second about approval of me by others and me.

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My life is calm now, absent chasing thoughts of fulfillment instead of accepting things as they are.
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We free ourselves by surrendering to the desire for panic, fear, shame and misery not escaping!  Follow the breath and witness your panic and fear from a distance, free of the ego’s judgmental scrutiny.  Be free stay present and observe the delusion of PTSD.
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20 Jul

Mother Theresa:— Happiness in a Life of Sacrifice? __________ How?

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George Hendrick Brietner

People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered: Forgive them anyway.  If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives:  Be kind anyway.  If you are successful you will win some false friends and true enemies: Succeed anyway.  If you are honest and frank people will try to cheat you:  Be honest anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight:  Build anyway.  If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous of you:  Be happy anyway.  The good you do today, will often be forgotten by tomorrow:  Do good anyway.  Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough: Give your best anyway.  You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.  It was never between you and them anyway.” 

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How can a life filled with sacrifices, void of most personal desires have so much happiness and quality?

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Her satisfaction seems enormous without desires, why?

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Maybe it is ok to let go of some of our desires.  How do you feel about this?

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10 Jul

Collecting Desires to Free you Up:.. Less Desire, Less Loss!!!!

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Christen Kobke

 

Please hand over these two desires for a month. The first would be approval?  Our need to be complimented, treated in a certain way to satisfy our low self-image.  Low self-image limits the scope of our life, avoiding many people or situations because of fear.
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The second desire I want is  control (Judging).  Let go and accept the unknown as a friend, today.  Control brings a rigidness and narrowing of life.  We foolishly think we control much of life with delusional concepts (thoughts).
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Only two desires, approval and control will change your life if you let them go.  We accomplish this by focusing on the breath when thoughts arrive.

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An emotional thought fades in less than a minute without attention.  Less than a minute and thoughts are gone.  Dissociation, leaving this moment to think, would be greatly reduced, improving our trauma symptoms.
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23 Jun

Satisfaction:..What need that we satisfy, will bring us happiness for good!

Posted by Marty in Assorted. Tagged: , , , , , , , , .

yo-coquelin

Happiness gained for short periods of time lead to more elaborate desires.  We always want more and when more does not bring happiness, we move to our next happiness fixation.

We repeat this seeking of pleasure, combined with the avoidance of pain or unpleasantness, as a life pursuit.   Reminds me of the guy exerting all out effort climbing a ladder to access the rooftop.  He was the quickest to the top, only problem was he placed his ladder on the wrong building.

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Maybe happiness is inside us when we are here in this moment without thought or concern.  We place our ladder on buildings that have short lived satisfaction before even more desires arrive.
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Let go of desirous thought for a while and experience life with the ego not in charge for a change.

23 Jun

Desire and fulfillment? Are these needs ever Satisfied?

Posted by Marty in Assorted. Tagged: , , , , , , , .

Scenario:  We arrived at a high-end luxurious buffet at a five-star restaurant.

The entrée is first; lobster, filet, chicken, pork, lasagna or something you spot.  When does the desire for your choice begin.  Feel the draw, the strength and perceived satisfaction or pleasure to be enjoyed.  Now, we move forward.

When does the desire for the entrée stop and the next desire for a certain type of side dish, begin.  Does it stop when you start to select or does it stop after the desire for your next choice begins?  Does the desire for the side dish match the desire for the entrée?  Now move on to the salad choices.

Familiarize yourself with the ebb and flow of desire.  Check out if the satisfaction meets the desire.  Does desire stop with the satisfaction of our desires at any time?

What judgements have we made of this meal to past meals, past desires, past satisfaction

13 May

C-PTSD: .. Desire…….Satisfaction/Fulfillment…..Duration?

Posted by Marty in Assorted. Tagged: , , , , .

Let us explore desire and the fulfillment or lack of it we receive.

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We have a desire for approval and love.  This desire changes drastically for the C-PTSD person!

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The normal desire for approval has space to select friends and accept everyone will not like me.  Even with approval, our satisfaction changes and friends hurt us.  Not many ever feel satisfied with approval continually.  Have you ever felt approval and love in all situations?

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Has any desire ever been fulfilled at a certain moment and lasted the rest of life?

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Now, we trauma people have a crater where approval, love and compassion used to be.  Our desire for approval  has no bounds.  We have a hard time accepting approval, hence we discount our accolades.  We feel shame.  Our desire for approval is unquenchable because of our self-image.

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One way we fulfill desire is to avoid pain or situations where we are not approved of.  We may feel triggered around some people or situations, so our desire for approval, manifests in avoiding anything painful.  I followed this path to destruction for a while.

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After I healed, my exploration of desires let me see desires differently.  Approval changed for me.  Someones disapproval is not my concern now.  That desire has faded with many others.  I have learned to be present, empty of thought and all that desire is not needed.  Showing up to experience all of life without baggage has changed my entire personality.

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When I am present empty of thought, desires are few.

18 Dec

Loss for me: People discovering my worthlessness, I believed this was true.

Posted by Marty in Assorted. Tagged: , , , , , , , , .

Searching for approval! through validation of my performance, exhausted me.  This perceived necessity,  brought more misery into my life.

If at anytime, a sentence began with, I need this or I need to understand this, trouble and cortisol soon followed.

Does this happen to you?   The less my sentences began with I need, the more desire faded.  Simple adjustments make big shifts sometimes!

14 Dec

Desire or Pleasure: Let’s Explore the Mechanism

Posted by Marty in My Favorites. Tagged: , , , , , , , .

Scenario:  We arrived at a high-end luxurious buffet at a five-star restaurant.

The entrée is first; lobster, filet, chicken, pork, lasagna or something you spot.  When does the desire for your choice begin.  Feel the draw, the strength and perceived satisfaction or pleasure to be enjoyed.  Now, we move forward.

When does the desire for the entrée stop and the next desire for a certain type of side dish, begin.  Does it stop when you start to select or does it stop after the desire for your next choice begins?  Does the desire for the side dish match the desire for the entrée?  Now move on to the salad choices.

Familiarize yourself with the ebb and flow of desire.  Check out if the satisfaction meets the desire.  Does desire stop with the satisfaction of our desires at any time?

What judgements have we made of this meal to past meals, past desires, past satisfaction

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