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Numerous ways to say , meditate and observe, listen intently for the sound of our breath.
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Slow the nervous system with focus on the breath, becoming one with the breath movement.
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The rise of the inhale, balanced by the purging exhale, connected by similar pauses.
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Let emotions exist on their own, arriving, staying a while, then fading from consciousness.
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A great practice, enabling us to focus our attention on now.
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The soul and true self may be the same?
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Quiet the mind, practice the breathing track, daily!
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Practice, practice, practice, practice, practice,practice!!!!!!
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Posts Tagged ‘COPING’
7 May
Quiet the mind, and the soul will speak. ~Ma Jaya Sati Bhagavati!!
23 Apr
Control feels safe, a delusional numbness to life!!
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We travel through life building control of our life. We chase and sacrifice for career, money, or status to elevate and protect ourselves. We desire nicer neighborhoods, better schools, safer environments for us and our family.
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I am not saying any of this is bad, just not the control, we think we have constructed around us. Cancer or tragedy can happen anytime, anywhere. It is a fact!
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Place more emphasis on this moment, an awareness that all of life is contained in this second. Then life moves on to the next moment.
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Take more risks, reach farther out of your comfort zone, live fully, now.
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Be bold, trusting yourself, living with worry and fear in the background.
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Much is possible with daily practice and some courage.
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Change your life, expand your perimeter, search out uncomfortable and observe it. Get to know it, become familiar with it.
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19 Mar
Effects of fear and anxiety on Perception and Judgment!!
from Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation:
“Fear and anxiety affect decision making in the direction of more caution and risk aversion. Traumatized individuals pay more attention to cues of threat than other experiences, and they interpret ambitious stimuli as threatening, leading to more fear driven decisions. In people with dissociative disorder, certain parts are compelled to focus on the perception of danger. Living in trauma-time, these dissociative parts immediately perceive the present as being just “like the past” and emergency emotions such as fear, rage, or terror are immediately evoked, which compel impulsive decisions to engage in defensive behaviors (freeze, flight,flight, or collapse). When parts of you are triggered, more rational and grounded parts may be overwhelmed and unable to make effective decisions.”
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My take on this quote: Our PTSD ego (cognitive mind) interprets reality in a distorted, harmful way. This passage confirms my belief that the breathing track is needed so we do not freeze, flee, fight or collapse. Overwhelmed and unable to make effective decisions is not healing. We need to develop our focus directing our attention to now, instead of dissociating and fueling trauma. Simple if we practice everyday and with every breath.
17 Mar
We all have the same opportunity for happiness!!!!!!
Oh yes, happiness looks entirely different than what you would think. .
happiness is hidden from sight, sometimes plain sight. It surrounds us but we chase desires and cling to expectations, creating loss and resentment.
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Ever find happiness, satisfaction in hardship or do we think something is wrong when things are difficult. Hardships are just part of life, not the existence of punishment or that something is wrong.
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We try so hard to avoid part of life and chase pleasure continually.
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How would we ever know our capabilities unless hardship visited our lives. challenges and hardships are just part of life for everyone. There is nothing wrong or anything we need to escape.
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Accept whatever challenge that confronts us with our same focus and determination. happiness may be found in hardship, enduring without grasping or avoiding.
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No matter what our status, power, riches or lack of riches, we all have the same opportunity for happiness. happiness, you may discover, is contained in many different places. Hidden from plain sight, camouflaged as hardship, maybe.
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4 Feb
Observing Self Constructions: Updated,,.
Les Pensc
Speech events are a marvelous opportunities to observe the constructions of self. Notice the subtle motivations behind your speech today. When is the primary communication merely your own existence?
Sometimes what is said is not very important; what we are really saying is, “notice me, I’m here, I’m special, I am like this, I am.” It can be useful to grow sensitive to the tendency to seek respect, appreciation, confirmation, praise, or recognition. You don’t need to squelch these desires should they arise, but notice how they contribute to the development of self-formations.
Are you in a phase in your life when self-formations are valuable, or are you ready to deconstruct these processes?
You can also observe your internal dialog, ruminations, and daydreams. Make a note of moments when the thought “I am” forms. How much of your thinking is recreating and reinforcing the story of being you? What would the experience of your life be like without the burden of incessant becoming?
Enjoy the explorations of your mind.
28 Dec
Updated:—Perception and Mindfulness: Focused and Fearless; Shaila Catherine!!!
Most people perceive things through the distortion of desire, aversion, or delusion; grasping for objects with thoughts, “I like this, I don’t like this,” or grasping for self with assumptions of “I am this, I am not this.”
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It is our predisposition and assumptions that distort perception. For example, we might be basically aware that we are experiencing sadness, yet there is a difference between being able to say “I am sad” and being mindful of sadness.
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When somebody is just generally aware that they’re sad, they may be caught in the story of it. They may be judging their experience or be caught in a reaction to the experience.
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That is not mindfulness.
6 Dec
If IT Were Not This (An Old Post) updated: the human Spirit is amazing!!!
An old post and video that I watch from time to time.
This kid opens me up to reaching a little farther, risking a little more, searching a little beyond my limits. How he lives his life amazes me. Happiness exists in the strangest places is all I see. It exists in small areas where you think suffering and resentment would thrive. It thrives in everyone he touches.
15 Nov
A comment from Sed and my answer!!!
Joep Hommerson
Thanks for your reply Marty,
I think we can have an interesting conversation regarding this.
Dropping the shame…..
I still have a part that is very scared and being shutdown, hated and isolated means that no one can hurt me again and the stuck emotions stay packed away.
I challenge it, no longer bury it so I can find not necessarily what happened to me, but to allow this “shame protection” to ease off. They say that part of the brain that has these childhood emotions has no sense of time and is still stuck there.
I know this is not how I want to live, I want real love, real internal freedom and real attachment to those I care about, and I hope I can openly receive their love.
I have experienced this freedom to a certain level before, and I want more of it and want it real.
I have been dragging the anchor through the sand way to long in my life
For years I have found ways of burying this or pushing it to the side, “it” was ok as long as I did not challenge the protection that it wanted.
I have noticed that as I now challenge the thoughts that are “created to be hated” (protection) the thoughts have a sense of endangerment – As I challenge or let the fear go, another irrational fear will replace it, but often a more fearful thought to ensure this “safety” emotional shutdown?remains.
I know this part of me wants an unescapable shutdown, thinking its safer to be alone, within myself, so creates this to acheive this.
As incredibly hard and sometimes exhausting as this process is, I can not let the shame shutdown rule my life, I deserve better even though this part thinks its safer to be nothing.
When its safer to be shutdown and not being who I could be, then the process has to remain open.
Your thoughts.
Kindest regards
Sed
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it is never safer to be shut down, that is the ego’s opinion and way of controlling your thoughts and direction. You will only know by trusting, then letting go and staying present. thought and cognitive beliefs around all this are false. Not true a delusion backed by our body mechanism of defense, that is all.
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Your so called protection does not stop your life of suffering, fear, terror or misery. What are you really protecting, not what you think? All your worry brings you sadness and steals your real life. We can not see this cognitively or will you heal by thinking your way out. it will never happen..
26 Sep
Resistance and Avoidance hold secrets for Us!!!!!
Feel the tension, spasm, pain, stiffness, shivering or fear in the body. What is it we resist with our body and mind?
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Explore what we avoid and why? When we wake up, what does the landscape of the day look like? Does tension, fear or worry greet us in the morning.
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The feeling of doom is not the same as the real landscape. How can some people trust everything will work out and we worry anxiously daily?
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It is the same world we all wake up to. Is our worry and anxiety permanent? Can we be happy, at peace with us and the world. Self image seems to have so much influence on reality.
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17 Sep
Can We Explore emotions or EMOTIONS? ******************Two at Once?
Skejten Olaf Rrude
Why do we react so intensely to emotion with PTSD? It is a mind function we all share. All have felt sad, mad, depressed, fearful, anxious and hopefully calm or joyful.
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Then, maybe it is our relationship with emotions that makes us very different. Depends on what emotions we grab or chase after. Chasing after pleasure seems beneficial in the short term, does it not? Why then does sacrifice and action contain so much satisfaction and joy.
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I can see most people chase or desire things that hold no happiness. Thinking only of ourselves seems beneficial in the short term. Is it really? Mother Theresa sure has joy and calm, a sense of letting her actions be her thought.
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Actions always trump emotions or thought. How quickly can you let an emotion fade? Explore what influence we have directing our attention. Get the breathing track model and explore emotions during the day.
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