Posts Tagged ‘C-PTSD’

Perfection or not

  
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“Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect.
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it means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.”
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– Unknown –
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It means we have stopped judging, narrating life.
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It means we trade thought for being present, for periods of time during the day.
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Happiness has nothing to do with being perfect, flawless or powerful.
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Underneath all those judgments, exists the real you, our inner guide, our spirit, our soul.
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Empty the mind and introduce yourself.
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Updated: This is What we Hook up to, When we practice the Breathing Track or Mindfulness or Meditation!

The differences between the left and right hemispheres of the brain are vast.  Thoughts come from the left, computer like hemisphere, along with judgments, worry, guilt and shame.

Words and numbers are seen as pixels by the right side and no judgment, worry, guilt or shame exist.  They would be pixels anyway.

When we ride our Breathing Track, we hook up to the right side.  Our emotional regulation center also resides here. Some call it emptiness or without thought.

Jill Bolte Taylor is a neuroanatomist who suffered a stroke that gave her a much deeper understanding of her field of study.  Her left hemisphere shut down and she became the only human to ever be total right side functioning.  Here is how perfect and huge the right side holds for us.

Delusional,,,,Created, ,“Fear”, , “Fear” , , “Fear”

  
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Brighton had to decide if he was afraid.
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Can we focus on the fear we create, bringing awareness to this space?
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Delusional Fear is born with thought, perception?
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We grasp one of the 60,000 thoughts passing through our consciousness daily.
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Next we absorb, then amplify the emotional content connected to this thought.
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When my PTSD was thriving, a trigger thought would explode, cortisol and adrenaline surged into my bloodstream, respiration, blood pressure and heart rate intensified.
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My body was preparing for lethal threat, the mechanism for fear was firing like it was in real battle, unfortunately.
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This is real delusional fear with real chemicals being secreted violently.
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It is a mirage without consequence.
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That is, nothing happens but the firing of the mechanism, disorderly at that, as in mental disorder, PTSD.
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Trauma has access to the switch, the fight of flight mechanism, that is all.
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No real danger exists and nothing will happen if we ignore this false warning.
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These trauma thoughts just need integrating.
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That is, integrated to present moment.
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Using mindfulness to focus, brings awareness to this moment. This allows us to accept, let go without reacting to these thoughts.
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If we become friends with our nervous system, life will calm.
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Some of what I speak has to be experienced, lived, not read about.
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Not being special, acceptance practice no less!

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From Buddhas Brain;
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“Believing that you need to be special in order to deserve love and support sets a really high bar that takes much effort and strain to clear—day after day after day.
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And it sets you up for self-criticism and feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness if you don’t get the recognition you crave.
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Instead, try wishing yourself well in these ways:
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May I be loved without being special.
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May I contribute without being special.
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Consider renouncing specialness—including being important and admired.
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Renunciation is the antithesis of clinging, and thus a radical path to happiness.
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Say phrases like these in your mind, and notice what they feel like: I give up being important. I renounce seeking approval.
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Feel the peace in this surrender.
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Love the person you are, much as you would care about any person dear to you.
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But don’t love the self or any other mere mind-object.”
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Mindset while Meditating, practicing Mindfulness

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There is no right or wrong, no good or bad, no judgment, no words, no dialogue, no goals where we are traveling (Right hemisphere of the brain).
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Healing, insight and happiness arrive intuitively, organically not cognitively.
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When we sit, we are taking time to nourish our being, soothe our nerve endings and cherish this present moment.
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There is no other place on this planet we should be right now, we are exactly were we need to be for the next 30 minutes.
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There is nothing we can attain, possess or covet in the future that contains happiness.
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Happiness and healing are internal entities , not shallow external desires of approval, power, position, title or status.
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Happiness is always found in this moment.
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Seldom does happiness appear from cognition or thought.
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The “Ego” is too flawed, to judgmental to enjoy happiness.
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He/She is never equal to another and thus is ill equipped to let go of his/her internal bias.
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Negative self talk: do no harm!

  
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Edward Bourne PhD. Anxiety specialist: “It is so automatic and subtle you don’t notice it or the effect it has on your moods and feelings. It appears in telegraphic form- one short word or image (”Oh no!) contains a whole series of thoughts, memories, or associations. cAnxious self-talk is typically irrational but almost always sounds like the truth.
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Do no harm means never saying or entertaining a negative, harmful thought about us.
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Our self talk can be compared to a resume.
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We do not highlight our flaws when we compose a resume.
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Life should be lived the same way.
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From the Book: Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation:

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Felice Beato.
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“People with complex dissociative disorder were often confronted as children with situations that evoke extreme and overwhelming emotions.
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Generally younger children learn from their caregivers how to understand and regulate emotions.
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People with dissociative disorder often grew up in families in which it was not acceptable to show or discuss certain emotions.
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In some cases it was actually dangerous to express feelings, resulting in punishment, ridicule or complete disregard.
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Parents or caregivers of people with complex dissociative disorder typically had a problem with emotions themselves and were thus unable to teach children adaptive and healthy skills to deal with emotions.
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These children learn to avoid or disregard their own feelings.
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They also have difficulty reflecting, that is, accurate reading other people’s emotions and intentions in the present, generally assuming something negative rather than positive.”
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