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A viewers journey with “Anger”,,, control or lack of control or delusion of control

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Let us debunk some judgments first. We do not control anything but where we place our attention and our attitude.

From that space, it would seem simple, basic, to change where we place our attention. Placing attention on irrational fear, which usually precedes anger, gives it power.

Jim, practicing focus on the breath, letting go of thought will prepare you for your next visit from anger.

When you can build focus skills to the point where you can let go of the storyline and feel your body sensations, healing will be quick.

When anger arrives, step back, breathe, let go, get to know your body mechanisms and emotions. They are harmless when they become friends.

Here is another tool which may work. Set up a kitty for donations.

Everytime you lose your temper, ante up. Make it so it impacts you financially. Maybe it is a $1, $5, $20. Later, donate this in person to a needy soul.

Money, financial loss may speed awareness.

Example: Someone or something has crossed our path, cut us off, remarked not appropriately, anger arises. Emotionally blood pressure, respiration and heart rate have spiked, tunnel vision, loss of fine motor skills and mental confusion follow.

A choice appears.

We grasp, become angry, maybe enraged or we step back, use the space we have developed and come back to the breath, now.

It seems benign, powerless, simple but the greatest Samurai ever to walk this planet used it.

Someone who killed 62 competitively thought anger a crutch.

Bias brings the ego, thought, and confusion.

In battle, anger never played a part.

Please examine how your anger is used and how a Samurai in lethal danger uses none.

Why is yours needed if not in lethal threat?

Sit quietly, focus, let go, empty the mind, prepare for irrational anger, surrender to it.
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Anger and control:::…A plea from a viewer: desperation makes action much easier, movement is finally an easy choice over status quo! .. A two part response.

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“Dear God,I can’t seem to control my anger.”
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Let me share these ideas about anger and emotions.

Then, let us take some small actions to change the mind, daily, repetitively, almost devoutly.

The answer, the solution, the healing and happiness are far more simplistic than you can imagine.
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Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation:

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“One of the most difficult aspects about anger is how intense and overwhelming it can feel; a lot of energy is generated in the body, and the physical sensations of anger are very powerful. After all, anger is an inborn tendency designed to support us in threatening situations. Some people believe their anger gives them a sense of strength and makes them feel good; they are afraid if their anger is “taken away,” they will lose their power and energy.
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Of course, it may well give them strength for the moment, but there are many other ways to find energy and a sense of being in control of oneself while still being appropriately angry at the right times.
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Many traumatized individuals feel ashamed of their anger, because they believe anger is “bad,” or they believe they will be punished and rejected if they express or even feel anger, or because they fear being angry makes them “just like” the people who hurt them. They fear losing control, yet their anger remains intense and easily provoked.
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Like many intense negative emotions, anger is often disowned and held in various parts of the personality, so that other parts need not experience it but will react in other ways instead.”
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It is essential to remember that anger is an emotion that guides behavior, not behavior in itself. Anger as a feeling is not dangerous or bad; it is an inevitable part of life. It is how you cope with anger that makes it adaptive or not.”
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Sit quietly, let go, let the mind empty, self conquest looks like this.

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“Though one

should conquer

a thousand times

a thousand men

in battle,

he who

conquers

his own self,

is the

greatest

of all

conquerers.
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Self-conquest

is,

indeed,

far greater

than the

conquest

of all

other folks.”
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Dhammapada v. 103, 104
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The slogan read, “Riding the waves of life, be mindful, be happy.”

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Ani Tenzin Palmo:
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While I was in Malaysia, I saw a T-shirt depicting a surfboard aloft huge waves. Sitting on the surfboard was a figure meditating cross-legged.

The slogan read, “Riding the waves of life, be mindful, be happy.”

That’s it. Awareness. Being present.

Knowing thoughts as thoughts, emotions as emotions.

It’s just like riding a surfboard.

You gradually develop the poise to cruise along on the roughest seas until, no longer immersed in the waves, you are riding on top of them.

Of course you have to start with small waves until you get your balance. Then the higher the wave, the better!

Likewise, when we begin to train in awareness, it is better if we have an atmosphere which is nonthreatening and peaceful.

That’s why people go on retreat. That’s also a reason why people set aside regular sitting periods.

But once we learn how to be balanced, we become like a surfer who finds that the bigger the wave, the greater the fun.
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From the 45 most inspiring quotes on “Change”!!

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Final words:
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“You’re braver

than you

believe,

and stronger

than you

seem,

and smarter

than you

think.”

–A.A. Milne

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“You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”

-Eleanor Roosevelt -
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“Never,

never,

never,

never

give up.”

–Winston Churchill
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“Courage

doesn’t

always

roar.

Sometimes

courage

is the

little voice

at the end

of the day

that says

I’ll try

again

tomorrow.”
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-Mary Anne Radmacher
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“20 years

from now

you will

be disappointed

by the things

you didn’t do

than by the

one’s you did.

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So

throw off

the bowlines.

Sail away

from the

safe harbor.

Catch the

trade winds

in your

sails.

Explore.

Dream.

Discover.”

-Mark Twain -
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“One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it’s worth watching.”

–Unknown -
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“Nothing diminishes anxiety faster than action.” -Walter Anderson -

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Aerobic exercise to exhaustion does more that that.

Insert PTSD as our antagonist, our opponent, the one who is trying to stop our legs from moving, and we have emotional invigoration, a runners high type of freedom.

Aerobic exercise depletes cortisol and adrenaline, flushes toxins from the body, lubricates our organs and joints, then brings accomplishment to both the body and mind.

Balance and perspective make the difference.

Our mind and body are one, we separate them.

They are connected, interconnected and inseparable.

Cognitively, we install a shadow, an imaginary identity figure we created, the “ego” as commander of our being at times.

Awareness, then letting go, will allow this delusion to fade harmlessly away.
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The “Ego” changes during a spiritual journey!

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The “Ego” shrinks when we bring awareness and acceptance into daily existence.

He is given less responsibility, less time in the captains chair, and much less importance in our daily life.

The “Ego” is created for identity, to separate us, to help us distinguish us from another.

The “Ego” was not created to be our general, our leader.

He/she is incapable of knowing what is harmful or helpful to our being. He/she only covets the ability to direct our being, period.

The “Ego” will chase desire and covet every need that comes around.

This will lead to suffering, loss and resentment.

Let go, let the ego recede from consciousness, let judgment fade, let thought dissipate, let the mind empty.

Some decisions by the “Ego” harm us.

When I avoided, dissociated, ran away every time a trigger fired, my “Ego” made PTSD stronger.

I followed my “Ego” until agoraphobia locked me in my garage for six months.

I stopped following him one day and started to heal, let go, be free.
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