“Specific parts of you personality may be angry and are usually easily evoked. because these parts are dissociated, anger remains an emotion that is not integrated for you as a whole person. Even though individuals with dissociative disorder are responsible for their behavior, just like everyone else, regardless of which part may be acting, they may feel little control of these raging parts of themselves.
Some dissociative parts may avoid or even be phobic of anger. They may influence you as a whole person to avoid conflict with others at any cost or to avoid setting healthy boundaries out of fear of someone else’s anger; or they may urge you to withdraw from others almost completely.
Parts of you are phobic of anger and generally terrified and ashamed of angry dissociative parts. There is often tremendous conflict between anger-avoidant and anger-fixated parts of an individual. Thus, an internal and perpetual cycle of rage-shame-fear creates inner chaos and pain.
You as a whole person are thus unable to reconcile conflicts about anger and learn to tolerate and express anger in healthy ways. Inner turmoil and dissociation are maintained.”
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Anger is a choice!!!!! Anger is an emotion not ones character. An emotion is a grain of sand in the vastness of the mind. Anger is such a waste of a great mind like ours.
Does anger make us stronger? Does holding anger for long periods help us?
We can grasp anger easily and express it as a way of living. The ego can be slanted toward anger, resentment or blame easily. The consequences are devastating for trauma sufferers.
Try letting go of anger with acceptance, yes, acceptance!!!!!!!!
Try surrendering to what angers you. Practice with the breathing track daily and get some relief.
Anger as a Substitute for other emotions:
Anger can sometimes be a substitute for other emotions that are hard to tolerate. For example, it is not uncommon for people to express anger when they feel ashamed or afraid.
They may strike out at others, or toward them selves, or even both. various dissociative parts may strike out at each other. Anger also inhibits grief: Sometimes it is important to finally grieve over what you have lost and cannot have, rather than continue to be angry that you do not have it.
Grieving is an important way of coming to terms with the reality of what is and then being able to move on. Anger can keep people stuck, unable to find other ways to get what they need.
When anger is a cover for other emotions, an important part of anger resolution will be to accept and resolve those emotions.
Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation:
“One of the most difficult aspects about anger is how intense and overwhelming it can feel; a lot of energy is generated in the body, and the physical sensations of anger are very powerful. After all, anger is an inborn tendency designed to support us in threatening situations. Some people believe their anger gives them a sense of strength and makes them feel good; they are afraid if their anger is “taken away,” they will lose their power and energy.
Of course, it may well give them strength for the moment, but there are many other ways to find energy and a sense of being in control of oneself while still being appropriately angry at the right times.
Many traumatized individuals feel ashamed of their anger, because they believe anger is “bad,” or they believe they will be punished and rejected if they express or even feel anger, or because they fear being angry makes them “just like” the people who hurt them. They fear losing control, yet their anger remains intense and easily provoked.
Like many intense negative emotions, anger is often disowned and held in various parts of the personality, so that other parts need not experience it but will react in other ways instead.”
It is essential to remember that anger is an emotion that guides behavior, not behavior in itself. Anger as a feeling is not dangerous or bad; it is an inevitable part of life. It is how you cope with anger that makes it adaptive or not.”
We lose if we engage these thoughts, fueling our PTSD, for as long as we stew on this mess. Anger and resentment rob our healing space and sometimes we harm our recovery with this dissociative behavior.
What is an alternative approach? When a family member or someone calls us a name, step back and jump on the breathing track to gain time and space. Realize, we have no control over some things and engaging in this dialogue fuels PTSD.
In time, learn to let others own their own words and behavior without our involvement. We give power to the people who call us names by spending time and energy thinking about them and the name. It is a lose, lose, lose proposition for PTSD.
To heal we must let this stuff go for a couple of months and refuse to be angry, mad, resentful or crazy. A mind heals best not angry.
Posted in Behavioral Health News:
Two particular symptoms related to hyperarousal—anger and aggressiveness—do not occur among all diagnoses of PTSD. The study, led by Eric Elbogen, Ph.D. and his team of researchers from UNC School of Medicine and the VA office, found that specific PTSD symptoms were consistently connected to anger or aggression, while other symptoms did not demonstrate a direct correlation. After interviewing 676 veterans, Elbogen and his team discovered that those who experienced flashbacks and nightmares of their trauma and avoidance issues did not always exhibit anger and aggression.
However, those who experienced hyperarousal symptoms such as irritability, difficulty concentrating, sleep deprivation, being easily startled, and high tension (feeling “on edge” or “on guard”) demonstrated a connection to post-service anger and hostility. The researchers found that those veterans who reported difficulty with anger and aggression were more likely to currently be experiencing hyperarousal symptoms, to have been deployed for more than one year, to have fired a weapon during their service, and to have undergone family violence prior to their service.
With the recent announcement that American troops will be withdrawing from war, there is going to be much need for help and support. From the article Rules of Engagement at the Psychotherapy Network:
Many coalition troops in Afghanistan and Iraq have spent five years alternating between trying to kill and trying not to be killed. Think back to what you were doing five years ago, and what you’ve done since then. Now imagine spending every one of those 2,629,800 minutes wondering whether it was going to be your last.
Later on in the article, what is to be expected from the troops returning is explained:
Expect angry reactions. Intense anger is a predictable side effect of having been “down range.” It’s often the reason combat veterans seek care. There are two key reasons for this. First, of the three self-preserving responses hardwired into the human brain (fight, flight, freeze), combat training is all about habituating “fight” as the automatic response to any threat, and eliminating the “flight” and “freeze” responses. Once that’s ingrained, every perceived threat, regardless of context, is likely to be met with the anger that encourages the fight response—which can create a host of problems in civilian life.
This is a choice, not good or bad, however anger brings consequences into our mental health. Anger that is not directed at a physical and immediate threat to our safety may be frivolous or even harmful to our ability to be happy. It may be uncalled for and not needed at all.
Anger does not have a container that fills up during the day needing to be expressed for relief. It does not overflow or build up, needing expression for us to be happy. This is all delusion and disassociation.
If you just come to now, here, present, anger will not follow you.
Remember we have one with a million zeroes of opportunity to pick from every minute. Pick calm and peace over anger and rage if you want to be free and at peace. My anger is left alone now and dies a neglected death, fading away past my happiness that is growing.
Happiness and anger may not coexist in consciousness very well with happiness and peace.. What do you think? My life has dropped anger now replacing it with compassion and peace. Join me Please, plenty of room in here for all.
It is common for someone with (or in recovery from) post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) to experience anger. In fact, because the experience of anger is so common among people with PTSD, it is actually considered one of the hyperarousal symptoms of PTSD. Although anger can often lead to unhealthy behaviors (for example, substance use or impulsive behavior), the experience of anger in and of itself is not a bad thing. It is a valid emotional experience that can provide you with important information.
The experience of a traumatic event can make you feel violated or constantly unsafe. It may also make you feel as though you have little control over your life. In addition, the symptoms of PTSD can give you the sense that danger is all around and there is no escape. The extreme fluctuations of internal experience among people with PTSD (for example, constantly fluctuating between emotional numbing and intense anxiety) may also make you experience your inner life as chaotic and out of control. Considering these symptoms, it seems completely understandable that you may experience anger, as your body is attempting to communicate to you that things feel out of our control.
We have anger management to navigate our PTSD symptoms. Why not create a happiness management program also.
If you heal maybe you will have to control how much happiness you can handle in a days time. It is a thought just as powerful as I will never heal, it is hopeless or I need special treatment.
Attitude and action are needed to improve. We need to move, exercise, try harder to improve our condition. It takes daily practice without measurable improvement noticed for a period of time. It takes practice on so-called bad days as well as good days. It takes practice no matter how you judge today.