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A trigger explodes! ….. What do I do?……one road map, anyway!!!!!

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Awareness……
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Reality (what is it?) (what is happening?). Be aware!
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A trigger, panic attack, anxiety, fear mechanism, (”adrenal stress response”) is firing. Know this!!!! know there is no real danger, it is the past, an implicit memory.
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The dissociation (Leaving this moment) stop it!
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Step back (breathe)
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Inhale a four count through the nose.
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Exhale an eight count through pursed lips (repeat five cycles)
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This activates our parasympathetic nervous system dramatically.
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Focus on the breath along with something in your immediate vision (prepare to draw in detail what your looking at, focus, like your life depended on it, bring some intensity, discipline to this space.)
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Accept, yes, this is where we heal or do something else! No avoiding.
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Accept, do not try to escape, let go of the storyline, this is the exact place on earth we need to be, right now,
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Let go (thoughts will fade unless grasped, take your breath to the body sensations, relax, accept)
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Let the storyline go
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Now use your mindfulness skills
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Inhale,,,pause….exhale…pause..
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Focus, focus, focus,,,,, (simple coal into diamond quality awareness)
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The power of our focus determines healing and happiness.
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Apply the Breathing track
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Integration in progress
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Of course, we need to practice diligently when things are calmer to prepare for this explosion.
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This is how we develop that power of focus.
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Chronic pain: rewritten as a resource for the top of blog page…

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things i never heard from my pain specialists.. doctors and pain psychologists/// Why????
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chronic pain differs from acute pain; that unlike acute pain, chronic pain doesn’t represent harm.
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Pain has to go through the mind: the anterior cingulate cortex, which registers pain’s unpleasant character.”
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simply becoming mindful of one’s emotional response to pain decreases its unpleasantness and improves functioning, and because meditation had been shown to reduce the unpleasantness of acute pain by almost 60 percent (making meditation by some measures superior even to morphine)
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Research shows, for example, that how we interpret the meaning of pain has a dramatic impact on our ability to tolerate it.
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No one ever told me, throwing away my opioids, undertaking intense aerobic exercise till exhaustion would transform my pain.
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No one informed me that any attention I gave my pain would increase it.
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No one ever imagined pain could be impacted, diminished, changed, and altered for me.
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After the operations, nerve killings and meds, after the doctors handed my body back over to me, I was left with enough pain to ruin my existence.
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My pain has changed from dominating my life with suffering to an annoyance (I do not suffer now).
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Bringing my pain out to play while exercising, altered my relationship with it. Now I know that this change happened in the anterior cingulate cortex area of the brain.
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Aerobic exercise, meditation and attitude can devour a big portion of your suffering/
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I embrace every minuscule particle of my childhood without resistance!!!

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My shame, my unworthiness have faded, that feeling of never being good enough, left the building along with Elvis in that Cadillac.
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Consequence, no need to run, no need to alter, no need to feel guilty anymore.
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Please find unworthy in me, now?
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Please point out unworthy so I can sit with it?
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Oh, you can find a plethora of flaws, imperfections, outrageous thoughts and emotions, but unworthy, better pack a lunch, it may take a while.
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Acceptance releases our self worth, it has always been right there, imprisoned by thought, judgment, fear and doubt.
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Accept, let go, release that crap, your chalice of self worth will overflow again.
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Takes action, sit today.
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I lived as an introvert for almost six decades. … … . My father was a brutal narcissist, I say that without anger or emotion now, matter of fact, really.

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My father spoke to me through the vehicle of criticism, it was his way of motivating, his way of controlling, his way to demean me, to elevate his pure narcissistic ego.
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Life had not recognized, honored my old man, even remotely enough to satisfy his needs, so he stole my life, my childhood and raised a machine, an athletic machine, an instrument to let his brilliance shine.
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Oh, now, I let him own his life, let him answer for his behavior, forgiveness, well, I am responsible for my life and this next breath, that works for me.
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My point, the low self worth, self image child who emerged from that abuse lived as an introvert until recently.
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Within the last three or four years, this extrovert slowly emerged.
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Now, I am a full blown extrovert, as my therapist described me, you have a motor, an engine, embrace it, it is uniquely you.
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Wow, acceptance, approval and passion have arrived from sitting quietly with focus combined with letting go.
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A completely different person, the real you hides inside the facade of trauma.
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Your goal is to shed the crap, accept yourself, forgive yourself and just live this breath, simple.
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As Clint Eastwood said in Dirty Harry,,,, a man must know his limitations, thus man must know the limitations of an emotion!

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EKMAN: The third defining characteristic is the most controversial, and that is our typical lack of awareness about emotion.
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Consciousness does not play much of a role in emotion.
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That is regrettable. We have to work hard to become conscious of the fact that we are getting emotional.
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Much of the time, we first learn that we are emotional when someone else tells us, “You’re being emotional.”
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My take:
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So mindfulness explores emotions, innately lets us sense their transient, impermanent nature.
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The peace of mind we desire, that calm knowing, that true, real happiness (joy) should not be mistaken for an emotion.
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A response from Sufilight: .. .. . . .. . . . . . . . . a regular viewer, contributor, journeying toward happiness and healing….

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Marty, It’s interesting… when I read the quote, I had no problem repeating it and thinking I believe it for myself…. that is until I read your comments about disbelief.
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My heart was aching because in all honesty, deep down I don’t believe it for myself. Wow… it’s an eye opener.
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Thank for this post even if it shook me up.”

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Sufilight, awareness has brought opportunity to your doorstep, please do not despair.
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Without the emotional discovery of feeling sad, shook up, because we thought we were farther along the journey of healing, of happy, of peace of mind, healing would not be possible.
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You have to reach this awareness, sometimes being startled so change can happen, so we can deepen and grow.
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The issue “I am larger better than I thought, I did not know I held this much goodness” is not in doubt, only your critical judgment of yourself clouds the issue.
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I have interacted with you, watched your passion to heal, developed over some time and can share with you, that this quote does not approach the goodness I see in your soul, being.
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It is their I see it, the trick is to let go of all that crap, developing goodness is not needed, your chalice overflows, you will see with daily effort.
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Namaste, Sufilight, good healing..
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This blogs purpose is to give daily support for those applying mindfulness, exerting effort to heal, and you are a perfect example of that.
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You validate my blog has worth, thank you.
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I love this, have grown to believe this with all,my,soul: …. …….. …… ………Updated:——Walt Whittman: Maybe he meant this for us

Painting by Françoise Nelly


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Recite this 1000 times everyday!

-It is true of all of us. `How does that sit with your ego? -Disbelief, I will wager.

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