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Updated:—In this moment, forgiveness is easier, living is simpler and happiness is abundant!!!!!!!!!!!


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Whatever is in our past is long over and dead unless we visit.
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In this moment, life can be so busy, so filled with opportunity, trauma from the past fades.
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In this moment, worry, doubt, resentment, anger, fear and shame wither and die.
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In this moment our abilities multiply as the ego recedes along with its many walls, restrictions and childishness.
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In this moment, the real us can come forward and offer things thought impossible with the ego present.
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In this moment happiness is abundant, right in front of us constantly.
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In this moment, giving to others carries much happiness and freedom for our soul.
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in this moment, life can burst alive, vivid, exciting and joyous.
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in this moment we can surrender to our fear, trauma or ego.
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Sometimes we need to look at little deeper to see the beauty!!!!

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My opinion: Happiness, beauty, does not seem to live on the surface of normal life.
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Life brings stress, pressure, challenges, lows, highs, and disappointment, which camouflages happiness, clouds the view of the present moment.
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It takes letting go of all the crap to be able to spot where happiness is hiding.
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Letting go allows us to be here, in this present moment, entirely.
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Grasp, hold on to emotional thought, trauma memories, judgments and suffer, feel loss, then you will be without happy moments.
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I believe you can live in kind of a hybrid ego state, having the ability to be present as “I” and still retaining the skill to let go, not judge but exist.
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This kind of transition can be accomplished with much less time and effort than most think of a meditating journey.
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Learn from my mistakes, I tried to think my way out and ended up agoraphobic, scared out of my mind……..


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Healing is near impossible in that space.
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Give up thinking your way out, please.
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Accept without judgment, right here, right now, exactly as it is.
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No improvement, accomplishment, title, power, money or status in the future will change a damn thing, really.
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Knowledge, intelligence maybe even wisdom, do not lead to mental well-being, living fully or knowing where happiness resides.
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It takes courage to let go and observe fear, anger, trauma and abuse, then not react.
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I found out, PTSD fear was delusional, memory based, fueled by fight or flight drugs, released mistakenly by the amygdala.
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These fears are transparent, held in the amygdala, they can be integrated to present moment with focus and an empty mind.
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How will you ever know, if you do not focus and let go once and observe, the healing power contained in this simple practice.
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The mind craves to be empty, focused on the breath, present, listening intently.
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Give your mind a break, it is over worked, tired, over stimulated.
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There is no Fix, you are perfect already!!!!!!

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Letting go of the idea that some experience, some arduous task we can overcome, will change everything, awakening to complete happiness does not exist.
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No career, title, car, house, mate, security or praise will bring true happiness.
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Life is a journey, not a goal, we are not a noun, “I” but more of a verb, to be.
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To be or not to be is the same, both judgments, impermanent, distractions away from real life.
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Sit quietly, peer inward as thoughts clear, know thy self first, to find happiness!
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Happiness does not come from having much, but from being attached to little.—Venerable Cheng Yen!!!


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So many scholars, monks, wise men have repeated the same ideas of living the good life, or maybe living fully.
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Being attached to little means no judgment, ownership, grasping with thought, or large ego.
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It seems to me the less ego we display, the more humility, empathy, compassion and happiness becomes available; people are far more accessible.
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As with listening intently, giving up thinking what to respond, definitely clears a space for deeper listening, deeper friendship, deeper understanding, deeper life and living.
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We have two ears, listen twice as much, use the space built from meditating to not react to distractions.
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We are just training the mind to empty and be at peace, totally present, here and now.
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Awareness of the Whole Self —–Linda Graham, a neuroscientist describes self! no self sort of!!!!!!


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We learned in chapter 3 to develop the awareness that all emotions and sensations of the body are transient, as are all contents, processes, states, and traits of mental activity.
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Awareness — the state of mind that observes all of that coming and going as coming and going — is itself not coming and going.
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Our awareness of that greater awareness may come and go; most of us lose awareness of awareness in our busy daily lives.
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But the awareness itself is ever present, always ready to be rediscovered any time we choose to focus our attention.
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When we find the space between the stimulus and the response, we alter the rhythm of our doing; we wake up and create space for being.
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Awareness is the knowing, not the contents that are known.
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We can experience it as a vast sky that can hold all the clouds and storms moving through it.
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We usually pay more attention to the contents of clouds and storms than to the sky that contains them.
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As the Zen teaching tells us, when we are in a contracted state of mind, it’s like looking at the sky through a pipe.
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With mindfulness of awareness, we become adept at putting down the pipe and looking at the whole sky again.
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Unbelievable, Each sentence is amazing to me!
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Let us explore Desire, when does it start, ebb and flow?

Scenario:  We arrived at a high-end luxurious buffet at a five-star restaurant.

The entrée is first; lobster, filet, chicken, pork, lasagna or something you spot.  When does the desire for your choice begin.  Feel the draw, the strength and perceived satisfaction or pleasure to be enjoyed.  Now, we move forward.

When does the desire for the entrée stop and the next desire for a certain type of side dish, begin.  Does it stop when you start to select or does it stop after the desire for your next choice begins?  Does the desire for the side dish match the desire for the entrée?  Now move on to the salad choices.

Familiarize yourself with the ebb and flow of desire.  Check out if the satisfaction meets the desire.  Does desire stop with the satisfaction of our desires at any time?

What judgements have we made of this meal to past meals, past desires, past satisfaction.

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The Breathing Track: Secrets I think? –Updated!!!! Comments

Alex hogs the show.  We have both been working everyday, amazed at where this is taking us.  Alex, at 70 has changed drastically.  He was a perfectionist, rigid, clinging to thinking and fighting to be able to control life.

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He used to worry, thinking about all the ways to please others, so many obligations, no time left for him.  Searching for the self-worth, that a child has hidden away from his constant search, he was lost.  Now, he has gained flexibility, a curiosity for the unknown and the focus to let go.

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Practice, so you can let go too.

Healing is a solitary journey, not a lonely one??????

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Yes, we can have support, a therapist, maybe a med to calm the nervous system a little, family, or friends, even strangers but healing was a solitary journey for me.
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Sitting by myself for four hours a day, meditating, healed and integrated my trauma.
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My inner world became familiar, the adrenal stress response, the fight, flight or freeze mechanism was just that, a body mechanism.
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After much effort, the true me became apparent, intuitively, nothing ever revealed itself through words or sentences, but by unquestionable feelings, strong truths about connections to all and complete worthiness, as everyone has.
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Somehow during my journey, I found my true self was perfect, opportunity and purpose were revealed when thought and distractions had faded.
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The other side, below the ego is expansive, perfect and the same everyday, every year, every life and holds the key for living.
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That key is to exert all effort to be here, present for life, all of it to be revealed now, then on to the next moment without the baggage of emotional judgments.
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Through all the complex therapies, all the hard work, a simplicity of life emerged, a goal of working to accept and surrender to my fears, worries and unworthiness each moment happened.
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Now, my former existence seems foggy as to what purpose I lived my life, more avoiding uncomfortable, dangerous, or anxious places and people than living.
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How about you, is your purpose to complex?
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Does it contain effort to heal everyday, action effort I mean, not reading or discussing, healing?
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Happiness could not be closer!!!!!!

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Happiness is right there, in front of every one of us, hidden from cognitive perception.
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It is available to every one of us, right now.
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If we hold fear, sadness, doubt, worry, anger or resentment, happiness disappears for a while!.
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Happiness is nearer the mundane rather than celebration, nearer giving, nearer this moment, nearer kindness, nearer sacrifice and nearer a steady mind.
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Happiness is simple, not complex, enduring not fleeting.
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Happiness seems closer to nature, closer to a clear, thoughtless mind.
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