Anneli Wiberg
The painting is done by Anneli herself.
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Surrender to the thoughts, stop fighting, let go. Control is a fallacy we entertain and practice cognitively.
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We believe if we control our behavior, places and people we frequent, then triggers will disappear. How do we control?
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We judge things, people and situations instead of letting these things go. Control feeds avoidance behavior! The ego convinces us that avoiding triggers and life will shield us from suffering or PTSD.
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The opposite is true, in fact. I fought till agoraphobia and fear isolated me inside my house. All my effort to control my thoughts, my behavior and my world made everything worse. *
In the end, I learned to surrender to my thoughts and fear. Healing followed slowly after daily practice. Simple, specific, daily practice on the breathing track improves our mental wellbeing dramatically.
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Posted by Marty on June 24, 2012 at 6:20 pm
Most therapies and solutions for healing are complex, cumbersome and abstract in application. There does not seem to be a path to apply our therapy with any precision against trauma.
I practiced mindfulness without knowing when to apply it or how. it was abstract counting the breaths day after day with thoughts filling my consciousness constantly. Yes improvement was happening but it was not clear exactly what was working or how.
that is why I worked to simplify and make healing specific, simple and concrete, by eliminating any doubt or thinking.
This eliminates control or thought. Then I learned exactly where and how to apply the breathing tack (mindfulness/meditation) when our triggers explode.
Now healing was simple, direct and doable for all. You could heal without reading a book on trauma or understanding the mind mechanism behind it.
practicing daily for short periods can change your life, really.
Posted by fikadax on June 25, 2012 at 4:44 pm
Dear Marty, incredibly how you could read and feedback to the pic as you know my pain and strategies exactly as you were me!!! Wonderful to read when I also find my healing through your almost first words to me – could you be without thoughts for three months? Yes, to day I know that thoughts are – not mine – but I know what “thoughts” are doing to me when I will try to control them. The more focus, energy I give them, the more they hurt me, make me feel nothing and worthless, isolated and trapped. It has been a very hard time, a time then old strategies had come up to the light – my whole world crashed when Janne left his body. Now I know and feel much safer recognizing how I can choose between reaction and taking action (a word you use a lot). The more I have been in contact with my body (breathing, yoga, meditation, massage and so on) the more I can feel and understand about the forces of healing. Thoughts or cognition had so little with me to do just know, as soon as I feel so angry that I am ready to kill. I also focus the situation through my area of heart and the situation will be know both through my heart and brain, how do I actually feel in this situation, not able to compare with others before in my life. I also focus my area around my stomach and then I reach my self, my inner love and calm, this part of the body connects earth and heaven. The deep inside my self makes me safe and untouchable, whole and involved in a huge network of intuition. I don`t need to control just be hear and now.
Marty, there are now words telling how important your prayers, concerns of me are. I imagine you as a very strong spirit in my life (energy) giving me focus, strength to identify how I control my self and them make it possible to let go the control of my self … then I can find my true self …
Anneli
Posted by Marty on June 26, 2012 at 12:42 am
For the new viewers Anneli was the first to take my challenge and let go,of thoughts for three months. We do not speak the same language and we still developed this bond. it is strange but we have shared a common journey and connected.
Anneli, Thank you for the kind words. Kaitylotts said this one response,is,worth a whole years blogging. I am in total agreement.
Anneli the gift, the receiver and the giver, me, share equally in this event. Your sharing with me brings as much joy as you experience brings to you.
Loving kindness has great rewards.
pay it forward, help,support another. Give