From Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation:

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Courtesans and samurai: Beautiful photos depicting life in 19th century Japan are some of earliest colour images ever taken. The images were all produced between 1863 and 1877 by photojournalist Felice Beato.
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“A central problem for people who have a dissociative disorder is that parts of the personality avoid each other and their painful memories and experiences, or they tend to have strong conflicts with each other.
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In the literature this has been described as phobia of dissociative parts.
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Parts typically feel fearful, ashamed, or repulsed by other parts.
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In particular dissociative parts that function in daily life want as little as possible to do with dissociative parts that are fixed in traumatic experiences.
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Parts stuck in trauma-time often feel abandoned and neglected by the parts that try to move on without them in daily life”.
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Do you have any stuck parts?
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Anger was stuck for me.
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News you have to know: NJ Man Named Bacon Arrested in Fight Over Sausage:

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A New Jersey man whose last name is Bacon was arrested after a dispute over sausage, according to police.
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Thomas Bacon, 19, allegedly assaulted another person at a Madison home on May 12 for eating the last piece of sausage, NJ.com reports.
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Bacon was charged with simple assault and released pending a court appearance, according to NJ.com.
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Beyond repulsion and attraction,

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“Rest into that state of ease beyond attraction and repulsion.
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The joy of pure detachment is discovered whenever you are not struggling against the fact of things.”
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Beyond repulsion and attraction, beyond judgment, beyond thought, beyond emotion, and way beyond “I”, “Ego”, life opens up.
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To not struggle is the road less traveled, it passes through the city of acceptance.
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If we can accept everything about us and our current situation, struggling against the fact of things is pointless.
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Non attachment seems small, insignificant.
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However, it takes enormous willpower and practice to attain non attachment.
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Shaila Carherine: non attachment brings happiness

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“What is true happiness?
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To begin to explore this, notice the mind that grasps at perceptions, and notice when there is no grasping in the mind. *
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When you feel the mind without grasping, even for a moment, let yourself fully experience that quality of ease, from head to toe.
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There is happiness in the expression of non-attachment.
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Can you find it?
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Rest into that state of ease beyond attraction and repulsion.
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Try it in fairly neutral encounters, with physical pleasure, or in the face of pain.
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The joy of pure detachment is discovered whenever you are not struggling against the fact of things.”
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Happy: Matthew Ricard; happiest man in the world

 

 
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“How does being present to life-as-it-is relate to the experience of genuine happiness, especially if what is happening isn’t to our liking?
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One clear answer to that question is this: being present allows us to shift from the narrow, self-centered world of I-as-a-Me to an open and increasingly awake sense of who we truly are.
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As we bring attention to whatever arises in the present moment—our pretenses, our protections, our deeply held beliefs, our fears—we slowly begin to see through the seeming solidity of these self-imposed boundaries, boundaries that prevent us from seeing, and living from, what is real in each moment.”
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Updated: Feeling Your Feelings The fastest way to freedom is to feel your feelings. —GITA BELLIN !!!


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“This sounds pretty simple, but though it’s easy to know you have feelings, easy to know their weight and agitation and suddenness of mood, it is another, more subtle matter to feel them—that is, to let them penetrate your being the way wind snaps through a flag.
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This is necessary because if we don’t feel our feelings all the way through, they never leave us, and then we do all kinds of unusual things to get out from under them.
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This is the cause of many an addiction. I’ve diverted myself many times by becoming involved in what surrounds my pain or sadness, while never feeling the thing itself.
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So when someone asks me how I feel, I wind up retelling the circumstance of the pain, but not feeling it. Or strategizing what to do next, but not feeling it. Or anticipating reactions, but not feeling what is mine to feel. Or swimming in the anger of injustice, but not diving through the wound.
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Though we fear it, feeling our feelings is the only clear and direct way to feel our hearts of pain.”
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Staying present, over and over again is the way to happiness and a full life. It is the way to heal, find opportunity, and live.
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Shedding desire preventing loss!

  
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It is an extremely simple concept: Without desire, loss does not exist (95% of time).
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Real loss, a death close to us, exists. We are speaking of our desires (approval, status, power, possessions) creating loss, here.
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If I do not need that car, that jacket, that career, or that accomplishment, not attaining that car does not bring loss.
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It also does not have the hours of dissociative ruminating, the constant feeling of loss, of damage to our being.
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How many days or years do we grieve a lost relationship, lost job, lost championship, etc.
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As a male, my ego is attached to what I do, so being fired from a job would bring enormous personal loss, devaluing my self worth .
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If I am my career, then loss of that career is loss of me in a big way.
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Knowing all this, I still tell people I was a professional baseball player, all the while, knowing I am closer to needing a cane than competing at any level.
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My Ego still identifies with what I am most proud, I guess.
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What do you hold onto, like it was valuable, gold?
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